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I don’t know the last time I was this excited to bring you an interview …

A few months ago, it came to my attention that we had our first ever public NARP couple!

The whole MTE team was over the moon and we all wanted to share their story with the community.

Now today is the day …

This interview between Mike and Catsby was not only incredibly insightful, but it truly made my heart sing …

And when I listened back to it, I even shed a few tears!

Mike and Catsby are not only in a relationship – they are in a connected, expansive relationship which I call an “evolutionary relationship”.

Meaning a soul-mate relationship – one where once we have mated our own soul – a true soul mate can enter our life.

This is the ultimate goal of love relationship, and Mike and Catsby share intimately how to achieve it.

How, by reaching a certain level of love and connection within yourself, this radiates out into the world and creates the physical manifestation of that love.

The showing up of a partner – who with together you can share and generate ease, trust, authenticity and continual positive growth and expansion with.

As Mike and Catsby stated … the common thing people report in soul-mate relationship … that their love just gets deeper and more incredible every day. 

And not just their love for each other!

Their love also for themselves …

WOW!

Mike and Catsby

Here is a picture of Mike and Catsby at Imagine Circle, a tribute to John Lennon, who played a significant part in their story.

Both Mike and Catsby have dealt with narcissistic abuse for a long time (all their life since childhood), and this story truly shows that no matter how much pain you have been through, there is a pot of gold at the end if you work for it.

Also on the show, Catsby shares her experience as a psychotherapist, working in trauma prevention and how she believed she knew everything there was to know about narcissism until she was lured in by an altruistic narcissist.

You will hear how Mike not only used NARP to heal from narcissistic abuse, but how he also used it to manifest incredible business opportunities – before focusing his module work to bring in his true love.

I know that many people in this community, like Mike and Catsby previously, have never know or experienced true soul-mate evolutionary relationship – and certainly didn’t grow up having it modelled to them.

If this is you, you just HAVE to listen to this show, because this incredible couple describe and explain what it is like perfectly.

What an incredible show! I absolutely loved it and I know you will too 🙂

If you’d like to join Mike and Catsby and become a part of the NARP family, you can find all the information here.

Please leave any questions or comments for Mike, Catsby or myself in the comments below. We will respond to all of them.

 

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21 thoughts on “The First Ever NARP Couple! [Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse #28 Mike And Catsby]

  1. Congratulations to the happy couple, such a wonderful story! I had a similar experience, when I least expected it, after tons of NARPing, I was ready (not consciously) for a new relationship and it happened! My feelings related to this mature love-experience are: precious, sacred, holy, grateful, thankful, humble, uplifting, miraculous, and again precious, precious, precious. I hope, I never get “used to it”, “take it for granted” but wake up to the bliss and wonder, reverence, every morning for the rest of my life. Without NARP, this would not have happened!

    1. Hi Christine,

      I am soooo happy for you!!

      How wonderful, and you look so happy with your new beau! The words you have used to describe your soul-mate relationship are so sacred.

      Divine … and such a testament to when we “be” Love it will “come” ..

      True Becoming …

      Love it!!!

      Mel xo

  2. Thank you for that!!! All I can say is WOW, so beautiful!

    Mel, you always inspire hope, and I so appreciate you and all the people who share their breakthroughs. All of this is giving me the nudges I require to move forward.

  3. Just beautiful. & coincidently just signing up this week I used a line from ‘the rose’ ( her fav song) as my username!

    1. With havin so much written content do you ever run into any problems of plagorism or copyright infringement? My site has a lot of completely unique content I’ve either authored myself or outsourced but it appears a lot of it is popping it up all over the internet without my auhnzrioatiot. Do you know any techniques to help protect against content from being ripped off? I’d definitely appreciate it.

    2. 5 PHOTOS: Dad, Scott, Grandma, Grandpa, and the “Alaska Bushman” This weekend is the start of the Iron Dog. As promised, here are some photos from previous years’ races. Above is dad and his partner.

    3. Not sure if I missed something but are we still not able to have separate first and last names in Google Contacts? Seems like it's just an adjunct to Email rather than a full-blown app like Docs, Email, and Calendar.

  4. The connection they had, the sharing of songs, the txtg just before i was going to, etc etc, broke my heart to hear. The NPD/BPD and I had this. Im not with him, again, and I hate hearing this stuff thinking maybe hes not evil, maybe hes rly a BPD and Im the messed up one. Maybe it rly IS me. Lol it def is me, rite? Im very messed up but HE is not the man to be with. I need to be with meeeeeee. Trying to navigate this might be the death of me. My strength is rly fading.

    1. Helene,
      If this marks the death of your ego, that is a good thing. Jack Johnson’s songs used to break my heart when I listened….
      Maybe it’s your strength hanging on to the old ways that is fading. I know the death of my old ego led to the birth of a new integrated one. Now I know what love is. Sometimes one has to break down in order to break through.
      Courage, peace and love,
      Catsby

    2. Hi Helene,

      I feel for you dear … the pain does initially feel sooo big, and we wonder if it was “all us”.

      Truly we were doing the dance, because of our young trauma that was unresolved … dancing with another soul who was unhealed.

      The solution always is doing the healing work. Please come into my new webinar group – I’d really love to help you heal.

      If you are ready to start doing that work.

      https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar.

      Mel xo

  5. Catsby is right–once you clear all the junk and stuff surrounding NPD from yourself, you can manifest anything. I noticed this ability while doing the work on myself and it can be scary at times. You have to be really clear about what you want because you will get it exactly as the universal laws apply. This doesn’t just apply to relationships as it applies to everything in your life.

    1. I grinned. I felt love, hope and gratitude. I can not wait to FINALLY thrive. I’M GONNA heal myself even it it’s the last thing I do. After a lifetime or lifetimes of depression, low self-esteem and insecurities, the concepts of self-partnering and thriving still feel alien and incredible to me but gradually less so.

      I’m only 27 years old. I’ve got my whole life in front of me. I used to think that that was a curse. I used to envy old people because they were closer to death. I used to feel sorry for young people because they were so far away from death. I used to simply wait and hope for death. Get killed by a terminal illness. THAT is depression. No incentive to practice self-love and care. Until I felt the pain and pressure of life to get off my behind and do something productive.

      Mel, I’ve occasionally wondered if you’d be willing to do a thriver interview with me someday if or when the time comes? Or is narc abuse a required background?

      Ace

      1. Hi Ace,

        that is so wonderful that you have hope!

        I certainly could put that to the team … what they think re a show with you in the future.

        Depression is such a serious issue … absolutely for so many people in this community.

        Mel xo

        1. I certainly like the idea of doing a thriver interview. If it happens, it happens. Most likely won’t be in the near future. I’ve come far but there is still a long way to go. I still have a of work to do.

          I’d also like to do a QFH presentation at Hugarafl or Mindpower in english sometime in the future. It’s a wonderful social organization that seeks to reduce prejudice towards the “mentally ill” and change the terribly lackluster mental healthcare system for the better. It’s empowering and constructive. Everyone has a chance of letting their voice be heard and everyone can start a program.

          Ace

  6. I’m in tears. The energy just from their photo alone sent me into tears. The true love and connection is absolutely powerful. I’ve been praying for the same thing and I still believe in spite of my own pain I am in now that one day it is possible for me too.

    Congrats to you two. You honestly deserve everything you have.

  7. So incredibly beautiful…love is always such a blessed miracle. This gives me hope, though. I’m still trapped in my marriage to a narcissist (building up my resources to SAFELY leave, hopefully, very soon), but every day, im learning to love and respect myself more, and am coming to understand what that TRULY means. (I came from a home where “loving yourself” – i.e. taking care of your needs- was considered “selfish”, so this is all so miraculously liberating!)

    This story inspires me to keep the hope alive… that some day, not TOO far in the future, I will find a good, and honorable, man who will love me, and cherish me, just as much as I love, and cherish, him- AND MYSELF!

    I’m so happy for you Mike & Catsby… Congratulations!!! <3

  8. i amunsure if i have been with a narc. I lefthim in Dec 2014 but got back withhim and then he sleptwith someone else and posted it on facebook. Iwas then told he wanted to be friends, but also didnt want a relationship, this was either to keep me on in case things went wrong with her or for best of both worlds, or because he was a coward and couldnt dump me because he so called cared. he has a history of abuse and i cannot understand whyhe hates me so much and doesnt contact me, i am the victim not him. PLEASE HELP

    1. When I met my ex I actually had a really bad reaction . I saw him see me and thought oh no. He was a charmer and it turned out we did have similar tastes in music. He and his friend walked me home I gave them tea and then sent them off. He however had different ideas and came back posting a note through the door. Fast forward after 18yrs together and two beautiful children I got rid of him. This time he didn’t see it coming. That weekend he left the house to travel to my sisters to tell that I was tracking him on my phone and that I had stolen money from him! What kind of person does that but a narc. My family came round with him the next morning to check if I was well. The next day I had an occupancy order put in place. Somehow he managed to talk the police around, so instead of leaving he waited until I returned. He did go but took the car. The devaluation phase for me came pretty quickly and by the time I was pregnant with our second child I am sure he was already seeing other women. He even had an affair with our babysitter. The things he has done are truely awful,stealing from me, organising a breakin to cover it up. Getting kids to egg our house to force me to move and paying for nothing. He got me into terrible debt and then told my family it because I was blowing it all on eBay. As a family we were involved in three hit and runs! each realising thousands in cash. However, he was very careful and so I could prove nothing. I had realised after 18mths there was something very wrong and had started to cool off , but I got pregnant,as you can imagine he was delighted. Soon my fight or flight kicked in but I’m afraid I fled I was scared stupid but I couldn’t pin point it. I did this more than once a bad bad idea and it resulted in a breakdown. How I came back I will never know but I did. What did he do at this point when he knew how unwell I was,he went on holiday with my sister and her family and left me on my own. This was a holiday I had paid for! My sister had become his confidant he texted and rang her more than he did me. He arranged weekends and other outings without my say so. He flirted with her too and she revelled in it. Stupidly I accused him of having an affair with her casting a cat amongst the pigeons. So as time went on I was painted blacker than black. My mental health suffered and I nearly lost my job. Eventually I couldn’t take anymore as he came home regularly with scratches that could only have come from another woman. He at that this stage accused me of being unfaithful and threatened to kill me .I found Viagra he told me he was looking after it for a friend. Humiliated and broken I went to get help and I found an organisation that saved my life. They believed me,and so my story was told, the dam burst. I met other brace souls who had been to hell and back. This post is long and doesn’t cover his attempts to kill me and destroy my name. Despite my family backing him I am in a good place. Two years on and I feel so much better, I have rekindled my love of so many things. I’ve even flirted and enjoyed male company but, I stand well back and observe. Many stay because perhaps they feel they are too old to start again or are held back by family disapproval. I have read so much on here and thank you Mel for your great work. I hope my post gives hope to others. Keep information flowing and thank you again.
      Claire

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