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This Will Never Happen To Me Again – Thriver Show #35 Christine

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I’m super excited today because it’s time for another Thriver Show!

If you are new to the community – this is a regular segment on Thriver TV where we interview a member of the NARP community to inspire you and give you hope that there is a way to recover.

This Thriver Show was one full of rich discussion and insight.

Within our interview Christine explains how her mother was diagnosed officially as an overt narcissist with grandiose tendencies.

Christine’s childhood as a single child was “interesting” to say the least. Her mother’s ego, according to Christine was “swirling for all to see.” Christine’s mother had 13 marriages to 11 different men …

And of course Christine suffered emotional abuse … which became “her normal”.

After Christine’s fourth narcissistic intimate love experience, Christine realised that she simply could not do it again – it was too painful. She recognised a pattern that unlike the overt narcissist that her Mother was, that these men were covert.

Christine and I have a very interesting discussion in regard to the difference between overt and covert narcissism! And ultimately how some traits between overt and covert narcissists can be the same – how overts and coverts can swap positions, and how the “hot” and “cold” narcissist operates.

However, ultimately this discussion was about Christine thoroughly realising that these patterns were in repeat for her, from her childhood trauma.

Finally Christine had come to the point where she made a solid decision inside herself that she was DONE with being the common denominator of painful relationships.

This is what she said to herself – these golden words – Absolutely this will never happen to me again.

Christine was aware enough in this last narcissistic relationship to realise that her True Self was screaming at her to get out, but she wasn’t (like so many of us in these situations) listening.

She wrote in her journal often and knew that the deep soul connection she had with the narcissists in her life (especially the last one) had to be for a purpose.

When Christine stumbled upon the MTE Community, she was relieved to find that someone was talking about the purpose of a soul connection with a narcissist, and at that point in her life she was breaking down with pain in her body, disarrayed emotions and feeling more and more off centre within her relationship.

Despite the rollercoaster, Christine was hooked.

Things went from bad to worse, and the day that Christine left and returned his things, she felt so anxious and broken she said she probably should have been hospitalised.

In this Thriver TV Thriver Show episode, you will learn how Christine found the information and the Quanta Freedom Healing Modules in the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program to shift out the trauma she was experiencing and heal her peptide addiction which was hooking her to the narcissist.

Christine first noticed these shifts, when at Christmas 2016 there was no trauma and triggers left. She had left the narcissist, been working on healing herself, and had suffered immensely the year before at Christmas and had been dreading Christmas again.

She discovered she was free to enjoy Christmas instead! There was no emotional pain regarding it!

In Christine’s journey of healing her Inner Being, what was vital for her breakthroughs, was that she discovered and healed the repeat of how her Mother had left her feeling as a child …

Small, unimportant and unheard, and not able to wake her Mother up with, “I am here, I need your nurturing. I need to be a part of your Life.”

It was all there – the same trauma with narcissistic men.

As well as, for someone to be angry with her for no reason was ripping open her original wounds over and over again.

Christine knew that her mother was a narcissist – but she had not realised, until now, the impact that had had on her adult life.

During this show the awareness’s are plentiful – including Christine’s ability to deeply understand that the stonewalling she continually experienced in narcissistic relationships matched what had happened with her Mother, but now today it’s total relevance was how Christine was not hearing her own Inner Being.

How, like all of is until now, had not realised, taken on or become the practice of self-partnering.

 I also love Christine’s “teddy bear” suggestion which I think can be so helpful to the Community!

Now, today, Christine feels great, is experiencing the true joy of living and says that she has been trauma free from narcissism since four months of beginning NARP.  She states that after decades of therapy for her mother, which didn’t set her free, the relief now is nothing short of miraculous.

She says the world looks different, she is connecting to healthy people now, and for the first time in her life it doesn’t matter what other people think or do, she is not hooked and is totally free to be herself.

She feels total gratitude for her experience without any shame or blaming of herself.

Today, her business is great, she is attracting new friends, her health has improved dramatically, she has been dating without any hooks or expectations and she did her first stand-up comedy routine!

Christine continues to up-level – meaning shifting trauma with the NARP Program when she feels a trigger, any dense painful energy in her body and her life appreciation, expansion and joy just grows more and more.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did, and Christine and I look forward to replying to your comments and questions below.

And if you would like to join Christine and thousands of others Thrivers by becoming a NARP member you can find all the information here. 

 

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46 Thoughts on This Will Never Happen To Me Again – Thriver Show #35 Christine
  • billie80@y7mail.com'
    BillieAnne Flakelar
    April 14, 2017

    Hi, I have been doing the NARP programme since October last year. I really identify with this story because I too had a narcissistic mother of the covert kind. She did horrific damage to me (her scapegoat child). Being the scapegoat of my family nearly destroyed me, and caused me to gravitate towards men like my mother. I too have gone from narcissist to narcissist, and now just refuse all intimate relationships, and have done so for 5 years. My psychopathic ex was the last straw for me.

    Until I stumbled upon Melanie’s programme, my PTSD was so bad I thought I was going to end up on a disability pension. So far I have been doing the programme for about six months. I have released a tremendous amount of pain; but I still have a long way to go. I will never forget the night I stumbled upon your website Melanie. I had just weened off my antidepressants after 12 years, and I had this horrendous physical emotional pain in my stomache and my heart. I literally felt like I couldn’t move, or walk out of the house. I was researching depression, and how to heal from it naturally. I was putting in the google search bar phrases such as ‘healing from depression,’ healing your sadness, grief, etc,’ when I found you.

    I have had two nervous breakdowns because of narcissistic abuse, and until beginning the programme I thought it was all my fault. You have changed my life.

    Within one week of doing module number one of the NARP programme, the physical emotional pain and devastation has left my body. I am no longer on antidepressants, I am attracting better friendships, and releasing those that were no good for me. Before the programme I was a chronic mouth ulcer sufferer; and often had at least three ulcers a week in my mouth, and an IBS sufferer. I do not get mouth ulcers anymore, and my stomache aches are less frequent. I am no longer as sensitive and insecure as I was. I am moving out of the darkness and into the the light. And, I thankyou Melanie. Such a brilliantly intelligent woman.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi BillieAnne,

      That is great that you resonated with this Thriver Show … and that you have released a lot of pain with NARP, and I am so happy that you found my work and NARP for cellular relief.

      This is so wonderful you have had such a profound shift so quickly, and I LOVE that you are moving into the Light.

      Bless you Dear Lady, and please know you are so welcome 🙂

      You are an incredible inspiration!

      Mel xo

    • anniemcc@live.com'
      Annie
      April 15, 2017

      Wow….this must be the universe sending me a message.

      I loved this interview, and normally I would skim over such emails and not bother to read let alone watch the interview, believing nothing is going to help, Ive given up all hope. Im 57 Ive been married twice, and one long term relationship, which ended 6 months ago.

      I really am at my end! Drs, professionals have not helped in fact its been a waste of money and Ive walked away after a few sessions because I know they just don’t get it. One psychologist skim over the fact that I told him my mother was a narc and had emotionally psychologically and psychically abused me. He in 15 minutes got me to imagine me as a young 5 year old girl, and to tell myself I was a big girl now and she didn’t have any control over my life again. This was a pathetic attempt of EMDR. He proudly asked ‘how do you feel now?’ I lied, I couldn’t wait to get out of his office, I could have lunged at him and pulled out the remaining hair left on his balding head. “Oh much better – I feel so much better” I picked up my bag and walked out 20 minutes before my session was over, never to return. Seriously – he was only going to cause more damage, and had no idea!

      After two suicide attempts recently, due to the end of my covert narc relationship living with him for 7 years, a previous abusive relationship with a man with OCPD (also very abusive). I am also the scapegoat for my Narcissistic mother, who ostracised me from the family due to me trying to instal boundaries since mid 90’s, and has done nothing but use malicious and vindictive treatment to punish me. She has caused so much damage managing to manipulate my son, so he didn’t talk to me for years. Triangulating me and I know exactly what this Witch told lies and rumours about me to make sure she ‘won’. This alone is the cause of so much of my pain (my own mother) I find just unfathomable that a human who has given life to their child could treat their own flesh and blood like this. I don’t even know if I could accept this treatment if I had been an Axe welding murder!

      My C ptsd is out of control, I am living as a hermit only going to the supermarket outside of ‘peak’ times. Here it is Easter, and I am alone, wanting to be alone, but not wanting to be alone. As in the video with Christine, Christmas came up…years prior I have managed to work, avoid shopping altogether and preferred to shop on line because shops/decorations/music was such a trigger, I was truely a ‘ahhhh humbug’ . This Christmas was so intolerable it was one of my suicide attempts on Christmas Day.

      I hate it my c ptsd I hate living (its not living its existing) and I don’t want to live like this anymore, I am a mere shadow of my self… so Ive been plotting my next suicide attempt. I don’t want to die, I just don’t want to live like this. After watching this Video with Melanie and Christine, I want to give this NARP a try, this could be my last hope. I don’t have time left to sit through $$$ of therapy, without really getting anywhere and taking the little life I have left.

      The body keeps score: for sure it does, Ive never been so sick – Sexually Transmitted Herpes from my Covert Narcissist with outbreaks every 2-3 weeks which has now moved into my mouth/tongue, my Irritable bowel out of control. I cant sleep, arthritis is unbearable, new points of pain popping up every day. I developed a rash the doctors says it could be ‘stress’ its spreading and is very itchy and causing me so much grief. I don’t trust ANYONE. I am constantly alert, so easily startled my poor dog barks and I just go ‘off’ because I cant stand the sudden noise which puts me through the roof….and he’s my only ‘constant’ in my miserable life. I so often feel rage and feel my blood pressure going through the roof. I cant talk to anyone because they would think I am an absolute ‘Lunie’ and hypochondriac. Seriously if I heard someone talking like me – I would think that.

      I dont deserve to live like this, I don’t deserve to be a victim over and over and over, I am a loving (too much so, too empathetic) as we on the other end of Narcissists are, I am a people pleaser. Im ready for help with NARP Programme…..how /where do I start?
      Thank you Melanie for sending me some hope. xx

      • vick.i@live.co.uk'
        Vicki
        April 15, 2017

        Dear Annie,
        I just had to write something as your post touched me so much. Nearly everything you have suffered I can totally relate to. I have been in that awful dark place for most of my life too. I just had to say just this one thing as I feel it is so important. Please believe me when I say this. I too had tried everything in my power to understand and heal from what was a living nightmare for as long as I can remember. I have spent a fortune on every kind of healing therapy known to man. I can honestly say that I found Melanie in January and I have been doing the modules as often as I can. Not as regularly as I would have liked but enough. I have to tell you that for the very first time in my life I feel peace and (dare I say) joy. It is a true miracle. I am so happy you too have found Melanie, I send you love and hugs and I really see you. You are in exactly the right place.
        With lots of love. Vicki. Xxxxxxx

      • christinem8312@gmail.com'
        Christine
        April 16, 2017

        Annie,
        I’m glad you were inspired by the interview and hope you’ve reached the end of your pain. I personally subscribed to the Silver level NARP program and all the materials I needed were included. At the time of my subscribing, I too had limited funds and considered it a small investment in my future self.

        Mel has created such a wonderful support system through the Thriver Community that you have access to many who are there to guide you without being viewed as “Luny”. Everyone deserves the freedom felt once you release the traumatic pain.

        With love for your you,
        Christine

  • nibhroinniamh@gmail.com'
    Niamh
    April 14, 2017

    Dear Melanie
    I am a single mother of 4 children.I can only afford the silver programme.Will I fully benefit from this programme as I am desperate to heal.I am in the process of divorcing an overt narcissist who can make my life hell and I need to co parent with on a daily basis.I met a “wonderful”man a year after my separation and spent 17months with him only to realise 6 months that he is an covert narcissist.I am trying to deal with being discarded and also dealing with solictors/court with as husband.Is the silver programme as successful as the good one please?I am willing to do anything to heal from this nightmare.
    Thanks

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 14, 2017

      Niamh,
      So good that you recognize that you’re not where you want to be in the relationship. My subscription to the NARP program is a Silver level too and received all the necessary materials to begin healing. Consider it the BEST investment in your future Self!

      With love to you,
      Christine

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi Niamh,

      Most definitely you can work with the Silver Program, and please know we can assist with an upgrade with NARP Forum access if you require.

      After you order the Silver Program you can send an email to support@melanietoniaevans.com and explain your circumstances, and then that can be organised.

      I hope this helps.

      Mel xo

  • Lcd13@msn.com'
    Lisa
    April 14, 2017

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I started 1 month after you and am having trouble getting connected to the little me. When you mentioned the teddy bear it was amazing. I still have my very first teddy. I am going to use it. I have also been trying to date but find myself too connected to the outcome. Need to revisit Mel’s blog. Virtual hugs to you. And always love to Mel. The NARP program brought ME back. Xo

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi Lisa,

      I LOVE that you are going to work with the Teddy Bear! Gorgeous 🙂

      So happy for you that NARP has helped you heal.

      Mel xo

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 15, 2017

      Lisa,
      I am happy that my story helps you in your pursuit of well-being! The teddy bear helps make it a more tactical experience for me and I hope it helps further your own up leveling.

      With love for you,
      Christine

  • kardaw28@gmail.com'
    Karen
    April 14, 2017

    This is very interesting listening, and reading.I have followed your YouTube videos, and read your material, and listening to Christine’s story. I haven’t enrolled into any of your courses, but I have been on your FB. I must admit at the time I was broke. I feel the seeds I acquired, from you and other sources, have helped me. I have just join up to do my masters 3 in Reiki, and other sources that had lifted me. I’ve done a lot of self healing, and have achieved success. I am still in contact with my narc the father of my last 2 children. I’ve still some way to go, I allow him there because the children want him, and he does bring some gifts. He still puts me down, twists stories, but I don’t care, but I do tell him to leave when he becomes to much. I believe in myself, I know I’m good I’m worth. I do struggling at times, but not because of what he’s done or said. My lesson was to know how capable, and strong I am, all his criticism of me I faced. At first it was so he wouldn’t criticise me, but now it’s for me to live a full, loving, and peaceful life.I still love him, and see his good, but I love myself now, and don’t need to justify my self. I feel my journey is starting to flourish, and now one I can love, there will always be more to learn, but I’m starting to enjoy it.You are light, I have benefited from your experience, I have big dreams, but I’m still in my infancy. Blessings to you

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi Karen,

      I am so pleased you are healing you and becoming more solid within yourself.

      Sending blessings for your continued breakthroughs.

      Mel xo

  • Jennifermchase@yahoo.com'
    Jeffifer
    April 14, 2017

    Thanks for sharing and uplifting! I have the foot pain issue as well – it was a reaction to a N encounter in 2007 that set me off. One of a string of Ns that happens so often to those of us who had N parents and heavy conditioning as children. The N encounter in 2016 brought me to my knees and I’ve had a lot of physical pain since. I am looking forward to resolving the residuals of that experience of being frozen and vulnerable.

    Christine – I’m in Denver Metro. Are you in the front range area?

    ❤️❤️❤️

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi Jeffifer,

      wow re the foot issue!!!

      Gosh 🙂

      Please know once the trauma is released we do re-set back to wholeness.

      Mel xo

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 15, 2017

      Jeffifer,
      Yes, I am in the Denver metro area. My foot pain and ALL physical ailments have disappeared since using Mel’s NARP program. Are you using the Quantum Healing?

      Cheers,
      Christine

  • nicopopliceanu@yahoo.com'
    Nicoleta
    April 14, 2017

    Congratulations, Christine! What a wonderful story! I am happy for you!
    Have a divine day!

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 15, 2017

      Thank you, Nicoleta! Joyous peace & love to you as well!

  • barbradle@gmail.com'
    Barbara Radle
    April 14, 2017

    I want to share that I am breaking free from being hooked into the narcissists dangerous script I was able to recognize a co-worker was a narcissist when my intuition was screaming at me that she was “ruthless” Then another co-worker referred to her as hot and cold Providentially I read this edition of Thriver and Melanie’s email talking about overt and covert narcissists and hot and cold OMG! Then all the pieces fell into place Thanks again Melanie It is so fantastic when you see that you can take the reigns and refuse to let them hook into your trauma This time I headed them off at the pass but the brief interaction with this narcissist reminded me of the abuse they inject into your life and trouble they bring

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 14, 2017

      Hi Barbara,

      I am so pleased this show resonated with you, and that this Thriver Show helped you.

      Bless Dear Lady!

      Mel xo

  • mibadoda@gmail.com'
    Miba
    April 14, 2017

    I still need to work on letting go :). And it is true, we’re not big enough, hehehe :).

  • Karenbuysell@hotmail.com'
    Karen
    April 15, 2017

    I had a wow moment at around 45-46 mins where you talk about passing trauma down the generations. I instantly thought of my daughter and have some questions…
    1. Her narc father left for another woman when she was a baby, his father did exactly the same thing. I haven’t yet done your program but how do I help her to change her course in life given she was born before I have done any cellular work (to break my own patterns)? I can understand how future children may be ok. She is only 4.
    2. My daughters narc father has had significant life traumas (army, childhood etc). None of which excuse his behaviour. How do I help her young self navigate passed on traumas from him? And behaviour modeled by him since her birth? Since it’s unlikely he’ll ever do this sort of reflection and personal work himself.
    3. Where do I find info on what the potentially consequences are of her having a high spectrum narc father in her life? And how can I protect her?
    I have been following your channel for months and have only held off buying your program due to financial reasons. I imagine that’s what you hear a lot from a narc abused community!! But I thank you deeply Melanie for your amazing free resources xx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 15, 2017

      Hi Karen,

      I truly do believe with all my heart as parents it is vital for us to lead the way, because when we shift we then create the energetic standpoint for our children to join us at.

      Epigenetically it is all deeply and cellularly connected, and that is why I believe it is very very difficult to help our children change what we have not yet healed within ourselves.

      Whenever we try to change another (anyone not just our child) in order to feel “okay” we are very much in Wrong Town – it is Quantum impossibility … all that can happen is we will feel more distressed about that topic because everything we try to do will create “more of that”.

      When we make it about healing ourselves FOR us and our children – THEN They get better.

      In answer to question number 2 it only takes one healthy parent to be the healthy parent who leads the way … when you heal from him, she will follow your empowerment.

      In answer to number 3 that is not a track I would even go down, I would simply start releasing trauma, get empowered and healthy and see your daughter become that to.

      Why focus on the trauma in defence and bring that into the picture?

      Every moment we spend researching narcissists, what they do and what they may do and deeply mire ourselves in the toxicity of that – they win. Because every time we hand power away doing that … focusing on the outside, we deny ourselves of our own healing, recovery and wholeness on the inside – which is the only place the shift and change can take place.

      It doesn’t matter who a narcissist was / is / does when we heal. They become ineffectual and inconsequential.

      Truly … even if coparenting.

      When you become the healthiest happiest most whole and authentic person you can be I promise you, that your daughter will shine through – regardless of who he is.

      Are you aware of the small monthly payments Karen?

      What price do we put on the health and radiance of our entire life (as well sour children’s) – as well as the ability to get healthy and abundant in all areas?

      Mel xo

  • Duniawright@gmail.com'
    Dee
    April 15, 2017

    Hi Melanie

    In Christine’s thriver story you touched on how true healing is a cellular not an intellectual process.

    Could you please shed some more light on this for me?

    I think I have spent alot of my life suppressing feelings as a defence mechanism and trying to ‘think’ my way out of the pain of the past, to no avail.

  • uoksainos@yahoo.com.ar'
    Sonia
    April 15, 2017

    Amazes me how this lady was able to transmute her life long discapacities in such a short time!!! I’ve been moduling and getting onto any other programming that promises such a thing for years now and I still can’t recover. Maybe it has to do not only with an actual or ex partner but with a parent, and even when I’m holding to my mother’s ashes and my father is totally estranged from me, I still keep the memories intact. I haven’t known any other!!! but narcissistic abuse.
    Even when I’m having to put up with more abuse perpetrated from my siblings part, I still can’t take the necessary legal step that would sort this out.
    I am at an odds end, where I know what I need to do but don’t want to take the necessary steps.
    I have lost sooo much every time I tried it, and in my last mail, which I’ll reproduce once more, since there was no replay, Is there such a thing as a transference taking place when dealing with narcissists ? Do they take on more of your character traits and you more of theirs? Because I find myself being accused of things I never was and they seem to be more like what I used to be. Reliable, hard worker, strength where the capacities I used to hold, but these days someone else is taking them, and I’m up for discard!!! No matter what I do, even if it takes taking two or more employed to replace me.
    It was uplifting to watch this thriver TV, and for a moment I felt I could be it too, but obviously, in the long term doesn’t work for me. I can’t get my siblings to get together to organize what to do with my mother’s ashes for God’s sake!!, seven years after she passed away.
    Keep trying Melanie, I’ll do too, I’ve tried forever with this issue now and I still can’t get out of it. When you’ve got a whole system running on it there is very little hope of getting out of it other than dead.
    Blessings and courage, as the representative of this healing modality you must have it.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 15, 2017

      Hi Sonia,

      when you have bene working with NARP are you targeting the original wounds from parents as well?

      It is so vital that these original traumas are shifted out and replaced with wellbeing in order for that trauma to go. I would also suggest coming into the NARP Forum for help, guidance and coaching – because I truly do believe there is a way through for you.

      Here is the Forum Sonia … http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      Wishing you hope, strength and healing.

      Mel xo

  • lorri.henry@yahoo.com'
    Selkie
    April 15, 2017

    So much of Christine’s account resonated with me, including the teddy 🐻 Totally agree about how helpful it is.💙💙
    I also have Christmas trauma and ptsd around watching my husband die suddenly and traumatically then.
    I hate sounding like a broken record about this but it is a bit of a block for me.
    I get very anxious and panicky and physically sick every Christmas.
    I have been moduling for some time now but I haven’t found a way to process the event as I haven’t found how it relates to little me as childhood wound.
    But listening to Mel and Christine talk about generational patterns I remembered my mums dad died suddenly and traumatically when she was about 20. Before I was conceived.
    I really want to heal that pattern and not pass it down the line.
    If anyone can intuit a way into this or help me find a way of moduling it I would be very relieved and grateful.
    By the way I wear insets in my shoes too 😊 as I had developed plantar fasciitis , but I have noticed a big improvement in that as my body is gradually becoming less lopsided and bent out of shape.
    I know now that this was because my inner being was tormented and shutting down.
    But I am so grateful that my soul is decompressing now and the growing freedom I am feeling in becoming myself thanks to Quantum Healing and NARP.

    • lorri.henry@yahoo.com'
      Selkie
      April 15, 2017

      PS good luck with the book Christine…I think it will be brilliant read, you have great clarity and insight and really zoom in on the issue and nail it.

      • christinem8312@gmail.com'
        Christine
        April 15, 2017

        Selkie,
        I truly appreciate your words of enouragement on writing my memoir. My gift of encouragement to you is to simply allow yourself to FEEL the pain when using the modules with letting you mind try to pinpoint anything in particular. Let the pain flood through you without mental intervention as much as possible. Our mind really wants to hold onto the victim hood because it is all it has known before noe. Trust the process!

        I hope you’re able to reach full release with using this general flow of feeling and tactile sensation with a teddy bear.

        Sending you love & light,
        Christine

        • lorri.henry@yahoo.com'
          Selkie
          April 15, 2017

          Thank you Christine.
          I will keep feeling and releasing.
          No going back!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 16, 2017

      Hi Selkie,

      that must have been so painful a time that trauma at Christmas and then the reminder each Christmas. MY heart goes out you (((( <3 ))))

      Please know Selkie there does not need to be any "known connection" to process that trauma (or any trauma).

      Just being with it loading it up releasing and replacing. The wounds on such a thing often are deeply epigenetic / ancient - they certainly don't need to be childhood traumas.

      Just as you have described the pattern of your Mother's Father ... so much we can take one traumatically from our predecessors.

      Are you in the NARP Forum Selkie to get help with the coaching of how to shift this?

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      There we can help you in great detail.

      That is wonderful NARP is helping you so much Selkie, and now the next level of freedom for your Inner Being awaits.

      Mel xo

      • lorri.henry@yahoo.com'
        Selkie
        April 16, 2017

        Hi
        I am on the forum and have just posted there.
        Some great support already

  • lumendrops2@gmail.com'
    Tina
    April 15, 2017

    Melanie, I found you on YouTube, subscribed, and have spent the day watching your vids, learning about narcissists’ tricks. I have an adult long-time friend whom has many of the symptoms of a narcissist and with whom I am in the midst of breaking ties (no contact) so I can live in peace. However, she has my house key and I have hers. I would like to know the best way to get my key back and return hers without the appearance of breaking “no contact”? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

    Thank you for the valuable work you are doing to help people who are trapped in a narcissist’s web. I have been for 15 years.

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 16, 2017

      Tina,
      If I were in your shoes, I’d change my door locks and drop her key in the mail in order to maintain No Contact whilst healing. Well wishes to you in pursuing your healing and freedom.

      Kind regards,
      Christine

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 16, 2017

      Hi Tina,

      I agree entirely with Christine.

      It is well worth detaching from all and every drama. Especially with people we know can’t just return things peacefully and “do the right thing”.

      Mel xo

  • gaialuna@hotmail.co.uk'
    Vikki
    April 16, 2017

    What a great interview… so full of joy and lightness. I totally get what you mean about the beautiful things out there in the Universe that you would never have known about whilst trapped in the pain. I’ve been doing NARP for 16 months and it’s been truly amazing. My father is the N and I’ve had 3 long term relationships with Ns too. I am totlally NC with all family. I took a year out for myself to properly focus on healing and didn’t work and now it’s just 6 weeks to go before I premiere my one-woman show in the Fringe festival Brighton UK. I’m writing it, acting and singing it and I can’t wait. I’m overwhelmed at the love I now attract, the understanding and support from newly manifested people and from older friends who are awakened in new ways because of what I share. I’ve been asked to do an inspirational talk at an event too, which is just mind-blowing to me. Tears of joy are so lovely. I totally resonate with your words Christine, the stand-up sounds fab. I too have written reams and reams of detail about my experience, this show is just the start of many ways I want to tell my story. Much love to you Christine and Melanie, so grateful for your continued inspiration and for allowing me to reconsider the idea of joy and to know what to do with it. There is new love on my horizon and with the tools I have now I am moving forward with that same open minded attitude, it may serve to confirm my healing efforts and new alignment, or it may trigger, either way I’m not avoiding it. Life really is very lovely since I learned to love myself xxx

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 16, 2017

      Vikki,
      Isn’t it absolutely AMAZING what comes into your life experience once you’ve truly let the trauma go?! I continue to be surprised and delighted by what the Universe lines up for me.

      Your creativity will continue to flow in new and exciting ways. Such fun you’re allowing to replace the pain! Thank you for sharing your uplifting experience too.

      Cheers,
      Christine

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 16, 2017

      Hi Vikki,

      how wonderful that you have burst through into your True Self Life as a result of releasing the trauma from inside your body!

      Bless you Dear Lady!

      Mel xo

  • shurrell1126@yahoo.com'
    Shirrel Hurrell
    April 18, 2017

    So much of this is exactly what I’m going thru for 7 years of marriage. I would like to join but concerned he will find out. I’m 69 and have health issues Could not be without our insurance and not able to work at this point. Any suggestions or help would be muchly appreciated. Thanks

  • My_bba@yahoo.com'
    Hélène
    April 18, 2017

    The narc, the spath, the borderline…will never see. In death, they will remain indignant that they are the center of the universe. Good for them. As long as they go elsewhere, away from humans.
    Loooove this interview.
    Seeing the ppl. Loving the ppl. They are there. I see them.
    Slowly. Carefully. But i see them.

  • My_bba@yahoo.com'
    Hélène
    April 18, 2017

    Will he change?
    I. D. C.
    Amen
    No hate. No nothing. I just dont care.
    What release.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      April 18, 2017

      Hi Helene,

      It certainly is! Bless 🙂

      Mel xo

    • christinem8312@gmail.com'
      Christine
      April 19, 2017

      Helene,
      Indeed, my “I don’t care” if he changes is a powerful release by recognizing that the only person whom I have the power to change is ME! Whether changing for the better occurs for him is utterly irrelevant to my own personal evolution. Being able to genuinely FEEL this freedom has only been achieved by letting go of the trapped trauma within my being through Quantum Healing.

      Peace and love to you in pursuing your healing and freedom for yourself.

      Christine

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