Chances are if you opened this email you may be…And chances are if you are a ‘sensitive’ (which is most people that are interested in self-development and spirituality) you know that you ‘pick up’ on other’s people’s energy, and that if you’re not careful, it can affect you considerably.
It is a lovely trait to be aware of others, and compassionate and attentive to other people’s needs. However there is a fine line between being aware of your environment and being totally engulfed by your environment.
Unfortunately if you are a sensitive person who is highly attuned to the needs of others, it is likely that you are tuning in to ‘the outside’ rather than navigating your life from ‘the inside’. As a result you are being pulled out of your Source of Self, and losing your true creative power in other people’s energy.
I’ll give you an example of how this can happen…
When I think about how you receive me, I lose myself
Imagine if you were to do a presentation in front of a group of people. Imagine walking to the front of room, assessing the energy and feeling into the people in the room. Let’s say a few people in the room seem bored, like they would rather be anywhere else but at this presentation.
If you take on this energy, and make your presentation about this, you’ll start becoming anxious, and you will start spinning stories in your mind that will relate to anxieties (false belief systems) which you have created about yourself and life previous to this experience.
These may be:
- People aren’t interested in what I have to say
- People don’t take notice of me
- I am not articulate enough for people to ‘get me’
- People might persecute, ridicule and judge me
- I’m not good enough to make this work
…and of course any host of beliefs which are draining your energy out, and making you fearful of being yourself.
Now the pressure is on…and you’re trying to address this pressure from a position of not being in your own personal power.
You have now become the energy of: I have to be what other people want me to be (compelling enough to overcome their boredom) if I am to have success and fulfilment in this situation.
In this state you are not being yourself. And when we are not being ourself, we are not flowing, not powerful and not at ease. We are coming from the belief of feeling limited and small, and we are coming from the belief “My authentic self may not be acceptable, so I have to transform ME into a version that is”.
Stop Reading Other People’s Energy
There is only one True Way to be yourself, and that is to get out of reading other people’s energy and realise a powerful Energetic Truth which is: In your Creation of Energy and Your Entire Experience there is only YOU!
There is only one place to focus on and that is: Being Your Authentic Self.
Other people in your experience are always responding to Your Energy without exception.
In the above example your energy is fearful and reacting to the perceived disinterest of your audience.
Now imagine if you never went there into the analysis of other’s people energy in this situation. Imagine if you were full and content in your own energy, and in the joy of being your Authentic Self and in the passion of your delivery.
Imagine if you were being the True You and had no focus whatsoever on the possibility of anyone judging you, scrutinising you or assessing you….
(In energetic truth THEY AREN’T, and they only will if YOU are doing this to YOURSELF….)
What do you think the response would be from this energetic space? Can you feel that no matter how bored someone was when they entered the room, that your Pure and True Energy would captivate them? Can you know that your passion, conviction and genuine delivery would attract more of that…
You’re totally right it would!
Not only is being your Authentic Self advantageous in such a setting, it is powerfully beneficial in every area of your life!
Too many people believe that if they disconnect from people’s energy, and stop reading it, that they will become uncaring and uncompassionate…
I promise you this is baloney!
When you become self-aware of your own energy, you become less co-dependent (which is never healthy for anyone) less interfering, and you understand the golden rule of assisting others, which is:
Offer if you feel the need, but don’t step in and take responsibility for others who are not taking responsibility for themselves.
Additionally, stop trying to sort out people’s moods so that you can feel better about yourself.
Additionally, realise that if people have an issue with you, it is their responsibility to express that and speak up.
Until they do, there is ABSOLUTELY no reason to take on their stuff, make it about you and lose your aligned vibration.
Being In Your Own Energy Gives People MORE…not Less…
Would you become an inconsiderate, awful and selfish person when you are feeling at one, blissful and fulfilled, and at one with life (the by-product of feeling self-fulfilled)?
No you won’t! You will be feeling so good that you will share yourself with others in healthy ways, you will inspire others and you will touch others with your wisdom.
You will call them up into your empowered and healthy vibration.
No longer will you keep throwing a fish to someone every day, and keep them dependent on you and you on them. You will throw them a fishing food and inspire them to create for themselves.
Please understand that the highest level of love is allowing and encouraging others to not need you, and the highest level of love to yourself is not needing anyone else’s vibration to be a particular way for you to be true to yourself.
This is how to love yourself and others authentically…
I hope this newsletter helps you understand how to stop getting enmeshed in other people’s energy and be true to your own.
When you commit to your vibration, you serve all of life in win / win ways. Why? Because everything and everyone in your experience is connected to you.
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