Melanie Tonia Evans

They Told Me I Would Never Recover

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Written By   Melanie Tonia Evans

 

I got to thinking this week, even though I have shared details of my personal story on my website and in my Free Webinar, I know there are many of you who don’t know the full details of my own experience.

Maybe you are one of those people who haven’t heard my full story, and are wondering how I got to where I am today.

So, I thought what better way than to share the explicit details in a more imitate way than I ever have –  on Thriver TV.

Because … I know I am not alone. I am not the first person to have an incurable diagnosis that was supposed to be the end of my Life as I knew it … and …

I am also not the first person to have a life-changing epitome that was to change my model of the world forever – a change that meant giving up living from the outside in, to switch to living from the inside out.

Living the Quantum Way.

Like so many people who have been through such a liberating “ah-ha” it didn’t come when everything was wonderful in my Life.

In fact, it came at the exact opposite time, when I was just about ready to give up and stop living because my life and health seemed devastated beyond repair.

And that is what today ‘s Thriver Tv episode is all about – the intimate sharing of the day my narcissistic abuse experience led to where it was always going to end up – a complete psychotic and adrenal breakdown.

I know there are so many of you out there, as a result of the terrible experience of narcissistic abuse, also feel like I did…

“I am too damaged, there is nothing left to go on with and there is no way I am going to get out of this nightmare, recover and re-build.”

This is why it is my greatest wish that the sharing of my story can help inspire you and grant you hope …

 

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Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert. She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Melanie's healing and teaching methods have liberated thousands of people from the effects of narcissistic abuse world-wide.

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27 Thoughts on They Told Me I Would Never Recover
  • monikyu@yahoo.com'
    Janet
    March 14, 2017

    Love your videos. Just a kindly meant FYI though (with love) – I noticed you used the word ‘epitome’ in your email to me that linked to this video. I thought that might be an autocorrect mistake. But you’re using that same word, in spoken form, here in the video. And I’m thinking that maybe, just maybe, the word you MEAN to use is ‘epiphany’ and not ‘epitome’….? 🙂

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 14, 2017

      Hi Janet,

      I am so glad you loved them!

      Haha Janet I can be so goofy with words! Yes I realised afterwards … there was also another (can’t remember what it was again now without re-watching the video!)

      Just as well people do understand what was meant to be said!

      Bless your Dear Lady.

      Mel xo

  • aiameeting@yahoo.com'
    Bea
    March 14, 2017

    Mel,

    Thank you for sharing your story. So touching and very very relatable. I am looking forward to – what “self-partnering” means. I would love to hear step by step how you got out and became strong. I am anxious to hear your journey into health – including ups and downs, obstacles, and bumps. They are all part of regaining strength and healing.

    Bria

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 14, 2017

      Hi Bria,

      thank you for your lovely words 🙂

      I know you will get a lot more information regarding the “how to” in Part 2 coming up in the next few days.

      Mel xo

  • cottorgirl@yahoo.com'
    Lyn
    March 14, 2017

    That love, that person, made me realize how amazing I truly am. My sister thought she could “get” this guy because he was so beautiful, and gorgeous. She thought that because in her mind she was prettier than me, younger than me, she could get my guy. The thing is she is shallow, hollow and empty inside. Narcissists want nothing to do with “flawed” people. They want amazing, honest, decent people in their lives so they can “mirror” their images and the people around them think that they are like that too. It hurt me when my sister tried to put the moves on my narcissist. Thank you so much for all that you have done for me. I’m an even better person for having learned from you. I had NO IDEA how messed up people are. I take everything at face value and expect the best.

  • Cathydmagee@icloud.com'
    Cassie
    March 14, 2017

    Mel,
    This video is so helpful to keep me hopeful! It is so very true that the soul within us is never ready to “transform” , authentically transform until we have reached the state of true surrender. Down right true surrender. Until we have reached “enough is enough” at the deepest level of our being. Sometimes I feel like I keep hitting that point! I have been doing NARP for almost a year and I am still in a complicated situation where I am unable to have complete No Contact but I can recognize true growth in small steps. I can sense my change is more authentic as of late and more grounded in my soul. More “grown up” !!! Your hopeful video filled with your authentic surrender is the inspiration I needed to keep my desire to continue the hard work of going inside fueled and to feel energized instead of exhausted.
    And…..the nail color is so cheerful. Yet another beautiful color since the first video of 2017! (although I know I was supposed to be focused on the lipstick in the first video haha)
    To answer your question….. Yes I love the Quantum tip at the beginning….just as much as the 2017 nails!!!!!

    thank you for your dedication to us and to your work..
    XOXO Cassie

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Cassie,

      you are so sweet and I am so pleased this video has inspired you!

      I love your words and also sense that you are, indeed, anchoring deeper into your authentic healing.

      You are so on your way sweetheart.

      Thank you for the feedback re nails and tip!!

      Watch this space … you inspire me 🙂

      Mel xo

  • vick.i@live.co.uk'
    Vicki
    March 14, 2017

    Dear Melanie,
    I am so inspired by your story and the depths to which you had to go to become the person you are today. It is truly only meant for the strongest people. I feel I am heading to this “rock bottom” at the moment, and your video has come at just the right time. I can never thank you enough for the amazing work you are doing. I have been going through this all my life and have never known life without a narcissist in it. I have bought a thousand books, seen so many therapists and healers that I have lost count, and have been searching since I could walk and talk for a way out of my suffering. I am now 66 years old and thought I would never make it. Then I found NARP. My goodness, you have literally saved my life!
    Thank you so much.
    With love and light,
    Vicki

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Vicki,

      thank you, and it is my deepest wish that this helps inspire others.

      I agree that we aren’t granted more than the soul is up for – it is just that we need to accept what we know deeply to be true … while our opportunity to heal does still exist.

      I am so happy for you that you are on NARP, and that you are a part of this wonderful Community – and on your way.

      So much love and blessings to you Vicki.

      Me xo

  • miba@mail.be'
    Miba
    March 14, 2017

    Looking gorgeous. The facial expression cracked me up. Was super cute.

    Looking forward to seeing Part 2.

    Much love to you, your partner and son :).

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Miba,

      Thank you sweetheart and glad you got a giggle!

      Thank you for your love to us all, and much love from Australia to you and yours!

      Mel xo

  • lina126y@hotmail.com'
    Strongwind
    March 14, 2017

    Dear Melanie,

    I was so encouraged by this video. You described my story, only I couldn’t go back to the N but I lived for 4 years hoping he would come back and that I was the abuser. I communicated with you about a year after the discard and devalue stage. You had asked me to endorse your book but I was so afraid to do so for fear the N would find out and I would be further punished. I’m not there anymore but I had to get to the point of panic attacks and leaving a nightmare before I reach out to you again through Quanta Freedom healing. I’m just beginning the Modules now and I can’t say that this is easy. I’m still in a lot of pain but at least now I have some hope that I can heal and that I can feel joy again. Thank you Mel. You’re a God sent.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Strongwind,

      you are right – it is not easy. The most confronting thing we will ever do is be with our own wounds … however it so much harder to NOT do that and keep living the repercussions.

      Keep going and great job – you will get there 🙂

      Mel xo

  • mary-rgd@rogers.com'
    Mary
    March 14, 2017

    Dear Melanie,

    I think seeing your video this morning in my email inbox was heaven sent. I believe that I am feeling pretty much where you describe you were at in your life that led to your breakthrough … on the bathroom floor just about ready to give up, with everything lost, nowhere left to turn and not seeing a way out. Your video gives me hope that maybe, just maybe all is not lost and there IS a way through and out of this. Thank you for all that you do … looking forward to part 2!!

    Mary
    Ontario, Canada

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Mary,

      I so hoped that this video would talk to people who have nearly given up … I promise you with all my heart there is a way through this sweetheart.

      So many of us in this Community who are Thriving have been were you are now.

      I know your time to heal, breakthrough and shine is coming.

      I believe it with all my heart.

      Mel xo

  • Simmonsnaomi@aol.com'
    Naomi
    March 15, 2017

    I was at the catastrophic place you describe when my epiphany was finding you and your beautiful work as an expression of source. So appreciate your openness and authenticity in making this video. It can’t have been easy to make and took bravery, which is a source of inspiration to so many.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Naomi,

      I am so pleased you have connected to my work and it resonates with your soul Dear Lady.

      I promise you Naomi – that now – that there are no charges on my previous life (and hasn’t been for quite some time) it is easy to talk about, because that was my former self who bares no resemblance to Melanie today … because I have shifted and changed so much of my Inner Identity!

      If my sharing saves one life it is a divine thing to do.

      Thank you for your recognition and heart though Naomi – it is really sweet of you!

      Mel xo

  • rehamilton@mac.com'
    Robin
    March 15, 2017

    Dear Melanie,
    Your videos have been so inspiring and helpful to me as I recover from a painful marriage to a narcissist and I thank you so much! But I also found much to relate to with this video in an unexpected way. I was floored when you spoke about your partner’s aggressive driving attitude. I too have met a wonderful, gentle and kind man who is becoming a big part of my life. But I was seriously wondering about staying with him because, the minute he gets behind the wheel of a car, he starts complaining about other drivers, swearing and generally getting himself very upset. It seems so out of character. What is up with that?! At first I found it difficult not to be critical of him doing this. But now I find myself feeling calmer and trying not to judge him when we are in this situation. He is otherwise a really sweet guy. I guess we all have our moments! Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Robin,

      thank you and I am so pleased I can help.

      I think Robin it is just previous programming and beliefs that they have taken on … and like all programming and beliefs they take some work to budge!

      My guy is so gentle, strong and supportive where it counts – I just make a joke of it with him – (he can handle that really well too!)

      Also, when we take Quantum responsibility it is about shifting our perception of them “always getting angry at drivers” …

      The is something I am going to do – shift it within me and see the Quantum results.

      Because it is only his choice as to whether or not he will change him – and I am more powerful than that – I don’t want to wait around for passenger comfort until he does!

      (And fortunately with QFH don’t have to!)

      Mel xo

  • Pamellamyers@msn.com'
    Pam
    March 15, 2017

    Thanks so much — as so many, I went through a very similar “rock bottom” to seeing the light– to no contact and finally freedom. Thank you for your videos and messages! When I feel myself reverting, I look you up and “refresh” my state of mind! Your advice is SPOT ON!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 15, 2017

      Hi Pam,

      you are so welcome, and I am so happy for you that you are back from your rock bottom!

      Mel xo

  • thinkngal@westnet.com.au'
    Pat
    March 15, 2017

    Hi Mel, thanks for posting the video. Bob Dylan, in one of his songs, says “just when you think you’ve lost everything you find you can always lose just a little more” is pertinent to me right now. I am recovering through the NARP programme yet have been blindsided recently by my daughter, a survivor (yet still in her mind a victim) of child sexual abuse. I received the bulk of her anger and basically just wanted to die from the guilt/grief/sadness that overwhelmed me. (I was not aware of the abuse by her uncle until she was a teenager when everything came out). I feel back to square one and have to regain some energy and momentum to take these feelings to the modules. I feel so powerless. Your video has given me a prod to get back to the programme and work it as if my life depended on it…because at times I really believe it does.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 17, 2017

      Hi Pat,

      Wow such wisdom from Bob!

      Pat, dear lady, my heart goes to to you – and please know that you can shift out that trauma you feel in regard to her and that will help so much with hers and your healing.

      You have got this sweetheart.

      Bless and much love

      Mel xo

  • Getmail100@yahoo.com'
    Bren
    March 16, 2017

    I can listen to your story over and over……your life and your work you are called to do, have saved so many of us from that hell place and given so much of my true wonderful self back to me…just loved getting to know little me…. ..so grateful for what Narp has done for me. Amazing souls on the forum……a bit of heaven on earth…..THANK YOU, THANK YOU……Much love❤❤❤

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 19, 2017

      Hi Bren,

      your words truly dear Soul Sister bring tears to my eyes!

      So honoured to share this journey with your Bren.

      Mel xo

  • nicopopliceanu@yahoo.com'
    Nicoleta
    March 17, 2017

    Congrats, Melanie! This is amazing!

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