This week I sent out an email that I felt very passionate about called 'Healer – Are you Drowning?' The reason being that so many of us are going through massive change and turmoil right now. I want to ask you - are you struggling? Do you feel out of sorts, confused, lost and fearful? [...]

It’s an oft-repeated myth that being an empath automatically means you attract narcissists or are vulnerable to abuse. This can leave survivors of abuse feeling powerless, because they have no desire to change if it means losing their sensitivity to the emotions of others and their empathy. So in this week’s Thriver TV episode I […]

I wanted to write this article for you, because I know that many of you may be dreading the upcoming aloneness that you are facing these holidays. Let’s get straight down to it – being alone can feel like you are empty and lifeless, especially after experiencing narcissistic abuse. Narcissists suck the very life out [...]

One way or another, a narcissistic relationship will feel so intense, fated and binding that it’s easy to believe it is a soul-mate connection. No wonder we fight so hard for these relationships! But you cannot save a sinking ship if only one crew member is bailing out the water, and you cannot save a […]

Putting yourself first is not an easy thing to do. There can be many multi-layered beliefs that have prevented us from believing that self-care is necessary and healthy. Maybe during the festive season this is even harder for you anchor into. If you are used to being in the proximity of a narcissist, you know [...]

We will all have tales of horrible Holidays – the parent who storms out on Christmas Day leaving the children distraught; the partner who provokes and snipes until you snap and meltdown in front of guests; the cheater who disappears on Christmas Eve and doesn’t return until Christmas Day is over – narcissists create pain […]

A very happy Thanksgiving to all our Thrivers who are celebrating! It’s such a beautiful way of focussing on gratitude – and it got me to thinking about how sometimes gratitude can be used and spun in ways that mean it is toxic to us. And of course, narcissists are fully capable of employing toxic […]

The holiday season can be the most painful time of year for people because, traditionally, it is exactly when we are supposed to be connected, loving, and loved by family, friends, and, hopefully, an intimate other. I remember in my past feeling so empty, worthless, and discarded that I didn’t want to live. All I […]

I’m sure you will have noticed how when narcissists are miserable, then their nearest and dearest have to be punished – and this goes double for holiday time. Whether they are disrupting preparations, creating arguments and drama, giving you the silent treatment, or discarding you and going missing at crucial times, everything they do at […]