Do you relate to this?
When I first met the narcissist, I thought I had finally come home to my dream life.
Yet, as time passed it became more and more evident that the dream life with him was never going to be real, let alone last.
In order to hold onto the belief that my life would turn out exactly as I hoped, I had to make excuses, rationalise his behaviour and pretty much downright lie to myself.
Until, I finally decided enough was enough … and by the time I did, I was looking at my life smashed to pieces in a pile of rubble all around me.
Losing the dream life that we thought was our reality with a narcissist is torturous.
It’s one of the HARDEST things to heal from.
How on earth were we to know that “creating dreams together” was never the narcissist’s intentions, or even desire … at all!?
In fact, the aspirations and goals that you have, that the narcissist so professed to partner you with, are truly unimportant to him or her.
And like the sanctity of your emotions and soul, the narcissist is well and truly capable and willing to throw all and sundry – including your dreams – under a bus in order to be right and preserve his or her ego.
You know that to be true because you have suffered the brunt of that, or are seeing with your own eyes how that unfolds.
Sooo … how do we recover from this?
Many people in contemporary Abuse Communities never do.
But as Thrivers, I am SO happy to say – we can and regularly do.
And in fact, many of us have been able to experience the profound process of losing it all to get it all – connecting to the alignment of the True Dream that Life REALLY has in store for us.
In no shape or form, after narcissistic abuse do we need to give up our dreams …
In fact, after narcissistic abuse we have the ability to create them for REAL, enjoy them unconditionally and never fear losing them again.
This episode explains how, after going through the most horrendous losses of our life, we can connect to our True Self and the only Life that would ever genuinely gratify our soul.
I hope with all of my heart this episode can inspire you to know that there IS life after narcissistic abuse, because it is my greatest mission to help you, like myself, one day get to enjoy the glory of that.
Because that is your birthright!
And … as always … I adore hearing from you with your comments …. and I love to help, so please post any questions that you have.
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