Melanie Tonia Evans

Can A Narcissist Be Cured?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It is such a gut wrenching experience to finally accept that someone you put your total love and faith into (in the case of a love partner) or had a unique and special bond with (in the case of a family member, friend or co-worker) is a narcissist. And it’s no wonder I get questions like this all the time … "Why do some people have the capacity to change while others don’t?" "Why as a society are we turning our back on narcissists?” "Isn't there a possibility if I love them enough, or work hard enough on our relationship that I can help them change?" (more…)

 

It is such a gut wrenching experience to finally accept that someone you put your total love and faith into (in the case of a love partner) or had a unique and special bond with (in the case of a family member, friend or co-worker) is a narcissist.

And it’s no wonder I get questions like this all the time …

“Why do some people have the capacity to change while others don’t?”

“Why as a society are we turning our back on narcissists?”

“Isn’t there a possibility if I love them enough, or work hard enough on our relationship that I can help them change?”

How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  What an interesting discussion we had last week regarding Part 1! If you haven't read the first installment of this two-part series please go and read it first. I think it's very important that we don’t get sidetracked by some of the comments differing from what the message really was all about … (even though ... thank you ... I did greatly appreciate everyone's amazing emotional intelligent, love and support!) Understanding how to get out of the loop of repeat painful thoughts that cripple our ability to regain control and start taking positive actions in our life. Last week we learned that the story originates from the beliefs we have about ourselves and all of life – our Inner Identity. (more…)

 

What an interesting discussion we had last week regarding Part 1!

If you haven’t read the first installment of this two-part series please go and read it first.

I think it’s very important that we don’t get sidetracked by some of the comments differing from what the message really was all about … (even though … thank you … I did greatly appreciate everyone’s amazing emotional intelligent, love and support!)

Understanding how to get out of the loop of repeat painful thoughts that cripple our ability to regain control and start taking positive actions in our life.

Last week we learned that the story originates from the beliefs we have about ourselves and all of life – our Inner Identity.

Learning To Trust After Sexual Abuse With Rachel Grant

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This very special interview, with my dear friend Rachel Grant, is one that I am so pleased to share. It is about a topic that is often hidden in shame and pain, and is one that personally and collectively deeply requires to be held in love and with deep compassion for its wounds to be healed. Sexual abuse is such a common thread in the Thriver Community – it is one of the greatest traumas that many people have suffered before entering into adult narcissistic abuse relationships. Statistics tell us that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused, usually be someone known to them. That is only the statistic of reported cases, and we can imagine that there are in fact many more cases that go unreported. (more…)

 

This very special interview, with my dear friend Rachel Grant, is one that I am so pleased to share.

It is about a topic that is often hidden in shame and pain, and is one that personally and collectively deeply requires to be held in love and with deep compassion for its wounds to be healed.

Sexual abuse is such a common thread in the Thriver Community – it is one of the greatest traumas that many people have suffered before entering into adult narcissistic abuse relationships.

Statistics tell us that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused, usually be someone known to them. That is only the statistic of reported cases, and we can imagine that there are in fact many more cases that go unreported.

How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This article is very important for new members of this Community who are only beginning their recovery journey … as well as veterans to recovery, who are struggling and feel stuck. I’m going to start this article a little differently …  from the end game. So that you know this story does have a happy ending and so that you have something to aim for and a solution to believe in. Myself and many other people in this Community no longer have any daily thoughts whatsoever about the narcissist or what happened to us. Yes, the odd thing may still bring up a trigger, which as Thriving NARPers we are dedicated to finding, releasing and up-levelling as soon as this happens … (more…)

 

This article is very important for new members of this Community who are only beginning their recovery journey … as well as veterans to recovery, who are struggling and feel stuck.

I’m going to start this article a little differently …  from the end game.

So that you know this story does have a happy ending and so that you have something to aim for and a solution to believe in.

Myself and many other people in this Community no longer have any daily thoughts whatsoever about the narcissist or what happened to us.

Yes, the odd thing may still bring up a trigger, which as Thriving NARPers we are dedicated to finding, releasing and up-levelling as soon as this happens …

Shifts Happen – Freeing Yourself From Chronic Pain And Disease

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I am so happy to be back tapping into the MTE channels bringing you weekly inspiration and healing for 2017. I hope that you have had a positive start to the New Year. I want us all to know and start connecting to the cellular knowing that we are in truly exciting times. Revolutionary times of being able to say “no” to the aspects of life that we may have been living, and “yes” to a whole new way of being able to transcend into up-levelled emotions and experiences. This year and this month is all about “change”. (more…)

 

I am so happy to be back tapping into the MTE channels bringing you weekly inspiration and healing for 2017.

I hope that you have had a positive start to the New Year.

I want us all to know and start connecting to the cellular knowing that we are in truly exciting times.

Revolutionary times of being able to say “no” to the aspects of life that we may have been living, and “yes” to a whole new way of being able to transcend into up-levelled emotions and experiences.

This year and this month is all about “change”.

What I Learned About Narcissists And Christmas And A Big Thank You From The MTE Team

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out. I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would. (more…)

 

Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out.

I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would.

Should You Tell A Narcissist Who They Really Are?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do. And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense. All the pieces add up.  And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life. All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore. And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are. (more…)

 

It can be a very emotional experience when we find the information that allows us to understand why this person behaves the way they do.

And even though the information is shocking it makes so much sense.

All the pieces add up.

 And we realise we are not going crazy … and it’s NO wonder we feel like we are going through (possibly) the worst experience of our life.

All those times we were blamed and told we were the crazy one now doesn’t seem to hold quite as much weight anymore.

And at this time it is very likely to feel an intense urge to tell the narcissist who they really are.

Evolutionary Trends For 2017 And Why It’s Time!

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone. Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas? Each year is slipping away faster and faster. This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article. Time. The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community. (more…)

 

What a year 2016 has been and I don’t think any of us can believe how fast it has gone.

Doesn’t it just feel like a few short months ago it was last year’s Christmas?

Each year is slipping away faster and faster.

This brings me to the first of two points that I would love to investigate with you in this article.

Time.

The other topic I wish to discuss with you is a theme that I have seen come up over and over again – with women I know, women in personal healings and also consistently throughout the Community.

Breaking The Disconnection From Love, Intimacy And Connection With Jeanine Staples

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy. It's about melting the iciness within our souls. Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world. Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on. I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher. if you haven't heard any of her talks before I recommend you don't miss this one! (more…)

 

This week I had the pleasure to record an interview for you with my dear friend Jeanine Staples, which is all about how to smooth out the barriers, blocks, and resistances we build against social and emotional intimacy.

It’s about melting the iciness within our souls.

Jeanine is a Thriver extraordinaire because she has come back from the brink of not one but two narcissistic relationships to become a force of light in the world.

Now today Jeanine is EXTREMELY passionate about helping people take radical responsibility and empower themselves from the inside out – which is exactly the fundaments that this incredible Community is built on.

I have the utmost pleasure of sharing this interview with Jeanine because she is a truly amazing soul and such a gifted teacher.

if you haven’t heard any of her talks before I recommend you don’t miss this one!

Shifts Happen – When We Can’t Say “No”

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic … The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”. As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life. And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of. It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through! If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need. (more…)

 

This Shifts Happen episode with Elizavetta is on a very important topic …

The trauma that happens in our Life when we can’t say “No”.

As a NARP Member, Elizavetta was stuck on trying to shift out the deep inner reasons why this was playing out in her Life.

And, in this session I share an advanced technique that will help people working with Quanta Freedom Healing dislodge and shift big stuck survival programs that we can’t seem to let go of.

It was such a joy to see Elizavetta break through!

If you know you struggle with saying “No” … watching and participating with this episode may be just what you need.