Melanie Tonia Evans

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The Soul Contract With A Narcissist

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Most people don’t come out of narcissistic relationships unscathed … In fact these relationship are far from insignificant, they have a profound impact and they create huge life choices. I have decided to write this article because I feel the timing is right. Many of you have asked me to write about soul contacts with narcissists, and I have held off until now. Also, I felt that it is a fitting tribute to the recently departed Wayne Dyer, in accordance with my favourite quote of his of all time. This one … “With everything that has happened to you you can either feel sorry for yourself, or ... read more →

Quanta Freedom Healing Live With Sandra From Switzerland

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Before I introduce this particular blog article and video, I apologise that there has been a delay. It is really unusual for me to not release a blog article and radio show weekly, and the reason why this has been delayed was due to breaking into some new ground technologically and having to iron out some issues. Well … all good now ... because here we are with a brand new format for this week’s topic. Today I have a really special video to share with you – taking place with myself in Australia and Sandra in Switzerland. Click here to go and ... read more →

The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Punishes You

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  I really want to put forth this question. When we are hooked up in narcissistic abuse (in our “normal” life of gauging things from the “outside in”) our real life experiences tell us that this person, the narcissist, is brutalising us like our worst enemy – relentlessly and manically. As if this person is taking incredible pleasure doing so … and for whatever reason he or she won’t let up. We also have the compounding horror that we seem to be trapped in this! Why can’t we walk away? We can’t we leave? And even if we have physically we can’t seem ... read more →

Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Coming Home To Our Bodies

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This week I put up a post on Facebook wanting to know what you would like me to write about. There were some wonderful suggestions – thank you so much and I will be using these for future articles! One that stuck out was this request … “How to start really connecting with our bodies. The relationship between our bodies, our higher self, and our egos. Connecting with our bodies and going in through our bodies really is key. What does all of this mean?” I have been recently talking a lot about how “getting in our bodies” is key … and now ... read more →

Recovering From A Marriage With A Narcissistic Rager [Thriver Story #27 Val]

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
I'm very excited to bring you this Thriver Story about a woman named Val. Many narcissistic relationships include episodes of rage. However, some narcissists are notorious for these episodes and constant mood swings. If you have been a relationship with a narcissistic rager you will relate to: Feeling like you can't do anything right because the slightest perceived error will result in a barrage of rage. Living in constant fear of what they might do - especially after breaking away from the relationship. Feeling like it's all your fault and being blamed for the rage episodes. Another extremely painful thing that Val went through was bringing up ... read more →

Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse – The 5 Illusions Of Victimhood

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This article is a follow on from last week’s article Raising Consciousness – The Difference Between Victimisation and Thriving. After last week’s article I was overwhelmed with positive feedback. Many people emailed me and messaged me on Facebook stating “I am so proud of you for doing this!” … and I really didn’t expect or need accolades, that’s not why I am doing this mission – yet what did thrill me was knowing that people are shifting. More and more people are transcending from mere survival to true Thriving in this community every day. What was also wonderful was people, who were ... read more →

Raising Consciousness After Narcissistic Abuse – The Difference Between Victimisation and Thriving

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  For those of you on my Facebook Group you will have seen that I have been sharing a 10-part series. The article and radio show this week is about a “mission” … it really is. It’s about truly defining what I am most passionate about and what this calling to help change lives is really about. A little over a week ago I had an awakening within me that was so powerful there was no ignoring it – and nor the “information” that was inspired within me. In know whenever this happens that there is something so much greater than myself pulling the ... read more →

Healing Childhood Trauma And Avoidance Disorders [Thriver Story #26 Clarie]

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    This radio show is Clarie’s Thriver Story. An incredible one that I know many people will relate to. As a result of Clarie’s traumatic childhood she had developed avoidance and dissociation disorders. She had very little memory of her childhood, and had through she had dealt with it, and that she was “okay”. Clarie ended up in a relationship in her 50s with a narcissist, which cracked that illusion wide open. The journey of this radio show is about her N-experience and then how Clarie realised she was sick, and that life could no longer carry on as normal. Clarie tried through intense therapy to ... read more →

How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 2

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
There really is no wonder that divorcing a narcissist takes the level of trauma of divorce to an unprecedented level – when we consider things such as: the cruel discards and replacing with new partners, new partners attacking you as well as the narcissist, battling over custody and property and the financial losses that generally happen as a result of the relationship, and whilst dealing with legal systems and narcissists in general. I want to discuss each of these points one at a time.   Being Heartlessly Replaced I know for many people this has been excruciatingly painful. My heart goes out to everyone who has experienced this, is experiencing this, or whoever will. It is part of our human ... read more →

How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 1

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This first article is Part One of a two part series I think we would all agree that divorce is one of the most excruciating things anyone can go through. Psychologists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967 created a list of the top 43 most stressful life events. Divorce rated the second most stressful, only capped by death of a spouse. That describes a normal divorce. But what about divorcing a narcissist? THAT takes the stress to a whole new level. I’ve been through it, and many people in this community have been, presently are, or will need to do so in the future. Maybe you ... read more →