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Merry Xmas And Happy New Year From MTE

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This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it’s been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can’t tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards.

Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own.

The truth is … we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would love to set a powerful group intention with you and the entire Community right here, right now … that 2018 is going to be the best year ever.

This Christmas I want to gift you with my favourite exercise manifestation exercise, which I personally use to ensure that every year is better than the last.

It’s Quantum. It gets in DEEP and it powerfully flushes out all the internal blocks you have to the Life that you REALLY want to live.

It’s VERY cool!

I am taking a break from Thriver TV episodes for the next month, but in the meantime, please know you can still connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest for daily tips, insights and amazing recovery and Quantum conversations. You can also watch and read hundreds of past episodes and articles right here on the blog!

Wishing you and yours a special, incredible Christmas and New Year, and I can’t wait for the magic we will all be creating together in 2018.

 

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Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert. She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Melanie's healing and teaching methods have liberated thousands of people from the effects of narcissistic abuse world-wide.

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64 Thoughts on Merry Xmas And Happy New Year From MTE
  • emxx@sbcglobal.net'
    Healing
    December 23, 2017

    Thank-you Mel. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I really believe now that healing is happening when I do the Narp. <3

  • amesanew@gmail.com'
    Amy
    December 23, 2017

    Dear Melanie,
    As a Jewish woman, I so wish it is not only for Christmas you are wishing all of your viewers to be happy. There are other expressions of holiday through other religions and spiritual pursuits. It leaves the rest of us, who don’t celebrate Xmas, out.
    I love you and love your work. Please extend your best wishes in a more inclusive way.

    Much appreciation for who you are and all that you do,
    Amy

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Amy,

      my work, heart and intention is totally all-inclusive and unconditional.

      In no way do I beliieve anyone is excluded from that, no matter what religious or festive path they choose.

      With serving nearly 90 countries Amy which ones would I recognise, and who would I leave out? How would I distinguish which ones were more important than others? Would there then not be other groups who state “why not mine?” Also would I not be detracting from very important healing information going out to focus on these diffrent celebrations all during the year? Would people enjoy that many emails, and when it did not concern them?

      You already decide to not celebrate Christmas which I totally respect, and regarding love and well wishes – why would you be left out unless you decide you are?

      I am sure within your Community there is a great deal of love and well wishes shared at your celebration times – naturally – as it should be. I also wonder why would you need me to change how I finish off my year for this Community, in order for you to expereince wellbeing?

      Much Love to you and yours this and every holiday season.

      Mel xo

      • SMcCullough@verizon.org'
        SMcCullough
        December 24, 2017

        Melanie, I first want to say that I’m a big fan and I loved a lot of what you said in this video,
        But I have to say that I find your response here a bit defensive and offensive. Also, I’ve not ever seen you take anyone’s feedback into consideration to the point of conceding that maybe you could’ve, or should in the future, have taken a different action. Like when people thought throwing the cushion at Tiggy might not be so nice a thing to do, or when you and your singer friend did that skit in the ladies room. Are you uncomfortable with being mistaken in front of the people of this community?
        And don’t you think asking the question, “why would you need me to change how I finish off my year for this Community, in order for you to experience wellbeing?” is the kind of tactic that we often say that Narcs use?
        I actually had a similar thought when I heard you wish us all a Merry Christmas, instead of a more generic “Happy Holidays to any who are observing”. Isn’t it especially important to show tus that you can take feedback in a considerate way. Don’t you think that’s especially important in this community?

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          December 24, 2017

          Hi SmcCullough,

          I was annoyed at someone putting on a negative comment to take down anyone’s Christmas Cheer. I believe a private message is much more apt, professional and considerate of a Community. And I don’t mind saying that here to you now.

          The matter is – as I see it – in no way does a Christmas Time announcement state “This doesn’t apply to people who don’t believe in or celebrate Christmas” … this was about ‘this time of year’ not “only people who celebrate Christmas.”

          If it was about ostracising people who don’t believe or celebrate Christmas – dealing with over 80 different countries I would be inundated with negative messages. I also believe food for thought, would be put in a way that I could be open to with a message to support and asking for something like “could you please word it in this way in the future” without stating it the way it was, as a demand, publically.

          I’m tired S .. its been a long year,. I work incredible hours. Honestly, I have better and more positive things that I have the time for.

          I am a human who at times doesn’t agree with people. Sometimes I do, sometimes I totally see that side, but in this case, I reserve my right to feel the way I do about it.

          Being true to ourselves is what this Community is about.

          Mel xo

          • doobes30@hotmail.com'
            Julie Kruger
            December 25, 2017

            Have a lovely xmas and holiday break Mel – thanks for all the hard work you do – wishing you and your community all the best x

          • Melanie Tonia Evans
            December 26, 2017

            Hi Julie,

            thankyou lovely lady and a happy holiday period to you and your family!

            Much love and blessings 🙂

            Mel xo

          • Annereed30@gmail.com'
            Anne reed
            December 27, 2017

            Good for you Melanie, well put, and I agree with you completely! If anyone was being out of line or bullyish , it was not you. You are a great roll model for people who need to take their own power back! No question! Have a great Christmas season💗

          • Melanie Tonia Evans
            December 28, 2017

            Hi Anne,

            thank you!

            Many blessings to you and yours this holiday time.

            Mel xo

          • roma4amor@gmail.com'
            Deannafj
            December 30, 2017

            I COMPLETELY support you on this issue, Mel.
            I celebrate Christmas but if someone said to me Happy Hanukah, I would never insult them by being nasty because I don’t celebrate Hanukah. I would simply say thank you and wish them the same.
            I support you for sticking to you own feelings and conscience on this issue.
            I think that other people are simply being “inappropriate” (which in this case I use as a euphemism for mean and petty).

            I SOOOOOO appreciate all that you do and share with us. I have the NARP modules and love them. I enjoy and receive help from all of your videos.
            You DESERVE your month off. I sincerely wish you the very best for the New Year and always.

            With MUCH love and appreciation,
            Deanna

          • Melanie Tonia Evans
            December 30, 2017

            Hi Deanna,

            Thank you Dear Lady and sending you all the best for an incredible New year and amazing 2018.

            Many blessings and big love.

            Mel xo

      • bernkbg@gmail.com'
        Karen
        December 27, 2017

        Amy, with all due respect, if you are taking offense to how Melanie wished everyone a Merry Christmas around the world, you need to do a check-in with your self esteem. Melanie was not trying to offend you. In fact, when anyone feels offended, it is really how that person who feels offended has interpreted a situation. Besides, we celebrate Jesus Christ at Christmas, who was indeed a Jew the last I checked. As a practicing Catholic, do I make a stink or write a post if someone wishes me ‘Happy Holidays’ or Seasons Greetings? No, I just go on about my business. So, in a nutshell, you own the problem, Amy. Stay in your own business instead of others and learn to develop a thicker skin! We are all soooooo tired of this ‘political correctness’ and the last person who would try to offend anyone is Melanie Tonia Evans. She has helped millions! As a Narc survivor and thriver, I speak my mind these days, instead of the meek shell I once was. Amy, there is a great chapter in the former Steven Covey’s best selling book entitled, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective Thinking’, in which he writes about staying in ones’ own business’ instead of others. The chapter discusses ‘circles of influence’. And I do feel, Melanie, that that was a classic response to Amy’s query. Hopefully it made her think.

        • roma4amor@gmail.com'
          Deannafj
          December 30, 2017

          Dear Karen,

          THANK YOU for being a breath of fresh and authentic air!!!
          Your post is very well put.
          I, myself, am interested to check out the part of Steven Covey’s book that you speak about. Thanks for mentioning it.

          Hope you had a very merry Christmas and do have a great New Year!

  • upsidedowndevi@gmail.com'
    Devon
    December 23, 2017

    WOooHoOOooo 2018 the best year ever!! I am standing with you and this amazing (and powerful) community on this Mel. 11’s are EVERYWHERE in my world. I live at number 11 and previous residents have clearly not noticed the already existing numbers on the outside of the house and subsequently they kept adding more, they are 3 number 11’s on the front of the house, so I am in!!

    I am so deeply moved by your gift Mel, delivered with astounding clarity and precision. Thank you so much, I can’t think of any gift I’d rather have than your powerful manifestation exercise. Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he’ll feed himself for life… except I am a vegetarian, but you get my drift 😉

    Huge huge hugs and love and gratitude to you and wishing you the most relaxing, rejuvenating and nourishing month ahead. I remember feeling adrift when you took a break last year but now that I can feel myself plugged into source with such regularity, I am welcoming the chance to integrate and calibrate myself and with this manifestation exercise and the Goal Setting Module, set my 2018 up for mind blowing fulfilment, satisfaction, sufficiency and joy for myself and my dear sweet child.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Devon,

      So lovely to hear from you lovely lady!

      I LOVE That you are standing with me and this stunning Community! Wow – go the ’11’s!

      Yes, Devon you have got it – I believe we are all here to enable other’s mastery. That is how we are going to help ourselves and humanity. Thank you for your beautiful well wishes – I am SO looking forward to it!

      Devon I have no doubt that you will continue to expand, glow and become more and more of your True You. You are SUCH an inspiration darling lady. Looking forward to the total joy we will share in 2018 together Dear Soul Sister!

      So much love to you and your gorgeous boy.

      Mel xo

  • My_bba@yahoo.com'
    Hélène
    December 23, 2017

    Timeliness, again and again
    Just TODAY I decided that Im done with this life. Im getting a new life, starting on my birthday in less than 2 wks. My expectations are reasonable, I dont need to lower them, I dont need gratefulness for the poor excuse of a life I have, my desires are good and *I deserve it*.
    2018 can easily be the best yr for me ever. Cuz every other yr in my life has SUCKED.
    No. More.
    Get out of my way, cuz you ll get knocked over. Theres a tidal wave comin 🙃

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Helene,

      I love that energy of “enough”. Good for you Helene, your true life awaits Dear lady.

      BLess you 🙂

      Mel xo

  • ayameyana@gmail.com'
    Esther
    December 23, 2017

    Thank you, Melanie, for the amazing video. It got me all excited! I can’t wait to spend time again doing the Narp program this Christmas. I will be spending time without my family this year which is what I need now in order to heal. What you said about the key in your video really resonated in me. It is so inspiring! I wish to do that exercise right before the new year.
    I am excited for 2018 and a bit scared as well. I can feel things are shifting and even more next year.
    Enjoy your holiday! Hugs to you and your cat. See you next year !

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Esther,

      it’s my pleasure! I ADORE that you are excited and inspired! You’ve got this Lovely Lady!

      Lots of love from myself and Tiggy and I can’t wait to share next year with you!

      Mel xo

  • Cottagewerks@yahoo.com'
    Karen Danielson
    December 23, 2017

    Thank you so much for all you do. You have become my mentor and best friend over the past 3 years and have helped heal me. You are the voice I listen to every night before I go to sleep. You pretty much saved me and continue to do so. I am so grateful for you. I am able to help others because of you. Love you and Merry Christmas and have a wonderful holiday.. Karen

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Karen,

      awww I am SO pleased I could help! How beautiful that your healing has become healing or others too, and how gorgeous you recognise your soul truth about that being part of your truest self mission.

      So much continued love to you Karen.

      Mel xo

  • rita.thompson1512@gmail.com'
    Rita Thompson
    December 23, 2017

    Thank you for being such a positive energy, you have without doubt helped me start changing my life. I couldn’t ever talk about a particular situation without getting upset but now amazingly I can, proof indeed that it works. I am excited about next year and will use your video today to help me unblock what is stopping me finding a job which is my true calling and which I will love.

    I wish you all the very best. Lots of Love xx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 23, 2017

      Hi Rita,

      it’s my pleasure. That is wonderful you are excited about next year and that you have come so far.

      Totally, what you have described is confirmation indeed.

      Thank you for your well wishes and many blessings and much love to you.

      Mel xo

  • jonassahlberg@hotmail.com'
    Olivia
    December 23, 2017

    I am so happy that this community exist and that its so amazing, I’m so happy my soul took me here <3

    Merry Christmas and love and support to everyone !

    Olivia from Finland

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 25, 2017

      Hi Olivia,

      I am so happy that you found your way here darling woman.

      It’s been a joy getting to know you. Thank you for your love to myself and all.

      Merry Christmas sweetheart.

      Mel xo

  • fernandes.jasmin@rocketmail.com'
    Jasmin
    December 23, 2017

    Hi Melanie

    Video glitched-internet probably! So I could not watch it yet. I know it will be awsome because it came at exactly right time for- I am so scared atm.

    Melanie thank you for your soothing work. Since 2 years ago I begun healing my eternal wounds with NARP and I have done so well. I have been clean of toxic addictive relationships for the past 2 years. Ironically after I started on empowered self course one of my heart’s desires it encouraged me to fulfill is art and dance. So I met this guy who taught me awesome dance but he is into using women in a shallow misogynistic way. Undoubtedly, he is here now because I still have some significant child wounding and incredible craving for love and approval, apparently from the source that I find difficult to resist, but also know very well is not going to be healthy-because I can feel it in my being. As a result I developed a severe sinusitis. My head is literally congested with all these creepy scary unsafe emotions. Incidentally I met him on 11/11/2017.

    So I am definitely hoping that your intent is going to help me to clear my fears and anxious thoughts and sail through this storm and emerge free to love in empowered ways and attract healthy wholesome, emotionally available people into my life . I suspect I might need to go back to goal setting module, or even first module. It is intense time for me, as I am sure it is for so many others.

    I love you and appreciate your energy-I think basically you are an angel.

    Love and blessings to you and your loved ones
    xoxo Jasmin

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Jasmin,

      it’s my pleasure. That is great that you have come so far, and please know it is so apt that we ‘go again’ to clean up what needs to leave our beings so that we can go to the next most incredible level.

      Absolutely 100% you have this – just go to it in your body and shift and shift … and also know there is so much powerful growth in realising we don’t need any one person for anything. This is about letting go of false sources, no matter what they “offer” and be unlimited. Because a truer replacement is on their way as soon as you do.

      And yes definitely Jasin go back to NARPing, that’s perfect for now.

      So much love to you too darling lady.

      Mel xo

      • fernandes.jasmin@rocketmail.com'
        Jasmin
        December 25, 2017

        Hi Melanie

        Thank you for your words of wisdom- I really needed this, right now.
        It was so hard to admit that after all this work and progress I needed to go “back” to module 1. My ego screaming as it had been broken once again by narcissistic devalue and discard. This happened yesterday! But as you said before, Melanie, they are angel in disguise, coming to reveal the not yet healed wounds.
        I went to module 1 this morning and it was revealed to me that there were within me some darkness: Which is denial of real love and even doubting it’s existence. That deep in my DNA there was a narcissistic existence of need to obtain gratification on physical level regardless of how my inner being gets hurt from such shallow connection. I shifted and felt good relief. I bravely faced it and now I am ready to release these parts of me as they do not serve me. They are stopping me from being happy. And the narcissist just reflected what was within so there is no need to hate him. But it still hurts- I have a bit more to shift. Thank you for encouragement to go back to NARPING again. It is not a back step but truly forward.
        Btw, I love your elf hat- it really suits you-it is so you. Very cute and endearing. Perhaps you were elfin in your past life😉?

        Merry Christmas and a happy new year from bottom of my heart
        Jasmin

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          December 26, 2017

          Hi Jasmin,

          I am so pleased this helped!

          That is so wonderful that you stood up to your ego and totally went there with that wound – it takes couarge and so much fortitude to do that. And that is what our biggest revolutionary breakthroughs require from us.

          You are so welcome regarding my encouragement and please know that you have done an amazing job for going there. I LOVE that you know it is a step forward and not back.

          Thank you for your very sweet comment!

          Mel xo

  • Ilona.rocka@yahoo.co.uk'
    Ilona
    December 23, 2017

    Beautiful and powerful words Melanie! Thank you! I’ve been doing Narp for quite some time and it changed my life but still had that feeling of being somehow faulty and damaged and doubting that I’ll ever be the version of myself I want to be. You’ve explained it so beatifully…and I’m wheeping..i already am who i want to be but that version of me is hidden behind the blocks and traumas which are still in my body. I totally get it know and it’s so wonderful to understand that I’m ok right here, right now! Thank you for all your beautiful words! Happy holidays and can’t wait to hear from you in 2018! xx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Ilona,

      I am so pleased this deeply resonated with you and helped. How wonderful that you feel inspired, you are going to have a beautiful breakthrough!

      You are so welcome Dear Lady, and I can’t wait to be co-creating with you again soon.

      Mel xo

  • angelsweets28@msn.com'
    Bryony
    December 23, 2017

    Thank you, Melanie, for the gift of such an inspiring video to end the year with. It gives me such hope for the future and inspires me (and I imagine so many others) to keep going on my journey towards true healing and up-levelling.

    Deep gratitude and thanks for the tireless work you do for all of us. Your blogs and videos are lifesavers, literally: always so relevant and timely and presented with such clarity and passion. I can’t begin to imagine the darkness I would now be living in without them and your NARP programme. Thank you a thousand times and bless you!

    You’ve earned and I’m sure, need, a good break and I wish you and yours a truly blessed, joyous festive season and holiday. xxxxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Bryony,

      thank you for your beautiful and kind words and please know you are so welcome.

      I am just so pleased that I can help and that you are doing so well with NARP!

      Wishing you and yours an amazing Christmas and New Year.

      Mel xo

  • eliza_nunya@hotmail.com'
    Eliza
    December 23, 2017

    I have to ask, I’m sorry, but are there ever closed-captioned videos for the hearing impaired or (better yet for us that are hearing AND bandwidth-impaired seeking healing) a transcript? I would love to see more Thriver TV, but my hearing/bandwidth on satellite internet shared with a household makes it such that it’s basically impossible. 🙁

    • valpal@rogers.com'
      Valerie
      December 23, 2017

      Yes, I need the closed caption too as I have been seriously hearing impaired since the age of 4. I could not continue with many of the recordings.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Eliza,

      I am sorry at this point no we don’t.

      I certainly will pass onto the team for a review though.

      Wishing you and yours a beautiful Christmas Eliza.

      Mel xo

    • jraltizer@gmail.com'
      No Name
      December 25, 2017

      I think some computers must automatically caption. I watch these blogs from time to time on a computer where I can’t (should not) turn on the sound and it captions if I turn on that feature.

  • sjwalthew@hotmail.com'
    Susan
    December 24, 2017

    Melanie. Bless you for such timeous comfort and empowerment. Having had loads of triggers leading up to Christmas, I have been working the modules and it has so helped me . Since doing NArp I have empowered through you , a few others ( including my narcs ex wife who tragically is being narcissisticly abused by her daughter, but is now beginning to set boundaries and says their relationship is now much better , and a work colleague who is back in HER own home for Christmas with her daughters having got her narc out when she thought it was impossible. ) For me , I have my three lovely daughters and their partners, my beloved mother and sister for Christmas having almost lost them through narcissistic abuse . I could go on with a list of blessings I have received through you . I just passed my narc in the car , but was already so buoyant with joy it barely touched me ( and we were meant to be married earlier this month) . You are truly an angel from heaven. My new year resolution, indeed my compulsion is to reach out to others through you . ( and I might even treat myself to the Empowered Self Course) This coming from a sceptic when I first ordered my Narp Course . I’m not particularly religious, but bless all in this community. Spread your love and joy . Xxxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Susan,

      it’s my pleasure and thank you for your kind words.

      I love that not only you are benefiting from your NARP work, but others also. That is glorious that you have cleared so much trauma to have that level of joy now. Yoru should be so proud of you and I am sure your beautiful family is thrilled to have you back better than ever.

      Bless you Susan, you are also an angel spreading her wings! I am so pleased you did take up NARP!

      Mel xo

  • lindasims100@gmail.com'
    Linda
    December 24, 2017

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Years Melanie!

    Thank you so much for giving of your knowledge and inspiration. I’ve followed you since 2013 and been a NARP member since 2016. The recovery I’ve had saved my life.

    Now with your brilliant gift of the Christmas video I know how to set up my goals for 2018. I feel the connection to your interpretation of the soul’s journey and now understand that it’s about “be-ing” the change we seek.

    Again, I’m in eternal gratitude for you and send you loving thoughts and feelings across the energy atmosphere.

    Love you!
    Linda

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Linda,

      Thank you Dear lady and Meety Christmas to you too. You are so welcome and I am just so pleased myself and NARP could heal you.

      How lovely this one really struck a chord with you – that is powerful and I know you will do some amazing things with this 🙂

      Thank you for your beautiful thoughts and wishes and so much love to you too.

      Mel xo

  • warrenbrubacher@email.com'
    Ocean Breeze
    December 24, 2017

    Melanie….Thank you for all you support and the work you have done. This Christmas, I have taken control of my own destiny…..will spend time with positive people. Also spend time alone and not feel one bit of guilt or sadness. The power of Quantum healing is real, alive and pulsating.
    I rescued my “little Me” from a bleak future and cleaned him up. My little white bear is always close by in my own room……a constant reminder and friend of the miracle that has happened in my life……thanks to you Melanie.
    I have been working on my new pathway that there has not been time to really get on the Thriver Blog pages.
    We do the best we can.
    Merry Christmas Melanie

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 24, 2017

      Hi Ocean Breeze,

      it’s my pleasure, and I am so pleased I can help! That is great you are doing so well, and please know if you are up and doing your amazing life and don’t have time for here – I have REALLY done my job!! I love hearing that.

      So many blessings to you and Merry Christmas.

      Mel xo

  • drmallikagoyal1@gmail.com'
    stronger
    December 25, 2017

    Thank you so much Melanie…you indeed are a saviour and a source of light… you are my mentor and inspiration…you more than anyone else has helped me turn my life around and help my abused son start rebuilding the glorious life we so deserve to build…

    Huge hugs and blessings…

    I saw some comments that seemed to come from ungrateful people picking on nothing, and I do wish for your sake you ignore them without giving them the dignity of a response..

    Love,

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 26, 2017

      Hi Stronger,

      I am so happy for you that you and your son have healed so much and are living your True Lives now.

      So many hugs, love and blessings to you both too.

      Thank you Stronger for your supportive comments and you are so right.

      I shpuld have ognored, I was tired, I was triggered (some Module work needed) and what does “get up my goat” is talk about segreagation and separation – which I just don’t believe in, in any shape or from. We are all one, and none of us are better or different.

      Mel xo

  • rkmarshall56@gmail.com'
    rhonda
    December 25, 2017

    Melanie, I have a grown daughter whom I dearly love. She is bright and gifted, has an outgoing personality, a good job, a husband who adores her. She also has a baby daughter, 16 months old. Plus she and her husband have two children from an earlier marriage. Both my daughter and her husband work hard at their jobs and work hard to take care of their children. Everything sounds great, but for some reason, my daughter seems not to want to be very close with me. My mom and I have never been close, so I very much want to have a good relationship with my daughter and my granddaughter. I do everything I can think of to help and be supportive of her. I try hard not to interfere or be bossy. Yet she seems to take joy in ridiculing me in petty ways– such as telling exaggerated stories that make me seem idiotic and foolish. She will sit and talk to other family members, including her dad, and ignore me. She will make remarks about me on facebook or to her friends at work. She says she doesn’t mean anything by it, but it hurts my feelings. I feel so alone and left out. What do I do?

    • jeanettemarie333@gmail.com'
      Jeanette Marie
      December 26, 2017

      Melanie,

      I’ve very much enjoyed your videos the last month since I discovered them and have gained tremendous clarity from the detail in your explanations of why various people think, feel and act as they do. Thank you so much!

      Also, thank you for feeling free to express your heartfelt Christmas wishes. Today is Christmas and it is perfectly fitting to acknowledge it as such. Whatever one’s idea of Christ might be, to me he is a great healer and calls others to heal as you have been gifted to do. What better way to honor the Father of Love than to wish this joy onto others.

      May you and your work be richly blessed in 2018 and A Very Merry and Blessed Celebration of Love and Healing to you! Merry Merry Christmas!

      • Melanie Tonia Evans
        December 26, 2017

        Hi Jeanette Marie,

        you are very welcome and I am so pleased I could help.

        Thank you for your support and even though I am non-denominational I agree regarding acknowledging Christ on this day – 100%.
        I have Jewish family friends interestingly who send their well wishes and messages to their non-Jewish friends at Christmas time. And of course they don’t need to – they simply choose to share in the love with family and friends that this time is about … bringing people together. Ultimately it is about Love.

        Thank you for your beautiful blessings and well wishes and may Life and All That Is bless you and your loved ones, too, in magnificent ways.

        So much love

        Mel xo

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 26, 2017

      Hi Rhonda,

      I truly believe in such circumstances the best thing is to be really honest with her, from the heart about what you feel, and what you would like to receive. And ask her how she feels and is there anything she requires from you in order to feel closer. Tell her lovingly that you really do desire a closer relatoonship with her because you love her dearly.

      Also please know that there could be traumas from your younger years with your Mother which require healing to allow the space for your daughter’s and your realtionship to really flourish. NARP is a wonderful solution for that http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp The truth is Rhonda, for many of us, no matter what ‘we try to do’ key things in our life don’t shift until we do the healing on them – such as the exercise I have granted you here – would be prefect to apply to this circumstance.

      I hope this helps.

      Mel xo

  • wtaverner@outlook.com'
    Wendy Taverner
    December 27, 2017

    How do I survive this when the person I was in a relationship with also works with me , he always finds a way to manipulate me. When he walks passed me at work he stares at me even though I don’t look back at him he will try to talk to me on our breaks as I’m talking to other people and yet outside of work I don’t hear from him. It’s been a roller coaster of emotions and I’m finding myself terrified of him , how do I move passed all of this and be able to go to work without fear of all this. My anxiety and depression are up and down all the time.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 28, 2017

      Hi Wendy,

      My heart goes out to you and I really want to help you know that there is relief avaliable.

      Please know it is so about healing inside us what is hurting and what is triggered and then all of this can and does feel benign to us.

      Please come into my free wrokshop and I will explain everything in detail and take you through a process to let go of the trauma and get strong on the inside in the face of this: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/com/freewebinar

      Mel xo

  • angelikmaispastrop@gmail.com'
    Angélique
    December 29, 2017

    Dear Mel, I have to tell you, it feels a little surreal sitting here lapping up all that super deep stuff from someone with great big novelty elf ears… it works though, made me laugh. Soul food with the light relief bonus, what a festive combination! Thank you. X

    P.S. I don’t imagine all your guidance comes in other languages? I am forever translating best way i can for family members. They can’t get enough.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 29, 2017

      Hi Angelique,

      yes it is surreal!! hahaha Glad you have a sense of humour! My pleasure Dear Lady 🙂

      One day we will have translation – absolutely!

      Mel xo

  • VictoriaStevenson77@gmail.com'
    Victoria
    December 29, 2017

    Thank you for EVERYTHING Melanie!!!!!!!!! With you i finally see a light in d tunnel, nobody could really understand what i was going through cause nobody could understand narcissistic abuse like you do! I finally feel protected supported and loved by someone, a very special awesome girl by Australia! Thank you Mel for existing!!!!

    Victoria

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      December 30, 2017

      Hi Victoria,

      thank you for your lovely words Sweet Lady. I am so pleased you feel supported.

      Bless you and Happy and Safe New Year!

      Mel xo

  • gogofabulous@gmail.com'
    bah humbag
    December 31, 2017

    Wishing you all genuinely happy and content moments in your holidays that really stick with you. 🙂

    For the first time, I was able to have a family holiday visit and do some small shifts. When I have previously tried, I was so busy being in alligator brain survival mode, that I could somehow not do any shifts at all – even with best intentions as well as a plan. For the last couple of visits, the victim, rescuer, perpetrator social model has helped. It was suggested that I allow myself to take the role of “perpetrator” and allow others to see me that way if they need to, in order for me to have boundaries that work for me. Because I did this – and accepted that I would be labelled as a “perp” for attending to my own genuine needs and stopped trying to avoid being this at all costs, there is a definite positive movement towards what I would like holidays to look like. The winter break is definitely a trigger for me each year, as it is for many. Year after year, I have gotten through it without much improvement, and I have been so tired of repeating the same unfulfilling rituals – so I guess I just want to say… keep trying.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      January 2, 2018

      Hi Bah,

      thank you, I am in KL ariport now about to board to Thailand – so exciting!

      I wish you beautiful shifts, evolution and breakthrough this holiday time 🙂

      Many blessings to you.

      Mel xo

  • wtaverner@outlook.com'
    Wendy
    January 3, 2018

    Hi Mel, I really enjoyed the webinar yesterday and got a lot out of it. Can you tell me as I’m really confused on this , In about June my ex partner “ the narc “ came to me after months of no contact with him and gave me to sob story of how much he missed me and he wanted to try again , he also thought I was with someone else from work, truth is I was and still am trying to make things work with my husband who I had been separated from for 2 yrs. He said all the usual nice things and even gave me a quick kiss when I left. But after that I was again invisible , why does this happen what was he really after , all this confuses me. I tried ringing him a couple of times but the found out my number was blocked , in the end I was so angry at him for things he’d said and how stupid he’d made me feel I left an angry nasty msg.
    He’s been on holiday in the uk for the last 5 weeks and I’m more relaxed than I’ve been in a long time he comes back next week and I’ll see him at work soon not sure how I’ll feel or if I’ll be calm again in myself. Why do they make you feel so stupid for even just stopping and listening to their rubbish ?

  • arshik306@gmail.com'
    kia
    January 9, 2018

    Wish u happy new year

  • michelle_rogers@rogers.com'
    Michelle
    January 15, 2018

    Thank YOU Melanie! Oh my gosh, I just did the first step in the NARP program and already I feel a huge shift. I am with N #2 currently…some major differences from the original N, but in the end the game is the same. I was feeling so lost, so sad and broken and so so disappointed in myself for not “seeing it coming”.
    In any event, while I’m still with him, I’m working through the program so that I can uplevel myself and get to my strongest, healthiest, and most secure and confident self. This is work for me, ON me. We are in joint counselling, and that’s all fine. But NARP is all about me fixing me, healing me…for ME and me only.
    I cannot thank you enough Mel. I am confident 2018 is my year, and I am finally confident in being able to say what my expectations are in a relationship, and he can either meet them or not, no wounding, no accusations, just do or do not…and I can see whether I want to or can meet some of his expectations as well or not. If they cost me a part of me, then I cannot. It’s really becoming quite simple and clear finally.
    Hugs Mel…thanking my angels and guides for you!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      January 15, 2018

      Hi Michelle,

      you are very welcome and I am so pleased NARP is helping so much 🙂

      I am so pleased everything is becoming clearer and you are standing in your truth and light.

      Wishing you incredible healing and breakthrough.

      Mel xo

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