From Horrible Holidays To Healing Liberation

We will all have tales of horrible Holidays – the parent who storms out on Christmas Day leaving the children distraught; the partner who provokes and snipes until you snap and meltdown in front of guests; the cheater who disappears on Christmas Eve and doesn’t return until Christmas Day is over – narcissists create pain and drama at every turn.

It’s natural to feel upset, confused, angry, and to want to hold the narcissist accountable for how they’ve hurt you. You can find yourself desperately trying to make them understand and step up to the plate. Or maybe you rail against the injustice and campaign for someone to ‘do something about narcissists so they don’t get away with it’.

This is the ‘outside in’ way of living, and today I explain why it is ‘putting the cart in front of the horse’ and can never achieve the results you are looking for. Instead, let me show you the way to make real change, and to claim your healing liberation so that horrible holidays become a distant memory.

 

 

Video Transcript

Today I want to talk about how to go from the horrors of holidays to your healing liberation.

It’s completely understandable that holiday time can feel so painful wherever a narcissist is concerned. We hear from many of you about how you feel triggered, resentful and even vengeful at this time of year. Such painful emotions are horrific to go through, and narcissists are masters at triggering them, as you know!

 

Holiday Horror

Victimization can be such a strong feeling – and it’s really understandable because holidays can be triggering at the best of times. For instance, having to get together with people that you might otherwise not choose to meet up with, can result in power plays and control dynamics. Holiday celebrations are well-known to be a prime time for arguments – for good reason!

Then on top of it all, throw a toxic person into the mix. I’m going to use the example of the narcissist, their social media and their ‘new life’.

Narcissists love to grandstand their new life all over social media. Especially if they are with new supply, they will be posting about what incredible times they are having, their holidays away, and just how magnificent and wonderful their life is.

This is just what narcissists do – they love to be narcissistically pumping up their own tyres and shouting, “Look at me, and look at my life,” at holiday time.

So I know it’s very hard for you and for a lot of people – just like it was once upon a time extremely hard for me as well.

I want to look at this from the Quantum point of view because that deeper Quantum understanding is what takes us out of an ordinary life and into an extraordinary one. Understanding this bigger picture takes us from the victim perspective of, “This is happening to me,” to a higher vibrational level of, “This is happening for me.”

Of course, this is not an easy leap to make at the start. But when you master it and start applying it to your life, you’re going to start seeing the healing results and the all-important relief, very quickly.

 

Acceptance

How, then, do we go from such horrors to healing liberation?

The first step is always to stop.

Stop looking to the outside, stop being in ‘the story’ of what has happened, and say, “I bless and accept this feeling. I bless and accept this reaction that I’m having to this trigger. I bless and accept the feelings that I have of loneliness and being unsupported, of feeling I’m not good enough to be loved and my life isn’t the way I thought it would be. I bless and accept this feeling.”

Then the next powerful mantra we can say is, “What is this showing me? What can I heal within me to become the person who can and will generate healthy, supportive, genuine relationships?”

I want you to read that again. Be very, very clear that you are the only being in your life and the only thing in your existence that you can work on, resurrect and change in order to change your experience.

 

Radical Personal Responsibility

Now, personal responsibility can be a very difficult topic, because your first instinct may be to say, “Well, why should I have to change? Why is this my fault?”

It’s not your fault.

BUT – and it’s an important ‘but’ – none of us have any power to change people and situations outside of ourselves, in order to change our lives. We just don’t. That’s a false premise.

We’ve wanted to change other people and their hurtful behaviour so that we can get our emancipation. But it never works.

You know that already. You’ve almost certainly reached out and got in contact with the narcissist at some point saying something like, “This is really cruel what you’re doing. I can’t believe that you’ve done that. I can’t believe that I meant nothing to you. I can’t believe that you’ve just moved on so easily.” Or “I can’t believe that you’ve introduced her/him to our kids. I can’t believe that you are spending Christmas with our families and our friends. I can’t believe… I can’t believe…”

The result of that – of trying to get a narcissist to change so that we can feel better on the inside – is that you’ve handed the narcissist exactly what they want, which is the bullets to shoot you with.

They get to stand superior and say, “Well look, I’ve got a great relationship. I’m functional – but look at you! You’re a victim, you’re stuck in blaming, your life is terrible and you can barely get out of bed, let alone function. That is vindication to me that I was right and you were wrong.”

(Of course, scratch it and you’ll see under the surface this isn’t the truth. The new supply is on a pedestal at the moment but it’s not going to stay like that.)

The narcissist will take whatever you do and say, and use it against you to smear you, punish you, devalue and discard you even harder.

 

Living Life from the Outside In

At the Quantum level, whenever you try to change somebody else in order to change how you’re feeling and what you’re generating in your life, then you’re putting the cart in front of the horse. The cart is going nowhere, and it will keep rolling back on the horse – and you’re the horse.

Quantum law doesn’t work that way.

We can stamp our feet, and we can be a victim, and we can say it’s not fair and we aren’t the bad one. You can jump and scream just like I did for years. But then you will keep getting squashed by the cart because that’s how Quantum law works.

Quantum law doesn’t work from the outside in. It works from the inside out.

The truth is that you are a grand creator of your own reality from your emotional vibration and your subconscious programming, which is the generative engine of your entire life.

Source / Life / God always says, “I adore you so much, I will give you more of your being.” There is no judgment there, simply the Quantum reality that whatever you are being is what you will get more of.

In the example above, the subconscious programming and the trauma is, “You’ve left me. You are having a great life and a great holiday. You’ve got all the power, all the happiness, the cars, the house and the new partner – you’ve got it all. ”

If that’s what your engine is saying, then that’s where you’re vibrating. If you’re being that, that’s all you’re going to get more of. No matter how much you try to change somebody or something outside of yourself to get your beingness back, they’re only going to give you the evidence of your being. This is why life hasn’t been working.

 

Living Life from the Inside Out

Going back to when I said, “I bless and accept this feeling. What is this showing me? What is this teaching me? What can I heal within myself? What can I generate differently.”

Looking at things that way puts you in your body – it puts you in the driver’s seat.

When you get to that place, there’s only one thing to do, which is to say “what hurts?”

In the past, this might have meant going to a therapist and lying on a couch or sitting opposite them and talking over and over and over again about what hurts and what’s wrong. Because of course, you’re human and you feel unsupported, unfulfilled, unloved and your life is so painful, especially at holiday time when your stuckness is accentuated.

When you have Quantum tools, you actually have the ability to do the work through your body. You can ask yourself, “What hurts? I’ve got this shocking feeling in my heart and my solar plexus. It’s like I want to die,” and that’s all you need to know.

You can load it up energetically and you can let it go.

That will include letting go of a variety of beliefs in your love code. “The people I love leave me. The people I love invalidate me. The people I love replace me,” or “I’m not lovable. People don’t hang around. People don’t commit to me. People won’t fight for me,” or whatever it is.

You don’t even need to know those love codes and those beliefs because they’re wrapped up in, and are the glue that’s holding, that trauma – that horrible feeling – in your heart and solar plexus leaving you feeling like you want to die.

Once you start using Quanta Freedom Healing, you will realize that you have the ability to feel your emotions in your body, load up the trauma, and shift it out.

Quanta Freedom Healing removes these painful false beliefs and false premises, because these are not who you really are at True Self, Source level. They’ve been programmed in by other people – who also have false painful programming and separation consciousness. This is what our planet has perpetrated on everybody as a psychic disease, and you get to shed that disease. You get to fill with Source and the Light.

Then you come back home to your belonging with Source. So people and situations who aren’t that – who don’t have the capacity or desire to meet you in integrity, honesty, teamwork, solution building and unity consciousness (aka narcissists) – will become completely unappealing to you.

You will uplevel beyond them to the point where you will see them with the new supply and you will go, “Oh yuck. You poor girl/ guy. You’re going to have to go through what I did.”

No longer will you be obsessing, because you will know at a deeper, wiser Source / Self level that that’s their journey. That’s their evolution – to come home to themselves exactly as you’ve now claimed and graduated into your own evolution.

 

Experiencing Healing Liberation

This is a big conversation. Sometimes the Inner Being mechanics are not easy to explain in linear, sequential, logical ways that you can hear.

That’s why when you listen to my transmissions, you may just need to open your body, breathe and let it soak through yourself to understand what I’m saying.

But in my workshops and in my courses, I break it down for you in stages and steps with Quanta Freedom Healing. Yes, I give you the mind understanding, but most importantly I give you the body shift so that after you go through a Quanta Freedom Healing, you’re not the same person. You’re not that victim stuck in your head and in the bandwidth of the trauma. You get the body shift of releasing the trauma out and letting the Light and Source in – and then your mind changes, as your brain synapses re-wire to reflect the body shift.

There’s a huge difference between trying to think your way out of pain and Quantumly shifting out of it. And you have to experience it to understand what I’m saying – even though I know there’s a part of you hearing this that already knows it is true.

 

In Conclusion

My upcoming Healing Holiday Heartbreak Workshop is for those of you who are really struggling with the horrors of holidays.

It could be the scenario I described above. Or it could be alienation from your children and your loved ones. It could be fall-outs with your family. It could be that you’re just all alone. Maybe you know that there are narcissistic people who violate your boundaries, smear you in front of people and hook you for reaction. Or maybe they grandstand and take the limelight. Or they disappear or do the silent treatment, or create fights.

Whatever it is, it results in you getting triggered. You lose control of you. You have a horrible time, hence horrible holidays.

What I’m really passionate about for these holidays is jumping in there and providing you with a workshop that is Quantum and is going to take you through the steps – plus a very powerful healing. No matter what your heartbreak, and whatever the horrible situation, this workshop is able to give you your healing liberation.

Just click on this link!

If this has sparked your interest – if you think there’s got to be more to this than the life that is on the surface – then:

A. I promise you there really is
B. I’m going to totally explain it to you, and
C. I’m going to show you how to actualize it.

So come and do the workshop! I can’t wait to see you there!

I hope this has piqued your interest – let me know in the comments!

Keep smiling, healing and thriving because there’s nothing else to do. Lots of love and see you next time.