I wanted to write this article for you, because I know that many of you may be dreading the upcoming aloneness that you are facing these holidays. Let’s get straight down to it – being alone can feel like you are empty and lifeless, especially after experiencing narcissistic abuse. Narcissists suck the very life out [...]

One way or another, a narcissistic relationship will feel so intense, fated and binding that it’s easy to believe it is a soul-mate connection. No wonder we fight so hard for these relationships! But you cannot save a sinking ship if only one crew member is bailing out the water, and you cannot save a […]

We will all have tales of horrible Holidays – the parent who storms out on Christmas Day leaving the children distraught; the partner who provokes and snipes until you snap and meltdown in front of guests; the cheater who disappears on Christmas Eve and doesn’t return until Christmas Day is over – narcissists create pain […]

After much dreaming, planning and preparation, November 9th was finally here! The Big Day when Glenn, my dear girlfriend Carla and I left Melbourne to move permanently to Cape Tribulation. We drove three vehicles: Glenn in Alena Star Bus, myself in the Mustang and Carla in her SUV. The day began with a mammoth truck [...]

A very happy Thanksgiving to all our Thrivers who are celebrating! It’s such a beautiful way of focussing on gratitude – and it got me to thinking about how sometimes gratitude can be used and spun in ways that mean it is toxic to us. And of course, narcissists are fully capable of employing toxic […]

The holiday season can be the most painful time of year for people because, traditionally, it is exactly when we are supposed to be connected, loving, and loved by family, friends, and, hopefully, an intimate other. I remember in my past feeling so empty, worthless, and discarded that I didn’t want to live. All I […]

I’m sure you will have noticed how when narcissists are miserable, then their nearest and dearest have to be punished – and this goes double for holiday time. Whether they are disrupting preparations, creating arguments and drama, giving you the silent treatment, or discarding you and going missing at crucial times, everything they do at […]

I love the expression “Innerstanding” - because it is SO Quantum! People ask “What does Quantum mean?” My explanation is this: entering the unseen world and seeing the base-note truth from where all physical reality springs from. Your personal Innerstanding relates to your energetic relationship with yourself. It’s your emotions, and your emotional decisions. To [...]

One of the questions I get asked over and over is “what causes narcissism”. So today’s Thriver TV episode is my take on this. Of course, I cover the impact of nature and nurture. But most importantly I wanted to go even deeper, into the spiritual cause and meaning of narcissism. The debate around the […]