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This week we are nearing Easter.

For many of us this is a time spent with people close to us. These times are some of the most memorable of my life, many of them good but some of them were at the time, very unpleasant.

As many of you may know, years ago I lived out a pattern of attracting abusive, non-supportive and unhealthy people into my life. When holiday events came around, spending time with them felt like walking on eggs shells. I was not operating in my true self, and I would do whatever I could to try and win their approval… this was exhausting!

Now that I have healthy boundaries, and a firm grasp on my chosen and aligned reality, these people no longer exist in my life, and as I have for many Easters now, I will be spending this holiday with loving, supporting,authentic people.

This is so much more fulfilling, and so less exhausting!

I hope this year you are spending time with people who are healthy for you, and if you still have some damaged, abusive and negative people in your life, you will detach from their negativity, and / or do your best to lay firm, clear and loving boundaries, or choose not to participate with them so that you can be free to do the things this Easter that create happiness, wellbeing and fulfilment for you.

 

A Little About Me

As we are nearing the time of giving and sharing I would love to share some more of my life with you and where I live.

As many of you know I moved to central rural Victoria. The property is 67 acres ‘off the grid’. It is run by solar power, there is no mains power, no telephone line, and no town water. The internet connect is mobile with an extended aerial (which originally was a huge challenge to get right), all power other than gas comes off the solar unit, and 2 water tanks and 3 dams are the water supply.

I have a definitive interest in self-sufficiency, and I love the thought of being able to grow my own vegetables, make my own cheese and milk, and have my own eggs. For a long time now I have been trying to avoid chemicals and processed food, as I truly believe we are what we eat, and that a great part of the spiritual journey includes what we put in our body.

I believe having a healthy body helps promote a healthy mind, emotions and soul. As a previous co-dependent and obsessive, compulsive individual on the journey to continual self-empowerment, I know how important it is to take responsibility for creating my own well-being, and looking after myself the best I can.

I’m not always perfect at this, there are times when the supermarket is a very easy option, but it definitely is a goal to not have to rely on convenience and be able to provide healthy food for myself and the people I love.

Here are some pictures of my life!

I’m standing here in one of the paddocks on the property; you can see my home in the background.

 

This is one of my goats ‘Clyde’. With his girlfriend ‘Bonnie’ there will be baby kids in the future and a source of milk. The goats were raised by hand from bottle and they follow me everywhere, they think I am their mother!

 

Some of the girls who lay the most delicious eggs…

 

In this picture you can see the house, the massive solar system on top of the shed, the large dam in front of the house and the veggie patch.

 

Here I am, working with a Quanta Freedom client in my home office by skype. I’m in my trackies! Shhh…don’t tell anyone!

Hope you enjoyed!

 

Upcoming Video

Those of you who have received Quanta Freedom Healings or accessed the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program are aware of the powerful and life changing results they are capable of facilitating. And you will have realised that these healing programs are very unique and are probably nothing like you have experienced before.

The problem is people that have not accessed these programs have a difficult time fully understanding my healing philosophy and why it works. I get many questions every week such as: What is Quanta Freedom Healing? How does it work? How can you work on me from thousands of miles away? and How can recorded healings that aren’t ‘live’ have a positive effect on my life?

My healing programs are unique because they release and replace your emotions energetically at the deepest levels of where the trauma and pain originally took place. My solutions address the issue directly, rather than just treat the symptoms.

I call this healing philosophy: Energetic Healing.

My definition of Energetic Healing is: The  healing of an emotional issue at its root core level.

Beginning last week I have been working tirelessly to produce a video that explains it all. How I developed my healing philosophy, why it produces the miraculous life changing results that it does powerfully and quickly, and why it is so radically different to everything we have been led to believe previously about ‘healing’.

It should be ready in a few weeks – so please keep a look out on facebook and in your inbox.

You can like my Facebook page here to make sure you don’t miss out on this or any other helpful articles, podcasts and videos that get released in the future..

 

New Homepage Design and Welcome Page

If you are a regular visitor you may have noticed some new additions to the website.

Firstly the redesign of melanietoniaevans.com homepage and the introduction of my welcome page. These have been developed to make your user experience more enjoyable and provide a perfect starting point for new visitors to ensure they get the information they need as quickly as possible.

I love feedback! If you have any constructive/positive feedback or suggestions to make to the website, welcome page or anything else I would love to hear it. You can leave feedback on the comments below this post, on Facebook or by email.

 

Have a wonderful Easter, and I would to hear from anyone else that shares an interest in self-sufficiency.

 

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22 thoughts on “Happy Easter Message And Some Important Updates

  1. Finding you and your newsletter has been the eye opener i needed to “name it” and a helpful tool to take my power back. Thank you for your inspiration and dedication. Im forever grateful.

  2. hi melanie , As a little feed back i would love to share with you the e books have been extreamly enlightening.I am in your debt , for the awareness i now have. My ex seems to me to fit the NPD as you have described it , as do i fit the drained person.I now see that i held on to the brlief that i can fix anything way past the quit point. It never seems to completely go way and i recognise that in me this seems like a failure on my part.I am recovering , With much heart felt thanks to your work and writings i am walking on the road less traveled once more.
    The road back to ME.

    love and best wishes for you on gowing life .

    kenn

  3. hi melanie , As a little feed back i would love to share with you the e books have been extreamly enlightening.I am in your debt , for the awareness i now have. My ex seems to me to fit the NPD as you have described it , as do i fit the drained person.I now see that i held on to the brlief that i can fix anything way past the quit point. It never seems to completely go way and i recognise that in me this seems like a failure on my part.I am recovering , With much heart felt thanks to your work and writings i am walking on the road less traveled once more.
    The road back to ME.

    love and best wishes for your on gowing life .

    kenn

  4. Wow Melanie, what a lovely property and I love your goat! This Easter has been very relaxing and have my family here staying with my mum and I. They are wonderful people and I feel so at ease, being able to be myself. It is a huge difference to being with my N ex and for the first time in ages my nervous system seems to be calm, not anxious, no butterflies or adrenaline rushes and no tears to end the day. I live away from him now too, so he has no idea where to find me. He sent me an email to say he would like to meet me over the weekend and I am proud to say, I said no. I will look forward to the Quanta Healing session, which I most definitely will participate in soon. Thanks Mel, I am so happy to have found you, you are an inspiration and seem a very genuine ‘natural’ person, similar to my true self. Jac x

  5. Hi Melanie, love the pic’s of your property. Enjoy your Easter and thankyou so much for helping see who i was with. When you are in it it is hard to know whether there is something wrong with you or the other person is just that selfish and absorbed.

  6. I feel like I have been dumped by a wave right now, not knowing which way is up or down. I have just been blindsided by the man I truly loved and thought was the one. In trying to make some sense of his heartless, spineless treatment of me, your site has been a revelation. Like a voyeur on our relationship, even how he would chastise me: “lower your voice”. I have a long recovery ahead from this gutwrenching pain, but you have pointed me in the right direction and given me hope. Melanie, I cannot thank you enough.

  7. Hi Melanie
    you are wonderful thank you for helping me heal have a wonderful easter too and anyone else that reads this message. I love your home and aminals.

  8. Thanks for sharing the pictures!!!! You & your property are gorgeous! Being self-sufficient has always been a dream of mine. Your blog has been a huge help to me in shining a light on the confusing darkness that I had allowed to consume me. Thank you & God bless. May your Easter be peaceful, joyful & full of opportunities to laugh!

  9. Hey Mel-

    Easter is a very special holiday for me that evokes the spiritual oneness to send you and all of my other sisters out there striving and achieving victory over our narcissistic abuse a big I LOVE YOU!

    You ‘did’ go through all that you went through in your life for a reason and I’m one of them. Without your teachings, without the essence of who you are, I’d still be wandering the earth in confusion and pain. You’re a blessing Mel and know you’re never alone. I love ya girl!

    Happy Easter-

    Toni 🙂

  10. Thank you for sharing your photos…I enjoyed them..I feel like you are my close friend and i wish you lived closer so we could visit in person…This is a great newsletter. You are always so encouraging and positive. You help me to regroup and continue with believing in the new healthy me…
    Happy Easter.

  11. Mel,
    thanks for sharing a part of your life. I like the ideas of creating your own food and being off the grid! I am an old farm boy so I have lived that way growing up. I have tried to get back to that spot a number of times, It is hard to get there, You doing it, shows what you are made of!!! : )
    I have been sidetracked many times with my NPD wife, who I love dearly but cannot fix, trying to get to where you are.
    I am forever grateful, to you, for the encouragement you have given me.

    He lives!
    Easter blessings

    Lyn

  12. Mel,
    Wow your home is so beautiful and peaceful- thank you so much for sharing your photos and info on how you live day to day. Thank you for the help you have given me over the last year. You are truly an inspiration. Happy Easter!!!!
    Jasmine

  13. Hi Mel Many thanks for your inspiration – I look forward to the help and change I so seriously need as I commence this journey. Happy Easter
    Marlene

  14. Well, this has really been an interesting day! I have been with a narcissist for almost 15 years now. The abuse has been horrific. It has taken sooo long for me to open my eyes to what has really been happening in my life. When I met “Wayne” I didn’t realize the real person that he was. He blew into my life (at the time I was married), gave me all of the attention that I was lacking, and won my heart. I left my husband to be with him, not knowing what I was really in for. I didn’t know that he was an alcholic, or a gambler. I was madly in love and after being with him for 3 years, I wanted so badly to marry him. That’s when he started changing. He would drive over an hour to my house, pick a fight and take off. Everything that I did was wrong. After finding out that he was cheating, I backed off. That’s when he left her and bought me a wonderful ring, and begged me to marry him. Stupid me. When I read your post about being with people who brought you down every holiday, I really could relate. Every year, from September (his birthday month) through Christmas, it has been HELL living with him. I have begun to hate holidays and my December birthday because of him. I have tried so many times to get rid of him, and he ALWAYS comes back! Last year, I tried to divorce him. He called the police and lied to them and they arrested me because he physically hurt himself (a scratch) and lied and said that I did it. Well, because the police have been to my home so many times before, they got sick of it and believed him and arrested ME! Then, a few weeks later, he set me up again! And asked me to meet him. Well, then he called police and said that I was harassing him. Because there was a protective order, I was arrested AGAIN! Well, he hired an attorney for me, claiming he felt bad and was sorry. Stupid me, I believed him and let him back in the house and stopped the divorce because he said everything that I wanted to hear. That was last year. Well, tonight I threw him out again. And the same thing. Police were involved. Thank goodness no arrest this time. But, I am truly done. I have lost so much along the way. Working two jobs and going to college while he has laid around since 2008. I enjoy my peaceful time too much. In between break-ups I had reconnected with an old boyfriend who meant the world to me. We were soulmates and best friends. Because we valued our friendship, we never got together seriously. I lost him to cancer this past December. It opened my eyes and how I wish I could have just one day with him. I chose this horrible person, who has treated me with such disrespect, and lost my best friend. This has made me stronger in my battle to get away from my husband. And today, I said a little prayer. While at a bookstore today, I said to my friend, “Please send me a sign by showing me a book about Narcissism, so that I know this will be the end of it.” Well, no sign at the bookstore, but I just got home, turned on the computer, and saw you. He always had a funny sense of humor like that. Thank you for helping me through this by sharing your stories. Without you, I would have never know that the problem really wasn’t me.

  15. You look gorgeous! And what a wonderful place and way to live! 🙂 All the best!

  16. Dearest Mel

    I had no idea that the word Narcissist even existed – more so a human being who could have this type of behaviour and very well described as having NPD. I was in this environment a long time ago and had to get out of the situation gradually. Having known you in this way has made me gain my power back in a huge way. Please know that you are extremely important in my life from now and into the future. By just reading AND applying what you have to say have turned my pain into POWER! Love your home and animals. Remain beautiful, much love xxx

  17. Dear Mel
    Service to humanity is service to god. And god helps those who help themselves. Thank you for both!!!

  18. Dear Melanie,
    Your website has literally saved me from myself. between therapy and reading your website and publications, i have begun to heal from a recent narcissitic abusive relationship. I can identify with everything you have written and I am working on healing myself and keeping the focus on me. It is truly odd though how focused and obsessed i am with the N that was in my life. we only dated 3.5 months but it felt like years and the memories are extremely vivid. it still boggles my mind as to why my memories are so vivid and emotional. However, i am making great strides toward recovery. Thank you so much for all that you do for those of us who wish to end this cycle in our lives. This was not the first N that I have dated. In fact its what I seem to attract. But he will be the last, I assure you.
    Jen

  19. Melanie
    You are definitely on the right track for you! When you want to go out an get your own dinner (pheasant, chukar, quail), write to me. My hobby throughout my life has been training retrievers for field competition and now I training my first pointing dog…and together this fall, all on our own, we got pheasants for Xmas gifts to give and a pheasant dinner for us…talk about creating a life and a meal!

    I am doing your Silver package NARP program. I am an internationally known figure in my field whose personal life has been run by my own demons which symptomatically presented itself with the four major relationships with men. I have never felt the sense of self empowerment I am beginning to realize since I found your program. Therapy is a good start, but the understanding of impulses are not intellectually felt, only logically acknowledged and the logical meandering (analysis paralysis to borrow your phrase) doesn’t stop the craving for self punishment through finding unfixable partners, nor for getting ones true needs met. Your work is ground breaking. It goes to addressing the true source of the problem. I have spent a painful week on MOD 1…layers of pain finally abated that had nothing to do with the past relationships with others, but my true relationship with myself. Thank you. God speed you forward to many more rewarding years in your lovely new nature abode which I know is nurturing you within from the beauty without you have surrounded yourself with.

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