You have probably heard the term ‘gaslighting’, and know it is a confusing and manipulative form of abuse. In today’s Thriver TV episode, I want to go deeply into just how damaging it is. Gaslighting is so much more than someone trying to be ‘right’ and make you ‘wrong’. Or even having a skewed reality […]
Category: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
It doesn’t matter how many times you have been through the wringer with the narcissist or how much knowledge you have of their tactics. Feeling empty and alone around Valentine’s Day can still make you vulnerable to ‘hoovering’ – or even to reaching out to the narcissist yourself. Today’s Thriver TV episode is a Valentine’s […]
All of our recent article conversations have in many ways been leading up to this one. It’s a big conversation, a powerful one and an incredibly simple one. What is difficult about this conversation is that most people struggle to accept the simplicity. That is my major challenge today – putting a Quantum Spiritual Practice [...]
What ‘being spiritual’ actually means is subjective. For the purposes of this article I’d love to discuss the concepts of Spiritual Authenticity and Spiritual Hubris - the deeper meanings and how these differences manifest into real life behaviour. So, what does ‘being spiritual’ mean? Is it an interest in the deeper mysteries of life? A [...]
Most, if not all, of us who have been abused find that as we heal, we become aware that our entire lives have been blighted by things like people-pleasing, perfectionism and procrastination. We have a lack of boundaries with other people and become easily enmeshed with them, yet we are unable to create truly intimate […]
How do narcissists pull it off? You may meet one, and every morsel of your being recoils. Yet later, you feel drawn to and even attracted to this person. Have you heard the story of the Alabama corrections officer who fell in love with a narcissistic inmate and helped plan his escape? Maybe you know […]
I’ve been talking a lot recently about how life currently seems to breaking apart and collapsing, and something many of us are experiencing as part of this is the return of painful patterns that we thought we had shifted out of. Or maybe you are in a place where you have only recently begun to […]
Most of us know first-hand how difficult it is to go No Contact with a narcissist. The agonising pain of being without them can have us feeling powerless, out of control and unable to resist the compulsion to contact them. Even when we do ‘detox’ from them, we can find ourselves falling into other addictions […]
Happy New Year to you all, and welcome to the first Thriver TV of 2023! Today’s topic is No Contact, which most of us in this community know is necessary when healing from narcissistic abuse. Yet exactly how to achieve this without self-sabotaging is much less commonly understood. In most cases, No Contact will fail […]