Have you grown exasperated with the narcissist in your life, desperately searching for a way to shut them down? A way to stop them from engaging you in circular arguments and conflicts that lead nowhere and leave you drained of energy. I know I was caught up in this game and struggled greatly with being […]

Today, I want to take you on a deep dive into triangulation and why narcissists use it to gain the upper hand. Triangulation is an insidious, covert and extremely painful tool that narcissists use. I know it’s very likely that you have experienced triangulation at the hands of a narcissist – because it’s one of […]

The path to recovery from narcissistic abuse holds many surprises. You may find, like I did, that forgiveness while unfathomable and inconceivable at first actually becomes attainable. Virtually 99% of you will get to that level because you have to, because it is way too painful to try to survive your wounds when you’re committed […]

How on earth do you defend your character when you have been smeared by a narcissist? When you try, this is what you usually experience … Being labelled as the bad one. People believing the narcissist. The harder you try to defend yourself, the deeper you dig yourself into a hole, and the more traumatising […]

Today I want to talk to you about how vulnerable you are to narcissistic abuse. This is important, and as you read through this article, I hope you truly grasp why. I want you to imagine a predator in a jungle, looking for an easy meal. Who will the lion target? Of course, the injured [...]

Today I want to talk about the ways that narcissists target and ensnare their victims for not just narcissistic supply – but Grade A supply. What is Grade A narcissistic supply? Reactions from others that are powered up with the MOST emotional energy. Most people don’t want BIG and CRAZY emotional responses from people, yet [...]

Who is the narcissist really? You may have asked yourself this question numerous times during your relationship. Not because they’re mysterious but because deep inside you just know they are pretending to be something they’re not. They’ve created an illusion that has tricked you into believing that they are powerful and you are helpless. I […]

After being narcissistically abused, absolutely you feel shattered. How can you trust life and others, and especially yourself after what you have been through? I put it to people this way … you are like a bird whose wings are broken. You can’t fly anymore, but if you take the healing hiatus and go into […]

You may be at a point in your relationship where you’re asking yourself whether doing couples counselling is the next step to try to resolve your issues with a narcissist. You may have thought, “Maybe it’s worth a try, maybe it will help him or her see the damage they are inflicting …” I thought […]