Melanie Tonia Evans

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What Is Epigenetics? And What Does It Have To Do With Narcissistic Abuse?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    A couple of weeks ago, I had the most wonderful evening … I went to see Bruce Lipton live. Bruce Lipton is an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit. He is a stem cell biologist, bestselling author of The Biology of Belief and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award. I love his work, as well as Joe Dispenza’s, as my healing model correlates strongly with both of their work. Today in my article I want to talk about “Epigenetics.” You may have never heard the word before … There are many longer version meanings of the word – but to simplify Bruce Lipton's ... read more →

What I Wish I Had Known Before I Met The Narcissist

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This is article about so much more than recognising red flags. It is also about more than intuition and choices. My greatest hope, in regard to this article, is that you no longer feel like you can or will be taken in by a narcissist for this reason: because a narcissist can dupe anyone. I hope that by reading this article you will be so much clearer on how that is just NOT true. This article is not about blaming or shaming you, if you have been taken in by a narcissist, and it is not about questioning your intelligence. Rather, it is about ... read more →

Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #23 Angela

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
      Angela was married for 22 years to a narcissist. She had decided that this was her lot in life, and that she was going to endure her marriage for many reasons including for her children. The marriage, however, did break down and Angela was shocked, sickened and traumatised by how she became the enemy, and was cruelly smeared and attacked by her ex-husband. Everything in Angela's life was under siege, including her children, and the high conflict divorce over a period of two years led to Angela losing her business and having to declare herself bankrupt. Now, today ... in such a short space ... read more →

Your Renewal This Easter

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Easter is upon us again … How fast is this year going? … Goodness! Because Easter is nearly upon us, I wanted to write about “renewal”. Easter time is a time of re-grouping for me; it feels like a reflective break to plan and reassess. Easter is traditionally a time of re-birth, re-centring and creating ourselves anew. It is such divine synchronicity that I am writing more frequent Energy Reports of late on my Facebook page that are all about “renewal”. My posts are about the incredible opportunities that we have to evolve – to break out of the shackles of our old illusions – in ... read more →

Does Over Valuing Our Children Create Narcissists?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This topic was going viral through the internet not long ago … with articles such as these: Do parents nurture narcissists by pouring on the praise? and Don't want to raise a narcissist, stop telling your children they're special. And I really think it's important to have a discussion about it. Why? Because it disturbs me. I think this topic, “the danger of praising children”, is laden with misunderstandings, and if taken literally could cause more narcissism than prevent it. I urge you to read this important article, as I believe this topic could have dramatic effects on our future generations if we don’t understand what is ... read more →

Beyond Past Lives With Best Selling Author Mira Kelley

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  I am so thrilled to be sharing this interview with Mira Kelley, the author of the Hay House published book Beyond Past Lives – what parallel realities can teach us about relationships, healing and transformation. Those of you who know my work, and have experienced my healing system Quanta Freedom Healing, know I am a big advocate of past life work as a way of creating healing that just can’t be accessed from a surface contemporary level. In this interview Mira talks about the initial experience which led her to her first past life experience, and how some years later that “key” ... read more →

What Is Narcissistic Entitlement And What To Do About It

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
Anyone who has been in relationship with a narcissist knows that even the most “giving”, “caring” Narcissist when entering into bouts of narcissistic entitlement can be totally unreasonable. In fact it feels highly confusing, abusive and even dangerous with the behaviour and demands that come forth, and the actions and expectations that healthy adults simply don’t do. And it feels really “off”, because it is coming from an extremely unhealthy interior. The narcissistic may believe he / she is entitled to some type of preferred treatment from you or others. This can range over a huge amount of topics. The narcissist may take umbrage that ... read more →

Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #22 Yvette

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    This Thriver Story is about Yvette, a woman who suffered narcissistic abuse in a same sex relationship. I was thrilled when Yvette came forward, deeply wanting to share her story for the gay and lesbian community … because over the years people have emailed and said to me “My narcissistic abuse situation is – I’m in a same-sex relationship, can you please write about that Melanie?”, whereas truly from what I have seen up close and personal with the numerous clients I have done energetic healing work with,  is that same-sex narcissistic dynamics are identical to heterosexual ones. My great friend Eric Casaccio the ... read more →

Narcissistic Abuse – A Journey To Self Love

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Continuing on from the topic of last week – self-love. Self-love means you have the ability to have a deep, abiding relationship with yourself that is unconditional. Your love for yourself flourishes, allowing you to evolve into the happiest, healthiest and most empowered version of yourself. You have the self-respect to say "No" to those who are unhealthy, and you have the energy to love and support those who deserve your kindness. Self-love feels like finally coming home to yourself. So in today’s article I am really excited to share why we had a lack of self-love, and how narcissistic abuse was the wakeup call for us ... read more →

Law Of Attraction In Action – Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
After Tami’s interview about her Thriver recovery, and her journey with NARP and Law of Attraction, I received so much positive feedback! Everyone loved it! So much so that I started receiving suggestions to do another show. People wanted to learn exactly how to apply Law of Attraction to manifest their goals – whether it be a dream job, the right lifestyle, good health, money etc. This sounded like a fantastic idea, but just to make sure I put it out to the Facebook Community to see what people thought. And I started receiving even more suggestions… Here are some of them: “With the way I sabotage ... read more →