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I know deep inside how important it is for you to get in touch with your Inner Being!

Because if you don’t, it means that your life will be controlled by other people and situations, rather than by what is true for you.

How do you get in touch with your Inner Being? How can you self-partner in a way where you are able to meet and be with your Inner Being in a healthy way?

In today’s Thriver TV episode, I take you on this journey of how to integrate and connect back with yourself, in ways where you will be able to create your True Self and True Life.

 

 

Video Transcript

I hope by now you understand just how important it is to get in touch with your Inner Being.

Because if you are not, you will be pulled out of your centre by people and situations, and start living their life, rather than your own.

Your Inner Being is your guide and truth.

So how do you get in touch with your Inner Being?

I’m going to explain to you exactly how you do that in today’s video.

But before I do, thank you, everyone, who has subscribed to my channel for supporting the Thriver mission, and realising and sharing that we can heal for real from abuse now.

And, if you like this video, please like and share it with others who you know it can help.

Right, on with today’s episode!

How it’s Normal to Not Be in Touch With Your Inner Being

It is frighteningly normal not to be in touch with your Inner Being. But in no way is this natural.

I completely and utterly believe that our essential nature is to be at one with ourselves, and then have the capacity to be at one with others and all of life.

So how did we get disconnected from ourselves?

It happened as a result of trauma. Because of taking on the impregnated beliefs that we are defective and damaged, and that we are not loved as we are and that we have to earn our way to love and acceptance.

And of course, there have been incredible atrocities in the collective human history that have created intense anxiety, fear and depression.

Because of this, it can be terrifying to go inside. Who would want to settle into an inner landscape that resembles a war zone?

Naturally, this created us as beings trying to find salvation outside of ourselves. Yet no matter how many possessions we accumulate, or beauty treatments that we may have, or people who we may have intimate and sexual relationships with, the same problem remains.

“I don’t feel at one with myself.”

“I can’t be with myself in times of need and self soothe and bring myself to wholeness.“

Which of course means, … “I have to try to keep medicating with something outside of myself to try to feel sane and okay.”

Can you see the terrible trap that most of humanity has been stuck in throughout the centuries?

The Mistake Most People Make

I feel really compelled to talk about this because this is exactly what I used to do too.

Because we have been indoctrinated into systems that attempt to manage symptoms, rather than healing ourselves deeply at our core, it’s no wonder that we have tried to get in touch with our Inner Being (if we were courageous enough) in a really painful way – whilst we are battling our trauma and its unregulated emotions and thoughts.

This is like trying to sail a ship that has holes in its hull and continually having to bail it out, rather than being able to just healthily sail forward.

I used to be addicted to self-development, meaning that every morning I would meditate, say affirmations, chant, do journaling and yoga – all sorts of things to try to be at one with my Inner Being.

Absolutely these things helped, but the problem was I continually needed to do these things. If I didn’t then the anxiety, fears and depression would all come back.

It was exhausting!

What I was really doing was attempting to manage my Inner Being.

I wasn’t healing it.

When I finally did heal it for real with Quanta Freedom Healing (NARP), no longer did I have to do hours of self-managing. Eventually, there was simply less and less trauma existing inside of me to try to manage.

I have seen the same happen for other people, even those who once declared, just as I did, “What? More inner work? I have been doing self-development for decades and I’m still not healed!”

I promise you that when you finally do free your Inner Being from trauma, you will come home to being able to be with your Inner Being without effort. It will feel peaceful and normal for you to be there.

How to REALLY Come Back Home to Your Inner Being

There is only one way to achieve this – by directing your attention inside your body and working and dealing directly with your emotions.

Not in a way that you judge yourself.

Not in a way that you get taken out by your emotions and spiral into even greater fear, anxiety and depression.

But, in a way where you can be your own saviour. Meaning be the person in your life (and you are the only person who can be) who will rescue you from these impregnated traumas and beliefs that are not Who You Are.

I want you to imagine this. If you had a home that was filled with parasites or vermin that were destroying it, would you face this? Of course, you would do all that you can to have your house cleansed and released from these invaders.

I promise you that your Inner Being is no different. If you have accumulated trauma from your family DNA history, your childhood, and the repeat patterns and traumas that have continued to show up in your life as an adult, then you may have reached toxic overload.

This is when life is getting worse, not better.

This is when you are dissolving rather than evolving.

This is why you are disintegrating, rather than integrating back home to yourself.

There is only one solution to this. Clean up the toxic overload.

I promise you with all my heart that my previous levels of toxic trauma within my Inner Being, that caused my emotions and thoughts to be broken and irreparable, meant that unless I had got rid of my toxic overload, I would never have recovered.

That’s exactly what (thank goodness) I learned how to do.

Once I had released myself from this inner toxicity, I discovered I could reside with my Inner Being as my best friend, lover, healer, confidant and supporter. It became easy and healthy for me to hang out inside myself.

So, I cannot recommend enough, stop trying to come back home to yourself when your inner landscape is uninhabitable.

What is really necessary is to face and meet the inner parts of you that are traumatised to release them and reprogram them.

Then, the constant battle is over!

Yes, of course, this is challenging and even terrifying. But what choice do we have, if we truly want to go free into peace, happiness and success? These things can only be generated from within.

If you are really ready and know that you need to come home to your Inner Being, I want you to pause this video and write below, “Inner Being – (use an endearing term such as sweetheart or darling) I am COMING to you!!”

So, I hope that this has helped. Profoundly.

I know that I’ve been explaining this to you, in so many different ways. Maybe this is the episode that really clicks into place for you.

If you are ready to take this journey with me, back home to yourself and your Inner Being, I’d love you to join me by clicking this link.

I can’t wait to help you achieve this!

And as always, I look forward to answering your comments and questions below.

 

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71 thoughts on “How To Get In Touch With Your Inner Being”

      1. Inner Being! You My lovely One, Oh Dearest Dearest Sweetheart, I love you so so much, and
        I am coming home to you!

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          1. Wow Mel,

            what a honor you are saying me that . . . yipieh !

            Thank you so so much for this all is saving my Soul, Light and Life. And supporting and guiding me.

            Love and Blessings to you <3 *

            Martina

  5. This feels judgmental and assumes the person know how to heal, “ core, it’s no wonder that we have tried to get in touch with our Inner Being (if we were courageous enough) in a really painful way…” I hope you will consider reframing, “if we were courageous enough.”

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  10. Hello huni, I’m coming home to you. Yes this is the video that has given me strength to heal inside. Thanks Melanie

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  11. This is a very interesting episode to me because I do meditation and all those things that you described to try to function more healthily day to day! I have worked through the NARP modules twice over about a two year period followed by a period of doing sporadic modules that applied to specific issues as needed for maintenance. NARP was very helpful toward my healing and while I’m grateful I have to admit I haven’t achieved anywhere near the results you have with NARP. I still have trauma. It’s more managable now and I’m much more in touch with and loving toward my inner being. Did I stop too soon? Do I need to keep doing NARP? Just keep going? Be more committed to repeating all the modules until I feel that all the trauma is gone? How do I get to where you are? Thank you.

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    1. Hi Kimberlea,

      I want you to know this sweetheart, I use NARP all the time! At any time that I am triggered, I do Quanta Freedom Healing on myself, religiously.

      And any time I am confused, stuck, unsure …and limited in any way.

      This is why I am for ever-evolving and expanding into higher and higher trajectories. Literally, because I am loading up all the parts of myself that represent internal trauma and painful beliefs (as per any funky feelings I feel) and I spiral them up and out and then bring in my superconscious self to replace where they were. This means I am forever getting freer and becoming more and more of my True Self.

      Humbly, I haven’t found any other process ever (and I am a prolific seeker) that can do this for me as quickly and as powerfully as what QFH can.

      These days I work with the Source Healing and Resolution module (NARP) a lot, and also processes in my ES Course, because I’ve already cleaned out all the narcissistic junk. These are life tools that the most successful NARPers use consistently, to break free from limits and move into even higher trajectories.

      So, to answer your question. Yes! If you want the most spectacular life you can imagine, then keep using Quanta Freedom Healing as often as possible. Working on ourselves is a life journey, and that is the most important work we will ever do in our life, if we want a great life!

      That is my highest recommendation to you and I hope that this inspires you to keep going.

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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    2. Hi Kimberlea,

      please know hun I use Quanta Freedom Healing (NARP) all the time! If I am triggered into any funky feelings, or I feel unsafe, unsure, confused or limited in any way, my total and absolute go-to is to do a Quanta Freedom Healing. These days because I have cleared out so much of the abuse trauma, I work with the Source Healing and Resolution Module of NARP, or the Empowered Self Course Modules mostly.

      Humbly, as a prolific self-development and spiritual seeker, I have never found a process as effective in moving me out of my old stuck places, into the incredible ever-expanding life that I live now.

      I really want you to know that working on ourselves, deeply to reprogram who we are Being, is the most important work that we can ever do, if we want to keep reaching into MORE of an incredible life (Which is our highest potential).

      That’s why I do it so religiously!

      So in answer to your question, yes, my total recommendation is to keep going. And to use Quanta Freedom Healing as the life tool to shift you very powerfully and quickly out of the states you don’t want to be experiencing, into the ones you do!

      The most successful Thrivers in this community are the people who work with NARP in that way.

      I hope this inspires you!

      Much love to you

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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  12. What a great video Melanie. Thank you!

    “I’m coming home dear heart, with arms wide open. I’m coming home at last.”

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  13. Thanks Melanie,
    I can see that you’re really trying to get people to engage with the healing recently, rather than obsess about the harm that was done. I’m finding this helpful now. Many of your posts in the past have been, at least in part, about how to understand the traumatic experience with the narcissist and to see that person for who they were. That also was helpful to me, when I was still hurting a lot, because I had been so trusting of that person, and was so blindsided by how it all came down on me. But I can see that when I focus too much of my attention on those bad times and on how I was hurt, I get pulled back into that world. I suspect I will go back and forth still, so thanks for both kinds of posts. I’m sure I’ll need the “does he really love the new woman more than me?” post again someday, but maybe not too often 🙂 He’s starting to seem more like a stranger now, and I’m starting to remember to enjoy my own company, in all conditions. So thanks for the work you do!

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    1. Hi Rachel,

      I’m so pleased that this is helping you!

      Ultimately Rachel I would love everybody to engage in my inner transformational resources, because then you do start deeply healing, and ultimately will never meet my information again. And that is my greatest wish, is that people do move on into their amazing lives completely narcissistic free

      I promise you that healing can take a much straighter line than toggling backwards and forwards.

      Rachel, I would love you come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to experience Quanta Freedom Healing for yourself (the healing component in the NARP program) because this is the fastest and most powerful way that myself and the other people who are Thriving have used to heal from abuse and painful relationships.

      I can’t recommend it enough.

      I hope that this helps and much love to you

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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      1. Thanks, I’m using the NARP program as well. But I still enjoy your posts. As I said, it’s much better now, and if I hadn’t done the NARP work, I’m not sure I would have been able to understand as well what you are talking about here. I’ve noticed that I’m actually happy to keep myself company in whatever condition I find myself these days. I probably don’t engage with the modules as often as I should, but every time I do, I discover something new and helpful. And there’s nothing like a global pandemic to give a person some extra time for inner work!

        good wishes and be well
        Rachel

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        1. Hi Rachel,

          The information in the posts can be such a powerful and helpful supplement for the healing work.

          That’s so great that you are doing so well! And, truly NARP is such a powerful resource each and any time you ever feel stuck. It accelerates everything exponentially!

          So much love to you and thank you for your well wishes

          Mel 🙏💕💛

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  14. Hi Mel,
    I have a question. I myself have been through narcissistic abuse and have used the self-management techniques you wrote about in your blog. Upon leaving the narcissist I had some kind of grace fall upon my shoulders that kept insisting I keep my attention inside and by pass the trauma which did work for the first few months. I kept watching my thoughts by observation and not giving any power to my ego and kept focusing my attention inside and something within woke as though it was my god self and some kind of high connection. I also started bikram yoga which really helped me however I was hoovered back in by the narcissist after a year and fell for the fake apologies and funny enough at that time I started having surges of anger from the injustices I tolerated also some childhood flashbacks surface. After I was discarded yet again and finally got out I was in a much worse state because of the after shock and not getting any closure etc. I tried to connect with that inner part of me but I just could not and the trauma got worse with my eventual state being resentment and hatred etc and have been managing symptoms since and have full blown depression now and it’s been almost 2 decades. I have connected the relationship back to childhood trauma but it’s all been trying to get to know why via the mind rather than heal using your methods. Is this the very same thing you talked about in your blog am I experiencing no relief by trying to survive it rather than heal it? I would not be able to go back to that initial relief I felt with my god self because there is too much trauma inside – correct?
    Thank you,
    Penny

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    1. Hi Penny,

      this is such a great question. Penny, I totally believe that usually if we are not working with NARP, which is a deep Quantum Healing Process that bypasses the logical brain and reaches deep into your cellular being to load up, release and replace the trauma with your Higher Self, then there isn’t a true reprogramming going on.

      Penny, myself and so many other people prior to working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp did so MUCH self-practice and self-healing and often years of therapy, however the trauma programs still existed within ourselves, which meant that they were still going to play out.

      For myself, and for so many others, true relief and reprogramming and being able to leave abuse behind only came as a result of the NARP work.

      I really do believe, usually, that my blogs and videos and posts are supplements to the real work of NARP, and mostly that is exactly the truth for the people who are recovering the most in this community.

      It is my highest suggestion, always, to try NARP. And there is absolutely no risk in doing so, because you have a full 30 day, no questions asked, moneyback guarantee.

      What usually happens is when people start working with NARP, they get immediate relief and shifts and regret that they didn’t start working with an earlier.

      I hope that this is helped point you in the right direction Penny.

      Much love to you

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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  18. Melanie, First of all thank you for your wonderful IB post. I hope you don’t mind me asking another couple of questions here as I’ve really wanted to know your answers specifically?

    When you talk about Forgiveness you state that “at a Soul level this (narcissistic abuse) was meant to be”. Why was an innocent child born to a narcissistic mother meant to have narcissistic abuse?

    Also, you state “You created all of it”. How did an innocent child born to a narcissistic mother “create all of it”? How did the child create her narc personality disorder?

    I am obviously missing something important and I would dearly, truly and deeply love to know.

    Once again thank you for being a devoted, inspiring soul.

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    1. Hi Lucinda,

      it is my pleasure, and I absolutely am happy to answer these questions.

      The best way that I can answer this question, because it is such a big conversation is to share this resource of mine with you https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-soul-contract-with-a-narcissist/

      It will make sense as to what my theory is as a result of reading it.

      I’d be happy to continue this conversation if you would like to after reading it!

      Much love to you and thank you for your lovely words

      Mel 🙏💕💛

      Reply

  20. Inner Beeing! You, My Dearest Dearest Sweetheart! I love you so so much, and
    I am coming home to you!

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  21. I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. (Jesus from the bible, John 14:6)
    Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12
    The heart is deceitful above all things…Jeremiah 17:9
    Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. 2 Cor 11:14
    BOTTOM LINE: Salvation was provided by God 2000 years ago. By our free will we choose it. That is love and salvation offered to all. We are not our own Savior but we choose to receive Him or not.

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  23. Hi Melanie, and Donna

    This episode would be a good time to remember that WE allowed the abuse. WE believed the lies. WE accepted and collaborated with the person NOT loving us as we deserved. WE DID IT .

    NARP is a tool for UNDOING what WE gave consent to.

    We learn to Dis-Allow lies to rule in us.

    We accept TRUTH as our only WHOLENESS (healer).

    We receive GOD”s WORD (which calls us to LOVE ourselves) to displace and replace those areas in our hearts that used to serve other gods, i.e. Narc’s opinions.

    We are made WHOLE (SAVED) by living in AT-ONE-MENT with the intent and will and purpose of Elohim our Divine Parent and Source.

    This is why we drop our former alliance with Narcs and commit to a new wedded state. We become married to a completely new state of Being. We become ONE within ourSelf.

    That is why we DO RUN to attend to hurts and memories and sorrows and mournings of the human heart. We learn to LOVE ourselves as Christ loves us and we honor Christ by being imitators of Jesus’ example.

    Therefore : of course we run to comfort our inner beings and shepherd those hurts to the light of Christ. Not to get away from the Narc, but to HONOR GOD.

    Not a religion. A relationship.

    Much Healing Love to all who seek the Truth and the Light honestly.

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    1. Hi Iris,

      I couldn’t agree more with such a true and new revelation that is nondenominational.

      God and our God self is in all things and everyone.

      So much love to you

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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  24. Melanie,

    You have so much wonderful, practical advice, however, this is where we differ greatly. The scripture teaches that our hearts can deceive us. Salvation is only found in Jesus Christ. Whom the Son sets free is free indeed. (also from scripture). I believe you are sincere, but very wrong on this point. “Salvation is found in on one else, for there is no other name (except Jesus),under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved”. Yours is the culturally popular opinion however, it’s not the whole truth. Much love, Donna

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  26. Inner being, beautiful child, sweetheart.. I see you, I feel you, I’m coming home to you, & I promise to love you now & forever after unconditionally & never leave you again.. we are one little darling xo

    So grateful to you & NARP Mel.. I cannot thank you enough.
    Wendy Xo

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  27. Dear Donna,

    Yours is a really interesting point for many Christians. I am also a committed Christian, and I have done the full NARP and (nearly completed – module 10) QFES courses. For me, these two approaches do not clash at all. Words will not suffice to express the nuances of mind, body and spirit, but I would like to attempt to communicate something of this, because it is an important subject to me. I see so many Christians conflicted between God and self, as healer, but I believe that the more we are in God and living as God’s, the more aligned we are with His very nature, will, and power – Love, expressed in healing, forgiveness, compassion.

    As a child of God, I prayerfully discern to work with Him in His hope for my life, my sense of true identity in Him. These two points do not take me away from being an authentic and autonomous individual; He created me to be who I truly am inside, not who I once came to think I was by still-wounded humans and through traumas kept inside me, dictating my choices.

    I am experiencing that the more I am with Christ, as an active participant of His will for me, the more whole and healed I become. The more whole and healed I become, the more I embody the Love that He is by nature – that I am by nature as His creation – the less my ego drives my giving to others, or my need for others to lead me. It is God who gives and of God I give; without need or fear or insecurity, but with unconditional acceptance of my true nature.

    We get a choice to participate, to take part in the choices we are offered. God gives us that choice, and we discern what is in alignment with His will for us, as best we can, in any given moment.

    God wills for us all to be restored to our true, authentic selves, and to be increasingly effective in our gifts and purpose on Earth. Surely it is simply the interpretation of the language used that gets in the way of much of what God Himself offers us.

    I can’t recommend Mel’s work enough, because of my own, personal healing journey with it, alongside my faith; its truth is universal, spiritual, and scientific. It is neither religious nor anti-religion.

    I offer blessings to all on their healing journey back to the fullness of the Love they already are within,
    Love Abound,
    Stephanie x

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    1. Hi Stephanie.

      Thank you for writing this, and I adore when Christianity and spirituality and science becomes one.

      We are all in this together, In Love.

      And I believe that anything else is a blasphemy to God.

      So much love to you

      Mel 🙏💕💛

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  28. I’m coming home to you in Selah, my sweetheart! I would do anything for you because I love you unconditionally forever . . .

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  29. I signed up and really have gotten in to the treatment but I was left hanging after the first exercise. I open my arms and I open my body and I breathe in deep and I imagine myself is that little girl and I told myself I’m here for you Stacy I love you Stacy I’ll never leave you Stacy it was quite emotional I was excited about continuing the treatments but see my narcissistic relationship is left me a flat broke what money I do make is what I need to survive to keep shelter over my head lights on and I see that I cannot go any further unless I purchase your program your books there’s no way I can budget that in right now so I thought kind a like I was dropped like a rock felt emotional the whole next day I’m not quite sure what to do with myself so I just kept telling myself I’m here for you Stacy and I love you I was wondering if there was a sister friend out there that maybe had read the books and didn’t need them anymore and could pass him on to me so that I may heal as well it’s really sad when you don’t have the income to heal but you have the desire my name is Stacy my email address is SLMRUDDY [email protected] somebody has extra books please message me so that maybe you could pass it forward and I would pay it forward myself I’m desperate I felt depressed and suicidal Until I found this program. But I must say after listening to the first session and not being able to continue any further due to lack of funds I felt like I was dropped like a hot rock it was very dangerous. So please if there’s one sister friend anywhere out there they could share the literature with me because I can’t afford it but I can’t afford to stay in the state of mind any longer please message me thank you sincerely Stacy

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  31. Dear Donna,

    As a Christian who memorized the New Testament in the King James -the version that you are quoting – I would love to recommend the MIRROR BIBLE translation, or The Passion Translation, or any excerpt by Neil Douglas Klotz such as Prayers of the Cosmos (which translates The Lord’s Prayer directly from the Aramaic that Jesus spoke).

    These works of more recent scholarship translate the words that Jesus actually spoke in the historical context of his culture. Jesus is full of Grace and Truth and his teaching NEVER condemned anyone EVER. His teaching is Full of Grace only.

    The King James is a 17th century attempt to put into modern English the thought of a 1st Century mystic of a completely different culture.

    If we don’t know what Jesus really meant, then we can’t say we believe him, or in him or in God through his word.

    We’re actually reading and trusting the witness of an INTERPRETATION of what Jesus said and taught.

    Please check out the Mirror Bible for some good clarifications of the definitions of some terms we take for granted such as “sin” “repentance” and “confess” “hypocrite” and “faith” .

    Jesus reveals the Father and Mother of mankind. He did not condemn because there is no condemnation. Our Father and Mother is ETERNAL LOVE that can never be anything less.

    Nothing can change God.
    God IS Love that never changes.

    Peace from our Lord Jesus Christ.

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