Melanie Tonia Evans

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Narcissistic Abuse – You’re Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  One of the most frustrating things about being narcissistically abused is that you are often told how bad, insensitive, selfish, uncaring and incompetent you are. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to do the right thing, the narcissist still finds fault with you. If the narcissist in your life is / was a love partner – the relationship didn’t start that way. In stark contrast you thought you could do no wrong with this person – in fact you couldn’t imagine them ever getting annoyed about anything. Generally … that’s how narcissistic relationships kick off – as glorious and delightful. If the narcissist in your ... read more →

How You Can Get Involved In Spreading The Word

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Today we have quite a different show but I’m really excited about it! One of the reasons is because this is the first ever radio show I have done with my son Zac. Many of you know about Zac and that he works with me on this mission, and you may have even had dealings with Zac before behind the scenes, and it’s really lovely that the community will get to meet him today. And the other reason I’m very excited about this show is because of this … Over the last few years the New Life community has grown to over 30,000 ... read more →

Happy Mother’s Day

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    This Sunday it’s Mother’s Day in many countries including Australia and the USA. It’s a bit of a shame that we don’t all celebrate globally at the same time of year; our UK friends, and some parts of Europe and Asia celebrate Mother’s Day at other times. As a Mother, I love Mother’s Day … it is a very special get together time with my mother, family and son, and I deeply acknowledge it can be a painful time for many people in this Community, due to child alienation, loss of a child or inability to give birth to your own, or ... read more →

What Can We Do With Narcissists?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    I loved sharing with you last week’s article about Narcissists and Epigenetics. And the reason is: because I am very excited about our possibilities for a new world. I am excited about what can be done, and how we can do it differently to what has proven to not work in our past. I placed a post on Facebook yesterday from talkamen.com  – that I screamed “Yes” to when I saw it. This is the post: Everyone wants to change the world but few are willing to change themselves. I know how relevant this is to what we have all been playing out with each ... read more →

What Is Epigenetics? And What Does It Have To Do With Narcissistic Abuse?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    A couple of weeks ago, I had the most wonderful evening … I went to see Bruce Lipton live. Bruce Lipton is an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit. He is a stem cell biologist, bestselling author of The Biology of Belief and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award. I love his work, as well as Joe Dispenza’s, as my healing model correlates strongly with both of their work. Today in my article I want to talk about “Epigenetics.” You may have never heard the word before … There are many longer version meanings of the word – but to simplify Bruce Lipton's ... read more →

What I Wish I Had Known Before I Met The Narcissist

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This is article about so much more than recognising red flags. It is also about more than intuition and choices. My greatest hope, in regard to this article, is that you no longer feel like you can or will be taken in by a narcissist for this reason: because a narcissist can dupe anyone. I hope that by reading this article you will be so much clearer on how that is just NOT true. This article is not about blaming or shaming you, if you have been taken in by a narcissist, and it is not about questioning your intelligence. Rather, it is about ... read more →

Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #23 Angela

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
      Angela was married for 22 years to a narcissist. She had decided that this was her lot in life, and that she was going to endure her marriage for many reasons including for her children. The marriage, however, did break down and Angela was shocked, sickened and traumatised by how she became the enemy, and was cruelly smeared and attacked by her ex-husband. Everything in Angela's life was under siege, including her children, and the high conflict divorce over a period of two years led to Angela losing her business and having to declare herself bankrupt. Now, today ... in such a short space ... read more →

Your Renewal This Easter

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Easter is upon us again … How fast is this year going? … Goodness! Because Easter is nearly upon us, I wanted to write about “renewal”. Easter time is a time of re-grouping for me; it feels like a reflective break to plan and reassess. Easter is traditionally a time of re-birth, re-centring and creating ourselves anew. It is such divine synchronicity that I am writing more frequent Energy Reports of late on my Facebook page that are all about “renewal”. My posts are about the incredible opportunities that we have to evolve – to break out of the shackles of our old illusions – in ... read more →

Does Over Valuing Our Children Create Narcissists?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This topic was going viral through the internet not long ago … with articles such as these: Do parents nurture narcissists by pouring on the praise? and Don't want to raise a narcissist, stop telling your children they're special. And I really think it's important to have a discussion about it. Why? Because it disturbs me. I think this topic, “the danger of praising children”, is laden with misunderstandings, and if taken literally could cause more narcissism than prevent it. I urge you to read this important article, as I believe this topic could have dramatic effects on our future generations if we don’t understand what is ... read more →

Beyond Past Lives With Best Selling Author Mira Kelley

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  I am so thrilled to be sharing this interview with Mira Kelley, the author of the Hay House published book Beyond Past Lives – what parallel realities can teach us about relationships, healing and transformation. Those of you who know my work, and have experienced my healing system Quanta Freedom Healing, know I am a big advocate of past life work as a way of creating healing that just can’t be accessed from a surface contemporary level. In this interview Mira talks about the initial experience which led her to her first past life experience, and how some years later that “key” ... read more →