I am totally passionate about ending our suffering and healing for real from narcissistic abuse.

In Part Two of this series, I am going to explain more about Quantum and Consciousness Science, and how I realised the three keys to heal from abuse on the day I had decided to give up on Life!

Together we take a deep and wide dive into Quantum Healing – what it is, how it works and the results it achieves.

I will also share with you how I found the answers, which were previously elusive, due to my total frustration of having a chronic condition that NOTHING was healing.

It is my greatest desire after this Part Two episode, regardless of how severe your traumas are and how broken you feel, that you can sense a light calling you forward, just as my epiphany did for me.

 

 

Video Transcript

Today’s Thriver TV is Part Two of this series, and I’m really excited to take this conversation even deeper and wider than we did last week.

So to recap what we went through last week… We went over the reasons why you may not have been able to heal yet, despite your efforts to try to get relief from the excruciating symptoms of narcissistic abuse.

We also looked at the new science – Quantum and Neuro Science – and the reasons why introspection and taking your awareness inside is how to get to the core of your abuse symptoms, to be able to tend to them, so that you can get out of the terrible loop of having the ongoing management of your internal trapped traumas.

What is so exciting is that now we have the ability to release and live free of our trauma, and not just recover, but Thrive beyond the state of self and life that we experienced before abuse, even if abuse is all we have ever known.

Today we are going to look at the following three aspects of Part One more deeply: why we can, how we can do it, and the way to achieve this!

Before we get started, however, I want to thank you all for having the courage to subscribe to my channel and be a Thriver. The world needs this awareness to break out of old paradigms of being continually sick and traumatised after abuse, so that we can be something so much greater. If you haven’t yet subscribed, I want to remind you to please do. And if you like this video, please make sure you give it a thumbs up.

Okay, let’s kick off Part Two.

The Power to Change at Our Core

Dr. Bruce Lipton upholds that the truth about genes holds the key.

Bruce maintains that pivotal to this shift in thinking is the ground-breaking insight into the function of genes. It was always believed that our genes have predispositions to turn off and on, created from our inbuilt genetics and situations in life that we have no control over.

We now know that this is not true – genes respond according to their environment. The environment outside of us in itself means nothing. It is our perception of the environment that is the TRUE environment – that’s what creates the β€˜environment’ that our cells are housed in. It’s all going on in our body.

WE are the petri dish!

It’s all to do with our consciousness. And our consciousness, our perceptions, are all to do with our already existing subconscious beliefs.

If we change our beliefs, we change our consciousness. Then we change our cells and we change our life.

It’s an inside out job.

If we stay stuck in the powerlessness of our consciousness, affected by what other people are or aren’t doing, then we remain a victim to our life – the things and people that we have absolutely no control over.

However, as new science tells us, if, regardless of how our life looks, we take our focus inside ourselves and do the inner work to change our consciousness, then we become the masters of our biology and therefore our entire life.

We literally become different and we make different choices. We stop wrestling with what doesn’t serve us and we have empowered boundaries. We stop being derailed through our wounds and triggers. We know what to do to unfold a new truth, because of a new subconscious program operating inside us.

We may think that changing our consciousness must mean we have to think positively in the face of the painful events and traumas that we are facing, but it doesn’t work that way. We have all tried that very unsuccessfully with our abuse trauma!

Bruce says about this, β€˜People hear about β€œpositive thinking”, but when they attempt to put it into practice it doesn’t work because there is a step missing. The mind runs the biology, but the important thing to recognise is that there are two parts to the mind – the conscious and the subconscious – and the subconscious mind is over a million times more powerful than the conscious mind.’

He says, β€˜If you tell a child it’s average and that’s the program, the child cannot exceed average because the brain will say, β€œthis doesn’t make sense”. So no matter how hard that child tries it will unconsciously create average.’

The same applies for the painful traumatic beliefs we are carrying within us about relationships such as ‘The people I love hurt me, ignore me, treat me as invalid; they use my kindness for their own purposes.’ Or we may have the belief ‘If I don’t give other people what they want I will be criticised, rejected, abandoned, punished or even annihilated.’

We all know that that C.R.A.P.! Hence why we must go inwards with an effective method to change the program.

The Three Vital Steps to Heal

I want to share with you the incredible revelation I had that started the Thriver Movement. It happened on what I thought was the worst day of my life. I had been given a ‘There is no way to heal this; you can only medicate it with anti-psychotics’ diagnosis after my psychotic and adrenal breakdown.

I didn’t want to continue living, yet a voice in my head kept at me and at me with β€˜there is another way’.

Anyway, many of you have heard this story so I’ll get right to the point. To try to shut down that voice in my head, in desperation, I ended up on my bathroom floor, put my hands up and screamed out, β€˜Help me, I can’t do this anymore.’

An epiphany happened. Not just a regular everyday epiphany – rather a mind-blowing one that explained β€˜everything’. It was a complete 180-degree turn away from my previous beliefs about how victimised I was, and how what had been dealt to me (the destruction of my entire life and self) was such a terrible fate.

I was shown there was a REASON for all of this. Again, not just a simple reason – rather a β€˜the meaning of life’ reason. The reason being so that I could finally face my unmet, unconscious traumas and finally go free to be Who I Really Was.

Later I was to discover, through my whole Quantum Thriver Journey, that I am not alone in this. It’s in fact happening FOR all of us.

There were so many crystal-clear understandings that happened in the moments that followed on my bathroom floor. Maybe the incredible irony is that you have to be completely out of your mind to be able to receive the truth.

In amongst this, I was given the Three Key Steps to Heal.

These steps were:

Number 1: Acceptance of what had happened

Previously I had refused to accept losing both who I thought was the love of my life and everything that I thought was my life. I had been a total victim, and all the therapists and online forums had told me exactly that too.

However, I knew now that if I remained a victim and did not accept that all of this was happening FOR me instead of TO me, that I would never be able to get free of the trauma or get well.

Number 2: Turn inwards to heal myself

I understood that my current trauma and devastated life had come about because of not being healed and whole within myself. I had constantly self-abandoned. I was an expert at trying to shame and blame myself into shape, and reaching for distractions – keeping busy, overworking and using other addictions and unhealthy people and situations to do anything other than face, soothe and heal my own feelings.

None of my previous strategies worked anymore, and I was out of options to try to avoid the pain. There was only one place left to go – inside.

I knew my Inner Being needed me desperately, not False Sources, and only by going inwards could I heal the unhealable, change myself and forever change my life.

Number 3: Find, release and reprogram my trauma and belief systems

I knew I had to go inside with love and self-devotion to find my traumas and limiting beliefs, and be able to reprogram them back to wholeness.

Even though I didn’t know how to do this yet, I saw with absolute clarity the system of β€˜so within so without’ and how our inner universe relates directly to our outer universe, and that to change our life the composition of our Inner Being needs to change first.

Then I was catapulted into a vision of the future where I saw and FELT myself Thriving – being more expanded, whole, loving, wise and powerful than I had ever imagined myself to be – even before abuse.

From that day forwards I totally fell into line with Number 1 and Number 2, and was on the search for how to achieve Number 3. Even though this epiphany in no way healed me, and there was tons of inner work and releasing trauma and subconscious reprogramming that I needed to do, I did have a massive immediate shift.

I gave up blaming myself and others. I released the shame of where my life had gone to. I knew this was about healing me and it was MY quest. I stopped holding the narcissist responsible for my life. Instead, I turned inwards and committed to the rebuilding of my soul from the ground up.

Even though I still had tons of trauma, my Inner Being heaved a sigh of relief. I had made this commitment to her, β€˜I love you. I am here and I will do everything in my power to heal you, and I am never leaving you again.’

Now that I had shown up for myself, without any medication at all, which I was told I would need to even function, the psychotic episodes completely ended, forever.

Yet this was only the beginning. There was still so much more to come…

The Real Healing Breakthrough

Me surviving after being only 80 pounds and told I would never be normal and would need anti-psychotics for the rest of my life was already a miracle. I was medication free, determinedly self-partnered, and completely soul dedicated. Nothing was more important than fulfilling my quest of healing my Inner Being.

The future vision and the β€˜knowing’ of being trauma-free kept calling me forward. I had researched many subconscious healing modalities, trying almost every one of them you can think of – EMDR, EFT, Body Code, The Reconnection, The Journey – the list goes on and on.

I found the most effective for me were Kinesiology and Theta Healing, which I studied and was certified in. These modalities, combined with past timeline regression therapy, which I had been practicing for decades previously, became a combined healing system that I called β€˜Holographic Healing’.

The results for myself and other people with trauma symptoms were crazy good. So good that in a few short months after working on myself with Holographic Healing, I was completely free of CPTSD, fibromyalgia and adrenal stress. In many ways, even though I had been wiped out in nearly every area of my life, I had never felt so emotionally content and happy.

I still had, however, a persistent condition of agoraphobia. The narcissistic relationship had included stalking, threats, and terrible occurrences. Even though I felt fantastic in safe, closed spaces, in open spaces where I was vulnerable, the trauma that arose was sometimes horrific. I tried everything to heal this. I spent thousands of dollars on credit with every subconscious healer that was recommended to me – but the agoraphobia wouldn’t shift.

That was the case, until another miracle moment.

I was in Koh Samui on holiday and stuck in the confines of the hotel perimeter because of agoraphobia. This was 18 months after my bathroom floor awakening. I had had enough of it. I really wanted to heal this condition.

One night I started thinking about a documentary I had watched where Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. Candace Pert talk about how the chemical manufacturing part of our brain – the hypothalamus – produces β€˜peptides’. You may have seen my Thriver TV Episode about this – and if not I highly suggest you do because it’s a key understanding. The link to the episode is here for you – The Answer To Narcissistic Abuse No-One Is Talking About – Peptide Addiction.

Anyway, the very shortened version of peptide addiction is this: science has now proven we literally get physiologically addicted in our cells to an emotion that we are receiving huge rushes of. Mine was fear – specifically β€˜I’m not safe in life’.

As I thought about this documentary something CLICKED big time for me. I got it – the penny finally dropped – I just somehow KNEW that if I could feel that emotion in my body, target the traumas that were generating that emotion, use a visualisation process and intention to load up all the core causations reasons (meaning the original traumas and attached belief systems) and let them go, that I would be instantly freed from β€˜I’m not safe in life’ and I would be completely healed from agoraphobia.

So I opened my heart and mind, and as I started taking dictation from a much higher source than me, I knew this was IT. My heart was pounding with excitement. There it was – a combination of Theta Healing, Kinesiology, Quantum multidimensional truths, timeline work, and other stuff I didn’t think I knew. Yet as I was writing it down, I knew I DID know it.

I was shown how multiple traumas are stored in the subconscious energetically – collective human traumas, past life trauma, trauma from our family’s genetic history and from our childhoods, including in utero before we are born, and then of course as adults.

I literally saw how these traumas lodge within our subconscious, and I was shown the intentions and visualisations as codes to unlock them and release them.

I was also shown that there are three compartments of the subconscious that require cleaning out for a full healing to take place. And with these releases, I was shown the corresponding integrations with the superconscious – which is Source – that is necessary to move each part of ourselves into the Light; into our Higher Potentiality connected with the Field so that we can actualise and be-come our True Self in regard to any topic that is targeted.

As I applied the first ever Quantum Freedom Healing to myself, I found and released dozens of past life, collective and childhood traumas. Then after searching inside and finding absolute no more parts of me that were attached to this trauma, I walked out into the main street of Chaweng Beach.

I started playing in life like I never had before. I was free, I was extended, I was radiant, I was connected to everything and everyone with joy. I had never ever felt those feeling before. Then I remembered the vision on my bathroom floor, when I was catapulted into the future – it was exactly THAT feeling.

Later, back in the hotel room, I thought to myself, β€˜If I hadn’t been given this process, HOW on earth would I have ever found this?’ No therapy, including subconscious healing modalities, which were the most powerful, had ever taken me inwards to my Core Identity with such laser-like intensity, drawn the multiple traumas out of my cells from all the necessary subconscious compartments, and integrated me with the Oneness of myself and the Field to provide a fully experienced cellular body shift that completely short-circuited a deadly physiological peptide loop that my body had been addicted and trapped in.

How many decades of therapy would it take to get to that, what had just been achieved in only two hours?

Would it have even been possible?

I don’t believe it would.

The Inner Then Outer Shift

Humbly, I really want you to know Quanta Freedom Healing is not my creation. I was blessed, as a very unlikely messenger, to have this happen through me from a Higher Source that is much more intelligent than me. I could never have come up with that stuff myself! At first, I thought this gift was just for me, but I’ve known for a long time it’s for all of us. And such a gift it was to me!

As I kept using Quanta Freedom Healing on any trigger that came up for me, extraordinary things started to happen, and very quickly:

β€’ Family, friends and colleagues who had turned away from me, turned back with love.

β€’ The Universe was leaving me directions and β€˜love notes’ every day to grant me the next step to my healing.

β€’ Every day support, love, blessings and literal miracles were showing up, ranging from a free gift from a shopkeeper to incredible business and mission opportunities.

β€’ The relationship with my son, which seemed shattered beyond repair, did a full about face and we were reunited. He healed miraculously from severe substance abuse and depression.

β€’ A peace, love and wholeness that I didn’t even know existed, continued to build.

β€’ Opportunities, synchronicities and miracles started to abound. Ways to come back and rebuild my life that I would never have dreamed of, just started showing up abundantly. And…

β€’ I joyously followed my soul calling, and before I knew it my vocation was a global narcissistic abuse recovery expert – which truly is the job of my dreams, because I get to save lives and souls every day.

I had come home – finally – for the first time in lifetimes.

Thank God I had finally woken up from the trance – to shed the layers of false beliefs and traumas that have been inflicted on all of us on this planet.

This I now know is the simple meaning of life: if we have anything that hurts there is a corresponding trauma inside us, and when we find it and release it everything heals.

That’s ALL we have to do to claim our True Life.

You really do need to β€˜Go Quantum’ to start experiencing the incredible fast results of this. Myself and Thrivers who do the inner work, live this as β€˜our normal’. You will only begin to understand how powerful and capable you are of enlisting all of Life to co-create with you, when you get aligned in your Quantum consciousness. It’s Quantum Law – so within, so without – as absolute as gravity.

For more information regarding this, you may want to do some research on the Double Split experiment to see just how our own brand of consciousness affects how life shows up in our experience. This is what Quantum Science teaches us: at the subatomic level, beyond the atoms of our cells, we exist as pure waves of energy, a consciousness that is interconnected with the entire Field.

By living this we start to be-come Who We Really Are. Not just a little separated person having to unconsciously battle life – rather a connected being in the Oneness doing our life consciously.

The Results of Inner Healing the Quantum Way

These are the following:

1) You heal for real

There is no longer the need to have to manage trauma and the horrible symptoms and obsessional thoughts that go with that. It all melts away.

2) The narcissist becomes powerless against you

Committed NARPers regularly have unprecedented property settlement and custody wins. Often the narcissist completely capitulates and grants what is fair, because they can’t stand being in your empowered energy without being able to hook you. Doing the inner work to detox a narcissist from every vestige of your Inner Being is the only way to win against a narcissist that I have ever seen work.

3) You don’t need to learn how to be-come, it just happens

The old paradigm of healing was that we needed to unlearn something and then retrain ourselves to learn a new way of being. This generally took years, if not decades, researching into the β€˜what happened with whom and what effect that had on us’.

This equals ‘analysis paralysis’ that only drip feeds, at best, any change to our subconscious programs and, at worse, cements deeper into our Inner Being our belief about being a victim and defective.

With Quanta Freedom Healing there is absolutely no need to know or research your story. It doesn’t matter how, with whom or when the trauma happened. Literally, by accessing the body’s wisdom and power, which is always unfolding the next wound to be released, you simply load and release the dense energy in your body and the belief system that was wrapped into that trauma disappears also.

There is zero need for you to even know what the trauma or belief was for you to be completely free of it. (However, don’t be surprised if total answers and concrete knowing arises as a product of your True Self connection to yourself!)

Then, as a result of the part of the process that brings in your Superconscious self, filling the space where the wound was, you automatically be-come the new and True Self. The person who knows how to be organically wise, conscious, self-loving, self-respecting, powerful and yet grace-full, whilst serving the Field in the highest and most honourable ways.

This shift of something that may have taken decades contemporarily to achieve previously – if it ever was possible – can happen within half an hour on any topic in your life, which is the duration of a Quanta Freedom Healing.

This may seem too good to be true, but I promise you once you start Going Quantum you will know exactly what I am talking about.

4) Your Life expands and heals in multiple areas

Naturally, we initially do the Quantum Inner Work to get relief from current trauma and fear. However, when cleaning out all that the narcissist has triggered, you will realise how the limiting beliefs and traumas were holding you separated from the things in life that you deeply desired.

The things that ironically you had attached to the narcissist, to try to gain through him or her, instead of generating through Self.

For the first real and authentic time, your confidence starts flowing, joy emerges, the ability to lay healthy boundaries comes online, inner knowing, wisdom, inspiration and intuition start to arise from within, and your life’s dreams and goals all come into view.

The areas of your life that were lacking, now can all heal and produce the results your heart has always desired.

That has been my experience, on steroids, as a result of Quanta Freedom Healing (NARP), which I do any day that I feel dense, unwanted energy in my body. Sometimes I may do as many as three healings a week. Other times I may not do one for a couple of weeks.

The triggers I have in my life are miniscule now – because I have released so much trauma. Yet, absolutely back in the day, I was in the deep dark trenches of meeting and releasing my trauma for much longer periods. But why wouldn’t I be? Look at the results now.

If I hadn’t done the work, I know 100% I would be back in my next lifetime having to face all of this again. I wanted this evolution – we all do. As Dr. Joe Dispenza says (I think it went something like this!), β€˜We are all going to evolve. The real question is β€œwhen?” Will that start now or be in thirty years’ time, or a hundred more lifetimes?’

It all starts by turning inwards and taking on the three keys to heal for real: 1) accepting this happened for a reason, 2) turning inwards to ourselves with love, and 3) using processes to release trauma and reprogram our subconscious programs.

When we take on the β€˜three keys’, the results are fast and effective. It’s the new science and the way we can be free of our wounds, our old beliefs and the horrible diagnoses we have received – as well as our fear, pain and abuse patterns.

As Thriver Sophie said, β€˜After years of therapy I have had more success with Melanie’s healing in less than 2.5 weeks than all those 15 plus years combined.’

Linda, in a few short weeks after being discarded by a narcissist and hospitalised for a suicide attempt and severe depression, said this, β€˜After spending weeks in hospitals from crippling depression and hopelessness, Melanie’s work has changed my life so much for the better. My condition has improved so much since finding her. There are not enough words to describe what a difference she has made in my life. I am from New Mexico and have done a lot of energy work there, but nothing I have ever experienced compares to the life changing miracle that Melanie has given me.’

Lisa said this, β€˜The NARP program is nothing short of phenomenal. Embarking on the journey that is NARP has opened up my world, brought both sides of my brain back into harmony, and I have never felt so empowered and liberated. This is sheer breakthrough and these are super tools.’

Humbly, these stories are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the life-changing and life-saving testimonies that flood into MTE every day as a result of NARP. You don’t have to look far in my social communities to read them for yourself.

Lisa’s right, these are super tools, and I feel so blessed that we all live in a time to be a part of this exciting paradigm shift, a return to truth, a Quantum Leap in our own healing evolution.

So, if you want to dive in and Go Quantum and start experiencing these results for yourself, I would love you to join me in my brand new two-hour Masterclass – Heal Your Abuse Trauma and Claim Your True Life.

This event is the beginning of your True Self and True Life if you want it!

And it’s totally FREE.

You can do so by clicking this link. I can’t wait to see you in there with me!

And if you want to see more of my videos, please subscribe so that you will be notified as soon as each new one is released. And if you liked this – click like. Also, please share with your communities so that we can help people awaken to these truths.

As always, I am greatly looking forward to answering your comments and questions below.

 

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26 thoughts on “The Proven Way to Heal Toxic Relationship Trauma – Part Two

  1. Nothing like Narp……I still do QFH when I get triggered…(started Narp 2015)..this is a lifestyle and lifetime tool…..my life is truly a new evolved one and the journey goes on …..life is good and Im so grateful for Narp and everyone who contributed here on Narp. When I look back at the train wreck I was when I joined, I would never recognise that woman, today. Whenever I observe and see the need, I run to a module…..NEVER FAILS ME, NEVER……Thank you MTE.

    1. Hi Bren,

      I am so happy for you that NARP, like myself and so many others, grants you this Quantum way to live!

      Many continued blessings to you and please know how welcome you are Bren.

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  2. i was listening to a narp module at work before and after a narc tried “work me” with an emotional reaction to my “no”. that sure helped me

  3. Mel,
    What advice would you give in terms of us sharing these understandings with people in our lives who are struggling. I get so excited about new shifts and understandings that I want to share and encourage others to try, but often I get some interest, but mostly people don’t really want to face “it” whatever their “its” are. They want to keep avoiding and running from it. At what point am I overstepping with my advice? Or should I just focus on my own healing and leave them be unless they ask for my help?

    1. Hi DMJ,

      I understand your frustration, I too have friends and family stuck in the same trauma patterns too, and they just ‘carry on’ with nothing changing.

      Truly it is about blessing everyone’s journey as sacred, and then fully focusing on our own healing and evolution and lead by example.

      If they come to you to ask for help, then you can!

      I hope this helps.

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

    2. I read something recently that stuck in my mind… During my recovery and it’s been two years now and I’m in a much much better place but I still have not fully shifted. But I read a quote that said simply β€œare you interested ?or are you committed?” That’s the difference between fully Healing and really turning your life around. It takes some dedication and repeated perseverance to try to form new habits and new thought patterns/etc.
      My life is shifting around and new successes are coming my way… I just won a golf tournament yesterday! I have an interview for a promotion tomorrow! Which I’m pretty sure I will get.I was thinking if I was still with the narc I would likely never have achieved this… Because I was -well you know…Always trying to fix chaotic relationship and neglecting myself.
      So you could ask your friends are you committed to changing or are you just interested in skimming the surface…peace-

  4. Hi Mel,
    This post really shook something inside of me up a bit and I have purchased the gold version of the program. After coming out of abuse and having been abused in childhood and in early adulthood it’s been very difficult for me to just be and feel safe in my own body understandably. I have always been in my head trying to self heal my own trauma and like you said doing in through our heads creates this paralysis and cements the belief into our being harder creating a peptide addiction – well to no surprise this is exactly what I have done. When approaching the module as I have regular intrusive memories from childhood and flashbacks from any trigger I feel like I am not able to let go of how my mind is operating and let that go almost as if I have to bring up the memories to heal it because of the disconnection from my own body but I can feel dense energy in my solar plexus and central channel. I have created a huge amount of resentment through re-victimizing myself and there is so much anger towards female authority figures in my family whom the abuse came through from to me but the story seems to be bigger or stronger than my ability to be present – I hope to god I am making sense and any assistance would be great. I have a few ‘stories’ going and I know my childhood traumas well by doing the cognitive work but I really do think this has gotten in the way of trying to heal using your tools.
    Thanks
    Sara

    1. Hi Sara,

      I totally understand what you are saying and I’m so glad that you honoured you to reach out about this.

      Sara, my greatest recommendation is to come into the NARP forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member where we can help you learn how to shift out trauma generating your over active mind and difficulty with being in your body.

      These are shifts many of us had to do … including myself, and it’s a game-changer when you nail it.

      Also, have you downloaded NARP Version 3? Because there are instructional videos on exactly this topic.

      If you haven’t or you need any help connecting yo these videos, please email [email protected] and one of my lovely team will help you.

      I hope this helps, and I’m holding the space for your healing and breakthrough.

      It’s your time!

      Much love to you Sara

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  5. Melanie,

    Thank you and God bless you. I have a question. Do you think the new short version is as effective as the longer version?? If a person still feels they have a lot to heal should they stick with the long version for awhile and then only go to the short version when a person feels close to being healed??

    Thank you! G

    1. Hi G,

      Absolutely they are more powerful. There is advanced protocols in them that make them so.

      Yes do the switch. NARP version 3 is both faster and more effective.

      I hope this helps and enjoy!

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  6. Hi Melanie!

    Thank you so much for this episode–I LOVE it!! There is something that I wanted to ask you about, as I consistently find myself stuck in one area that I have not yet been able to overcome, and it relates to something that you mentioned in the video:

    “Then I was catapulted into a VISION OF THE FUTURE where I saw and FELT myself Thriving – being more expanded, whole, loving, wise and powerful than I had ever imagined myself to be – even before abuse.

    “From that day forwards I totally fell into line with Number 1 and Number 2, and was on the search for how to achieve Number 3. Even though this epiphany in no way healed me, and there was tons of inner work and releasing trauma and subconscious reprogramming that I needed to do, I DID HAVE A MASSIVE IMMEDIATE SHIFT.”

    I have been YEARNING for years to have my own vision of thriving in my future, because I know that that kind of KNOWING would be absolutely life-changing for me as well–to KNOW what God desired for my future–because then I would have the CERTAINTY that as I took action to receive it then IT WOULD COME.

    However, since I haven’t had that kind of “vision,” I am plagued by thoughts like, “Well, maybe God doesn’t want me to have an amazing future–maybe He will just take things away from me–for example, what about someone who has severe and permanent physical difficulties? They have dreams that won’t ever happen…and since I haven’t had a “vision” of what God wants for my future then maybe He is just going to let bad things happen to me and I’m just going to have to deal with it and give up on what I wished for.”

    I have really been stuck on this, and it’s like I can’t even let it out of me because I think that it might be true…but it makes me feel hopeless…but it might be true….Uuugh. Even writing this I am so frustrated to be stuck like this….I would so much appreciate your insight.

    Thank you, and much love to you, you beautiful soul!!!

    Shanni

    P.S. I am a NARPer! And I have felt relief in other areas, but this one is so lodged that I am not sure of what to do. XO!

    1. Hi Shanni,

      You are so welcome.

      This is a very important topic and such a great question!

      Quantumly we are all a past, present and future ‘self’, and the only thing not letting you access the knowing of your highest and best future, is your traumas that are blocking you

      You named them perfectly, and there may be more, which you will discover when you go inward to release these parts of you.

      Now, here is the thing…NARP effectively finds, loads up and releases you from any traumas blocking your True Self and True Life.

      So…so simply all you need to do, is either with Module 1 or The Source Healing and Resolution Module, target the traumas not allowing you to connect to you future, and keeo shifting them out until they are gone.

      Then you will!

      That’s all you have to do!

      It’s the same for every ‘state’ that isn’t serving us.

      Bless you Shanni, so much love to you too and enjoy connecting with your future!

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  7. Thank you. I’m trying to heal, while temporarily “co-parenting” a 8 month old with an undiagnosed narcissist (he also has ptsd, chronic depression, homicidal/suicidal thoughts). I didn’t know about his mental disorders until after we married. He has done so much to hurt me, emotionally, mentally, financially, and when I broke up with him he had me illegally arrested for a psychological hold! And, kidnapped my baby for a week! I don’t know how he continues to manipulate police and commissioners into believing him but he does. I have been granted three restraining orders against him, and even still he has been able to get multiple police to come out to oversee the exchange of our child (we do baby exchanges at the police station for my safety). He is only supposed to have limited contact with me, yet his intimidation and harassment continues. I have a good job, I’m educated, have support from my family, counselor, and attorney but don’t really know to heal when I feel like my baby is being held hostage by the narc in an attempt to make me comply with his wishes. The narc wants everything, our baby, my house, my retirement, alimony, child support, etc. As I prepare for divorce/custody trial I feel like I’m stuggling immensely. I worry about my baby when she’s with him, and yes, I have exhausted my resources to get full custody due to his mental disorders. The court won’t do anything, I have to go to trial. All I want is my baby, and to live a healthy, happy, peaceful life without the narc. What knowledge, words of wisdom can you share with me? God bless.

    1. Awww gosh Phoenix,

      My heart goes out to you and your baby.

      Phoenix there is only one thing to do … heal.

      Especially when our children are involved with narcissists, we so so so need to anchor into our Quantum power to change how we are Being on the inside, in the face of this, so that the shift can happen on the outside.

      I truly dont know any other way to succeed, when up against people like this.

      Phoenix please check out NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp , it is my Quantum Healing Program that myself and others used to break free from the most horrific of circumstances. Even those who are coparenting.

      Also in the private NARP Community, which comes with your NARP membership, you have free unlimited, lifetime specialised support from the best minds in the world for narcissistic abuse recovery.

      http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

      There are also many Thrivers in there who can guide you with what you are dealing with, and help you take your power back for you and you child.

      This truly is your answer to change this Phoenix, and there is no risk in you trying.

      When we get to the point of knowing what we are trying isn’t working, its time to look at alternatives. NARP is exactly that with an astounding track record.

      I hope this helps.

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  8. Hi Mel

    Thank you for this episode. I was particularly interested in the part about agoraphobia. I have suffered with this most of my life to varying degrees. My mother also suffered with it when I was growing up which obviously impacted on the family’s lifestyle. When I reached adulthood I started to experience symptoms myself so I expect some of it was learned behaviour but an awful lot of trauma too! I feel that it took me into an abusive marriage as I was so dependent on someone else to help me get around. The thought of doing it alone was just impossible to me.

    I have left the marriage now and have been using NARP for over two years. There have been noticeable shifts in how I feel and I am glimpsing feelings of awakening.
    I have a nervous system disorder called dystonia that affects my neck which has actually got worse lately and I have been feeling like it’s stopping me truly getting out there. However when I sit quietly I sometimes have helpful information come to me. Last night I had the image of a stage play being put together and how much work has to happen behind the scenes before the curtains can go back on opening night! I have also had an image of scaffold being up, suggesting that there is work going on and it will come down when the work is done so this is helping me to understand and have some patience!

    Thank you for your work Mel, it is inspirational

    Much love

    Angie πŸ’•xx

    1. Hi Angie,

      You are very welcome and I’m so pleased I could help.

      Please know Angie, I was born agaraphobic too! I was always the child who hid behind my mothers skirts, as an adult could never walk through a door first, couldn’t possibly travel alone.

      The list went on and on and on, limiting my life in so many ways before the narcissist came and smashed this already existing wound (which is exactly what n’s do) up to the surface to a level where there was no more ‘coping’ with this.

      Thank goodness, because now that I live completely free of it, my life bares no resemblance to my one pre or during abuse.

      Please know Angie NARP is the most powerful when you keep it literal.

      Truly … target the trauma generating your conditions, release them and bring in Source to replace them (which is the QFH process) and then they wont exist.

      With these Quantum tools we dont have to battle anymore at all. We can free ourselves.

      I hope this inspires you to truly go for this, because the result you seek will come from doing that … not some other ‘the long way around’ way.

      Suspend your mind and just shift those traumas out of your body .. and for ‘states’ we want to live free from, I always suggest Module 1 or the SH and R Module.

      Use NARP version 3 as well, it is even more powerful.

      You’ve got this Angie!

      Lots of love to you

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

      1. Thanks Mel, this really helps as I’ve never known anyone of my own generation to experience agoraphobia as long as I have. You describe just as i have felt for most of my life! I thought I was defective. I can see how the N experience has given me the opportunity to heal and i m so looking forward to smashing this once and for all!
        Xxx

  9. Thank you!!!! Thank YOU!!! THANK YOUUUUUU!!!

    I am sooooo grateful to you, Melanie, to GOD, and to all the Narcs which have brought us to this point.

    And, did I say “THANK OU”?

    I am happy all over to think how this NARP program that you so humbly channelled will LIGHT UP THE WORLD. I pray there is MASSIVE RUN to join NAPR and that the WHOLE WORLD heals in my lifetime! I am so proud to share this planet with you Melanie. God can only through thought people who are completely surrendered. HE gave us NARP – the “Bread” for this particular “DAY” – or period of LIGHT. These are the tools we are able to receive in our generation. A Science of Interconnected LOVE accessed. Of COURSE it will HEAL US- make whole – move us to AT-ONE-MENT with GOD. It is a tool for complete removal of separation (sin) consciousness.

    Bless you forever. Every time One of US LIGTHS UP, ALL of US are benefitted.

    May there be MASSIVE outpouring of the of the HOLY SPIRIT throughout the globe and may ALL MANKIND LIVE to see the GLORY and the BEAUTY of GOD in (WO)MAN on EARTH.

    ALL LOVE to you!

    1. Hi Iris,

      It’s so my pleasure lovely lady.

      It is so so true that when we shift ourselves out of pain and trauma that the Whole benefits.

      So much love to you Iris sweetheart.

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  10. Love you Mel and I love your work,
    These 2 part videos explain Quantum law and healing so well.
    I have been a ‘carer’ all my life for survival and to be loved. I have abused my own boundaries to gain love/be liked so many times but with NARP I am slowly releasing all the trauma and whilst sometimes it feels endless I am feeling the difference – I say ‘no’ more often now which is liberating.

    Like you, I have tried so many modalities to heal but NARP resonates the most for me and I find the new format excellent. I am also a “Highly Sensitive Person” (HSP) so take on a lot of energies around me at work and in life and NARP helps calm my nervous system after being triggered. Also, by releasing my traumas I find I can function in the world more effectively as a HSP, so a big thank you for your program.

    Oh and Tiggy is a Zen master today……..and very fluffy with his winter coat
    xxx Annie

    1. Hi Annie,

      That is so great that you are doing the inner work to have more powerful boundaries.

      Please know Annie, it will ease and life will open up more and more to you. You will get to where I am if you keep at it, and fill your life with beautiful expansion.. into the space you are creating within.

      It will all come!

      Awww so true Tiggy is very cute in his winter’s woolys!

      Thank you for your lovely post.

      And much love to you too.

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

  11. Melanie,

    You have played such an enormous part in my healing journey πŸ™‚ and a big complement to my own work, which I am not paid for unfortunately (as sisters don’t get a salary,) so I can’t get your proper NARP module set , but please know I follow almost all the information you put out there. It has played a tremedous part in my personal recovery, and you are constantly my number one youtube inspiration and help when I use my own method for working on the inner self, that has the exact same concepts you use, except its different in terms of the release technique and what to find inside to release. Your personal experience is just so helpful and inspiring for my own inner work, its like a massive support gateway without which I would NOT fiigure out how to focus on and break free and in fact progress in my christian path of releasing hurt, unforgiveness and negativity towards God, life and people. I really value you.

    You’ve spoken in a video “Why Knowledge Isn’t Power When Dealing With Narcissists” about the emotional intelligence of the heart. If you have a free moment could you please do a video on this? I am sure this is an extremely important topic for us all and we will all greatly appreciate it. I know there is so much that can be covered and related to the inner healing! And unfortunately people are only little aware of suc things, even I have no idea where to start the research and it is my job!

    1. Hi Sister Anastasia,

      Thank you for your lovely post and I’m thrilled for you that you are doing great at healing you.

      I certainly will think about something regarding that topic.

      Much love to you

      Mel πŸ™πŸ’•β™₯️

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