Melanie Tonia Evans

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The Malignant Female – Understanding Female Narcissism

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This is an article I have wanted to do for some time. It’s one many males have asked for – and I also think it will be an interesting subject for women as well. Over the years there have on occasion been men who have accused me of focusing on recovery for women only. The truth is guys – I have NOT been leaving you out, because everything I produce in this Community is for ANYONE who has been abused. And … even though I have thought about doing this article for a while, there is a reason why it hasn’t been a major ... read more →

Why Breaking No Contact Doesn’t Mean You Are Back To Square One

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Breaking No Contact after days, weeks or even months of battling the urge to …. can feel so self-defeating. It feels like everything we went through was to no avail. It feels like we have to start all over again – because we are back to square one. But are we REALLY? In this week’s Thriver Tv episode, you will learn how this is in fact the exact opposite … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwqXPs4KRJY&feature=youtu.be&w=360&h=240&rel=0&frameborder=0 I know this topic can be especially painful if you are still dealing with the addictive pulls to make contact with the narcissist. If there’s anything you would like to ask, please join in the conversation with ... read more →

How To Stop Trying To Help The Narcissist Whilst Destroying Yourself In The Process

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  So many people with wonderful hearts who radiate empathy and compassion, have tried to help narcissists. But it doesn’t work. In fact, it leaves them broken, empty and even lifeless. Why? And how can we heal from this? Learn exactly why, as well as how to heal from this tendency, in this week’s Thriver Tv episode. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QEkn1tOAOAU&w=360&h=240&rel=0&frameborder=0 Thank you so much for everyone that contributed to last week’s video by sharing your questions and comments. I just adore being able to interact with the Thriver community in this way! Please continue to share your thoughts with myself and the Thriver Community by commenting on the blog, I respond ... read more →

Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 2

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Last week, in Part One, we explored the reasons why we fell for a narcissist and why it can be very difficult to leave and stay away. And why, in this Community, we DO struggle to end it and break free, whereas other people just don’t … even if they were initially hoodwinked by a narcissist. This week, in Part Two, I want to take a deep dive into the understanding of specifically why we were highly susceptible to narcissists, and may have felt (or still feel) it’s almost impossible to leave. Because it is my fullest intention – if this is your ... read more →

Cognitive Dissonance – How Our Mind Tricks Us Into Staying

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Cognitive Dissonance is a very important topic because it is something everyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse encounters. It is a normal human brain function that operates to protect us, but when we are trying to create a life free of abuse and stop getting hurt, and leave and hold No Contact ... It has the opposite effect. Even if you've learnt extensively about Cognitive Dissonance, this video will help shed light on WHY this phenomenon is really happening, how it makes it so difficult to leave and what you can do to free yourself from it.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrPqZI9YLZM&w=360&h=240&rel=0&frameborder=0 The MTE team are doing something a little different with ... read more →

Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 1

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  It’s a great question – and one that if we could answer truthfully could help inoculate ourselves against another narcissist, as well as provide the remedy for others so that they never have to experience one. There are two trains of thought in regard to the answer of this. The most obvious answer in standard abuse communities is … because a narcissist is a consummate actor who is a con-man or con-woman. And the second, which is the healing premise of the Thriver Community, is … because I had unfinished business. There are some emotional gaps within me that the narcissist was able ... read more →

Accelerate Your Evolution Into True Self And New NARP Upgrades!

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  I am so excited … Because this is one of those rare times that I get to talk about the very core of the healing work I do, and the number one reason why people within this Community experience unprecedented rapid Thriver healing breakthroughs which defy standard abuse recovery. What I am talking about today is this: Exciting upgrades to the Quanta Freedom Healing process, and specifically the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP). And it lights me up like nothing else when I get the opportunity to bring to people even more powerful ways to heal from Narcissistic Abuse than I could previously offer. The existing ... read more →

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 3

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  A few days ago I launched a very special series called The Once Broken and Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life. Within this series we are tackling, in my humble opinion, the most vital 5 Core Human Beliefs that plague mankind. These beliefs are fundamental, and working with them is not glib! Because they ARE the difference between separation and unity and fear and love. These Beliefs are devastating. They keep us out in the cold, fearing that we are defective, unlovable and that life doesn’t support us ... and ... They keep us separated from our Highest and Truest Self. In order to ... read more →

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 2

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  There is a very sad truth about the human race. It's this .... Despite all the beauty, abundance, love, joy and connection that is there for us to experience, there is something very sinister lurking beneath the surface. Something that we can't see, yet which impacts EVERY area of our life. And it is so deeply lodged within our being and our psyche that it plagues every single human being and humanity as a collective. What am I talking about? The Core Beliefs which keep us separated from our True Life-force; making us afraid, unhappy, unsatisfied, and stuck in painful life situations. These beliefs are so powerful, they have a force of their own. Convincing us of ... read more →

The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life – Part 1

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
I LOVE granting you information that I KNOW can help you beyond measure … This is one of those exciting times … which can take the Thriver Model to an even greater level of radiance and effectiveness. Helping you to anchor into and live fundamental Thriver Emotional Truths … the ESSENTIAL commodities that can and do make every area of your Life work. The incredible benefits of Thriving after narcissistic abuse are this … More inner peace, a deeper more abiding love and acceptance of yourself, better relationships with other people … … and the expanding confidence to express your Truest Self and create your Highest aspirations, purpose ... read more →