Complicated Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is almost synonymous with narcissistic abuse.
So is adrenal malfunction, Fibromyalgia and a host of other nasties.
Tragically many people, as a result of sustaining so much trauma, break down into terrible chronic illnesses.
Are you wondering how on earth you are going to survive your physical conditions and somehow rebuild and have a healthy and happy life?
It is my greatest heartful wish today that you watch this Thriver TV Episode so that you can have some hope. Chronic illness, in most cases, does not have to be your life sentence.
Narcissistic abuse creates grave issues for your health.
Stress is a huge contributor to illness because when you are at dis-ease, your inner environment is at its most rampant for disease to occur.
Also, how hard is it to try to do the things that necessitate good health when you are in a battle zone trying to survive?
Naturally, you are not likely to eat and sleep well and do healthy things to maintain a healthy equilibrium.
What health issues does narcissistic abuse cause?
Can these health issues be healed?
If so, how?
All of this and more will be answered in today’s Thriver TV Episode.
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What Happens to Your Levels of Stress When Abused?
I believe, in our evolving world now, it is incredibly naïve of us if we believe that stress isn’t a major condition affecting our health – including physically.
From the Quantum and Thriver Healing perspective, it is toxicity, namely stress, that generates the symptoms of narcissistic abuse, including health issues.
When you are being belittled, degraded, confused, manipulated and mined, you will experience a decline in vital life-force.
What does that really mean?
It means that you start to lose self-belief, self-worth and the knowing of your internal compass in the world. Reality becomes skewed and it’s difficult to be safe – not just in your environment and with the person abusing you, but maybe with many other aspects of your life as well.
You may feel incredibly alone in this experience, and even unsupported and misunderstood by the people you used to have safe connections with.
You may wonder, ‘Who can I trust?’
And as you become more isolated, you may even start to blame yourself: ‘Is it me with all the problems?’
Here we have the breakdown of the fabric of your foundations as a human spirit, in your own body, in the world.
Memories of your past are traumatic; your present is full of anxiety and depression; and your future is daunting and overwhelming. You have no idea who you will be or how you will end up, going forwards.
Those of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse, usually report that it was the most stressful time of our entire life.
Truly, unless you have been through this, you couldn’t even begin to imagine it.
What Are the Physical Effects of Stress?
We start to realise in and after narcissistic abuse that we are having incredibly different feelings and visceral experiences inside our body.
It’s akin to having a horrible virus inside us. It feels like a black ink is running through our veins and we are stuck inside ourselves – feeling oddly disconnected from and unable to connect with our outer world.
We also feel unable to access our desires and dreams, and maybe even connect with those we love and care about.
And … maybe everything we try to do to shake this horrible soul dread, that has taken hold inside, just isn’t working.
But what is really going on chemically within us for these obscene feelings to become so all-consuming?
A lot is now understood by neuro-scientists about the effects of trauma on our chemical and cellular selves. We now know that events that traumatise us, create brain synopsis messages and the hard wiring of fear and powerlessness. These feelings then generate more of the same and cement the continuation of the traumatic emotional ‘rushes’ that we feel.
We then suffer a peptide addiction to the terrible emotions that are traumatising us such as ‘fear’, ‘heartbreak’, ‘powerlessness’ and ‘victimisation’. All of these emotions have their own corresponding peptide that becomes sought after by our body’s cells, which in turn have become addicted to the ‘rushes’ of pain (even though they are destroying us).
Painful emotional peptides, which literally hurt us physically as our cells receive them, destroy our cells’ capacity to absorb oxygen and nutrients. This then creates an environment where our entire being is prone to dis-ease.
Our body biology is all out of whack, and our immune systems start to malfunction.
Ironically, when we are stuck in deadly peptide addiction, generating more internal trauma, then we make choices that add to the toxicity.
To try to escape the trauma that we are feeling in our bodies, we are prone to pick up drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, or other addictive substances or behaviours, to try to numb the pain. This then causes more damage to our Beings and only adds to the trauma.
Our actions and addictions may include looking up the Ex on social media, being addicted to information about narcissists, or ranting on abuse forums to other victims. There may be some relief in the moment – which truly is about your addiction to victimisation getting chemically fulfilled – but then the pain comes back again, twice as strong.
Obsessive thinking about the trauma, talking about it and researching it, only compounds and cements the trauma, and fulfils the chemical addiction of being a traumatised victim.
Like all addictions, the fulfilment level is ever increasing, as is the urge to self-medicate with thinking, talking and researching. But it’s like picking a scab that never heals and always grows back bigger.
Sooner or later your Inner Identity has embraced your situation as a victim as the absolute truth for you.
This is why abused people, even decades after the actual abuse, keep breaking down more and more as the years go on. If you have been on contemporary abuse forums and have read people’s posts decades after narcissistic abuse, you will know what I am saying is true.
Even trying to ignore the trauma by distracting yourself is not healthy. Unattended to trauma is as faithful as housework – it only piles up, increases and does push-ups in the background while waiting for a gap to burst through!
Of course, the strain of the unattended and growing trauma within you is making your interior toxic and is taking you towards breakdown. This is because trauma that is not addressed, will start to express itself more than emotionally and mentally – it will appear physically.
Already the nervous system is affected, because the emotional/visceral and nervous systems, where trauma impacts and accumulates, are all deeply inter-related.
The nervous system starts breaking down with things like Complicated Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD), panic attacks and agoraphobia. Anxiety and depression are also by-products.
Then the dis-ease moves into the body. Fibromyalgia can set in as well as adrenal malfunction, hair loss, and other associated break downs. Terrible auto-immune diseases are common, as are even more serious diseases, which can take hold as your cellular and immune systems degrade because of the unhealed trauma – the literal toxicity – inside you.
It is, in fact, extremely common for those suffering narcissistic abuse to have to get to the point of body breakdown before they are ready to heal.
After all, most of us have been very capable of simply ‘getting up and getting on with it’ until this point!
The Truth About the Ability to Heal from Chronic Health Issues
Sadly, our medical profession is in the business of treating symptoms of abuse but not actually curing the cause of these symptoms.
You may have been told that you will have C-PTSD for life, or that any cure will be very gradual and will take years.
This is simply NOT the truth.
The same goes for the host of other emotional and physical conditions that you may be suffering, as a result of narcissistic abuse.
Over the years people have asked me this question: ‘If it was the stress of this person that caused me to get so sick, then why didn’t I get better after I left this person?’
It can be shocking to us that even when we get away from an abuser we still don’t heal.
That used to shock me, too.
Why is this the same for all of us?
Because if the trauma that has wedged within you, remains, you are facing a lifetime of trying to survive and manage the trauma – instead of living free from it.
The trauma has to be healed, for real, to get better – emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially and physically. There is no other way.
I and so many people within this community suffered incredible disorders that we were told we would NEVER recover from.
My personal diagnosis was that I would need anti-psychotics for the rest of my life; that I would never again function as normal, and my brain and body would never repair.
All of that was a complete lie.
When I released and replaced the traumas from within me that were responsible for my dis-eases, I started to heal in ways that I couldn’t even imagine.
Within months my symptoms were completely gone and I had evolved into higher states of health and confidence and expansion than I could have ever dreamed of.
It is another lie that you will need to be institutionalised into a system of medication and therapy for years or decades to survive what happened to you.
Please Be Inspired
I couldn’t even begin to tell you the thousands of incredible stories of healing and resurrection on all levels, including of course physically, within this community.
There are very few Thrivers who have NOT received health improvement, healing or complete remission of previous conditions, after using NARP to release the trauma of the abuse they suffered.
And if that was not possible, because health was just too far gone, these Dear Souls have been able to reach a peace of Self, that they couldn’t previously access.
What is consistent for anyone who experiences narcissistic abuse, is that under the stress of the abuse we BREAK down.
Yet, in most cases, we CAN come back from that.
Just like Frances…
Who was with a narcissist in her late 40’s.
She had a breakdown due to his affairs and triangulation. Things were so bad, even her beloved sons abandoned her. When Frances was diagnosed with serious stomach cancer, she knew she had to heal.
Frances broke away and addressed, released and uplevelled her internal trauma with NARP, until she felt nothing for him, even though he lived in the same neighbourhood.
Her sons returned to the mother they had always loved, but who they previously couldn’t watch destroy herself.
Frances, six years on, is cancer free and has a new and beautiful husband, vocation and home. Her life is a testament to completely changing her life from the inside out.
Then there is Nancy, who at 61 years of age and had only ever known abuse, even as a child.
Nancy was diagnosed with severe Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA), an auto-immune disease, which when she was in abusive relationships would flare up to almost intolerable levels that even her most powerful medications could not ease.
After only a year of committing to do the inner work with NARP, Nancy reported that not only was she was free of her painful and narcissistic relationship patterns, but that all the symptoms of RA had either reduced tremendously or disappeared entirely.
And then there is Anki…
Who was suffering from the several chronic illnesses of Fibromyalgia and severe ME (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis), a devastating multi-system disease that causes dysfunction of the neurological, immune, endocrine and energy metabolism systems.
Anki was housebound, almost always in bed, and could only crawl to the bathroom. She couldn’t stand or walk because her muscles were too weak.
She would also suffer exhaustion or fever from the smallest of things like brushing her teeth or washing her face. Certain lights or sounds knocked Anki out for days.
Anki couldn’t work or even leave the house.
She was told she would never be able to work again and would only get worse; that she would never recover. Anki, at the time, was 47 years of age.
But all this was before Anki started healing with NARP. In less than two months, she felt totally different and could take walks outside. Also, Anki started working part-time.
After five months Anki was off much of her medication, some of which she had been on for 25 years!
Within 18 months Anki was working fulltime, was completely medication free, and was exercising and walking for up to an hour a day. Her diagnoses/chronic illnesses were taken away from her medical journal by her doctor.
You Are Worth Your Healing
Okay, so I really want you to know, with all of my heart, that regardless of your abuse situation, when it started, who it was from, and what chronic conditions you may have had (even for life), the healing path for you is IDENTICAL to my healing path and that of all the other Thrivers.
Namely – get the trauma out and start to see the healing begin – which is what the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) does.
I’d love you to learn more and experience exactly how to do this in my FREE Masterclass.
You can do this by clicking this link – FREE Masterclass on Wednesday, 16 October 2019.
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