One of the most frustrating things about being narcissistically abused is that you get caught in never ending cycles where first, you’re idolized and adored, then before you know it, you’re devalued and abhorred. Generally … that’s how toxic relationships kick off – as glorious and delightful. Then the mirage cracks and suddenly you’re garbage. [...]

In this article, I'm not going to give you practical processes to help you simply get on with your life. For a very good reason, because they simply don't work. Rather, I'm going to help you get free from the inside, because that is where your true recovery lies. Narcissistic abuse is a spiritual Soul [...]

Toxic narcissists have many tricks up their sleeves to lure you in. They know just how to manipulate you so they can mine you for valuable supply and empty you out. Control is what they’re after but so many of us are totally unaware of what is happening – it’s mind blowing what they get [...]

Happy 2022 lovely Thrivers! 🎉 As 2021 draws to a close, I want to join you in welcoming this brand New Year with hope. A strong hope and knowing that you can heal yourself fast from the trauma and pain of narcissistic abuse. I want you to know from the bottom of my heart that […]

Have you heard the term ‘gaslighting’ but wonder what it really means? If you find yourself in confusing situations that make you doubt your own reality and that are accusatory, hurtful or painful for you, you may be being gaslit. You can be especially suspicious if you don’t have these confusing times with other people. […]

It’s that time of year … Christmas … the time that many people love and narcissists love to hate. Why? Because family gatherings and celebrations are not ALL about them! This is true for narcissistic love partners, spouses and family members. In a romantic sense, if you have moved beyond the idealised honeymoon phase, where […]

Like me, you may never have known the difference between an unhealthy and healthy relationship. Maybe your parents were busy surviving and providing and didn’t have the time to model healthy interactions. Perhaps (and my heart goes out to you if this was your childhood) your parents were terribly absent, abusive, neglectful, and even addicts […]

The thought of falling prey to another narcissist after having lived through a first horrific experience may be keeping you up at night. I know exactly how this feels because I fell for a second narcissist that was the total opposite of the first and it really caught me off guard. I’ll be honest, I […]

Wow! I love this topic … because it is so … well … interesting. Maybe like me, you used to believe that narcissists have big egos, meaning … that they are confident. Certainly, with many narcissists it would appear that they are incredibly confident, because they have big personalities, are strong, sure of themselves, compelling, […]