Along my narcissistic abuse recovery journey one thing (among many) really surprised me – the unshakeable and intense feelings of neediness I felt towards my ex. Everything about his actions showed that he had moved on. I, on the other hand, was stuck feeling like I couldn’t live without him. Have you felt this? Has […]

I know that narcissists on the warpath seem really scary. Relentless, insane, unperturbed about you calling them out and manically hellbent on your destruction. They do this in various ways – through assaults on your character and mental, emotional and physical health and attacking your financial stability and capacity. And narcissists go after your support […]

You may find the possibility that narcissists and co-dependents share similarities an offensive concept. But I can assure you that there is something much deeper going on as to why co-dependents and narcissists attract. It’s a hard pill to swallow I know … this may even trigger you, yet … give me a chance to […]

When a narcissist is activated it feels like all they want to do is drive you nuts. They trigger you. They target you. They hook you. They refuse to accept your boundaries. And, they steal your energy for supply. If you just try to ignore the narcissist – meaning you try to hide out and […]

At one point or another a narcissist will turn on you and punish you. It’s inevitable. I’m sure you’ve lived it, are living it right now or you sense it’s coming … And you may ask yourself, “Why do narcissists have to punish people with such cruelty?” Here’s one answer to that question … because […]

Narcissists are experts at using gaslighting techniques against you. They know how to switch the tables and hook you in all the while blaming you for what is so off in the relationship. Gaslighting is used to distort reality. It twists and turns facts and it makes you feel like you’re wrong when you’re right, […]

It is devastating when a narcissist abandons you without a second thought. Absolutely, a narcissist has the capacity to throw you under a bus, leave and not look back, as if you were yesterday’s garbage that is worthless to them. How can any human be capable of this? The truth is narcissists aren’t human, not [...]

Narcissists push back. They push back on your boundaries, on your attempts at No Contact and when you try to take your power back. Expect this and more because they’ve got weapons in their arsenal they pull out when they want you to relinquish control. Disregarding boundaries is one of their favourite tricks – they […]

Today, I want to have this important conversation with you regarding the 8 main character traits that narcissists look for in their victims. I really want you to know, from the bottom of my heart, that a narcissist can’t just target anybody. I know there are people out there who say this is true, but [...]