Melanie Tonia Evans

Breaking The Disconnection From Love, Intimacy And Connection With Jeanine Staples

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy. It's about melting the iciness within our souls. Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world. Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on. I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher. if you haven't heard any of her talks before I recommend you don't miss this one! (more…)

 

This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy.

It’s about melting the iciness within our souls.

Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world.

Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on.

I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher.

if you haven’t heard any of her talks before I recommend you don’t miss this one!

Shifts Happen – When We Can’t Say “No”

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic … The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”. As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life. And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of. It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through! If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need. (more…)

 

This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic …

The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”.

As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life.

And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of.

It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through!

If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need.

The Difference Between Judgement and Discernment

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to. The following are common confusions ... When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with? When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something? How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place? (more…)

 

As we grow and become more involved in our own personal-development, we may battle with understanding how to deal with those things we feel passionately opposed to.

The following are common confusions …

When is negative emotions ours to deal with and not ours to deal with?

When it is okay to know our own minds and rights and be in opposition to something?

How can we be effective in our missions and causes to make our own life and the world a better place?

Shifts Happen – How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Don’t Push People Away

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life. A tendency to overdo boundaries … Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others. This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others. (more…)

 

This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life.

A tendency to overdo boundaries

Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others.

This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists. All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated. The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist. And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings. (more…)

 

Last week in How To Survive a Breakup With a Narcissist – Part 1, we delved deeply into the emotions that we can all struggle with when breaking up with narcissists.

All of those parts of ourselves which are now highly triggered and activated.

The unconscious parts that deeply need our love … are even more so in panic when we breakup with narcissists, and it is very usual for us to feel hooked and dependent on the narcissist.

And that’s disastrous – because this is someone who is not going to assist our panic and insecure feelings.

What Happens When We Assign The Narcissist As Our God?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The narcissist seems all powerful. He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad. And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist. You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation. So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them? Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. (more…)

 

The narcissist seems all powerful.

He or she dictates whether you feel good, bad, happy or sad.

And, no matter how badly the narcissist treats you, your spirit may feel like it is literally dying without the narcissist.

You know deep down that going back to them will only led to more trauma, terror, panic and feelings of soul devastation.

So how can you break the bondage of assigning the narcissist as your God and let go of the agonizing thoughts that make you feel like you will be lifeless without them?

Find out in this week’s Thriver Tv episode.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 1

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic …. Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist. Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically. This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it. (more…)

 

It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic ….

Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist.

Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically.

This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it.

How Do We Decide To Heal?

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It can be a huge thing to "decide" to commit to our own healing. We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated. Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long. But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing? I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode. (more…)

 

It can be a huge thing to “decide” to commit to our own healing.

We may feel like if we let go of the battles we are enmeshed in that we will be annihilated.

Or maybe we think it is too late for us to heal, there are too many wounds, we are too old … or it will take too long.

But are there deeper reasons WHY we are struggling to commit to healing?

I believe there are, and I share these with you in this week’s episode.

Shifts Happen – Overcoming Ego Blocks

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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable. When we are constantly getting "the voices in our head" and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves. They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it. This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it. I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem. If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it! (more…)

 

Our ego blocks can be incredibly formidable.

When we are constantly getting “the voices in our head” and the feelings that derail us from working on ourselves.

They can confuse our healing process, and even prevent it.

This was Mette’s plight, and she had been trying everything she could to get past it.

I was only too happy to help her with this issue, because I knew it would not only provide a breakthrough for her, it would also unlock the solution for so many others suffering from the same problem.

If you have been struggling with ego blocks that have been preventing your healing, then this Shifts Happen episode is a really important one to watch and participate it!

The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article. "Forgiveness" is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term. It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic. The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted. And there are many people who may have believed they have "forgiven" – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being. I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life … (more…)

 

A lovely friend of mine Sylvia inspired me, in her reply on one of my Facebook posts, to write this article.

“Forgiveness” is such a hot topic … and within the self-help, psychological and healing industries it is a widely acknowledged term.

It’s also a very confusing and misunderstood topic.

The deeper implications of forgiveness and the personal freedom it achieves and why it achieves it, are not necessarily examined, talked about or accepted.

And there are many people who may have believed they have “forgiven” – who have done it conceptually, yet have not experienced a true shift in their heart and being.

I know what this was like – before my profound personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery, where I had to actualise True Forgiveness to save my life …