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The Answer To Narcissistic Abuse That No-one Is Talking About – Peptide Addiction

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WHY it is so hard too let go of abusers.

WHY  can’t we stop thinking about them …

And …

WHY it has been so DIFFICULT to get over narcissistic abuse and get well.

When you understand peptide addiction you will realise you are NOT mad, failing or hopeless.

Rather, your body is just doing what all of ours do when they receive large rushes of emotions regularly.

Also …  the best bit about today’s Thriver TV episode is that it may be JUST the key for you to understand HOW to break your Peptide Addiction and no longer suffer the hooks, addiction and obsessions about the narcissist.

Forever …

 

 

Video Transcript

Peptide addiction is one of the most vital things to ever realise about narcissistic abuse recovery. Truly, this may be one of the most important videos of mine that you ever watch.

Why?

Because it will grant you the answers, relief and the true solution that maybe no-one has told you about until now.

Firstly, knowing about peptide addiction explains why the addiction and obsession to a narcissist are so extreme.

It also allows you to know you aren’t going mad or failing. The relief is; finally, you know that the reason why you can’t get over this isn’t that you are defective or stupid, which is how we’ve all felt.

It also explains exactly why victims of narcissistic abuse who are not shifting and healing out of peptide addiction, progressively get sicker and sicker, and why when severe trauma is involved time does not heal these wounds.

Okay, so truly all of that normal progressive deterioration that comes with narcissistic abuse, even after no contact, can end right here because, in today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to explain to you exactly what peptide addiction is to you, point blank, as well as precisely how to heal from it. This means that you can reset to wellbeing and freedom and not only get completely clean of the narcissist but also the painful patterns of abuse and unfulfilling relationships in your life.

Many of you through my work already understand peptide addiction, and some of you may not. It’s kind of weird that I haven’t done a video specifically on this topic before, because it really does deserve its own episode.

There is severe trauma bonding that occurs with a narcissist, but no matter which way we slice it or dice it, if we understand peptide addiction and how to effectively heal from it, every aspect of our trauma bonding melts away, and we heal and evolve beyond abusers and abuse. We also heal from all the symptoms of narcissistic abuse, such as PTSD and adrenal malfunction, and the other associated nasties.

So, let’s dive in!

 

What Are Peptides?

Peptides are the regular doses of a particular chemical release, an amino acid chain that is created by our hypothalamus (a region of the forebrain involved in emotional activity) that the cells of our body receive.

There is a peptide for every emotion, good or bad, that is manufactured by our hypothalamus depending on our emotional perception of an event in our life. Our brain wiring fires off the signal to our hypothalamus which then manufactures the corresponding chemical to release into our bloodstream.

Our perception of any event is, of course, personal and will relate to our already existing belief systems, our already established Inner Identity composition, on any particular topic.

This means that ten people could view one identical event, and all have a different emotional perception and subsequent brain peptide manufacturing and distribution result.

For example, one person whose Inner Identity regarding her self-love and worth and ability to generate her own life is whole and solid, may be abused verbally by someone. Her perception and peptides that are distributed relate to self-love, inner determination, and self-devotion. She rejects this person’s attack on her, by pulling away and detaching and not being involved with them anymore. Her life goes on healthily.

Another person is abused by someone. Due to their already existing unhealed wounds and relationship patterns, this sets off huge triggers within them relating to feelings of betrayal, rejection, and the threat of abandonment.

As long as this person is not yet a healed and whole generative source to themselves, they are hooked into other people trying to get them to provide it for them, and when a particular false assigned source doesn’t, then big feelings of powerlessness, victimisation, and other nasty emotions occur.

These are the chemical peptides being manufactured by the hypothalamus that are being distributed.

The greater the emotional content in our perception the larger the dose of peptides that are manufactured and distributed throughout our Being to be absorbed into our cells.

Now let’s have a look at the next piece of this puzzle.

 

The Quality of Peptides

We are literally becoming, cellularly, the quality of the rushes of emotional doses, the peptides, that we are regularly receiving.

We feel our peptides, somatically, literally.

Good peptides that add to our True Self, which are loving, self-honouring and authentically about us living our truth from the inside out, feel great.

Letting go of our trauma and resolving our previous wounds leads to being solid, safe, honest, whole and self-generative. Like the first example given regarding the inner chemical response to being ‘abused’ this is the ability to feel great and whole no matter what anyone else is or isn’t doing.

These peptides are of high quality. They feel wonderful in our body. They increase our cell’s ability to absorb nutrients and oxygen. Many Thrivers, including myself, who healed from a victimised peptide addiction to self-honouring peptide manufacturing, start looking younger, healthier and more radiant than we have our entire life.

Nasty peptides that all come with not releasing internal trauma and reliving more of the same trauma and being hooked into abusers trying to change them in order to feel whole, safe and healthy, which doesn’t happen, gives us large doses of negative victim peptides that feel terrible in our body and diminish the cell’s ability to assimilate nutrients and oxygen.

So, in summary; high-grade peptides mean healing, wellbeing and personal integration, and low-grade peptides mean progressive sickness and personal disintegration.

Now let’s look at how we get hooked into internal painful peptide manufacture.

 

How Are Peptides Addictive?

Peptides are as addictive as any synthetic drug known to man. Studies with rats have found that after receiving regular doses of peptides, they became so addicted that these rats would forgo all self-care and even food and water to obtain the peptide. The quality of the peptide was irrelevant, good or bad; it made no difference.

The deadly loop of peptide addiction works like this:

The cells of your body which receive a peptide when regularly splitting, double the receptor docking points to receive that specific peptide. This means if you are experiencing large emotional doses of anger, victimisation, betrayal, heartbreak etc., then as time goes on you are being hardwired more and more to ‘want’ more of those specific emotions.

It’s so important to understand this Quantum Truth, the cells of your body are unconditional, they have absolutely no preference regarding the grade of peptide they are hooked on.

All cellular addictions work like this: your cells progressively need more and more of the peptide to fulfil them. This means you will think more about the terrible events that create these awful feelings and you will have all sorts of reasons and excuses to hook into and up with the abuser again. This is all to do with obtaining more of the ‘drug’, the peptides, that this person provides. They are the ‘drug dealer’ for your cells.

Now here’s one of the crazy and awful things about peptide addiction, if you break free from the abuser and don’t think about them for a while, your addicted cells have a plan to get their fix again. A small amount of the peptide has been stored in your cells, and is secreted into your bloodstream, reaches your brain and triggers you into thinking about that trauma again.

Bingo! The brain fires off the electrical signal, the hypothalamus manufactures the peptide again, and the cells are back in business!

So now do you understand why the bad feelings and thoughts feel so powerful and hard to escape and why you might be constantly tempted into breaking no contact?

Do you understand now, in regard to any addiction in your life, why your brain comes up with every and any reason to just have ‘one last hoorah’?

Can you see this is an actual physiological thing happening in your cells and that you are not defective, useless and going mad?

I so hope this information helps you. If it does, please let me know in the comments below.

The truth that most people aren’t telling you about, which neuroscientists and Quantum Teachers know, is that your brain follows your body. It is always organising itself around the thinking that will fulfil the already existing programs and addictions within your cells. This is why we can’t ‘think’ our way out of our emotional traumas and inner subconscious programs.

Because our brain agrees with them!

So how do we get out of this terrible all-encompassing physiologically addictive loop?

 

Healing from Peptide Addiction, and Therefore Narcissistic Abuse

The healing has to take place cellularly, in your Inner Being. It’s the only way to get well. The shift doesn’t and can’t happen logically.

The first step is always this, detach from and leave alone the source of the drug. No Contact or strict Modified Contact with the abuser is needed.

Then it’s time to face and detox our cells from this terrible addiction. We do this by doing the inner work to hold, load up and let go of the traumas we are feeling. The terrible feelings of victimisation, powerlessness, resentment, heartbreak and all those feelings that come with the victimisation of not yet being a healed whole source to ourselves and handing away our power and selves to abusers.

When we use the NARP Modules to clear these traumas, what happens is we are cleaning up and detoxifying from all the related traumas on our timeline that are the beliefs and perceptions generating these horrible peptides.

Once this happens, our cells lose their previous distribution and start receiving large doses of Source (the wellbeing/Lifeforce that heals what we can’t) that fill the cells where the trauma peptides once were. As the old cells die off, new ones are produced with more and more docking receptors to receive Source-generated True Self peptides.

And our thinking starts to align with this because the brain is following the body. Additionally, wound by wound, because we have been releasing causation core traumas, and their beliefs, and shifting into Source truths on these topics, our old victimised clumps of brain wiring is released and starts to form new and healthy beliefs, perceptions and therefore feelings.

You literally become a New Self who could no longer be hooked up into abuse, any more than a healthy person could digest greasy hamburgers every day. It’s just not you anymore.

I’m incredibly passionate about helping people heal and detox from their peptide addictions. Many of us including myself had naturally very addictive beings and have been hugely susceptible to this.

This I promise you, the solution is easy, and relief comes very quickly just by applying an energetic tool that can release cellular trauma. That’s what all of my inner transformational work is about, deeply and powerfully changing ourselves from the inside out.

If this really spoke to you, and I know for many people understanding peptide addiction is the exact key needed, please join me in dissolving this deadly cycle once and for all.

I’m going to help you get out of this nightmare that has been hijacking your entire being, and please know the longer we leave our peptide addiction unhealed, the more and more ingrained and hardwired it becomes in our Inner Identity.

But you can start reversing it today by clicking this link.

And, if you liked this video, click the Like button, and if you want to see more of my videos, please subscribe so you will be notified as soon as each new one is released. And please share with your communities, so that we can help people awaken to these truths.

And as always, I’d love to love to answer your comments and questions below.

 

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103 Thoughts on The Answer To Narcissistic Abuse That No-one Is Talking About – Peptide Addiction
  • sue161168@outlook.com'
    Sue
    March 7, 2019

    Hi Melanie. I have been reading a lot of Ur words which seem very helpful. But what I want to ask is to begin all this self help I need to love myself. I try with all my mite but find it hard to even look in the mirror. I have left him for almost 3 months now. And feel very free but I’m rellay finding it hard to heal. How do I even begin to love myself.

    • Lfm010101@gmail.com'
      Mami
      March 7, 2019

      Three months for me too. Some days it feels like he’s in my dreams, my thoughts, my front porch. Strict NC though.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Sue,

      Please know without our trauma we just ‘do’ organically love ourselves.

      I had exactly the same battle, until I started releasing trauma from my inner being and uncovered the love and selfpartnering that I just ‘was’ without it.

      If you connect up to my free inner transformational resources you can start to experience the way home for yourself.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

      I hope this helps.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • diane.noland@gmail.com'
    Diane Noland
    March 7, 2019

    Wish I’d known you in 1978. Of course you probably weren’t born yet! But that’s when I was in a relationship with a narcissist and stuck in it for several years. I extricated myself and all you are saying here really makes sense. It sounds exactly like what happened to me but I had to do it all without any help. I did leave him. I had to. Outside forces sort of stepped in in a way. I moved a 100 miles away. He followed of course, from time to time, but there did come a point when I was strong enough to boot him out. I was healing in those spaces. Those bad peptides were receding, not being fed. And as I cared more for myself, the good peptides grew stronger. It took a couple years. and then there came a day when I was free. And it was like how could I have been so in his thrall? It was so easy then to see how little – how there was just nothing between us.

    So, Melanie, he was a narcissist, a classic. But it wasn’t his fault was it that I became addicted to him. He was just doing his thing, getting what he needed and it was abusive and hurtful and all that, but I, like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, had the power all along – I just had to find it. Do you think it’s like a disease that has to run its course? Before one looks for help? Because I did go to a therapist at one point, and I think she tried to help me, but I could not hear her. Didn’t want to, I think. Not sure. It’s been too long. Anyway, I’m glad you are out there educating people. Because we waste a lot of time on these horrible relationships and a lot of suffering comes from that. I think of my daughter who had to suffer through it. Sad.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Diane,

      Please know I was well and truly born (thank you for the compliment!)

      Diane I do agree with you that narcissists are simply doing what narcissists do. Hurt people hurt people.

      In regard to the healing of different people, I think it is a very personal
      Journey.

      I have seen people very quickly start doing the inner work and transform in record time. I have seen people battle with meeeting their inner being and staying stuck (which I did for a very long time too!)

      This I do know – healing is not a time line, it depends on when we can let go of trauma and let in the good stuff, and no longer hold an incapable other responsible for granting us ourself and our life.

      Many continued blessings to you and that’s wonderful you are doing so well now.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    • jraltizer@gmail.com'
      Julia
      March 8, 2019

      Well said Diane. I wish I had known about all this in 1978 too. It would have saved me a life long learning experience. Little by little over the years I figured a lot of this stuff out on my own. I had too. It was a case of survival. It was a lot of time wasted on a bad relationship.

  • lesann@protonmail.com'
    Blake Whitley
    March 7, 2019

    Melanie,
    I’m sending you big love.
    You’ve been my teacher for four years.
    This is the first comment I’ve ever posted.

    This is your most important and brilliant video yet bc although you’ve spoken about peptides before, and the realizations for me on this cognitive cellular physiology was life-changing for my thriving, this is the first time you’ve gone to such depth on it.

    THIS! THIS is the key to understanding why it’s so hard to move past the experience even though you wouldn’t want to be within a ten mile radius of the narc. It’s not bc we miss the evil. It’s bc our brain was physiologically hooked and cellularly soul-tied to the insidious nature of the consequences of sharing our bodies and souls with evil. This is the key…to the universe. Please shout it from the rooftops.

    ❤️❤️💓

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Blake,

      Thank you for your comment, and you are so right this is key.

      It truly is a soul and cellular sickness that we need to get well from.

      I do hope the information in this video become a powerful resource for many.

      Big love to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • johnleroy2928@gmail.com'
    DMJ
    March 7, 2019

    Hi Melanie.
    Glad you’re home safely…. LOVE Tiggy. It’s obvious he’s so happy his mommy is home. 🙂
    This was very interesting about peptide addiction, it explains so well the backsliding that can happen emotionally and how it’s linked to cellular health and the ability to be physically well.
    I’ve been struggling with adrenal fatigue for a long time and although it’s improving, do you have any practical tips for things you have done to get your energy back? Or have you already made a video about adrenal fatigue that I haven’t come across?
    Thank you as always… very helpful video!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi DMJ,

      Thank you! Tiggy is so sweet and very loving since I’ve returned 😀

      Do google my name + adrenal fatigue and you will find my resources on this topic.

      DMJ are you working with NARP? (Sorry I cant remember if you are or not?)

      If you are, you can directly target and release the traumas within generating adrenal fatigue. Then the condition simply won’t exist anymore. NARP and QFH is that powerful to resolve anything in our life, including physical conditions.

      I hope this helps, lots of love.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      • johnleroy2928@gmail.com'
        DMJ
        March 7, 2019

        Yes. I’m working through the modules. I haven’t joined the forum yet. My fatigue is improving, but I have periods of exhaustion and anxiety and hot flashes. Part of the problem is perimenopause combined with stress. I do think that emotional issues and abuse make periM worse, but the “normal” anxiety and fatigued I experienced in my life up until PeriM were tolerable, but when the estrogen levels start to go down and up and down and up…. it’s a whole new level, but it’s all improving. I find when I get stressed over something that the fatigue comes crashing down on me again so I’m working a lot on “trust.”

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 7, 2019

          Hi DMJ,

          Please know NARP work, with Module 1 and the Goal Setting Module, can be SO literal and exact.

          If you target the trauma generating peri-menstrual symptoms they will melt away.

          Mine did! Many other people’s have too!

          You really do have an unlimited super-tool at your disposal when you start applying it in this way.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • obrien315@gmail.com'
    Maureen
    March 7, 2019

    Thank you for this very informative video on healing the peptide addiction. I have used your method to overcome my ex husband but I had two children with him. My son has the same personality pattern of verbal abuse and it makes me very sad.

    I know I have to uplift from the peptide addiction with my child but I feel at a loss as to how without losing him. He is such an angry young man who was and continues to be abandoned by his abusive father.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Maureen,

      You are very welcome, and I am so sorry that you are going through that trauma with your son.

      Please know that if you are working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp there is so much support that myself and parents can grant you in the NARP Forum to be able to detach, uplevel, set boundaries and even do healing by proxy on your son.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      Myself and many other NARPers have had incredible breakthroughs with our troubled and abusive children by doing so.

      Sending love and healing to both of you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • amedgrp@gmail.com'
    Auren Lee
    March 7, 2019

    Hello Ms. Evans, and thank you.

    You are correct. I had not heard of peptide addiction.

    I have suffered trauma in past relationships going back years. I have always been the giver and always have bent over backward to please, even to the point of keeping quiet when I felt disrespected or abused verbally, even in small ways. I think it’s based on my childhood and my parents who I know loved me, but practiced passive aggressive tendencies toward each other and toward me. But of course it grew into adult behaviour on my part.

    And everything you mentioned is what I have experienced, including recently in the last two months in a relationship where I thought I was going crazy or I wasn’t a good man or maybe “I” was the narcissist. But once I sat and did my research, looked at her behaviour and what I knew of her past history and how she had been treated by men, and had treated men, and my history, and the history of us together, I came to the realization that I was dealing with a narcissist.

    That was not an easy conclusion. I wondered for a while if maybe I was the narcissist and drove her away. But then she came back and after a few days, exhibited the same behavior and left again. Once I saw that, and that there was no making things better, no matter what I did or said, and that I could not express any truths of how I was feeling in the relationship to her without reprisals or repercussions on her part, including the denials of her behaviour and the leaving again, I decided I had to move on. I couldn’t beg and plead, or do anything that was going to change how she related to me or how she treated me.

    Then, of course I thought I would be able to just get over it. After all, I’m a man. We can just move on, not heal and pickup with someone else, right? WRONG! As you stated, the feelings and emotions (peptides) released in me occasionally and I found myself right back where I was in my head having self doubt and fear and thoughts of worthlessness, and thinking of her constantly. Wanting to pickup the phone or drive to her house. BUT I DIDN’T. Instead, I realized I needed to look inside MYSELF. See how much of this relationship behaviour on my part I needed to address, expose and change and get rid of. And that has been my journey for the last several weeks. Moving myself to a place of healing so that I can have a healthy relationship with myself and in the future with someone else.

    Now that I know there is a way out, I want to jump in and get this fixed. Whatever the next step is, I want to do it. I want my next relationship to be healthy, happy, whole and hopefully, prayerfully, the last one.

    So Ms. Evans, what do I do next?

    Thank you again for your words. And please continue helping those of us out here that need to hear these words and desire to live whole and healthy.

    Sincerely, Auren Lee

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Auren,

      I am so pleased this deeply resonates with you and confirms what you have been feeling.

      You had already come a long way with your self realisation – however as you experienced the cellular trauma bonding remained.

      This is what confuses and hurts people so much!

      The next step Auren is NARP, http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp It has proven to be the number 1 healing system globally for narcissistic abuse.

      This is what freed me and tens of thousands of others into Thriver Recovery, and there is absolutely no risk for you to try it!

      Also I highly recommend signing up for my 16 day free course and workshop as well, as powerful supplements to NARP.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

      Those combined, grant you the best resources for powerful, true recovery.

      Sending healing and incredible breakthroughs to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • lerceg@mac.com'
    LisaKaren
    March 7, 2019

    This information is so powerful and revealing. This subsequent understanding of how the chemical peptides enter and grow in our ‘beings’ and work emotionally, cognitively and physiologically, has been incredibly liberating in my life. It allows us to stop blaming and shaming ourselves, and get down to the systematic work of releasing the negativity, making room for God (‘Source’), our Creator, Redeemer, Healer to help us put in place our self-partnering program. I encourage anyone out there who is suffering from abuse to give NARP a try… you will be amazed. Can’t thank Mel enough for her work alongside the neuroscientists of our times. Blessings!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi LisaKaren,

      I agree, this information was such a relief to me too! Life-saving!

      I am so happy for you that you are working with NARP, releasing trauma and claiming your freedom.

      Keep shining your light Lovely Lady.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • leftymagoo52@gmail.com'
    Roger
    March 7, 2019

    Hi Mel
    Dragon 🐉 here from the Right Coast of the USA.
    Just finished listening to your talk on peptides. In my situation, I struggle in a modified No Contact with the narc( my spouse). While I am doing the NARP modules on a regular basis , I still find myself being “shamed and blamed “ by the narc. My younger son will be graduating high school this summer and plans to go away to college. Should I be trying to divorce my spouse this summer or do you think I can survive in a modified No Contact with strict boundaries.
    By the way, I joined the member Forum as you suggested . After some initial difficulties getting onboard, your support staff have been very helpful in getting me going there. 🙏

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Roger,

      Are you able to directly target and shift out what is getting triggered by the shaming and blaming from within you.

      Truly when you get to the inner level of not caring less about it – then it will dissolve away in your experience.

      Re the divorce or otherwise it’s really not my place to advise you. I will say though that the less contact the better and also parallel parenting is very necessary with narcissist.

      Have you see this resource of mine on this topic?

      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1FEY5jkpCQo

      I hope this can help and I’m very pleased that my wonderful support staff have been able to help you – they are amazing!

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • salzkes@iinet.net.au'
    Roz
    March 7, 2019

    Thankyou so much for your information about this. I have struggled through a relationship for the past 4 years and even managed to leave a couple of times, but like so many of us found myself returning despite knowing that my partner was an altruistic narcissist. Because of who I am I started educating myself about narcissistic behaviour. It wasn’t until I focused on why I became addicted that everything started falling into place. I found information on cognitive dissonance and the magnetic connection between narcissists and empathy. The information about peptide addiction is also very interesting. I would like to share a little note I wrote to myself a few days ago, which goes like this:

    Everything we have experienced during our lifetime (our family, our childhood, our relationships, our highlights and our tragedies) impact on who we are, our feelings, how we react and our behaviours. Some of these things are good and some bad. No matter what life throws at us we need to make sure we are always learning about ourselves, aim for improvement, understand what impact our actions have on others, be self reliant, be thankful and happy with who we are. Ultimately, we are responsible for how we act and the steps we take to make ourselves a better person. We all struggle at times but we must remember that we cannot not rely on other people to fix us. The responsibility for this is lies squarely on our own shoulders. It is ok to have all sorts of feelings, it’s ok to make mistakes but how we deal with them is important. We need to realise that things don’t always turn out the way we planned. Sometimes we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger but in wisdom, understanding and love. At the end of the day you need to be totally honest with yourself, love yourself for all that you are, try your best in everything you do and ask for help if you need it. Remember to be kind to yourself and treat everyone who touches your life in the same way you expect to be treated. The following quote sums it up perfectly: “ Self Control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence”.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Roz,

      You are very welcome.

      I love what you have written about self-responsibly and self-partnering.

      It is very beautiful and very true.

      Much love to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • catherinesimon76@gmail.com'
    Catherine SIMON
    March 7, 2019

    OH MY GOD !!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT WE WERE SUSPECTING HERE IN FRANCE WITH OUR THERAPIST !!!

    Thank you so mcuh for clarifying these points in detail.

    This is so relieving…Much gratitude to you.

    All tbe best

    xx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Catherine,

      I’m so happy this brings you clarity and relief.

      Sending you blessings and healing.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • claratango@gmail.com'
    Clara
    March 7, 2019

    Yes, this was SO helpful. It’s easy to speak about keeping a “third eye” perspective, but, as you say, when things are so incredibly “personal,” intense, important, poignant, poetic, it feels like another layer of cruelty and self-abandonment to have to be asked to detach. But looking at this in terms of chemical patterning makes it seem like a positive choice to detach, not an abandonment of the story component that still carries weight. Many thanks.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Clara,

      I agree, it really does take the personal sting out of it and makes it easier to detach and heal.

      The truth helps to peel off ‘the story’ and set us free.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • msviking212@msn.com'
    Carol Rafferty
    March 7, 2019

    My situation goes back decades. I tried to get help, from two doctors: one politely called me a liar & the other said, “He must be a saint married to her!” I went no control almost a year ago, as of the 26 of this month. I have fought off quite a few narcissist, but they just keep coming. I know, you know all about that, because narcs just love light workers. I have gone really depressed, because I have discovered my one case worker was a narcissist. She was suppose to rehome my kitty, but didn’t. The kitty has been missing for over three months. The organization she worked for is trying to do nothing & stalling. She ran & the police told me that makes your case stronger. She tried to 302 me, but it was unfounded. Now, I found out my husband was into bondage with other women. I can not get away from this in five years. I told my daughter this & to call me & she didn’t. She is on his side & she knows a lot of what he has done. Other people have told her. I am moving for the 3rd time in 5 years & I’m heart broken & exhausted. I’m done with him, because he is a jerkaholic & he will never stop. My youngest daughter, I haven’t heard from her in about 3 years, but, at least, she isn’t lying in my face or making plans & breaking them everytime. What really made my decision firm, non negotiable, was she brought my great grandson over. I gave him some cars to play with, but he didn’t recognize me, because he never sees me. That was the clincher. I’M DONE WITH ALL OF THEM!!!!

    • lukeny9@aol.com'
      M. Osheana
      March 7, 2019

      Hi Carol,
      Sorry for your current circumstances but there is indeed hope. After experiencing Melanies teachings on Quantum Healing,
      I too prevailed through narc abuse. I prevailed as this teaching can heal several internalized traumas. Delve into the
      teachings and webinars and see the progress and resolve!!!
      Good Luck
      Michelle

  • triciajoelle@gmail.com'
    Trish
    March 7, 2019

    I’m 20 years into this Narc connection (living with).. ran through the confusion, hate, rage, brain fog, TIA’s, etc and the only reason I’m with him is for financial. At 60 years old, my work skills will not afford me to live alone in the northeast of USA. I’m at the point of “he amuses me” with his constant manic rages. If I had a million dollars (ok, $100,000), I’d walk away and never look back. “No contact” would be a breeze! I’m on a few support pages on FB and I see that women are desperately struggling with staying no contact. I understand the peptide addiction… but how does one cure it? That wasn’t explained. (Without having to pay for the answer… most are barely feeding their kids, or stuck due to the narcs financial control, or are just getting on their feet, and a few homeless, too).

  • nicopopliceanu@yahoo.com'
    Nicoleta
    March 7, 2019

    I found out about peptides in the movie What the bleep do you know? but I did not understand very well what are these chemicals and why the body is addicted to them. Now it is clear.

    Thank you for this article.

    Have a nice day!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Nicoleta,

      I’m glad this has helped.

      Thank you and blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • lottehendriks1967@gmail.com'
    Lotte
    March 7, 2019

    hi Melanie,
    Thank you so much for this, it clarifies a lot to me. Just a question: could I have been addicted to peptides from early childhood being raised by an abusive borderline mother? Could that be the reason why I picked a narciissist man to marry? Could that be the reason again and 14 years post-divorce I have a suitor who is rude to me, draws me in only to reject me and put me down, doesn’t listen to me, is always right, has a serious drinking problem and still I feel incredibly attracted to him? For the first time since my divorce? I have been NC for almost a decade with both my ex and my mother, but could I still be addicted to peptides? There have been other men, but I had no sexual feelings for them. Now this one, whom I have known for 10 years, comes in the picture, I am all physically aroused just being around him or thinking of him. I don’t understand, I really did the work nursing my inner child and processing my childhood and was very happily single and felt complete and fulfilled in and of myself for ten years? And still do? And do not feel any inner void at all? And swore i would not get involved with an alcoholic ever again? Ad refuse to fix people anymore? And succeeded turning down the empathy tap and stop being everyone’s mum? The only thing I can say is that he has been drinking less and less pretty consistently over the past ten years and probably suffers an underlying mental condition like me (I am bipolar, but stable on meds) which goes unrecognized. I absolutely refuse to help him stay sober, it is not my responsiblity. I do care about his mental condition, as both his mom and his daughter are bipolar and I get the feeling he has the same problem. So as a peer I am willing to be supportive; most of my friends have a disorder of some kind. There has been no love bombing or gaslighting and neither does he show any entitlement or superiority. Still my peptides are going through the roof. Can you shed some light on this?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Lotte,

      You are very welcome!

      Without exception all of us replayed our already existing inner trauma programs and peptide addiction. This is why to change our life we have to change ourselves from the inside out – hence the much deeper inner work.

      I totally relate, in my previous life before my Quantum journey of being able to release trauma out of my being and reverse peptide addiction, I had done a ton of therapy yet ended up back in the same cycles.

      Thank goodness that is in the past!

      I’d love you to come into my free webinar where I believe you will deeply get your answers as well as understand how to heal this for real.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

      I hope this gives you hope!

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • lukeny9@aol.com'
    M. Osheana
    March 7, 2019

    Hi Carol,
    Sorry for your current circumstances but there is indeed hope. After experiencing Melanies teachings on Quantum Healing,
    I too prevailed through narc abuse. I prevailed as this teaching can heal several internalized traumas. Delve into the
    teachings and webinars and see the progress and resolve!!!
    Good Luck
    Michelle

  • ingalillf@yahoo.com'
    Inga Froling
    March 7, 2019

    Thank you for this. I always felt like I had an addiction to the narc. I assumed it was simply an adrenaline addiction from a difficult childhood. Can you direct me to any scientific research papers on this topic? Thank you again for your work. Xxxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Inga,

      Its my pleasure and I’m pleased this helps.

      I can’t direct you to any specific papers. The information I assimilated here was from pieces by Jo Dispenza, Bruce Lipton and the late Candace Pert.

      They are good sources to study.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • Irene.zalewski@icloud.com'
    Irene
    March 7, 2019

    Dear Melanie

    You are absolutely right no one is talking about this.
    Thank you once again for your clarity and the way you are able to put into words this chaotic mess.

    The peptide addictions in my life have been huge and for the last 5 years I have been struggling with one which I finally realised yesterday had to go. To listen to your video this morning was perfect for me and you seem to be picking up the common thread that we are all facing at this auspicious time.

    I am so grateful for your courage Melanie in speaking out so plainly and coming from your own true experience.
    You are an inspiration and mentor for me.
    With love Reena xxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Reena,

      Thank you! I am very grateful for your recognition and kind words.

      For many of us Reena the powerlessness we had regarding the addiction and obsession was terrifying.

      It was so big for me too.

      I am thrilled for you, like me, that you are dissolving the terrible peptides with NARP and becoming Source filled and whole.

      It’s such a journey but so worth it.

      All my love

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • cpacker27@sky.com'
    Carol
    March 7, 2019

    Thankyou so much for this video Melanie. I was married 27 years and he left me after major surgery almost s year ago. He emptied the bank accounts and moved immediately in with the other woman as he said she listens and they get on well. I realise now he is a covert narcissist but I missed several red flags. I get confused as he could be so kind and caring, he often helped around the house and cooked etc. I feel so hurt, the rejection and betrayal and abandonment have caused high anxiety, I cry everyday, I keep having obsessive thoughts and images of them together which cause such distress as in my imagination they are so happy and in love even though he’s never said he loves her. I’ve been no contact for months but he never contacts me anyway. I’m just a bit scared I can’t do this and how you mention some don’t heal if they can’t do the right job to get out of it, I’ve never known how to let go of things. Is it normal to feel like you still love them despite all the evidence thst shows they’ve abused you and lied, cheated and stole. I even have jealous feelings for other woman, I the her so much but don’t yet hate him for what he’s done. I’m usually such a caring person so feeling anger and hate is not like me. How can I ever sop thinking of them, it upsets me so much. Thankyou for your help. X

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Carol,

      You are very welcome.

      I am so sorry you are going through this trauma after such a painful time and event.

      Please know Dear Lady what you are feeling is the terrible effects of a narcissistic devalue and discard.

      My healing resources, specifically my inner transformational tools directly address this and help you let go, move on and make it out the other side – to true Thriving.

      The first step is here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

      Please know you are not alone, and this incredible community is here to support you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      • cpacker27@sky.com'
        Carol
        March 10, 2019

        Thankyou for your helpful comments Melanie, its so kind of you to reply and provide the link. May I just ask if it is north have these obsessive thoughts and images of him and the other woman? They are so upsetting and I’m so scared they won’t go away. He has been so cruel yet its like I still have feelings for him and he’s a monster now, I even feel jealous of the ow which makes no sense. Thankyou so much x

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 10, 2019

          Hi Carol,

          You are very welcome and please know it is incredibly normal to be suffering from that obsession.

          The inner transformational resources, and specifically NARP clear those inner traumas, so that those thoughts and feelings just aren’t there anymore.

          You truly are able to clear them and live free of them.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

          • cpacker27@sky.com'
            Carol
            March 10, 2019

            Its really kind of you to reply and put my mind at ease about the obsessional thoughts and images of them as someone told me that now I have them they will never go and it scared me so much Melanie. Also I don’t know why I feel jealous of other woman, its not like she’d won a prize but oddly that’s how it feels and I hate feeling it. Thankyou for all you do for everyone in this situation x

  • soniajgale@yahoo.com'
    Sonia Gale
    March 7, 2019

    Thank you so much for this video Mel. I’m finally seeing why I’ve broken no contact more times than I would like to admit, and endlessly go around in a state of anger, depression, complete betrayal and victim thoughts. I thought I was going completely mad as my mind always seemed to be able to come up with any excuse or idea to contact him in ever more futile attempts to get answers and closure. We know that narcissists never give that, but no amount of logically ‘talking it through’ in my mind made any difference – the drive from within to contact him is too strong and I fail miserably every time. I’ve signed up for your NARP courses and I’m hoping I will find some relief from this endless inner torture which I’ve lived with from my childhood with a narcissistic father who hated me. Numerous narcissistic relationships have followed, all on some pathetic crusade for me to find a narcissist to fix me this time around. Thank you for all your blog posts, they’re so helpful!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Sonia,

      Its great that this resonates deeply with you.

      I’m so happy for you that you have joined NARP, it truly is the powerful inner solution to heal.

      Please also know all of us in the NARP Forum are there to help be your support to heal this.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      Enough is enough, it’s your time to heal Sonia.

      Sending you strength, healing and blessings.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • Kim@terrawestern.com'
    Dreama1
    March 8, 2019

    Dear Mel, I’m curios about how peptide addiction lives and moves in the narcissist as well, especially when looking for supply. It seems that if their addiction is other people’s energy, their peptides are tied to that high and it’s a never ending search for a fix so you can never trust their actions as it’s all about a peptide fix, alway. Might that be true? Thanks, Dreama1

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Dreama1,

      Narcissist are hooked in painful peptides – trauma.

      They are seeking to get out of pain ineffectively from the outside in – just as codependents do.

      The traumas within us and them are virtually identical. This is why to get out of these deadly hookups and enmeshments we need to heal our inner beings beyond this.

      Narcissists won’t and don’t.

      This article of mine explains more …

      https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-co-dependent-two-sides-of-the-same-coin/

      I hope this helps you understand, what the state of unresolved human trauma creates re toxic relationships and how we can be the change we seek to live.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      • kim@terrawestern.com'
        Dreama1
        March 10, 2019

        Absolutely, thank you. The traumas were so deep for the person I was with. Now that I have been in NARP for nearly six months, working the modules, I have some compassion for him, yet know staying in my own lane is very important and have been 99% no contact only doing what is necessary to clear the divorce. As you described the peptide addiction I can see so much the benefits of NARP and how our new cells do hold the new receptors for joy, self partnering, agape love, and freedom. It slowly melts away the old fear and anxiety receptors. I have seen your two sides of the same coin video a couple of months ago and it really helped me grab onto the part of me that is co-dependent and heal her. She’s still wandering nearby but is taking leave. I am going to start the ESC soon as I think that will clear the remains of her out. Trauma bonding for that part of me was key to understand and see. Also, that I am not wholly her. Thanks again for the great work you do! Cheers, Dreama1

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 10, 2019

          Hi Dreama1,

          That is so awesome that you are doing the inner work and reaping the rewards.

          I love that you are on your journey to True Self.

          Thrive On Dear Lady!

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • flutefun123@gmail.com'
    Jodie
    March 8, 2019

    WOW! Having an affinity for the science behind things, this video REALLY opened my eyes! I’m 3 months out from escaping a narcissist relationship and now all the wild, turbulent, “drowning beneath the waves” I’ve gone through since then make so much more sense! I can also attest to the negative affects of low peptides as I have aged like 10 years in just under a year…..
    But best yet, is, I am in control of what type of peptides I create in my body just by changing my thinking! This is huge freedom.

    I’ve watched a lot of your videos, especially just after I first left 3 months ago among many others…. first to try and fight the conviction that I myself was the narcissist (which he tried SO hard to convince me of)….but then to fight back up through the 7 layers (plus) of hell I had descended down into (he used the bible to do it to me with as well).

    You know, listening to your video I thought of something else…. I wonder, if it is that a narcissist has lost all ability to generate their OWN peptides within themselves and that is WHY they “manufacture” the good ones in their targets of which they then siphon off for themselves….the vampire thing….and they do it by generating the highest ones possible in their target by mirroring exactly what the target desires in another person.

    And then explains why their fall (mine descended into psychosis..he’s old and isolated and has no alternate source) also is so great after the target goes NC (if they cannot find another source). They literally ARE vampires….but to an extent, so are the targets if they do not shore up their own land and generate those good peptides themselves.

    Oh this was so enlightening and empowering! Thank you Melanie!! <3

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Jodie,

      You are very welcome.

      Please see my response to Dreama1 regarding what is going on for the narcissist and their peptides.

      Absolutely by changing our thinking we change our peptides. However, the sticking point is that the brain follows the body – it can only think within the range of the already existing inner emotional composition.

      Which means the beliefs and health of the cells.

      If we address THAT then we change our inner beliefs by releasing traumas and reprogramming them. Then the brain is automatically changed.

      For most of us mere mortals ‘thinking’ our way out of extreme trauma was impossible – we ‘failed’ miserably at it – because the cognitive mind only has 5 percent power against the almighty subconscious survival programs hijacking our entire being.

      Hence why with deeper tools it’s possible; with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp we have a way to heal now.

      I hope this explains.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • emt23bath@gmail.com'
    Em
    March 8, 2019

    Hello Mel

    I followed your NARP programme and successfully changed my world in relation to a narcissist relationship. I have been feeling enormously positive for some months, and share you work with everyone who i feel may benefit.

    In the past month i have regressed wih regard to cellular feelings. This time it has been my femal friendships that have triggered huge reactions in my body.

    I wonder if you have any advice on how to work with these reactions. My mother is narcissistic and i have largely gone no contact but some of my female friends have done or said things that have caused massive cellular reactions, speaking my truth has isolated me in aome cases which of course then draws in the trauma of isolation thst my family have used so powerfully. Might you be able to offer advice on how best to work with these reactions using QFH?

    Please may i take this opportunity to thank you from my soul for the work you do. You have made the shift to enlightenment possible in my life.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Em,

      I’m so pleased NARP has helped so much and thank you for spreading the word.

      Hi Em, please know that when any trauma comes up for us, it is always this blessing:

      ‘Now it’s time to address and uplevel these trauma that can’t come up with me to my next highest and best level of self.’

      Absolutely you can address exactly ‘what hurts’ (the trauma) on any topic that requires releasing and reprogramming with NARP Module 1 or the Goal Setting Module.

      Then as you change, the situation will uplevel or you will have clean empowered boundaries and be generating more love and success in your life regardless of what other people are or arent doing.

      In other words you will powerfully generate your graduation regarding this trauma.

      Em I’d love you to come into the NARP Forum for help if required http://www.melsnietoniaevabs.com/member

      Does this help?

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      • Emt23bath@gmail.com'
        Em
        March 8, 2019

        Hi Mel

        Thank you for your reply. You will necer know how you change my life.

        I woke this morning before i saw your post and realised that i have an addiction. Essentially i am hooked on trauma, be it mine or others. This gives me a peptide hit which courses through my body giving me heightened awareness. But now this cellular response is uncomfortable and is a sign of my body/soul crying for me to heal my past

        Having felt elation, joy, true inner peace and even moving towards forgiveness, the acute pain of slipping back into an addictive state is close to unbearable. I habe gone back into module 1 with this but i feel there is something blocking me from truly accessing to charges and releasing them.

        I am a member of the NARP forum but have not found it easy to engage with. I feel there is a fundemental nugget missing in my practice which stops me moving into the core of my trauma and releasing it.

        Please know you have changed me and people around me in a way i could not have imagined. I now understand things i had tried to grapple unsuccessfully with many times in my life. You have changed the path ahead for me and my beautiful, intuitive son.

        Em

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 9, 2019

          Hi Em,

          I am so pleased I can help you.

          Please reach out to my support team at support@melanietoniaevans.com for help with the Forum, it will be a key for you. One of my lovely staff will help hold your hand until you get going.

          Please know you’ve got this – it’s just another trauma to release, uplevel and mine your gold from.

          Such is our ongoing life Dear Lady.

          Blessings and breakthroughs to you.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • brennesbitt@hotmail.com'
    BB
    March 8, 2019

    Hi Melanie! I’ve followed you for quite some time now but have never made a comment. I’m fortunate in one sense that my Ex of five years is not reaching out unless absolutely necessary. He doesn’t even check on his disabled and medically fragile daughter (and I believe as a result she is thriving). However, our divorce is caught up in the court system and he has managed to manipulate that system for five years and try and drag me through the mud in the process, making himself look like the victim. As expected, he has a ruthless lawyer as well and his lawyer has even exacerbated everything (for example, his lawyer has called our daughter an “organism” (documented in a transcript). While I completely understand your program on peptide addiction, how would you suggest detoxifying when all of this is still going on? Our trial is set for this Fall and at that point I’m certain it will escalate. I’m rather fearful of how much he will be able to continue to manipulate the courts in trial.

    Thank you so much Melanie for all of the insight you provide.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi BB,

      It is so our human nature to not do the inner work when we are under seige. Yet it is the time we need to do it the most.

      Many people in the NARP community who have worked with NARP during court battles have been able to reverse the abuse and emerge victorious and defeat narcissist.

      They were able, even under attack to shift our and uplevel trauna snd tuen up and generate powerful, calm and supportive shifts in their favour.

      So within … so without. It’s Quantum indisputable Law. NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp creates that.

      If you google my name + Thriver Stories you will hear many of these interviews.

      I hope this helps.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      I hope this helps.

  • Cowserts58@gmail.com'
    Jenny
    March 8, 2019

    My sociopath was a woman…i never knew why she always felt alittle off…iv never heard of peptides but i will do more research…its hell sometimes and its been 2years…i hear her voice telli g me how much she lovedme…planing for our future…and it was all a lie…a game…makes u look differentially at ppl…trust me i dont take any shit any more! I loved her…i loved her shedidnt even care about me. One day at a time…

  • Marcystevenskimball@gmail.com'
    Marcy
    March 8, 2019

    Thank you for this very important video! I now know what I am suffering from. I’ve been married to a narcissist for 14 years and the past two years has been a total nightmare and he won’t let me go he won’t let me divorce him and now I’m seeing a therapist, I’ll lawyer and going to AA meetings and doing everything I can to get a divorce and get out of his life. But I’m exhausted and the constant abuse brings up my childhood trauma and I feel like I’m having a nervous breakdown.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 8, 2019

      Hi Marcy,

      My heart goes out to you. It is so painful and terrifying when Narcissistic Abuse brings to the fore our already existing and significant previous traumas. This is the soul contract – to make the unconscious conscious so that we can finally resolve and be free of all of it.

      Please have a look at my free inner transformational resources.

      I know they can grant you immense relief and answers http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

      Sending hugs and healing.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • rosewalker@btinternet.com'
    Rosie
    March 8, 2019

    Ouch…..another one that hit the spot Melanie!
    I wish someone had told me this before I left my narcissistic husband last year after 30 years of marriage. I have never had addiction issues with substances (alcohol, tobacco etc), but when I left and immediately instigated no contact I went through 6 weeks of peptide cold turkey hell! It felt like my skin was crawling, like invisible nails were clawing at my insides. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t concentrate, I cried for hours. I frequently had to give my car keys to my (adult) children who moved with me to stop myself running straight back, despite my logical brain telling me how bad an idea this would be. I was an absolute mess.

    No wonder, after 30 years of addiction, that this was the case…it finally makes sense. 6 months on, having been strictly no contact, I am finally feeling that I am “peptide addiction free”. Why is no one else talking about this when it is so key to understanding if you are truly going to heal?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Rosie,

      You have described the effects of the addiction perfectly. I don’t think I could have put this better myself!

      I’m so pleased you are up and out of that now … and I agree, many more people need to be having this conversation.

      Many continued blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • hankwitzs@earthlink.net'
    Scott Hankwitz
    March 8, 2019

    Hi Melanie,

    I had replied to one of your videos on Feb 7th explaining the roller coaster ride of insanity I feel I have been on. I also described how I felt I was possibly an Overt Narc based on my reactions toward her manipulative ways and all the games. Your reply helped me to feel better about myself. After taking your Quiz in late Feb I was relieved to discover I scored a 92 which means I am not a narcissist and that if anything I am a co-dependent. The description really does describe me and helped put things into perspective. I then took the quiz trying to be as honest about her as possible and she scored 228 which really described her as well. So if you don’t mind me asking, my questions are. Regardless of whether or not the relationship was worth fighting for, do some people label others a narc when in reality they aren’t? Relationships can fail for a variety of reasons that resemble narcissism. I know that the professionals out there say we all have narc tendencies but if we have empathy and are willing to self reflect and take responsibility for our own actions then we aren’t technically narcissistic. Still I find myself wondering how accurate the test is. Based of off my reactions and her behavior. Is it worth over analyzing this condition if it doesn’t apply to the failed relationship? I know we all can learn from these experiences and sometime people just aren’t compatible. Some may be emotionally manipulative and self centered, some may be more verbally abusive. I am just wondering for my own state of mind if I am spending to much time justifying myself and what happened and it is just time to move on? Does Peptide Addiction still happen even if we weren’t specifically in a narcissistic relationship? Can someone still be a narc if the test doesn’t say so? I think when we really loved someone we are just looking for answers and personal growth. Thank you so much for all you share with us on this subject. You are truly amazing!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Scott,

      I understand your questions, and absolutely people label others as narcissists inaccurately.

      There could be people taking that test on other people’s behalf whose version of events is completely different from someone else’s.

      To cut out all the confusion this I how I see the truth of our life … what are our values and truth? Are we willing to work on our own wounds? Are we in toxic relationships whereby it is continual circles of pain and snags with no resolution or team?

      If this is the case does it matter whether that person is or isn’t narcissistic? Or if they are selfish or just not a match for our values and truth?

      In reality all we can do is pull away, heal, establish our values truths and boundaries and live aligned with them, and if people are compatible and desire to live authentically there with us, then that’s wonderful.

      If not, we need to let them go and stop trying to change them in order to make us happy.

      Only then can we experience healthy and whole relationships.

      I hope this makes sense.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • chris.whittaker2@btinternet.com'
    Christopher
    March 8, 2019

    Fascinating comments Melanie, how I wish I had known about all this Peptide addiction years ago, instead I have gone from Narc to Narc,(my Mother being the first) living a life in limbo, well no more I say, Melanie, how was peptide addiction discovered, through Psychiatrists?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Christopher,

      I’m so glad this deeply gives you answers.

      No Christopher psychiatrists don’t generally acknowledge the brain / body connection. It’s neuroscientists who are on the leading edge of trauma discoveries who realised this.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • mal_ols@hotmail.com'
    Malin
    March 8, 2019

    GREAT VIDEO ♥️❤️

    Mel is on Fiiiiiire 🔥🔥🔥

    Your videos are great energy boosters and highly motivational while working with NARP♥️❤️🦋

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Thank you Malin for your beautiful comment.

      That’s wonderful NARP is your core work and these are your supplements.

      That is the most powerful healing combination.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • suethody@btinternet.com'
    Sue Thody
    March 8, 2019

    Peptide addiction. …that’s me. Just not getting well. 7 years is too long. I think I’m a member of NARP. But brain/pain fog confuses me. I have the down load course. I’ve been trying so hard, but this peptide video is renewing my hope. What do I do now.

    Lots of love x

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Sue,

      I’m so pleased this has given you hope.

      The total solution is to start releasing inner trauma which is what NARP does.

      If you email my support staff at support@melanietoniaevans.com they will help you get reconnected to NARP and started with the healings, as well as into the NARP Forum for support.

      It’s your time to heal Sue, enough is enough.

      Sending love and healing.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • emmanuelgwu@gmail.com'
    Carla Rainey
    March 9, 2019

    Hi Melanie,
    I wanted you to know that I purchased the Gold program but I could never understand how to use it. I am not very good with technology, and could not understand how too use the modules, I talked to a man in your support who wasn’t helpful to me at all, his comment was ” well I guess it’s about time to learn ” which is really not that easy for me right now, I have a hard time keeping my mind focused and it is all foreign to me, I just feel like I have wasted alot of money for a program that I can’t even use. I have tried to learn to use the computer but it’s like trying to learn a foreign language without a teacher. I really was looking forward to the healing, I watch all your videos but haven’t gotten anywhere in my healing. I have been no contact for three years. But have had conftation with other Narcissists but I can spot them on a dime now. Just wanted to share with you that I have purchased your gold program and how disappointed I am that I can’t use it to heal. Thanks!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Carla,

      I don’t wish to discount your experience in any way, and I am sorry that you are having this struggle.

      This I do know irrevocably about my support staff is that they do incredible patient work to help connect those with trauma and brain fog regularly (which is very common in this community) to work with NARP.

      Are you willing to try again? Because if so, please let me know on this blog and I will have one of my staff contact you to help you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      • emmanuelgwu@gmail.com'
        Carla
        March 11, 2019

        Sure! I would give anything if I could just learn how to understand and be able to use the modules. I have so much trouble with comprehension. My mind is so so divided. Thanks so much for replying! Will they contact me by email? I just wanted to know so I could be looking for it if they were. Thanks so much Mel…..

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 11, 2019

          Hi Carla,

          That is great! Yes I will get one of my staff to contact you by email ASAP.

          Please do look out for their email Carla.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

          • emmanuelgwu@gmail.com'
            Carla
            March 16, 2019

            Mel, I never recieved an email yet from support about helping me, but I did recieve an email from support wanting to know how I would rate the support that I recieved! I have no idea what is going on with that. Sorry for all the trouble.

          • Melanie Tonia Evans
            March 16, 2019

            Hi Carla,

            I will investigate. I have seen the correspondence in the past where you did apparently successfully download your modules.

            We will persist!

            Mel 🙏💕❤️

        • harrywilliams2012@live.com.au'
          Harry Springford Williams
          March 16, 2019

          Hello Carla,

          It is Harry here in Support for MTE. I tried emailing you yesterday. Please email support@melanietoniaevans.com with your contact phone number and a time period generally in which you would be available to be called (with your time zone details too as I live in Australia)? We do not have a support contact phone number so I am doing this as a personal thing to try and help you get going with the NARP Program. I can not think of any other way of how to get in contact with you.

  • bamanized@yahoo.com'
    Steve Alexander
    March 9, 2019

    Amazing information. I have never heard of the term Peptide Addiction . This explains so much for me. I was married to a sociopath for 16 years and could not believe that I kept falling for the same tricks from my wife. I one time asked her to tell me the story again so that my mind might be able to believe it. My heart never did but my mind would betray me. It is so wonderful to hear you speak of this and I now can see where people can even feed off of each other in sharing negative things. Thank you so much.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 9, 2019

      Hi Steve,

      I’m so glad this has brought you clarity and you are so welcome.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • johnleroy2928@gmail.com'
    DMJ
    March 9, 2019

    Hi, Melanie.
    I don’t know if you are still reading comments to this post, but I wanted to mention to you that I’ve found these wonderful youtube videos (really just audios) that people have posted of old audio recordings that Louise Hay did. I think they were probably initially cassette tapes because I couldn’t find them for purchase on the Hay House website. They are so soothing to listen to. She goes on and on about how it’s OK to love ourselves and not criticize ourselves or “should” on ourselves and how truly loving ourselves can heal our bodies and our lives. It’s just a wonderful thing to listen to before bed. Like a sweet mum tucking you in and reminding you how special you are. She has passed on now, but I just wanted to share this with you in case you thought it would be helpful to any NARP members who are struggling with the idea that it’s OK to love ourselves. One is called, “Heal Your Life, Trust Yourself.”

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 10, 2019

      Hi DMJ,

      Thank you for this reminder.

      I love Louise Hay’s work.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • Pegs8907@outlook.com'
    Peggy
    March 9, 2019

    Oh wow! This is huge for me because I have been hard wired into a very strong peptide addiction. My abuse started young and there was a lot of different kinds of situations that gave me the painful perceptions of my life. My father was loving but violent with physical abuse as discipline and this created attachment issues for me. My mother was mentally ill and had an array of personality disorders and ended up very dependant and helpless later in her life to the point where I could not live my own life and finally got out at 35. I having suffered narc abuse in my mid 20s well based on the perception is it any wonder. Now I have a full blown peptide addiction and it’s all negative emotions with the only relief of remembering loving times with the narc as relief or any love addiction to sooth me. I had a lot of crushes on boys when I was young as a way to escape pain and loneliness because of racial bullying and having no friends to play with or talk to. My god this has opened up my eyes thank you. How does PTSD and peptide addiction and then manifestation work they must co-inside for sure because more of the same is what has happened all kinds of abuse through out my life.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 10, 2019

      Hi Peggy,

      I’m so pleased this video has granted relief and answers to you, after the lifetime of trauma that you have experienced.

      Please know that there are many people in my NARP community they also have, that once starting to release trauma experience the dissolving of the peptide addiction as well as PTSD and all other abuse symptoms.

      I’d love you to understand more about this and experience the hope of healing from the inside out. The first step is here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

      Sending love and healing to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • rajapetnavitha@yahoo.com'
    N
    March 10, 2019

    Hi Melanie,thank u for the wonderful information.its actually hard to explain to not just others ,but it’s hard to even explain to yourself when you are in the darkest trauma where you obsess over the abuse and abusers even though you don’t want to,you feel and do things totally unlike you.you hate to even think of the abuse but that’s the only thing that consumes the whole of you making you non functional and sick with only the abuser in your psyche,as if possessed by his/her spirit.and the abuse is so targeted and relentless that you don’t get even the space for your brain to breathe..even though the abuser or you have left ,the abuse lives in you…you don’t want to even think but you are all consumed by it…you are sick of yourself wondering why youre hurting so horribly and why youre so mentally damaged,almost crippled to death even after years..but you don’t get it…peptide addiction clearly explains the maddening and obsessive thoughts and feelings of abuse…you realize youre not insane or stupid but driven to that point…you writhe in pain like a fish that’s thrown out of water…the suffocation of trauma is so intense…you feel crippled ,choked and helpless and even deeply mired in abuse and no matter how much you want the trauma to leave,its so horribly deep and deathly only getting dirtier ,sicker and worser as each day passes…
    It took me a great deal to come out of the abuse and the insanity and realise that it was maddening.you actually are with a truly sick individual that initially puts you through the good phase and when the abuse starts its shocking and unbelievably inhuman.your soul is crushed and yet you feel practically helpless to not sink in the cruelty..your brain is used to be subconsciously so open to this individual that by closely working on you ,they literally brainwash you to take in and take in and take in the love and acceptance and somehow your inner self has lost all resistance to anything that this person tells you.you don’t even realize when the abuse starts …it starts with slights and some other slightly cruel statements …you ignore…they get a little more cruel ,you ignore and you tell yourself ….well this isn’t the person I knew…u tell yourself-they are probably hurting…. you rationalize the abuse…the abuse is done so slowly….systematically…deliberately…using exactly the things that make you writhe in pain…with increasing intensity of cruelty and impact..every word they say is calculated and measured to put you off balance…like slow poison… so you don’t even suspect..as days pass the abuse only grows from a molehill to a mountain and so does the crippling trauma…by the time you realize youre so deeply stuck that you’re just dragging through each day ,rather each second of your life…
    Peptide addiction clearly explains the deeper reasons for the trauma…
    Thank you so much Melanie….I became some-thing that I never was.in fact just the opposite….I dint even want to think or be the one that I became…but I became..
    Thank you Melanie for all that you do…it gives hope to get back to sanity and self trust …..even if no one understands…..Thank u so much….

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 10, 2019

      Hi N,

      It’s my pleasure.

      N you describe all of this so well, in a way that only a person who has deeply experienced it could.

      Thank you for validating this to so many others in this community, who like all of us felt like they were literally in the bowels of hell.

      I wish you incredible blessings and continued healing.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • roma4amor@gmail.com'
    Deanna
    March 12, 2019

    Hi Mel!
    I’m not sure if you are still checking in on this particular blog. You have so many that I can’t imagine how you would be able to keep up.
    Nonetheless, I’m giving it a go BECAUSE
    I REALLY want you to know how FABULOUS this video is!!!!!!! It explains and validates SO MUCH.
    Even though I truly believe in quantum law on its energitic level, there is something so “weighty and meaty” in a good way about being informed of the physical aspects of what our beliefs and perceptions do to us.
    I had come to firmly believe that being around toxic people is like being affected by a physical virus. I have literally come home physically ill from being around toxic people and energy vampires, needing to go straight to bed for the rest of the day/night. I thought it was solely an energetic thing and a product of being an empath and an HSP (highly sensitive person such as Elaine Aaron writes about and that I strongly identify with).
    And now, via your ASTUTE AND ASTOUNDING video, I can actually back it up with physcial science and evidence. It seems that people don’t take me seriously when I implement “energetic” boundaries. Because they are making tyrannical demands on me, they refuse to consider them valid. NOW that I have scientific evidence to back it up, I myself FEEL STRONGER in terms of being able to stand up to these tyrants.
    And yes, of course you are asking: Why, dear, are you even concerned about placating tyrants? And this is because one of them is actually a WONDERFUL person, who like me, has unhealed parts of himself from toxic family members that he is unable to truly unhook from. And, as his wife, he, mostly during the holidays, pressures me to play the game with him.
    It is also because I still find myself bumping into situations with regard to those in my own family that I feel obliged to still have limited contact with.

    Anyway, in addition to the ENTIRE video, the particular “take aways” for me are your expressions and phrases that sum up and clarify SO MUCH in just a couple of words:
    Emotional Perception
    Identity Composition
    Peptide Regurgitation
    the bad peptides being like “drug dealers” for your cells

    Also, if you are still with me even though this blog is long–I ABSOLUTELY LOVED the video you did with Dr. Christiane Northrup about Dodging Energy Vampires. I love her too and both of you together are truly a “phenomenal women force” to be reckoned with!

    As always, much love and appreciation for all you do and all you are
    Deanna
    xoxoxoxoxo

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 12, 2019

      Hi Deanna,

      Thank you for your lovely post. I’m so pleased this resonated deeply with you!

      I really do love how science and spirituality now meet, and that Quantum ‘unseen’ truths are quantifiable.

      So, so pleased this has helped you Dear Lady and so much love to you!

      Thank you again, I deeply appreciate you and you are so welcome Deanna.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • lvdDep830@protonmail.com'
    Lena
    March 13, 2019

    Dear Mel!

    I’m so fortunately God let me find you in my life.

    I’ve been working with the NARP modules for more than a year and they are absolutely amazing. Nevertheless, my case with the narc requires modified no contact and I feel this is giving me more issues with peptide addiction than if I could just do No Contact. My questions are, which modules should I work specifically to end this peptide addiction? And which modules should I work with to accept the narc as the father of my little one and that is a must that he sees his father?

    I really appreciate your help. And for anyone who is still thinking if this is the right method, I can’t recommend enough this program!!! Mel saved my life!!!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 13, 2019

      Hi Lena,

      Module 1 or the Goal Setting Module are powerful to target and clean up any issue or state.

      You can do this by setting the intention that you are targeting the trauma generating your (‘issue’ – whatever that is) Somewhere in your body will light up, and all you have to do is follow the Module process to clear the trauma, thus melting away the issue, state or condition.

      I highly suggest being in the NARP Forum Lena so that you can get support and answers any time in need with your NARP work.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      Then you never have to do this alone as you thrive with your tribe.

      I’m so pleased NARP saved your life, as it did mine.

      Much love to you and yours Lena.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • cpacker27@sky.com'
    Carol
    March 14, 2019

    Its really kind of you to reply and put my mind at ease about the obsessional thoughts and images of them as someone told me that now I have them they will never go and it scared me so much Melanie. Also I don’t know why I feel jealous of other woman, its not like she’d won a prize but oddly that’s how it feels and I hate feeling it. Thankyou for all you do for everyone in this situation x

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2019

      Hi Carol,

      You are very welcome.

      Please know our inner emotional traumas are never logical.

      They are deeply tied into epigentic, past life and childhood wounding in our inner beings.

      Just as one example the female ancient terror and trauma with being ‘replced’ is huge. It literally meant life could not go on.

      This is the level of wounding within we are all being called on to uplevel from.

      I hope that explains.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • siiriaiia@gmail.com'
    Siiri
    April 7, 2019

    Dearest Melanie,

    A little late post for this video, but I need to comment. 🙂

    First of all, Thank You again for Your great work and for the very important video!! Maybe my favorite!!

    I’ve found my body being totally addicted to the drug that is released by my body when there’s drama in my life. And the best way to get out of that hook has been letting my body to get the drug, but from the different source. In that way I’ve been able to lower the dose and start to detach myself from drama/chaos by working with NARP and other programs of yours.

    If I haven’t been giving myself the needed “drug”, I haven’t only felt really bad, but I have started to draw into my life amazing chaos/drama even without doing anything (because we do create our lives, wanted or not.. 😉 😀 ). Anykind of drama was needed to get “the peace” back into my body.

    Lowering the doses in safe way, has been the key of my recovering. I’ve been able to keep on working to become safe person to myself, starting to rebuild my whole life, and being more match to healthier social circles.

    Example of the healthier source: I started to do safe extreme sport, coz feeling fear of death was “safe” and familiar for me. But this time I relaxed without harming myself or my life -and staying no-contact from people/drama is million times easier. 😀

    So this I wanted to share with you and all the others. If you find this information useful, pls feel free to share it. Your voice reaches many people! 🙂

    🙂 Warmly, Siiri

  • deborvoyse471@gmail.com'
    Deborah
    May 1, 2019

    Hello Melanie,
    Thank you so much for explaining peptide addiction. I’m so relieved to know that I’m not “nuts” for having urges to re-connect with the narc. Since watching your vid’s I’ve been able to do a lot of healing and look forward to the days ahead…instead of dreading them!
    Best Regards,
    Deborah

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      May 1, 2019

      Hi Deborah,

      I’m so pleased this helps!

      Love and blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • sjcand9@gmail.com'
    Sheila Chaffins
    May 17, 2019

    Hello Melanie

    Can I start the program before no contact.

  • Beyoutoofullmommy@gmail.com'
    Roman
    May 25, 2019

    Hi Melanie,

    Where do I begin? Firstly, I just came into this community about 3 weeks ago and the no. one reason I was attracted was the use of the word “thrive,” whether thriver or thriving. That’s the exact space I determined I wanted to be in (as opposed to just surviving/survival!) It is because I started to come into this realization that I came across your information – through Twitter, I believe. How do I wish I had found you earlier!

    What I have been slowly recognizing is that I have been in a pattern of dating narcissists and it all came to a head w/the man who fathered my daughter. Although we were only involved from the time I met him until I determined something was “off” about him at 97 days, that entanglement produced an unplanned pregnancy. If I knew him then, and recognized the NPD, like I do now I would never have told him. The short version of this is that he has led a campaign of abuse through the California family courts that has turned my life inside out and upside down. I am finally starting to get some relief in that I organized five other mothers who were being abused by the personality-disordered judge; filed a formal complaint with the Commission on Judicial Performance then was forced to file a recusal against her and finally had a mistrial declared (in his case against me.). Now it’s been assigned to a new judge (and his ninth attorney just substituted out! 😆)

    Now that I have to start again, I am struggling. I just purchased the NARP program and have yet to delve into them because I’ve been trying to get caught up on the readings and I want to read the two e-books. I felt immediate relief and something lifted the night I participated in my first online workshop with you about 3 weeks back, but my struggle is finding the time, which I will do eventually. However, how do I integrate this while also having to renew my defense against the custody war that this narcissist waged against me? I had enough love for myself to get away from him in 97 days, but because the entanglement produced a child I have been forced to have ongoing contact with him…

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      May 26, 2019

      Hi Roman,

      I am so sorry you and of course your child have had to go through this nightmare.

      Roman I am so pleased that you have found your way to my work and this incredible community too.

      It truly is the time when we are under the most strain and pressure where the inner work is the most crucial.

      Roman it is my highest suggestion that you start the Module work with the actual healings as soon as possible – the reading truly is only supplementary to the inner work where you will get fast relief, clarity and power.

      I also highly suggest joining us in the NARP Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member So that myself, the moderators and Thriver members can help support you.

      Please know you don’t have to fight this good fight alone.

      Sending love, healing and strength to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • acoppola808@gmail.com'
    Ali Bear
    May 27, 2019

    While listening to you I realized that my tendency to go into co-dependent “soother” mode (from a very young age with narcissists all around) with disturbed/negative people has been completely off-base. Over-extending myself for them and going into rescue mode doesn’t dissolve their peptide addition, and it increases mine through trauma bonding. This is HUGE for me, having been an emotional caretaker for most of my life and way too much of a “good listener” without proper boundaries for myself.

    This revelation about peptide addiction is a new frontier for me…and a foundation for new insights and growth. I’ve recently come across some interesting information about how dietary fasting playing a role in rebuilding the hippocampus and forming new, healthier neuron connections. Light.Bulb.On…Modules and Neuroplasticity Summer Project, here I come! 🙂

    Mel, I appreciate you!! What a gift you are to all of us. Cheers.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      May 27, 2019

      Hi Ali Bear,

      I’m so pleased this has helped bring clarity and power to you.

      You have soooo got this.

      Tons of love

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • Nataliadskaggs@gmail.com'
    Natalia
    June 1, 2019

    I can’t even begin to explain how insightful this is, how much refined I feel. I continued to explain to my family and friends it felt like something was being released on the inside of me that I couldn’t contain or control. I had gotten down to 114 pounds, my stomach was always in knots, I could feel it in knots in my sleep even! Everyone would tell me to just walk away, but they couldn’t understand that I physically could not. The past year and half has been the worst year and a half and I realize now because there was always a door open for him to come back, I couldn’t heal or get away if I wanted too. Officially blocked from everything and I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. So excited to heal and move on with my life.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      June 1, 2019

      Hi Natalia,

      I am so excited for you that this was such an important key for your healing.

      Welcome to the beginning of your new incredible life Dear Lady.

      Much Love

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

  • Kennethtouchton1@gmail.com'
    Kenneth WIlcox Touchton
    June 1, 2019

    Thank you for your time and help it’s nice to have someone to understand just Awesome! I look forward to get out of this fog!!!

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