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How To Free Yourself From Toxic People And Situations

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Written By   Melanie Tonia Evans

 

I am so excited to share this Thriver Tv episode with you because in it we explore the deep recesses of Quantum Realities.

In this episode, I am going to share with you exactly the raw, powerful truth about how to eliminate toxic people from your life – forever.

It starts with this understanding, which on the surface feels totally counter-intuitive.

Believing we are freeing ourselves from toxic people and situations is wrong town, and deeply understanding that we are freeing ourselves from ourselves is right town.


Why is this so, and how on earth can it be all about us?

And if it IS about us, why do we suffer trauma at the hands of abusive people?

And many people ask, “If there is a Higher Power, why would this kind of experience even be allowed?”

Life can seem like such a random, senseless pit of mayhem and pain … so why on earth are we here in the first place?

It is my deepest desire in this Thriver TV episode, that you are deeply relieved of any personal blame or shame, and instead feel your power within you return.

And … that you discover the ability to heal, evolve and step forward into the freest, most expansive, loving abuse free life that you ever imagined possible.

In EVERY area of your life.

In this episode, I also do a deep dive into the literal meaning of life.

Including WHY we are here and EXACTLY what it all means.

I’m not kidding … the answers (that I believe to be true) are in this video, and I so hope you watch to find out!

When I discovered these deep Quantum Realities, my life turned from tragic and painful into magical and liberated, and I know it can for you as well.

I hope, with all my heart, that this episode will allow you to step into a life that is completely free of toxic and hurtful people.

 

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53 Thoughts on How To Free Yourself From Toxic People And Situations
  • loreleew@telus.net'
    Lorelee Weir
    September 14, 2017

    Hi Melanie: My husband and I have been working with your modules for @2 weeks, healing from the on-going abuse of a narcissistic neighbour; (working independently, of course). When I found your work, I recognized immediately the value of working in the quantum field, through (the perception of) time, historic & genetic programming, etc. Although you have mentioned Bruce Lipton and Joe Dispenza elsewhere, l’d also suggest people google Tom Campbell, Calgary. In that lecture series, Tom, a quantum physicist, describes quantum principles to a lay audience and demonstrates how these principles impact us. (Also: there’s a great dialogue between Tom and Bruce Lipton on youtube.)
    I look forward to the day I can chit chat as comfortably about the nature of quantum reality as I now feel talking about the weather. Keep the quantum conversations coming!
    *Also, I think you mentioned a link to something you wrote about life between life but I didn’t see the link…??

    • shsmte@outlook.com'
      San
      September 14, 2017

      Hi Lorelee, the link to the blog Mel mentions is this one … https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-soul-contract-with-a-narcissist/ I believe it’s being sorted out and will be put in asap. I hope this helps. San xx

    • robertoneill616@Gmail.com'
      Robert
      September 14, 2017

      I have tried some of this, but I don’t want to be blackmailed into just another easy answer. When I Mel says go inside it seems I have more traumas I can’t account for. I feel sick inside without getting any relief from what I believe is toxic venom. I die a little each time. What is that?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Lorelee,

      that is great that you are both working with NARP.

      I will look into Tom Campbell, it is wonderful to have more Quantum peeps spreading the information!

      I really do believe that this is the world we are going to be living in – one that has awoken!

      Exciting times ahead 🙂

      Mel xo

    • jelenamartens@gmail.com'
      Yelly
      September 20, 2017

      Dear Melanie and dear friends,
      Are you aware of any resources in Toronto Canada that could help and support me through separation and divorce, please! He is German and resides in Germany, and I am Canadian and reside in Toronto. We have one child that is with me.
      Please!
      Thank you, and may we all free ourselves…

      • Melanie Tonia Evans
        September 20, 2017

        Hi Yelly,

        please know I don’t know of a healing system like this in physical form – anywhere – truly.

        What I do have is a global support system for NARP Members, which is an incredible Program to heal and break free of the narcissist, trauma, and symptoms, and it has within it thousands of members worldwide and incredible Thriver Moderators to support your recovery.

        That is how people in this Community have created unprecedented recoveries, even when all else didn’t help them. And this includes people dealing with what you are Yelly – absolutely.

        Also, there are many members usually local to other members, who choose meet up!

        You can find out more about that here: http://www.melanietoniaevas.com/narp – and to conjoin with others to experience this Community and healing system, I invite you to participate in one of my free workshops – http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

        I hope this helps Yelly.

        Mel xo

  • jennysherrell@gmail.com'
    Jenny
    September 14, 2017

    Hi Melanie: I totally agree with your message – and thank you so much for this video. I was in a toxic relationship for many many years – I tried everything because I didn’t believe in divorce. In the final years I could feel the bitterness and frustration starting to eat into me – and that’s when I came across the spiritual book, A Course in Miracles. I was so ‘sick’ of myself – I decided to just go ahead and do what it said; I did the exercises which were spiritually based and among other things, involved considering my cruel and uncaring partner as a brother, worthy of love – and suddenly my whole life looked and felt different – it was like layers of hate and fear dropped away from my body and I started to feel very light. It didn’t change my partner – and I was yet to find out about narcissism and Quanta Freedom Healing which did my final healing (not that very long ago); however, that experience with A Course In Miracles proved to me that I had to keep changing from the inside for my world to get better. Now at 65, thanks to A Course in Miracles; Quanta Freedom Healing and your timely videos, I can say that my life is the best it has ever been. Thank you!

    • robertoneill616@Gmail.com'
      Robert
      September 14, 2017

      Thanks for the post, that’s how I feel. It’s got inside me and eating me up. Chewed me out and spat me out. I want to so much to get rid of narcs but their insidious dreadful monsters who deny me when it’s something I want. So many memories of this I believe I’m suffocating from its weight. Can I do anything?

      • valerieAwedel@gmail.com'
        Valerie Wedel
        September 25, 2017

        HI Robert,
        Having been where you describe, I suggest signing up for Mel’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Start with modules 1 – 10. You’ll know when it is time to do more work. When it felt like that time for me, I went on to the do Family of Origin work. Now I am working with myself if I get triggered about stuff, and it appears to be mostly now epigenetic (family history) stuff. And… I feel better, freer, stronger, happier than ever in my entire life! Mel has given us a pathway that really works. I hope for you joy and love and peace in your heart.

        Valerie

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Jenny,

      you are very welcome 🙂

      A Course in Miracles is wonderful! And so aligned with the Thriver Way – it is based in Quantum Truth.

      I love that you are breaking free into your True You and True Life.

      Just gorgeous Jenny 🙂

      Bless you.

      Mel xo

  • liniments@gmail.com'
    Ellen Penrose
    September 14, 2017

    Hi Melanie, In this episode you mention an article you wrote, about your between-lives experience accessed through hypnotic regression. I am very interested in reading it and thought a link was being provided to the article on this episode’s page, but I’m not finding it. Could you re-post the link in a reply to this comment, for those of us who would like to read it – or if it’s already posted, give directions to the link. Thank you. Loved this episode.

  • gina.dinnigan@westnet.com.au'
    Gina
    September 14, 2017

    At the height of my narcissistic crisis, I had an experience similar (but different) to yours. I recall I was out walking my dog, and obsessing about my partner (as one does), and the emotional pain grew and grew, or in fact intensified down into a point in my throat to a point I felt I literally felt I could stand no more. I felt my knees give way, and I expected to fall to the ground. But, I didn’t. Instead, it was as though the physical world simply dissolved, and I was in a different space, or state. I became aware of my 7-year-old self, a way to my left, and we connected. I wasn’t merely remembering her pain, I was feeling it, being her. (That was the insight I needed, of course, the realisation that the pain I was attributing to my present life was in fact the continuation of pain I had carried within for most of my life.) Then, I realised an astonishing thing. She was there! My 7-year-old exists. She is real and walks beside me (as, I assume, does every other moment of my life). I felt immense compassion for her and the impulse to reach out and comfort her – and with that impulse, I was brought back (very much against my will) to the physical world.

    So, when you speak of past lives, and knowing your past lives …. is that a similar kind of experience? I don’t have a view, or feeling, either way on reincarnation, and I’d say I have enough to deal with in this life. But, it’s an interesting topic.
    I once heard a quantum physicist (didn’t note his name, unfortunately) suggest that the arrow of time seems to be the price we pay for living in a material universe, that mathematically, at least, if we could forfeit matter, then theoretically we should be able to travel in time. To me, that fits quite neatly with my experience.
    And is that what QFH is designed to do … to connect in a ‘real’ way with those lost and hurting parts of our self?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Gina,

      wow what an experience! They are magic, these times when the veil drops and we know the truth. And the great thing is now because we have Quantum Tools to reach inside and self-partner with – we don’t need to have “cataclysmic awakenings” to find out.

      100% when you use Quanta Freedom Healing and track wounds back through our body we come into contact with our young selves and previous life selves still holding the trauma in our energy field (inner being).

      Yes, the above really does answer your question – but to reiterate – QFH is SPECIFICALLY about finding, releasing and healing those wounded parts of ourselves.

      Keep expanding Gina 🙂

      Mel xo

  • farwaayub@live.com'
    Farwa Ayub
    September 14, 2017

    Oh my God! This makes so much sense! I’m a Muslim and I have learnt some of this from our Book and teachings of our Prophet(peace be upon him). I think this level of wisdom comes as a gift from God with hardship. (“Verily, with every hardship comes ease”-Holy Quran 94:6)
    We too as Muslims believe each of us has a soul and it has to go back Home. The prayer we have been taught for times of calamity translates to ‘Indeed, to God we belong and to Him we will return’ and yes knowledge of this purpose remains the only way to understand WHY it all happened. The answer as you said is to help us in our journey back, and it keeps hurting until we realize and accept this. Truly, the suffering of innocent people in this world makes no sense otherwise. You also said something that reminded me of a famous quote I’ve read: ‘If the veil were to be removed, you would only choose what has already been decreed.’ Thought I’d share!
    Glad I took out time for this!
    May you be blessed, Melanie!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Farwa,

      I really do believe truth is truth and it weaves its way through all cultures, time and religions.

      I love that quote “verily, with each hardship comes ease.” Thank you for sharing it!

      In fact, thank you for sharing your entire post – I loved it very much.

      Mant blessings to you too Farwa, and thank you 🙂

      Mel xo

  • chris.whittaker2@btinternet.com'
    Chris
    September 14, 2017

    Hello,
    Melanie, I have learned,t so much over the past few years including myself being an Empath, my Mother a Narcissist and my ex Housemate and Schoolfriend a Sociopath.
    I find it hard to believe people can be so emotionally different and at different ends of the Spectrum of life but your Videos are helping me understand and the Quantum freedom healing modules I am following, I am now following my dreams which were shattered by these people although it,s a bit late in life.
    Take Care.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Chris,

      I am so pleased my videos are helping to bring you clarity and peace.

      That is so wonderful you are aligning with your dreams.

      Please know Chris it is never too late – your soul – the True You is timeless, eternal and it is all setting up beautifully for next time and all the never-ending times to come.

      Mel xo

  • sbc626@comcast.net'
    Sally
    September 14, 2017

    Thank you Melanie for this episode and for the link to your LBL experience. Yes, totally right timing for me on my soul journey.

    I participated in your course work and was able to heal/ lift some of my inner wounds. It was difficult then because my husband was rapidly deteriorating with Lewy body dementia. I was caught in a resentment for what was happening and also losing myself in the all encompassing care I needed to be doing for him, and also concern for my adult children who were losing their Dad.

    A few months ago he entered a nursing home and I feel I have been in the fast lane here for understanding and letting go. So many angelic voices (in the form of people – and pets) and heightened intuitions have been guiding me in my little canoe as I paddle into the unknown. I do still have some fear and shame that are deep but I keep getting affirmations that I can GO and move inward without fear, and become my true self, acknowledging what I can do to help heal, and then be available to let my light shine, and even become a ‘Shining One’.

    Thank you for all you do!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Sally,

      I am so pleased this was great timing for you!

      I love that you are breaking through and shining. You are so through the roughest of it Sally – and you are graduating beautifully!

      Bless you and keep shining.

      Mel xo

  • jonassahlberg@hotmail.com'
    Olivia
    September 14, 2017

    Hi Melanie,

    Since I watched the Will I ever feel the same attraction I felt with the narcissist a couple of weeks ago, I’ve been thinking it would be awesome If you talked more about our soul mission and soul truths, as its something my soul deeply resonates with and wants me to move towards.

    I have been very confused since the healing session with you last week, but its settling slowly now. My soul absolutely loves fast tracking too so I’m not completely sure what is what since I trigger myself constantly so I can uplevel. I do feel much more free, and I feel like doors have opened that were closed before, I can tell that is from the Healing.
    Its been really interesting about what have been coming up too, I’ve removed everything from 2 buried mummies to a torture device placed on my heart with sharp teeth piercing into it. Guess I am a bit freakish too as I believe those things to be real 🙂 I would really love to find out some day what my past lives have been like, I have a feeling its going to be interesting !

    Blessings,
    Olivia xoxo

    • jonassahlberg@hotmail.com'
      Olivia
      September 14, 2017

      Sorry, I’m the Olivia with the genital birth defect.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Olivia,

      I am so pleased this video showed up for you with these deeper Qunatum truths.

      I totally agree with you that your past lives have been incredibly interesting (as many of ours have been!) When we shift the energy with QFH we can ask to be shown details of our past lives – and then trust what your intuition grants you (and if you feel it in your body as real – it is).

      However, it’s not necessary to “see” anything in order to release past life trauma – feeling it in your body is enough … yet it is so interesting when we do.

      The other thing you can do is to seek out someone for a past life regression if you want to find out more about your past lives. I used to do them and train people to do them and I have had dozens on my past lives, and they were so apt in regard to what went on in this life!

      However the information alone, although helpful, didn’t heal my trauma. It just allowed me to understand it better … it was QFH which granted me the relief and true release.

      With stuff coming up for you now Olivia, just surrender in deep, pick it up and shift – which I know you will be doing. You really are doing so well 🙂

      BIG breakthrough is coming for you!

      Mel xo

      • jonassahlberg@hotmail.com'
        Olivia
        September 16, 2017

        A while after I read what you wrote I was wondering over something, then it all came to me, how many lifetimes it has been playing out and what caused it the lifetime before that, I wasn’t even in a session, it just happened !
        I forgot to say I loved the video !
        Thank you so much Melanie 🙂
        Olivia xoxo

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          September 17, 2017

          Hi Olivia,

          Wow, it is wonderful when that information – that our subconscious has within – being the keeper of all memories, shows itself!

          Thank you, Olivia, I am so pleased you enjoyed the video.

          Mel xo

  • mcampini3@gmail.com'
    Marlene Campini
    September 15, 2017

    Hi Melanie – I am slowly working through the Modules of the NARP system. I pray for lasting change, but sometimes feel like we all go back to how we were once we “leave” your care, as you often talk about your second narcissistic partner. Maybe you can address that in one of your videos. I am also curious how you handle questions from the outside who always ask about “why did the relationship end….” How do you address it? Do you let people know that it was an abusive situation or do you simply smile and say “it didn’t work?”. Is there healing in acknowledging out loud that our partner was not what they appeared?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Marlene,

      Please know if we pray for lasting change we won’t get it – we can only get the “want” for it.

      What can work so much better is to want growth and evolution. And be really content and able to embrace the triggers to shift them and continually release yourself from dense energy. Then we start enjoying the journey instead of needing a destination.

      The truth is there is NO destination, just life enjoying less dense energy in our bodies and having more Creation (space) flowing through us as us instead.

      That would be a great topic to talk about – why I suffered another narcissist! Thank you for your suggestion.

      In regard to telling others what happened, I believe discretion and self-awareness are very important here. It is hardly applicable to have conversations with people we barely know about the sensitive things in our life – and what for?

      Unless of course we truly feel a connection and it feels “right” to have that discussion with them.

      Are we wanting to have that conversation to get validated? If so we have work to do on healing and validating ourselves, and of course, as per Quantum Law, we will receive invalidation when trying to seek it outside of ourselves.

      There is no healing in telling others we were abused.

      There is healing in deeply going within to our wounds of being abused and loving and healing them back to wholeness.

      The irony is when we have done that and we go free, there is no need to tell anyone we were “abused” Rather we tell we were “liberated” as a result of the incredible breakdown/breakthrough experience we went through.

      I hope this makes sense and helps answer your questions.

      Mel xo

  • soniamariamagdalene@gmail.com'
    Sonia
    September 15, 2017

    Hi Melanie,
    Your video and insights are just fantastic and going to the core of the matter, which is I think the first step to heal! I have been watching your videos and they truly help me to start understanding the original chaos of narcissistic and co-dependent experience, and to have the motivation and courage to get through the darkness toward the Light…
    Coming from a narcissistic family, I ended up unconsciously with different narcissistic partners, friends, and work colleagues, and now I am still in the way to leave and heal from the current narcissistic partner. In spite of the great pain, I see that everything is for a reason, and that this trauma experience is an opportunity to heal and really up level my being (hopefully for the next lives too :)!
    I started doing EMDR therapy to release trauma, and after a few sessions I see good results. But I am thinking in joining the NARP program. My question is: do you recommend to combine both types of therapies? What are your thoughts about EMDR, do you think it is compatible with NARP?

    Thank you so much, many blessings to the you and the Thriver community!!!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Sonia,

      thank you and I am so pleased they resonate with you.

      That is so wonderful that you have taken on the Thrver Way – and I so agree, what we are doing now improves every level of living in our now and future, including future lives, because we will have unpacked a lot of the previous trauma.

      Which is is the very definition of “going free”.

      That is great you are working with energetic healing and getting good results. Yes QFH (NARP) is totally compatible with any modality or system.

      Many many blessings to you Sonia – and thank you for spreading your love!

      Mel xo

      • valerieAwedel@gmail.com'
        Valerie Wedel
        September 25, 2017

        Hi Sonia,
        This is Valerie. I combined brain spotting, a form of trauma therapy, with QFH, and then switched over entirely to QFH. Am a living, breathing example that they can work powerfully together. 🙂
        Blessings on your journey.

  • jomurray907@gmail.com'
    Jo
    September 15, 2017

    Melanie,

    Your latest video on toxic people and freeing ourselves from ourselves was incredibly insightful and so right on. For years, I obsessed about the narc and his endless cruel treatment I received from him. Now, I realize that I ACCEPTED that treatment and allowed my own self to suffer (partly being a codependent) far too many years. It is because of your exceptionally brilliant perspective that I have begun to turn around and experience my life from the inside. WE can only save ourselves– as much as we were culturally conditioned to believe otherwise as women…

    I also want to acknowledge your generous gift of always presenting new provocative information with each and every video. There are endless videos out there but many so called “experts” continually preach the exact same information with every single video, merely changing the titles. Your information is always evolving and fresh and coincidentally, always exactly what I needed to hear on that particular day. You are extremely talented and eloquent in your teachings and should be recognized as such. Thank you so for all your efforts!! ( I cannot understand why you don’t have 100K+ followers…in time, in time. 🙂

    Love and blessings,
    Jo

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Jo,

      thank you and I am so pleased you enjoyed it.

      Oh gosh yes, we can only save ourselves and thank goodness we are awakening to that. THEN we get partners/people who ADD more safety (so within so without).

      Thank you for your lovely words of recognition, and please know you are very welcome.

      I love that this Community is so ready to hear what my channel wants to share – and as such, I feel blessed beyond measure that right here right now such provocative information can be accepted and embodied.

      Yes, in time Jo! 🙂 Because it IS time.

      Much love and blessings to you too.

      Mel xo

  • nachitzin@gmail.com'
    Luis Ignacio Gameros
    September 15, 2017

    I am into listening without the need to agree or disagree. Your writings are among those that are enriching my life and I am made more whole, wholesome, holy, sane, saintly by your shares. Thank you for being you and sharing your journey with me.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Luis,

      bless you and I am pleased I can add to your life-flow.

      You are so welcome and thank you so much for being a part of this Community.

      Mel xo

  • ellie_r@y7mail.com'
    El
    September 15, 2017

    Hi Melanie,
    I have your quanta freedom healing program and I listen to it at night.
    In regards to this particular post, I am just unsure how one just “releases” the trauma inside. It’s one thing to say it and understand its there and acknowledge exactly what it is and how it got there and how it’s manifesting over and over but it’s another thing to release it. How do you do it ?? Do you replace it with different thoughts? Even the meditations in the program I’m not sure if they are working not to say that they aren’t I just don’t know how to gauge it. I agree with everything you are saying about the trauma recreating in your life and I can recognise this but I am just struggling to release it. When you’re a child, you just adopt these thoughts about a situation and it’s hard to undo that no matter if you see it for what it is or not. Please help with and an actual direction on how you release these traumas. Literally would like step by step instruction on HOW to do it or could you point to which module gives me these step by step instructions so that I can study it. Thanks El

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi El,

      please know NARP requires your deep participation; to follow the instructions so that you aren’t just “listening”. Then you will start feeling the shifts in your body.

      The entire release / replace procedures is in the NARP Modules, it is what you are listening to – but need to deeply connect to (the instructions) and “do”. It is no more than that.

      Are you in the NARP Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member getting support and guidance with your NARP work? I highly recommend that to help you.

      There may be a belief blocking you from connecting to the healings in NARP, which needs addressing and this is more detailed coaching – (backwards and forwards) that doesn’t take place here on the blog, yet does in the NARP Forum.

      I hope this helps.

      Mel xo

      • ellie_r@y7mail.com'
        El
        September 29, 2017

        Hi Melanie,
        Yes I think you’re right. I did experience a shift from watching one of your recent videos when there was a guided meditation and perhaps I am not listening to the program at the right time. I also do feel there is some sort of resistance inside when I do the modules. I’m not sure why as I certainly am keen to do the work I was able to be fully present with the recent vid and I did the exercise wholeheartedly. Ok I will venture over to the forum.
        Thankyou
        El. Xx

  • krc1971@hotmail.com'
    Kelly C
    September 15, 2017

    Hi Melanie. I have joined NARP and started working on the first module for the past few days. I have listened to your video above. I too, seem to be surrounded by narcissists!! My world is full of them!! So, I’m sure you can imagine how excited I am to think that I can actually be free of them..I would love to believe this…however, a good number of them are in my family.
    How does NARP work within a family system? My father is a narc, my oldest brother, and my sister married the biggest narc I have ever met. I have married (and divorced) 2 narcissists, one covert and one raging (like my father).

    I just want to know how I’m supposed to get through Christmas. 🙁

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Kelly,

      that is great you have started working with NARP.

      I am so pleased you want to be free and are excited about the possibility.

      NARP works exactly the same way with family of origin Ns – absolutely no differently, simply go to the traumas you are feeling in your body about these people. The strongest traumas being the first you address.

      By releasing your traumas Kelly I promise you that your Christmas will unfold in the exact way that will support your inner truth which has become so much more trauma free.

      There is nothing to work out yet – just trauma to release and THEN it all works out.

      I promise you.

      Mel xo

  • saurabhpatna.ss@gmail.com'
    saurabh
    September 15, 2017

    Wow, what a blog it was! Thanks Melanie for being my saviour, your quantum truth and realities are the one that have saved my life and has given me hope in life and I have by God’s grace, my hard work and above all your guidance become a thriver from a victim. You have really helped us to find that abuse to have a purpose and everything is here to help us evolve. I love you Melanie! Keep on spreading the words about the quantum truths. They are life saving. I am sure my daughter who is now with her mother will to find the quantum truths and heal and evolve in her life for sure. So I am doing work on releasing trauma from my body and now you know Melanie I live all alone in a new town, I have a new job and it is all because of these thriver concepts.
    Thanks a lot! I bless all and the most my A.I.D. in my life my father and my wife and of course to this NARP community who is my new family.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 15, 2017

      Hi Saurabh,

      thank you and I am so pleased this resonates with you!

      So much love to you Saurabh and keep Thriving – you are doing SO well 🙂

      I love that you bless the AIDs!!

      Mel xo

  • Ayesash@hotmail.com'
    Starting to thrive
    September 16, 2017

    I can’t thank u enough. I am a 47 years old female, highly qualified professional n a narpist. I got a gift of of living with a narcissist n went down to almost a break down. Somehow landed up with ur page. I Initially it all seemed so out of the box. It was so tough to take responsibility and go inside myself n find the erroneous belief system but things start making sense when my inner child started coming to life n now off and on it comes out as a very strong happy child that wants to conquer the world. I am looking forward for the day when it remains the same persistently. But there are so so many faulty belief systems that will take ages to clear up but the journey has started. Thanks dearest.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 17, 2017

      Hi Starting to thrive,

      I am so pleased I could help.

      And it is wonderful that you are on the journey and clearing out the painful beliefs.

      Bless 🙂

      Mel xo

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    MaryAnn Niclas
    September 17, 2017

    Dearest Mel,
    Thank you, thank you ( again and again ) for this episode. I am a new, Jr. NARP member and I have worked your module one several times, and I’ve just gone through module two. This talk that you just gave is so rich. I need to listen to it again and again. Cognitively, I understand what you are saying. And at times through your talk, I experienced a visceral reaction of The light within my heart. I just want to thank you so much for all the healing that you are providing. Blessings, MaryAnn

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 17, 2017

      Hi MaryAnn,

      it’s my pleasure.

      I am so pleased this video deeply resonated with you and that you have received a shift already.

      Bless you!

      Mel xo

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    John
    September 18, 2017

    Hello Melanie ,

    This video and all your videos are fantastic, they have become part of my morning routine!
    I get up and half hour or so earlier in the morning, get my coffee and listen to them before I go to work !
    They help me start my day with strength and not only what a fantastic future I have ahead of me , but more importantly what a fantastic ” now ” I have ! I have always had a tendency to live in the past and the future now I am focusing on living in the now !

    One concern I have is with no contact , and anyone with some suggestions please feel free to comment.

    I have been one week with no contact and I feel strong and positive, however I have a lot of pictures, text , emails and all kinds of reminders of my ex.

    I am not ready to delete them all , I would like to put them all on a thumb drive and put it the box where I have all of the other mementos I have of her. Cards , stuff animals etc. ( I know I am a chessy man ! Lol )

    The problem is in order for me to do this , I will have to look at the pictures, text and other files and it will bring up painful memories. And this , at least in my mind , will break no contact .
    As of now , I’m just staying away from looking at any pictures on my computer and phone , in fear that I will see one of her pictures. I wish I could have someone do this for me , but I don’t know anyone that likes her enough ( I can’t imagine why ? Lol ! ) and they will just delete them !

    I do have her blocked , but she has created new email addresses and text me from a friends phone in the past to circumvent the blocks . I’m going to have to change all those , but I hate to admit, a big part of me wants her to go out of her way to contact me , I guess it feeds my ego , no , I don’t guess , it does feed my ego .

    Anyway , I’m healing slowly and I’m getting better at going into the pain , it’s hard work , but so worth it !

    Thanks for all you do !

    John

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 18, 2017

      Hi John,

      I am so pleased you are enjoying my videos and that they help!

      John, as a NARPer this is what I would do – use the NARP Program to clear the trauma of the sentimentality and what that brings up. Then it will feel benign, it will be gone. Then go through all the processes of “letting go” and any other traumas that arse, just shift and release those out too.

      That’s the true answer – find what it is within us (what unhealed parts) is still hanging on, release that and replace it (heal it) so that it doesn’t exist and then there is no battle or struggles with yourself.

      If you want to find out more regarding what I am talking about – the capacity of NARP – please come into my free webinar and you will directly experience this for yourself.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

      I hope this helps.

      Mel xo

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    Angelique
    September 24, 2017

    I would just like to say for anyone struggling with all this, hang in there and keep at it, narp works but i have found it required a completely different way to look at life, how it works and what matters. Self partnering is everything.
    It’s a working progress but i have recently found to my utter amazement that things that used to hurt me so deeply now merely annoy me a little bit on the surface and not for long, almost like i have become teflon on the inside and the nasty slides off. It takes all the worry out of encountering anything negative.
    The program as well as all the posts and broadcasts from Melanie there for you day after day are invaluable thank you.

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      Valerie Wedel
      September 25, 2017

      Yo, what Angelique said! 🙂 Life is wonderful on the other side, even when one feels like a work in progress sometimes.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      September 25, 2017

      Hi Angelique,

      I am so happy for you!!

      Than you for encouraging and supporting others 🙂

      Mel xo

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    Emma
    October 9, 2017

    Thank God for what you are sharing.

    I tried 12 steps for codependency and it felt like ‘12 steps for consolidating your wrongness’

    So eventually I left and felt so much lighter… yet I was still aware that on an energetic level I had those beliefs, expectations, of being in the role of a victim at play.. as if it were my job to be in that role for those people/souls that I loved and recognised from other places/Times.

    Anyway.. I attracted some of the best narcissistic personalities, often in scenarios that also coupled with spiritual answers or modalities that I was looking for. (At first glance this is very confusing)… but when I ‘know’ into it there is perfect sense.

    But what I am trying to say is that the gist I am getting from your videos is that when we shift our agreements to accept and be in the role of trauma on an energetic level.:: narcissistic people/behaviors can no longer participate.. which could also look like individuals who once showed up in narcissistic ways no longer be able to be narcissistic in your presence if and when you do happen to encounter them.

    Lots of revelations.

    Thank you ????????✨?

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