Nervous system disorders such as PTSD, anxiety and depression are widespread with narcissistic abuse, relationship addiction and trauma. They are awful, debilitating and life-threatening. Just as it was for me. What I realised was that these states were in my life because I hadn’t yet turned inwards to heal the dire self-separation that I was […]
Category: Symptoms of Abuse
The fear, shame and anger after narcissistic abuse can be incredibly intense. And, you may be suffering a host of other horrific emotions that are in obsessional repeat. Feelings like heartbreak, regret, intense loss and total disbelief regarding what happened. Sadly, many people after narcissistic abuse, never learn how to process these emotions effectively. […]
Believing there are ‘lessons’ to be learned from narcissistic abuse can appear to be controversial and unlikely for some people. I used to be horrified about believing that there was ANY lesson for me in my times of terrible breakdowns. However, when I discovered and decided to fully embrace my lesson I was able to […]
It’s really normal to not enjoy your emotional triggers – after all, they are painful! Nearly all of us were told to “think about something else” and try to distract ourselves from them. However, after experiencing the extreme trauma of abuse and toxic relationships, it’s not that simple to do. Many of us, myself […]
Gaslighting is a term that most abuse communities are very familiar with. But what does it mean? How does it affect people? Why is gaslighting so hard to identify, and so mentally and emotionally damaging? How can you get clear that you are being gaslit, remove and protect yourself and recover from its insidious […]
Complicated Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is almost synonymous with narcissistic abuse. So is adrenal malfunction, Fibromyalgia and a host of other nasties. Tragically many people, due to sustaining so much trauma, break down into terrible chronic illnesses. Are you wondering how on earth you will survive your physical conditions and somehow rebuild and […]
We have all been so disconnected from FEELING our FEELINGS that we innately believe we should do everything possible to turn away from and avoid them. The messages we believe are ‘Don’t think about it’, ‘Do something to distract yourself from it’, ‘Think nice or grateful thoughts instead’. Yet negative emotions, beliefs and unconscious […]
How do you talk to a narcissist without going insane? The easy answer would be NOT to talk to them. But sometimes we can’t go No or Modified Contact. Maybe you work with this narcissist. Or perhaps they are a family member, who you need to see at functions. Or possibly you are still hooked […]
Standing up for yourself against a narcissist can trigger the terrifying fears of CRAP – meaning the fear of being Criticised, Rejected, Abandoned and Punished. Many people experience a white-hot fear of trying to speak up, their brain turning to mush and an overwhelming feeling of terror rising inside, that leaves them speechless and […]
