Melanie Tonia Evans

Are You Sensitive to Other People’s Energy?

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Written By   Melanie Tonia Evans

Chances are if you opened this email you may be…And chances are if you are a ‘sensitive’ (which is most people that are interested in self-development and spirituality) you know that you ‘pick up’ on other’s people’s energy, and that if you’re not careful, it can affect you considerably.

It is a lovely trait to be aware of others, and compassionate and attentive to other people’s needs. However there is a fine line between being aware of your environment and being totally engulfed by your environment.

Unfortunately if you are a sensitive person who is highly attuned to the needs of others, it is likely that you are tuning in to ‘the outside’ rather than navigating your life from ‘the inside’. As a result you are being pulled out of your Source of Self, and losing your true creative power in other people’s energy.

I’ll give you an example of how this can happen…

When I think about how you receive me, I lose myself

Imagine if you were to do a presentation in front of a group of people. Imagine walking to the front of room, assessing the energy and feeling into the people in the room. Let’s say a few people in the room seem bored, like they would rather be anywhere else but at this presentation.

If you take on this energy, and make your presentation about this, you’ll start becoming anxious, and you will start spinning stories in your mind that will relate to anxieties (false belief systems) which you have created about yourself and life previous to this experience.

These may be:

  • People aren’t interested in what I have to say
  • People don’t take notice of me
  • I am not articulate enough for people to ‘get me’
  • People might persecute, ridicule and judge me
  • I’m not good enough to make this work

…and of course any host of beliefs which are draining your energy out, and making you fearful of being yourself.

Now the pressure is on…and you’re trying to address this pressure from a position of not being in your own personal power.

You have now become the energy of: I have to be what other people want me to be (compelling enough to overcome their boredom) if I am to have success and fulfilment in this situation.

In this state you are not being yourself. And when we are not being ourself, we are not flowing, not powerful and not at ease. We are coming from the belief of feeling limited and small, and we are coming from the belief “My authentic self may not be acceptable, so I have to transform ME into a version that is”.
Stop Reading Other People’s Energy

There is only one True Way to be yourself, and that is to get out of reading other people’s energy and realise a powerful Energetic Truth which is: In your Creation of Energy and Your Entire Experience there is only YOU!

There is only one place to focus on and that is: Being Your Authentic Self.

Other people in your experience are always responding to Your Energy without exception.

In the above example your energy is fearful and reacting to the perceived disinterest of your audience.

Now imagine if you never went there into the analysis of other’s people energy in this situation. Imagine if you were full and content in your own energy, and in the joy of being your Authentic Self and in the passion of your delivery.

Imagine if you were being the True You and had no focus whatsoever on the possibility of anyone judging you, scrutinising you or assessing you….

(In energetic truth THEY AREN’T, and they only will if YOU are doing this to YOURSELF….)

What do you think the response would be from this energetic space? Can you feel that no matter how bored someone was when they entered the room, that your Pure and True Energy would captivate them? Can you know that your passion, conviction and genuine delivery would attract more of that…

You’re totally right it would!

Not only is being your Authentic Self advantageous in such a setting, it is powerfully beneficial in every area of your life!

Too many people believe that if they disconnect from people’s energy, and stop reading it, that they will become uncaring and uncompassionate…

I promise you this is baloney!

When you become self-aware of your own energy, you become less co-dependent (which is never healthy for anyone) less interfering, and you understand the golden rule of assisting others, which is:

Offer if you feel the need, but don’t step in and take responsibility for others who are not taking responsibility for themselves.

Additionally, stop trying to sort out people’s moods so that you can feel better about yourself.

Additionally, realise that if people have an issue with you, it is their responsibility to express that and speak up.

Until they do, there is ABSOLUTELY no reason to take on their stuff, make it about you and lose your aligned vibration.


Being In Your Own Energy Gives People MORE…not Less…

Would you become an inconsiderate, awful and selfish person when you are feeling at one, blissful and fulfilled, and at one with life (the by-product of feeling self-fulfilled)?

No you won’t! You will be feeling so good that you will share yourself with others in healthy ways, you will inspire others and you will touch others with your wisdom.

You will call them up into your empowered and healthy vibration.

No longer will you keep throwing a fish to someone every day, and keep them dependent on you and you on them. You will throw them a fishing food and inspire them to create for themselves.

Please understand that the highest level of love is allowing and encouraging others to not need you, and the highest level of love to yourself is not needing anyone else’s vibration to be a particular way for you to be true to yourself.

This is how to love yourself and others authentically…

I hope this newsletter helps you understand how to stop getting enmeshed in other people’s energy and be true to your own.

When you commit to your vibration, you serve all of life in win / win ways. Why? Because everything and everyone in your experience is connected to you.

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Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert. She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Melanie's healing and teaching methods have liberated thousands of people from the effects of narcissistic abuse world-wide.

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10 Thoughts on Are You Sensitive to Other People’s Energy?
    Val Dent
    October 10, 2011

    Hi Mel,
    Thank you for this uplifting newsletter. I found it really difficult to connect to my own energy – always worrying about what others are thinking and wanting etc. After being in a long relationship with a very controlling NPD man I lost touch with myself and my own energy, always living in fear of his moods and rage and controlling critical behaviour. So this is very much a learning and growing experience to connect with my own energy and still learning how to stay in it. The example you used is great- can just see myself doing that and now you have set out the antidote I will keep practising.
    Thanks and love ,

      December 22, 2015

      Sometimes I think I’m crazy, this news letter is telling me maybe it’s not always me. I get lost literally in public, people around me overwhelm me. I touch nothing. Making eye contact sucks. Load music and counting helps. I’m not myself, I bring home other people’s likenesses, attitudes, personality. I want it to stop.

    October 10, 2011

    Thank you so much for that interesting blog, Melanie. I have known for a long time that I am a sensitive but when I have a first-time experience-firend has cancer, client is suicidal, I get blind-sided and it takes a few days to recover and get back to myself. How can I maintain my balance and boundaries please?

    October 10, 2011

    Thank you, this helped me so much today. I am very sensitive to others. So much so that it sometimes I find myself feeling their emotions myself-if that makes sense. Putting myself first is something that I am really working on. I no longer want to be consumed with others. I want to be me and focus on me and my family.

    October 10, 2011

    Thank you, what a wonerful way to start my day, I have been living with a NPD for a while and have been living in fear. All the self talk about being in control of my life hasn’t worked but your article certainly has brought me peace and balance today, and now I have the strength to be me. Lovely me.

    donna smith
    October 10, 2011

    Hi Mel, I found this article very interesting, as on reflection when I am meeting or around people I find myself always assessing their energy and where there at…food for thought. It’s quite an unusual idea to just “not think about it” and be me. I hadn’t recognised that I may not be being “me” because of this behaviour, that I’m possibly catering to where they’re at and what they may need at the time. Thanks xoxo

    December 29, 2012

    Hi Melanie,

    I went looking for this topic after a spiritually healer told me that I was sensitive to other people’s energy and that I was very low on my own energy. Consequently, I decided to do some research on the topic since I did not really understand what she meant and she failed to put it into perspective that way you have in your blog. I was totally unaware of this behavior until my spiritual healer mentioned it.
    For several years know I felt a different me. I am always worried about what others think of me. It’s as if my whole being has been about what others think and my attempt to be someone different other than myself. You have no idea how much this debilitating behavior has affected my life, career, etc. I am aware of it now and I am working towards change, but it’s difficult. Slowly but surely! Thank you!

    March 12, 2013

    Thanks for this article. The examples are great. I have always read about being your authentic self…but didn’t understand what that meant. You explained it beautifully. This is very helpful.

    November 1, 2013

    what happens to someone if there gift is way more advanced than anything you’ve mentioned in your above article?

    August 22, 2015

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    this topic to be really one thing which I believe I might never understand.
    It kind of feels too complicated and extremely large
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