Melanie Tonia Evans

What Happens When Narcissists Get Old?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  An elderly narcissist without narcissistic supply can be very difficult to be around. Maybe you are wondering if they will mellow with age or whether you are finally going to see Karma make amends for all the horrible things they have done to you. What is the fate of an ageing narcissist? Wanting to know this is normal and TOTALLY understandable! (more…)

 

An elderly narcissist without narcissistic supply can be very difficult to be around.

Maybe you are wondering if they will mellow with age or whether you are finally going to see Karma make amends for all the horrible things they have done to you.

What is the fate of an ageing narcissist?

Wanting to know this is normal and TOTALLY understandable!

How To Deal With Narcissistic Neighbours

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It is frighteningly COMMON how often people suffer narcissistic neighbours! I know this because many of you write in about it, and it has also happened to me! What happens when you are living next to a deranged person who is NEVER happy, constantly complaining and even doing TERRIBLE things to you and your property? How DO you stop these people ripping the sanctity of your home, hearth and health apart? (more…)

 

It is frighteningly COMMON how often people suffer narcissistic neighbours!

I know this because many of you write in about it, and it has also happened to me!

What happens when you are living next to a deranged person who is NEVER happy, constantly complaining and even doing TERRIBLE things to you and your property?

How DO you stop these people ripping the sanctity of your home, hearth and health apart?

How To Talk To A Narcissist Without Going Insane

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  How do you talk to a narcissist without going insane? The easy answer would be NOT to talk to them. But sometimes we can’t go No or Modified Contact. Maybe you work with this narcissist. Or perhaps they are a family member, who you need to see at functions. Or possibly you are still hooked in, trying to work through things and you are not quite ready to call it a day. I understand … this happens. So, with all of that in mind, I want to help you get very clear in this article – WHY talking to a narcissist can make you feel like you are going insane, and how to navigate things so that you don’t.  (more…)

 

How do you talk to a narcissist without going insane? The easy answer would be NOT to talk to them.

But sometimes we can’t go No or Modified Contact. Maybe you work with this narcissist. Or perhaps they are a family member, who you need to see at functions. Or possibly you are still hooked in, trying to work through things and you are not quite ready to call it a day.

I understand … this happens.

So, with all of that in mind, I want to help you get very clear in this article – WHY talking to a narcissist can make you feel like you are going insane, and how to navigate things so that you don’t. 

How To Connect To Your Higher Power

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I’ve no doubt that today is going to be a very spirited conversation. (Pardon the pun!) Because I want to talk to you about your Higher Power – and what I believe from the Quantum perspective that it is. Today’s Thriver TV is about how our connection with our Higher Power links into the relationships we have with ourselves, life and others – and how we can holistically integrate effectively and become at one with ALL of these parts. Many of you in this Community have asked me over the years, ‘How CAN I connect to my Higher Power?’, so it is with absolute joy that today I talk to you about a topic very dear to my heart. (more…)

 

I’ve no doubt that today is going to be a very spirited conversation. (Pardon the pun!)

Because I want to talk to you about your Higher Power – and what I believe from the Quantum perspective that it is.

Today’s Thriver TV is about how our connection with our Higher Power links into the relationships we have with ourselves, life and others – and how we can holistically integrate effectively and become at one with ALL of these parts.

Many of you in this Community have asked me over the years, ‘How CAN I connect to my Higher Power?’, so it is with absolute joy that today I talk to you about a topic very dear to my heart.

Narcissist Who? Becoming Apathetic To An Abuser

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It’s a beautiful day when you feel NOTHING for an abuser and it's called 'You are NOT my reality'. We all WANT to get there, and I know that includes YOU! You can be forgiven for believing, because of how traumatic, painful and devastating the abuse is, that it will be IMPOSSIBLE to get there. I once believed that too … but I promise you this is NOT true. (more…)

 

It’s a beautiful day when you feel NOTHING for an abuser and it’s called ‘You are NOT my reality’.

We all WANT to get there, and I know that includes YOU!

You can be forgiven for believing, because of how traumatic, painful and devastating the abuse is, that it will be IMPOSSIBLE to get there.

I once believed that too … but I promise you this is NOT true.

How To Shutdown A Narcissist Who Won’t Leave You Alone

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Narcissists can seem like terminators, who just won’t stop hurting you. So, how is it possible to shut down a narcissist who won’t leave you alone? Is it even possible? People report all the time, even years later, that the narcissist is still terrorising them, making their life hell and continuing to turn up, over and over again. Why is this? Haven’t these people got better things to do? (more…)

 

Narcissists can seem like terminators, who just won’t stop hurting you.

So, how is it possible to shut down a narcissist who won’t leave you alone?

Is it even possible?

People report all the time, even years later, that the narcissist is still terrorising them, making their life hell and continuing to turn up, over and over again.

Why is this? Haven’t these people got better things to do?

Big Announcement – I’m Coming To See You!

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I have some very exciting news for you today. I’m COMING to see you and I can’t wait! Zac and the MTE team are coming too. The reason we are is that during the tour for my book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse in London and Los Angeles, Zac and I had the immense joy and pleasure to connect with many beautiful people in events, workshops, and Thriver meetups. (more…)

 

I have some very exciting news for you today.

I’m COMING to see you and I can’t wait!

Zac and the MTE team are coming too.

The reason we are is that during the tour for my book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse in London and Los Angeles, Zac and I had the immense joy and pleasure to connect with many beautiful people in events, workshops, and Thriver meetups.

Smearing – How To Defeat A Narcissist Who Makes You Out To Be Crazy

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the most painful aspects of narcissistic abuse is SMEARING. Being discredited with any available information and even fabricated lies, is a horrible tactic that narcissists use to undermine your credibility and even to try to rip lives apart. It’s completely usual for this to happen to you. Often after your relationship ends with a narcissist – and even during it – and certainly when problems arise within the relationship. The feelings triggered within you may be so INTENSE that you may even feel like you are going to DIE. (more…)

 

One of the most painful aspects of narcissistic abuse is SMEARING.

Being discredited with any available information and even fabricated lies, is a horrible tactic that narcissists use to undermine your credibility and even to try to rip lives apart.

It’s completely usual for this to happen to you. Often after your relationship ends with a narcissist – and even during it – and certainly when problems arise within the relationship.

The feelings triggered within you may be so INTENSE that you may even feel like you are going to DIE.

How Narcissists React When You Leave

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Leaving a narcissist can be confusing, painful and terrifying.  Narcissists do not like being LEFT by someone - it is a BIG insult to their ego. So, what does that mean? It means that the narcissist will try to get BACK at you – HURT you, CONFUSE you, cause CHAOS for you and they do this in many ways. In this Thriver TV episode, I share with you the NASTY things I have seen narcissists do when people leave them so you can be prepared for any fallout. This is information that you REALLY need to know if you are going to leave or have just left! (more…)

 

Leaving a narcissist can be confusing, painful and terrifying.  Narcissists do not like being LEFT by someone – it is a BIG insult to their ego.

So, what does that mean? It means that the narcissist will try to get BACK at you – HURT you, CONFUSE you, cause CHAOS for you and they do this in many ways.

In this Thriver TV episode, I share with you the NASTY things I have seen narcissists do when people leave them so you can be prepared for any fallout.

This is information that you REALLY need to know if you are going to leave or have just left!

Why Is This Still Happening To Me? Overcoming Your Critical Recovery Blocks

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know you may be FRUSTRATED! Recovery can be like that. You may be thinking… WHY on earth do I still have narcissists coming into my life? WHY can’t I stop breaking No Contact? WHY do the same issues keep popping up in my life, no matter how hard I try to overcome them? (more…)

 

I know you may be FRUSTRATED! Recovery can be like that.

You may be thinking…

WHY on earth do I still have narcissists coming into my life?

WHY can’t I stop breaking No Contact?

WHY do the same issues keep popping up in my life, no matter how hard I try to overcome them?