Melanie Tonia Evans

Why Narcissistic Abuse Hurts So Much

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The pain of narcissistic abuse is beyond description.  Unless you have been through it, you can’t even begin to imagine what it feels like. We find ourselves looking out into a life that we no longer recognise, having unspeakable inner trauma, with no idea whatsoever how we are going to stay vertical and breathing – let alone ‘deal’. Nothing seems to make sense and everywhere we look, and everything we try sets off even more surges of pain. Do we even know who WE are anymore? I know, initially I certainly didn’t … Why is the pain so horrific? Why does it feel like it may never end? (more…)

 

The pain of narcissistic abuse is beyond description.  Unless you have been through it, you can’t even begin to imagine what it feels like.

We find ourselves looking out into a life that we no longer recognise, having unspeakable inner trauma, with no idea whatsoever how we are going to stay vertical and breathing – let alone ‘deal’.

Nothing seems to make sense and everywhere we look, and everything we try sets off even more surges of pain.

Do we even know who WE are anymore? I know, initially I certainly didn’t …

Why is the pain so horrific? Why does it feel like it may never end?

7 Steps To Recovering From Narcissistic Financial Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I really do believe that narcissistic financial abuse is one of the most excruciating things to try to recover from. Truly, to add injury to insult, not only are we smashed emotionally and mentally by narcissists, it is also very usual that the losses financially are hefty. Narcissists are loose and unaccountable they love to sidle up to people who will mop up their messes for them. They are also parasitical and entitled. They believe what is yours is theirs and as soon as the ship in the relationship starts sinking, the narcissist is already thinking about all the cargo they can hoist into their lifeboat - leaving you destitute and sinking behind. Often in these types of toxic relationships, narcissistic financial abuse is happening even before the cracks appear. (more…)

 

I really do believe that narcissistic financial abuse is one of the most excruciating things to try to recover from.

Truly, to add injury to insult, not only are we smashed emotionally and mentally by narcissists, it is also very usual that the losses financially are hefty.

Narcissists are loose and unaccountable they love to sidle up to people who will mop up their messes for them. They are also parasitical and entitled. They believe what is yours is theirs and as soon as the ship in the relationship starts sinking, the narcissist is already thinking about all the cargo they can hoist into their lifeboat – leaving you destitute and sinking behind.

Often in these types of toxic relationships, narcissistic financial abuse is happening even before the cracks appear.

Will Narcissism Tear Our World Apart?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Even AFTER doing so much work to recover from narcissistic abuse – we may realise a chilling fact … Narcissism is ‘everywhere’. And worse than that – we GET that world leaders, organisations and systems are infiltrated with narcissistic agendas which threaten to topple us and our world. Is this a hopeless situation? Is there anything we can do to stop this? In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to explain exactly WHY our planet is in the grips of narcissism, what it REALLY means, and how we CAN turn this around. (more…)

 

Even AFTER doing so much work to recover from narcissistic abuse – we may realise a chilling fact …

Narcissism is ‘everywhere’.

And worse than that – we GET that world leaders, organisations and systems are infiltrated with narcissistic agendas which threaten to topple us and our world.

Is this a hopeless situation?

Is there anything we can do to stop this?

In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to explain exactly WHY our planet is in the grips of narcissism, what it REALLY means, and how we CAN turn this around.

The Ego Loves Pain And It Doesn’t Want You To Heal

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Do you feel like your victim thoughts and emotional pain are all-consuming at times? Can you come up with every reason NOT to do the inner work that you know you need to do? I believe this is the work of our EGO. Yet … is it true that our ego is an issue? Don’t we really need a personal identity, an EGO, that is functional? There are many different opinions and versions on this – but today I give you my version about ego – which is completely NOT watered down at all. (I’m not holding back.) The information I am about to share with you is exactly the same stuff (more…)

 

Do you feel like your victim thoughts and emotional pain are all-consuming at times?

Can you come up with every reason NOT to do the inner work that you know you need to do?

I believe this is the work of our EGO.

Yet … is it true that our ego is an issue?

Don’t we really need a personal identity, an EGO, that is functional?

There are many different opinions and versions on this – but today I give you my version about ego – which is completely NOT watered down at all. (I’m not holding back.)

The information I am about to share with you is exactly the same stuff

Peace After Narcissistic Abuse Is Possible (Even If You Can’t Go No Contact)

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Narcissistic abuse is one of the most deadly and disgusting real-life horror stories that anyone could go through. It triggers such feelings of powerlessness, rage, betrayal, devastation and shock that we wonder how we are going to stay vertical and breathing, let alone get through it. How on earth could you feel peace after what happened to you? I discovered how powerful the key component of PEACE is in narcissistic abuse recovery, how to embody it, become it, and how this not only rendered the narcissist powerless against me but also kicked my life off into a rebuild of abundance and wellness that surpassed my wildest and most sought after dreams. (more…)

 

Narcissistic abuse is one of the most deadly and disgusting real-life horror stories that anyone could go through.

It triggers such feelings of powerlessness, rage, betrayal, devastation and shock that we wonder how we are going to stay vertical and breathing, let alone get through it.

How on earth could you feel peace after what happened to you?

I discovered how powerful the key component of PEACE is in narcissistic abuse recovery, how to embody it, become it, and how this not only rendered the narcissist powerless against me but also kicked my life off into a rebuild of abundance and wellness that surpassed my wildest and most sought after dreams.

Narcissists And Sex

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Why is it that sex with a narcissist can be soooo unfulfilling? Why is it that after such sex you could feel completely empty, dissatisfied and used? In this Thriver TV episode I cover this off intimately … I also want to share with you exactly what HEALTHY soul communion sex really is, and why it is sooo different to disconnected NARCISSISTIC sex. Let’s get personal and truthful about all of this together. (more…)

 

Why is it that sex with a narcissist can be soooo unfulfilling?

Why is it that after such sex you could feel completely empty, dissatisfied and used?

In this Thriver TV episode I cover this off intimately …

I also want to share with you exactly what HEALTHY soul communion sex really is, and why it is sooo different to disconnected NARCISSISTIC sex.

Let’s get personal and truthful about all of this together.

2019 Is Your Year To Thrive

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It’s so good to be back – after enjoying time with family and loved ones, the beach and lots of great food and company! (All the things that make Thriving and holidays a joy!) I hope with all my heart that you had a lovely relaxing break as well and that you are excited about the possibilities for 2019. And please know, I understand that you may be still deeply in the throes of narcissistic abuse and trauma and have had a really hard time over the holiday break – which naturally could have brought up a great deal of pain for you. (more…)

 

It’s so good to be back – after enjoying time with family and loved ones, the beach and lots of great food and company!

(All the things that make Thriving and holidays a joy!)

I hope with all my heart that you had a lovely relaxing break as well and that you are excited about the possibilities for 2019.

And please know, I understand that you may be still deeply in the throes of narcissistic abuse and trauma and have had a really hard time over the holiday break – which naturally could have brought up a great deal of pain for you.

The Best Way To Stop Feeding The Narcissist Energy At Christmas

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  My heart goes out to all of you at Holiday Season who are dealing with narcissists. Because this is the time where they tend to act out BADLY … When narcissists can’t isolate, organise and regulate people to get narcissistic supply, they can suffer terrible narcissistic injuries that cause them to lash out. A narcissist's worst nightmare is others getting attention, and them being reminded of their own defectiveness.   (more…)

 

My heart goes out to all of you at Holiday Season who are dealing with narcissists.

Because this is the time where they tend to act out BADLY …

When narcissists can’t isolate, organise and regulate people to get narcissistic supply, they can suffer terrible narcissistic injuries that cause them to lash out.

A narcissist’s worst nightmare is others getting attention, and them being reminded of their own defectiveness.

 

How To Uplevel Every Area Of Your Life In 2019

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I can’t believe that we have nearly finished 2018! Where did this year go? When the holiday period comes, and we prepare for New Year many of us get to thinking about our life … with these sorts of questions. Did I achieve what I wanted to? What does my life look now? Am I happy with how my life is going? (more…)

 

I can’t believe that we have nearly finished 2018!

Where did this year go?

When the holiday period comes, and we prepare for New Year many of us get to thinking about our life … with these sorts of questions.

Did I achieve what I wanted to?

What does my life look now?

Am I happy with how my life is going?

How I Exposed The Narcissist’s Smear Campaigns

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Smear campaigns are some of the most horrible things that narcissists do. The extent of the means, methods and lengths that narcissists will go to, to lie about and turn people against you is chilling. I know that it's very likely that you – like me – know how devastating it is to have the people who used to support you to turn against you. And the more you try to expose the truth, the more people don’t believe you. (more…)

 

Smear campaigns are some of the most horrible things that narcissists do.

The extent of the means, methods and lengths that narcissists will go to, to lie about and turn people against you is chilling.

I know that it’s very likely that you – like me – know how devastating it is to have the people who used to support you to turn against you.

And the more you try to expose the truth, the more people don’t believe you.