Everyone who has been hit with narcissistic abuse has trouble accepting that this person didn’t really love them, that they were dishonest and most likely never had their best interests at heart. Initially, this is very, very painful to accept. And within that pain, our very logical brain tricks us into believing that we can […]

Everyone who has suffered narcissistic abuse knows what it is like to feel controlled, abused and manipulated by a narcissist. I know that narcissists seem unstoppable – seeming to be like a terminator who is determined to rip your mind, emotions, resources and life apart. It would appear – as so many people report – […]

There’s a widely held belief that narcissistic abuse will leave you in a state of barely surviving. I certainly believed that. First, because you’re left in a totally diminished experience, and second because you’re going to be facing horrible narcissistic abuse symptoms. I’m sure you know what I mean … Many members of this community […]

There’s nothing lonelier than being misunderstood, especially after the toxic person in your life has purposefully isolated you and stolen your independence by dismantling your support structure. And just when you need support the most, you’re made to feel defective, wrong and even crazy by everyone around you. Because without you knowing it, the narcissist […]

There is no logic to narcissistic abuse, nor is there a logical way to combat it. And your logical mind will not lead you to your emancipation from abuse. I, and countless others, have tried this route but without success because this is the old way of combating a narcissist and it just doesn’t work. […]

Somewhere along the way in a relationship with a narcissist you will find you have been stripped of your ability to look after yourself. Your power has been usurped, you doubt your decisions and you are totally dependant on this person. Further along the way you’ll realize they have started monopolizing your thinking to the […]

Being parented by a narcissist usually leads to significant struggles as an adult and you may be dealing with them right now. It is likely that you never had healthy love or relationships modeled for you and that you have suffered all sorts of mistreatment or abuse regularly, probably since birth. That is the tough […]

There’s a big mistake that people make that really slows down their healing from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, which means that the trauma that’s being unattended to festers, expands and gets worse over time. And distractions or trying to find something that’s going to stop the pain just doesn’t work in the long run. […]

Have you ever asked yourself why it feels like you are addicted to the narcissist? Why it feels like your very being has been hijacked as if a psychic virus has invaded you? I remember not being able to stop myself from breaking No Contact – repeatedly. I kept going back no matter how badly […]