Given the distress and damage narcissistic abuse causes it can be hard to believe that we have superpowers that can make them bolt the other way! Just like vampires when you shine the light on them, they retreat into the shadows when you are not needy or empty any more. And positively flee when you […]

Today, I’m very inspired to talk to you about how to heal toxic shame. This is crucial after narcissistic abuse. I have found it very interesting that many of my clients and even friends have been reporting that they are experiencing deep feelings of shame and guilt. It seems to be coming up at this [...]

Co-dependents are the most delicious of fodder for narcissists because co-dependents are really nice people who don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings. They work hard at trying to earn love and approval and they’re usually very resourceful. On the flip side, narcissists seek people like this to exploit as the parasitical entities that they […]

Today I want to talk to you about something inspirational – finding your calling after everything that you’ve been through - and I’d love to share with you my personal story, with my heartfelt desire that it can help you. Narcissistic abuse is an extreme situation of going through the depths of darkness, forcing us [...]

A benevolent or altruistic narcissist is tricky to spot. They are not your typical narcissists because they are giving and caring and show every sign of loving you. They grant you attention, time, and effort. They’re very generous in that way, but when they turn on you, it’s just as devastating as with any narcissist. […]

If you’re part of this community, by now you’ve probably experienced the destructive triangulation tactics narcissists use to gain dominance and control over you. It’s insidious and a very painful dynamic that triggers your insecurities. When you’re caught in this web – whether it’s in a love relationship, at work, with friends or family members […]

Leaving a narcissist is a tough road to travel. If you’ve done it, you know what I mean… If you’re heading in that direction you need to watch this video. Like all of us who’ve been through this, you think you’ll feel better after you’ve left but then once you’re out, the aftershock sets in. […]

It’s devastating when a narcissist lies, smears you and uses your dismayed reactions to their abuse against you. This is what narcissists do mercilessly, methodically, and even chillingly. As a False Self it is what they have to do ­– demonise you and exalt themselves as the victim and the good one. This gives them [...]

Have you been stuck and unable to move on from the narcissist? If this is where you’re at, let me be straight with you – there is an important reason for not being able to move on and it is based on a BIG LIE. I believed this lie for a long time, I fell […]