Comments on: Why Narcissists Discard You And Why It Hurts So Much

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 05 Nov 2021 23:54:21 +0000

In reply to Matt.

Hi Matt,

it is true that most don’t … yet absolutely altruistic narcissists can!

Please read this and I hope that it helps .. https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-the-narcissist-capable-of-loving/

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 15:31:33 +0000

Hi Mel,

Thanks for all your resources, they’re amazing and have helped me so much to understand what happened to me wasn’t in any way something I should accept as ‘normal’ behaviour.

I do have a question though, regarding this paragraph;

“Narcissists don’t just walk off into the sunset, give you a hug and say, “Okay, let’s do the fair thing. I hope you’re going to be okay. Call me to help you put up shelves in your new house. I’m here if you need me.” Narcissists don’t do that.”

What if they did say something like that?

After the discard we still worked together. Then after a couple of months of arguing, hoovering, abuse and rage and even trying to be friends (whilst she had two new relationships) because I didn’t know who she really was, I quit my job and went full NC.

I made it clear I wanted space and time and she gave me a hug, told me she loved me and that her arms are always open for me. I’m so confused!

Matt

By: Broken up with by the high school boyfriends

Broken up with by the high school boyfriends — Sat, 25 Sep 2021 08:05:40 +0000

Narcissistic moms who think they’re on Bewitched teach guys to divorce their humanity and get back together with their mom (them, actually) 😂

By: Julia midg

Julia midg — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 04:06:31 +0000

The only person we were ever discarded by was a totalitarian stalker. 🥴

By: reginald holloway

reginald holloway — Mon, 08 Mar 2021 08:24:14 +0000

The.Nar person first unfriended me after i ask we needed to talk clear the air they she said okay.But than she took here friend request and message inbox off on me yet why not just block me instead.Because.I,Didn’t never called or message her.But she didn’t block me and kept photo of us in her facebook photos why??? I,Think it’s mind torture game she wanted to inflict on me here the crazy part of it we where just good fiends we never had no kind of physical contact at all just a hug and the airport when i arrived to visit her country!!!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 07:54:44 +0000

In reply to Lynda.

Hi Lynda,

you have been through so much with him – that was terrible!

So abusive.

Lynda, I really want to reach out and help you go deeper with your healing to be released from all of this.

I highly recommend coming into my free webinar where quickly and powerfully you can learn how to get your soul and your life back.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com.freewebinar

I so hope that this helps and much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Lynda

Lynda — Tue, 02 Mar 2021 15:15:59 +0000

Almost 4 years of an on and off relationship with a Narc who stalked me after I lost my husband. First I’m falling for you then I love you. You let your guard down and fall very hard. You believe this is an amazing partner. You then learn of multiple dating sites and other sites that are active and see a whole different side that you hear about and boundaries you refuse to cross. But themanipulated was worse: I left a great job and preparing to move from my home after blocking him to set myself free of the pain and punishment. He hides the dark side because Of his business And appears very charming to most. His Moto is money, power and women. I fell hard and wanted to save his soul. It was never about me but only to suck my spirit and energy to fuel his ego even further. The Last straw was hearing I will abandon you if you refuse to share me. He truly believes all men are jealous of him and all women want him. He seemed to know just the right moment to suck me back in after weeks or months of no contact. He introduced me to his parents after 3 years which was very strange. Then no contact for weeks. There were days of text for hours saying how much he misses me and he needs to see me or move in with him that he owns me and I am his and he owns all of my thoughts and feelings. In the same night he states that he could not allow himself to have a relationship with me. I wasn’t sure if he had drug and alcohol abuse or maybe bipolar or was hurt deeply by a past relationship: it was unclear until the pain the loss and the trauma was excruciating enough that I did not trust going anywhere or any of my friends that were associated to him. I fear what he may do next or say to further traumatize me. He admitted to always driving by where I work to see when I am there. I was a very strong person with a great home and job who have had my share of loss but with faith family and friends I have always seemed to come back stronger! Being an empath I feel made it more difficult wanting to love, heal and save him before something bad occurred. I understand now they do not care or never will. The control, lies and manipulation that he had over me was like a curse. I refused to see the red flags and indicators . I was hooked. He was FB thirsty with a FB Herem. Now blocked. Reading your healing methods and the post from other survivors it has enlightened me. We must transform into survival mode and keep no contact and pray for a safe passage away before he finds out I am leaving! Thank you for empowering me to let go, move on and try and get my life back. I refuse to allow anyone in until it is safe. Only my closest friends and family understand. Abandoned, discarded, broken. I am grateful that I found you and your messages..my hopes and prayers for the other victims and potential victims!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 01 Feb 2021 11:21:42 +0000

In reply to Col.

Hi Col,

and look how well you have done!

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 01 Feb 2021 11:21:06 +0000

In reply to Justine.

Hi Justine,

that took so much courage to walk away and leave without anything … but I totally agree with putting your soul first.

Sending much love to you and your children.

Please know it is very possible to do the healing journey to be able to connect to another relationship lovingly, in your power and safely.

I’d love you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to learn more about this.

I hope this can grant you hope!

Mel 🙏💕💚