Most, if not all, of us have experienced shame, and as we heal, we become aware that our entire lives have been blighted by things like people-pleasing perfectionism and procrastination. We lack boundaries with other people and become quickly enmeshed with them. Yet, we cannot create genuinely intimate relationships with others where we receive love […]

How do narcissists pull it off? You may meet one, and every morsel of your being recoils. Yet later, you feel drawn to and even attracted to this person. Have you heard the story of the Alabama corrections officer who fell in love with a narcissistic inmate and helped plan his escape? Maybe you know […]

I’ve been talking recently about how many of us are experiencing pain we thought we had shifted out of and making us feel life is breaking apart and collapsing. Or maybe you are in a place where you have only recently begun to recognize how you have specific patterns in your life. For example, perhaps […]

Today’s article is especially important, because relationships are under great strain at the moment. I’ve been writing about this is one way or another for the last couple of weeks. I now want to have a deeper conversation with you about trauma, energy levels, how dense energy trapped in our Inner Being plays havoc on [...]

Most of us know first-hand how difficult it is to go No-Contact with a narcissist. The agonizing pain of being without them can have us feeling powerless, out of control, and unable to resist the compulsion to contact them. Even when we do ‘detox’ from them, we can find ourselves falling into other addictions to […]

Those of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse can tend to be the kind of people who find themselves doing good things for the wrong reasons. Specifically, connecting to and trying to help other people, who are not prepared to help themselves. Before healing and Thriving we did this to try to earn love, because [...]

2022 has been a really hard year for so many of us and as we hurtle towards 2023, events (both global and personal) seem to be picking up pace all the time. Add to that the stress of preparing for festive celebrations, and it’s no surprise that a large proportion of our community is feeling […]

This week I sent out an email that I felt very passionate about called 'Healer – Are you Drowning?' The reason being that so many of us are going through massive change and turmoil right now. I want to ask you - are you struggling? Do you feel out of sorts, confused, lost and fearful? [...]

It’s an oft-repeated myth that being an empath automatically means you attract narcissists or are vulnerable to abuse. This can leave survivors of abuse feeling powerless, because they have no desire to change if it means losing their sensitivity to the emotions of others and their empathy. So in this week’s Thriver TV episode I […]