Melanie Tonia Evans

What I Learned About Narcissists And Christmas And A Big Thank You From The MTE Team

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out. I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would. (more…)

 

Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out.

I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would.

Should You Tell A Narcissist Who They Really Are?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do. And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense. All the pieces add up.  And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life. All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore. And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are. (more…)

 

It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do.

And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense.

All the pieces add up.

 And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life.

All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore.

And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are.

Evolutionary Trends For 2017 And Why It’s Time!

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone. Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas? Each year is slipping away faster and faster. This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article. Time. The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community. (more…)

 

What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone.

Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas?

Each year is slipping away faster and faster.

This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article.

Time.

The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community.

Breaking The Disconnection From Love, Intimacy And Connection With Jeanine Staples

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy. It's about melting the iciness within our souls. Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world. Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on. I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher. if you haven't heard any of her talks before I recommend you don't miss this one! (more…)

 

This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy.

It’s about melting the iciness within our souls.

Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world.

Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on.

I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher.

if you haven’t heard any of her talks before I recommend you don’t miss this one!

Shifts Happen – When We Can’t Say “No”

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic … The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”. As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life. And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of. It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through! If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need. (more…)

 

This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic …

The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”.

As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life.

And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of.

It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through!

If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need.

The Difference Between Judgement and Discernment

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to. The following are common confusions ... When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with? When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something? How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place? (more…)

 

As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to.

The following are common confusions …

When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with?

When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something?

How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place?

Shifts Happen – How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Don’t Push People Away

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life. A tendency to overdo boundaries … Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others. This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others. (more…)

 

This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life.

A tendency to overdo boundaries

Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others.

This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists. All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated. The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist. And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings. (more…)

 

Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists.

All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated.

The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist.

And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings.

What Happens When We Assign The Narcissist As Our God?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The narcissist seems all powerful. He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad. And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist. You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation. So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them? Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

The narcissist seems all powerful.

He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad.

And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist.

You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation.

So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them?

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 1

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic …. Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist. Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically. This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it. (more…)

 

It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic ….

Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist.

Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically.

This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it.