Melanie Tonia Evans

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Ascension, Setting Powerful Intentions For 2016 And My Little Bombshell

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  It is so wonderful to be back for 2016. I have found that so many people are reporting an upsurge of positive energy for 2106. This has been my experience as well … so many things seem to be lining up and falling into place – things that have been dreamed of for quite some time. I know this is very consistent for the people in this Community who are doing the inner work. Meaning releasing their trauma, freeing themselves to allow in the organic wellbeing that Life truly flows though us when we live free enough of our wounds – in ... read more →

How To Deal With Narcissists At Christmas And The Year 2015 In Review

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Christmas can be a challenge at the best of times … You have to run around and try and buy everyone a thoughtful gift. There’s busy roads and shopping malls. There’s family and work get togethers. But what about if there is a narcissist involved!?! It’s no secret that narcissists probably exert their most horrendous behaviour during the festival season. And if you aren’t prepared you could be in for a very painful holiday period. During my narcissistic relationships just about anything could happen at Christmas … It was truly terrifying. So I thought I’d put together a video for you, and share the things I’ve learnt over ... read more →

What Is Self-Partnering?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  Recently I was asked via ThriverTv comments to explain what self-partnering is. It is a term I use a lot, as the foundation of healing from narcissistic abuse. It would seem that this term is self-explanatory – but is it really? And why would it be when we have not been living in a world that has explained, encouraged or taught self-partnering? In this article you will learn how not being self-partnered was the number one reason why we were narcissistically abuse, as well as why it is impossible to heal from narcissistic abuse if we don’t come home to “meeting ourselves”. You will ... read more →

Quantum Realities And Healing From Narcissistic Abuse – Part 2

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  In Part One we discussed some of the templates for Quantum Realities … the theories that at the Quantum Level “there is no outside”, and “we are powerful Creators as per the levels of consciousness we are connected to Life at.” These revolutionary models allow us to move out of the victim perspective of “Life is happening to me”, into the Quantum Creator Level of “Life in my experience is unfolding through me.” The Quantum Model of radical personal responsibility shifts us into the driver’s seat in life, and what I am sharing with you today goes into greater detail about that. During ... read more →

Quantum Realities And Healing From Narcissistic Abuse – Part 1

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This is my two-part article about Quantum Truths and the holographic nature of things. I have been talking a lot lately on YouTube about these topics and people have been asking for a deeper conversation about them. I think this is a really good thing because I believe the world is awakening to the understanding that ”there is more going on than meets the eye”. People are even starting to wonder whether there is “an unseen world”, or some sort of “consciousness” affecting everything. You may or may not be one of these people. Once upon a time I wasn’t – but for some ... read more →

A Miracle Story About How Premi Gained Full Custody Of Her Children – Thriver Story #29

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans   Today’s Thriver Show is about Prima, a lady who went through a highly abusive narcissistic marriage that had her eventually fleeing, fearful for her life. He had threatened that if she ever left him he would kill her. Now today Prima has not only recovered herself, her emotions and her life, but she was also recently awarded full legal custody of her two daughters. This occurred despite being initially terrified for her and her daughters that he would charm the courts and no-one would believe her. But one day something completely changed, and what unfolded was nothing short of a miracle. Click the play button ... read more →

Clarifying No Contact – The Common Pitfalls That Keep Us Hooked

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  No Contact is probably the biggest buzz word in narcissistic abuse recovery, and that’s really no surprise because it’s widely acknowledged that No Contact from a narcissist is vital in order to recover from one. Anyone that has experienced narcissistic abuse knows the feelings like black ink and ice running through your veins when enmeshed with a narcissist. If you don’t achieve No Contact it is like being continually poisoned whilst trying to detox from the poison that is making you so sick. It’s very, very difficult to get well when you are constantly tied up in the battle of trying to survive ... read more →

How We Become Better Parents As We Heal

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  The reason I really wanted to explore this topic in an article is because I am very passionate about our children and future generations. I so believe the shift in consciousness on our planet needs to start with us, as the caretakers of our children and their future children’s emotional evolution. So many parents try to fix and help their children deal with narcissistic abuse, but don’t realise that operating from a tormented, agonised emotional state truly makes matters worse. It grants the narcissist more bullets to shoot you with and incites them to use your children as weapons of war. Making ... read more →

What To Do When Your Family and Friends Don’t Support You

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  There are many things that are excruciatingly difficult when suffering from narcissistic abuse. One of them commonly being that people close to you seem to have no understanding of the soul rape that you are going through. Often, adding insult to injury, people close to you might believe that you are the person who is disturbed and not well, and even making stuff up … Because the accusations you make seem so far away from the “perfect” model person that the narcissist portrays to everyone else. It has been said before – and it is very true – that narcissists have the ability to ... read more →

Why Won’t The Narcissist Leave Me Alone?

Written by Melanie Tonia Evans
  This is a great question that I have wanted to address in a blog article for a while. It’s a question which is asked a lot. It’s also a question that’s very important to understand the answer to. Most people think that narcissists are relentless, and they won’t let up, and that there is no way to get rid of people who keep harassing, hoovering, wanting to rip your life to shreds and trying to suck you back in time and time again. And it can seem unreal that even after years, and even after moving on with new people, that narcissists will ... read more →