Melanie Tonia Evans

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Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #22 Yvette

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
    This Thriver Story is about Yvette, a woman who suffered narcissistic abuse in a same sex relationship. I was thrilled when Yvette came forward, deeply wanting to share her story for the gay and lesbian community … because over the years people have emailed and said to me “My narcissistic abuse situation is – I’m in a same-sex relationship, can you please write about that Melanie?”, whereas truly from what I have seen up close and personal with the numerous clients I have done energetic healing work with,  is that same-sex narcissistic dynamics are identical to heterosexual ones. My great friend Eric Casaccio the ... read more →

Narcissistic Abuse – A Journey To Self Love

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Continuing on from the topic of last week – self-love. Self-love means you have the ability to have a deep, abiding relationship with yourself that is unconditional. Your love for yourself flourishes, allowing you to evolve into the happiest, healthiest and most empowered version of yourself. You have the self-respect to say "No" to those who are unhealthy, and you have the energy to love and support those who deserve your kindness. Self-love feels like finally coming home to yourself. So in today’s article I am really excited to share why we had a lack of self-love, and how narcissistic abuse was the wakeup call for us ... read more →

Law Of Attraction In Action – Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
After Tami’s interview about her Thriver recovery, and her journey with NARP and Law of Attraction, I received so much positive feedback! Everyone loved it! So much so that I started receiving suggestions to do another show. People wanted to learn exactly how to apply Law of Attraction to manifest their goals – whether it be a dream job, the right lifestyle, good health, money etc. This sounded like a fantastic idea, but just to make sure I put it out to the Facebook Community to see what people thought. And I started receiving even more suggestions… Here are some of them: “With the way I sabotage ... read more →

Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse #21 Plus Law Of Attraction With Tami

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
I am so happy to be presenting this show to you … Tami is a glowing Thriver in this community who has manifested her dream life with Law of Attraction. After last week’s Law of Attraction article she came forth telling me she would love to share her story and her knowledge with the community. I know Tami well, and I just knew her story and wisdom would be very insightful for the community, plus I love the opportunity to have a conversation about this stuff – so I said yes! What is so incredible about this show is Tami’s previous life bears no ... read more →

Why Thinking Positive All The Time Is Not The Answer

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
This article, is one that I have been thinking of doing for some time … You see there is a big quandary out there about Law of Attraction. Many people remember the movie “The Secret”, a big production which brought Law of Attraction information to the world. Many people ran with it, and were excited by it. It worked for some people, and for other people it didn’t. Many people sharing Law Of Attraction principles benefited hugely from the movie The Secret – it made what was often thought of as “new age fluff” so much more “real” and “mainstream”. Abraham / Hicks ... read more →

What Constitutes A Healthy Relationship?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  It’s good to be back! I had a lovely break over the holiday period full of excitement and inspiration. I spent quite a bit of time getting out into life and meeting new people. I also spent time relaxing, rejuvenating and working on how I need to expand to meet my goals in 2015. Many of us are now ready to love with an open heart, to come together to share expansive and interdependent relationships, without the neediness, fear and other behaviours that attracted narcissists into our lives in the past. On the topic of love - last week I posted on Facebook, inviting people to ... read more →

Merry Christmas From The MTE Team

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Once again I want to thank you for being a part of this community! I can't tell you how much this mission brings me so much joy each and every day. I love doing with I do – it truly is my DREAM job. None of this would be possible without your support or the support of my team. I am so blessed that I get to share this journey of evolution and raising consciousness with so many people, including my son Zac who is an integral part of MTE. I want you to know that the entire MTE team sincerely appreciates you ... read more →

Setting Goals and Aligning With What You Want Next Year

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Can you believe it is Christmas again. Where did this year go? One thing for certain is this year was big for many, many people. So many people are experiencing great change – and how I see this is: we are all being challenged to let go of the things and people that no longer serve us in order to become a much more authentic self. Christmas time can be very challenging; it brings up a lot of stuff for us. Often we assess the year we have been through and how far we have come. Christmas is a major event, and during ... read more →

2014 Co-dependency Checkup Part 2

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Well here we are onto Part Two of last week’s article , and I think it is really good timing. Christmas is very close, and this time of year can bring up for many people big stuff. It’s a time when young wounds can be triggered and we may fall back into co-dependent traps. I am constantly inspired by this Community, with so many people becoming authentic and realising that to varying degrees we all carry wounds and fears that have separated us from our true wholeness. I hope, as a result of reading Part One, that you now have compassion ... read more →

2014 Co-dependency Check Up

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
Some of you might remember that last year I created an article called Co-Dependency Checklist – How Far Have You Come? Because it is nearly the end of the year, I thought it would be great to reflect – to see where we are, and what progress we have made throughout the year. As sufferers of narcissistic abuse we have all played out co-dependency ... I used to be horrifically co-dependent! Co-dependency can be very serious. It leads us further away from integration of self (authentic powerfulness) and takes us down a slippery slope of disintegration of self (powerlessness) – especially if we continue ... read more →