It is so easy when we have been hurt to move into the normal human response of ‘blaming’. “Something feels wrong, and someone has to be responsible for this wrong feeling.” We then quickly move into blaming. Please understand that by ‘blaming’ I mean believing: “I am in this circumstance because of what someone else […]

If you have been in a narcissistic relationship you know what it feels like to be with someone who is false. At first they sweep you off your feet, they are charming, caring, supportive, loving and everything you could have desired in a partner. Before long some actions “don’t add up” and something feels “off” […]

When you are stuck in the agonising thoughts about the narcissist, it is excruciatingly difficult to function. Your mind is so busy going over the lies, betrayals, and your incessant questions to yourself “How could this happen to me?” “How could they do this to me?” “How has my life turned out like this?”  that […]

Have you ever asked: How long is it going to take me to get better? Am I going to be stuck with these feelings forever? Today I want to help you understand pain and the duration of pain from a more empowered perspective. This will help you with understanding how important it is to shift […]

I recently had a wonderful discussion on the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Central Facebook Group with a lovely lady called Mel. What came out of this discussion resulted in a huge breakthrough in her recovery. Mel discovered an essential lesson to making a full recovery from narcissistic abuse, and I’m really excited to share it with […]

Have you been in a situation where you were completely obsessed, terrorised and emotionally crippled with the fear of what the narcissist was going to do next, and then your worst fears came true? The smear campaign hit with maximum effect, the phone call to your boss discrediting you happened, and the threat the narcissist was […]

Most of us know what it is like to feel angry, resentful and even to have strong feelings of hate towards someone. These feelings may only last a short time, or you may have been carrying these feelings for years. By holding resentment towards other people you are effectively shifting the blame onto someone else. […]

So many people ask me after leaving the narcissist and beginning No Contact, “When is the pain going to end?” This is a universal question, and one that defies all logic. You see, it isn’t normal. If it were normal, after escaping horrific abuse, you would feel relief. But nothing could be further from the truth. […]

When you connected with your narcissist, did you feel like finally you had met true love? Was the connection so intense and powerful that you believed your love was truly meant to be for ever, regardless of the pain your experienced? I hear the same story time and time again, in fact nearly everyone agrees […]