It is incredibly common to feel immobilised, guttered and barely able to function in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Especially when you have broken away, and are no longer tied up in the fight of survival. Every day normal tasks may seem beyond comprehension, let alone being able to do them. In fact many people […]

When you are living with narcissistic abuse, you may have felt like everything is your fault. When you understand and become more versed on how narcissists operate, you begin to realise that narcissists project their disowned unacceptable parts on to you and make you out to be the enemy. Narcissists whittle, and blast away at […]

Life can definitely feel hard. When connected to narcissistic abuse it feels agonising, victimised and anguished. It is like all of our worst nightmares have come to bear. The truth is all of this feels terrible. It feels terrible because it is not the truth of who we are… Who we really are is: Love, […]

All of us know about suffering and pain. There is so much of it in narcissistic relationships. In fact it is synonymous with narcissistic abuse, and the aftershock of abuse. I would really like you, though, to understand what pain and suffering really is. Pain is inevitable; it is a part of life. Emotional pain […]

Anyone who has been narcissistically abused knows what it feels like to be enmeshed with the narcissist. It feels crippling, all consuming, and, at the time of the extremes, as if there is no way to be released. This enmeshment occurs physically and especially psychically. The reason I say especially psychically is because, even if […]

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Have you been devastated, infuriated and frustrated when you realise that many of your relationships, and possibly even the one with a parent was with a narcissist? There are Solutions I want to take you on a little bit of an analogy here… Can you imagine having repeated […]

This week’s blog is a continuation of last week’s blog Who Is My Inner Child Last week my client’s session was about discovering her inner child and learning how to nurture it. If you haven’t read it yet please take a look as it will help understand my client’s  next step of her journey. This […]

When we discover essential truths about narcissists, and realise that the narcissist is not capable of genuine love, it’s gut-wrenching. The intense salt in the wounds is the understanding that he or she doesn’t love us now, and never did so. We may experience this in many different forms. Maybe this person who once vowed […]

  As we know, narcissists often act in ways that defy all definitions of normal. They regularly break the rules, tell lies, break promises, degrade, demean, and exhibit unjust, aggressive, and abusive behavior that is inappropriate, childish, without remorse, and totally inhuman. It’s likely, if you have suffered narcissistic abuse, that you have a high […]