The Outer and the Inner – What Is Life Showing Us?

I know that many of us think that we are there with our unhealed inner programs. We may have thought because we had done so much work on ourself, that we had it right, and we’d moved into the space of receiving a great life experience.

Then bang! Something happens in our life that feels like a major catastrophe. Maybe a relationship that you thought was for life breaks down, maybe you lose your job, or maybe something in your life who you vowed and declared that you could trust turns on you.

These times can feel devastating, and whilst gutted on the ground you are shaking you head in disbelief thinking How did this happen to me again?

We’ve all been there, and many of us are presently there looking at the crumbs of what we thought our life was, shattered on the ground.

 

The Outside or Inside Choice

Sooner or later, there is only two choices we can make. The first, and one most unconsciously chosen, is to look to the outside as the victim, and blame life and others for what happened, or apply the personal responsibility of coming home to yourself.

This is not about blaming yourself, and this is not about excusing someone else’s bad behaviour. This is about working through the undeniable Energetic Law of so within, so without and realising that everything you experience in life without exception shows up in your experience to grant you the feedback as to what your inner belief systems are or aren’t doing.

The truth is, some people get it easier than most. They just happened to arrive on this planet with a naturally aligned personality, and flow into the life they wanted to create. These individuals had great parental role models, and flowed forward into normal happy lives. It just wasn’t their journey to work through lots of personal inner stuff.

 

The Evolution of Inner ‘Stuff’

Most people that are attracted to personal development are so for a reason. They just did not get a life that worked out that easy. Many of us ‘self developers’ have had a great deal of stuff to work through. We had lots of unresolved inner programs that we were born with, had reinforced by our role models and continued to live out the struggles of these programs.

I put my hand up as absolutely one of these people, as are many other healers who walk the planet…hence why we teach what we most need to learn.

 

Bringing it Back to Self

So what is our salvation in these times? Truly it is to look at the ‘outside’ and see what hurts. Write it down and you will note that you will have a great deal of negative and painful emotion around it. Now feel into it, and ask the question “What is it about my unhealed stuff that has attracted this into my life?”If you have been doing personal development for a while, soul searching or applying consciousness this will be easier for you.

Even if you haven’t previously, try to really feel into and open up to the answer that you receive. Believe me, for your salvation, you really need to go there.

The answer needs to be about yourself, it will not give you closure, healing or liberation past these painful events in your life if your answer is focused on the outside.

I’ll give you an example. Let’s say someone you trusted, turned on you, and stared creating havoc, pain or accusations in your life.

If you keep your focus on them, not only do you not heal the part of you within that attracted this pain, you will also add more to the pain. You will in fact, as per your emotional focus, which is the very fuel of Law of Attraction, keep attracting more of what is already happening, as well as sign up for other identical occurrences further along your journey of life.

If you take your focus off the outside and use the person and their behaviour as a catalyst to heal, you start to open up into a different space which will serve you.

It puts you back in your own truth, power and the ability to change yourself – because you truly have no power to change another – yet when you change yourself everything in your present and future experience changes, and therefore this person who wronged you will either amend, or move out of your experience.

As will the lost jobs, money struggle situations, broken love relationships etc. etc. This is inevitable when you are no longer a vibrational match.

So back to the job of realising and accepting that this turned up in my life (clearly) because there is more for me to heal. The next step is working out what it is that you need to heal.

It all comes back to the question “What is it about my unhealed stuff that has attracted this into my life?”

In regards to being persecuted and hurt by someone you thought you could trust, when you ask yourself the question, you may feel the fear, and realise this trigger is leading you to something in your past. Truly the root of it may not even have anything to do with this person originally.

Have you had a similar occurrence before that you are still holding fear over? Do you have a deep down inner belief that you are not a good person, or that you don’t deserve respectful treatment, or that if people get too close that they could betray you again? Do you feel that you are not truly lovable?

This week on Empowered Love Radio I did a follow up show to the topic Taking Personal Responsibility – Your #1 Tool To Get Your Recovery Started.

This show will give you additional information for getting love right and creating your own wellbeing from the inside out.

In this show I talk about how you can take responsibility in your relationship to inspire love, respect and support from others in healthy ways.

If last month’s topic Taking Personal Responsibility was useful to you, you will certainly find this show useful.

Listen to Creating Our Own Wellbeing Part 2

If you haven’t read or listened to last month’s topic you can find it here.

 

More to Heal, and that’s Okay!

Are there still inner programs, regardless of how much work you have already done on yourself, you just hadn’t truly healed, even though you thought you had?

If you have received pain from ‘the outside’ the answer is “Yes”…

It can be very difficult to remember, when in grave emotional pain, that life and the journey of evolution is constant. We are here on planet earth, we are travelling through space and time, and our truest mission is to keep working at healing and releasing the inner programs that are attracting to us the life we don’t wish to continue living.

We are all definitely here to experience a joyous life, we just need to work at it!

When we do that, conditions improve inwardly and outwardly powerfully. We step up a level, we start to break free from pain, and we start to attract an entirely different reality into our experience.

Importantly, we also choose better situations, we learn to trust our gut, know that we can say “No” to what or who doesn’t feel right, and we start to speak up healthily regarding our needs, rather than leaving life to assumptions, guess work or ‘what if’s’, and we make our choices in regard to what and who is our truth, rather than living in situations that aren’t.

If like me, you have done an enormous work on yourself, yet still have to suffer disappointment and pain – please take heart and know that life is always serving you. It is always presenting you with exactly the right information to grant you positive feedback, or allow you to realise that there is more for you to heal in order for your soul to truly break free into the REAL life experience that you desire.

The problem is as humans, we can take the game of evolution way too seriously. It can feel like tragedy and calamity, whereas really what we are being shown is we were on the wrong track and something needs to change within ourselves to step back on the right track. As well as realise that what is on the right track holds a much grander reality than the track we were on, which fell apart.

When we do step back onto the right track, via connecting with and empowering ourselves, without exception we go up to the next level of a wonderful experience.

I promise you, if the pain is a 10 out of 10, the liberation and joy on the other side of your breakthrough is a 10 out of 10.

Never give up, you didn’t come this far to give up.

You came this far to get it right.