Today’s article is especially important, because relationships are under great strain at the moment. I’ve been writing about this is one way or another for the last couple of weeks.

I now want to have a deeper conversation with you about trauma, energy levels, how dense energy trapped in our Inner Being plays havoc on relationships, and why it is so much healthier to clean it out and move higher.

To help you with this, I am offering a 2½ hour workshop on Valentine’s Day called ‘Manifesting 5D Love Relationships’ where I will explain all I cover today in greater detail. It also includes three Quanta Freedom Healing shifts and a Live Q & A session, to help you go beyond unconscious blocked love manifestation to reach healthier, happier, higher-vibrational relationships.

Many people right now are going through the decoupling of relationships. So much division and separation has happened over the last few years, but this is more than that divide due to politics, personal choices or literal separation by distance of those times.

There has also been a massive divide in consciousness.

In this healing community many people are up-levelling their relationships, by realising it is incredibly destructive to be in relationship with people who don’t have integrity, ethics and a conscience. Yet that’s only the starting point. Their choices are universally becoming even more refined so that many people, especially those doing the inner work to evolve themselves, are deeply desiring conscious relationships in their life.

 

What are Conscious Relationships?

What does this really mean?

This is not about people being perfect because perfect people don’t exist.

I’ll give you my definition. It’s about people who are authentic: those who are kind-hearted, honest, can speak up, show up and are interested in Unity Consciousness.

What does Unity Consciousness mean? It means being a team; being open, caring, truthful, and invested in the cause or common goals of the relationship. Rather than being narcissistically invested for self, or otherwise unable to engage in that level of relationship due to an inability to honestly and humbly recognise and resolve unmet, unhealed inner wounds and defences.

To be unified with others requires being unified with self.

Trauma has erupted within people over the last few years, and there are many people with old and accumulating trauma who are not unified with self.

How do these people show up? They aren’t growing. They are stuck in the same stuff – spinning their wheels whilst things are getting worse for them. They look outwards, not inwards. They blame others and refuse to take responsibility for their own inner and outer lives.

It’s becoming much harder to hang out with them.

And I promise you, humbly, there is no judgement with this. Everyone is on their own personal journey, and I bless that. I’m just making an honest observation.

Conversely, personally and collectively many are going through incredible growth spurts spiritually, as well as connecting to their purpose and calling in the world. The intense pressure of the last few years was the grist that has pushed them there. They were diamonds under pressure, and butterflies emerging from sticky and constricted cocoons.

Even individuals who are not sure of what their personal calling is yet, know they no longer have an appetite for the ‘same old same old’ dramas and skirmishes that they once took part in. They are now focussing on deeper, more important and urgent matters, including their own inner personal development.

For many there is an inner calling to commune with their conscious soul mates and tribes. It’s become completely empty and unfulfilling to play out the blatant unconsciousness of inauthenticity, pretending and ‘going along to try to get along’ with people who just don’t share the same journey as you do.

This article today is for those of you who are feeling like this, know it MUST exist and wish to manifest conscious love.

 

 

 

The ‘Usual’ Traumatic Levels of Human Love

Love is about so much more than romantic love.

Higher vibrational love is love from a Higher Source than the usual ‘human’ versions of love. It creates authentic connection in real-life human love – as well as with self and life itself.

Abuse and trauma has had much to do with the human experience, and sadly many ‘love’ experiences – with any impactful person, as well as intimate partners – can create being stuck in the three lower chakra centres.

This means not being able to open one’s heart to true conscious love and not being able to engage in it.

Let me explain why…

 

Being Stuck In Survival

The base chakra is to do with survival. When unresolved traumas – of fear around finances, providing for self and others, and being able to make it in the world – get stuck here, then toxic energy is blocked in this lower level.

This results in not having access to a flow with Source. It denies us the knowing that Divinity is the unlimited provider, and means we are unable to become a self-generative source, in conscious creation – with unlimited potential to be abundant, expansive and prosperous.

The manifestation of this is survival lack within self and therefore fearful dependencies – being dependent on another for survival.

People in this place (and I used to be one of them) are attracted to those they feel can ‘look after them’.

Many people in this situation work in vocations they hate, to try to survive financially; or never express their talents because they don’t believe they can succeed; or get attached to people who will abuse them, because of their dependency. Or they may try to hitch a ride on a successful individual, only to have that person call them out to step up, and not allow them to be dependent and exploitative.

In other words, it never ends up well. It brings exactly what is feared – financial losses and struggle with survival.

 

Being Stuck In Desire

Then there is the blockage at the second level, the navel chakra. This is to do with desire.

Desire is a powerful manifestation energy, if the energy can move up through the heart and beyond. But if energy is stuck down below the heart chakra, then desires become addictions – namely, ways to self-medicate away unhealed trauma.

A desire to ‘get’ what someone may need to feel whole from ‘outside of self’ is where ‘love’ becomes ‘obsession’. Communion becomes manipulations of ‘giving to get’, or ‘control to get’ and connection falls into power-plays – often co-dependencies and narcissism.

Others are held responsible for the painful interactions in relationships, rather than having the consciousness to look within, take responsibility and heal oneself. It’s all about defences and fear: “you didn’t grant me what I wanted – and you are to blame.” As victims we can play this out as much as narcissists do.

 

Being Stuck in Seeking Love and Approval

Then there is the last of the lower three chakra blockages – the solar plexus. This is about ‘identity’.

If the energy is stuck here because of traumatic fear and pain, then the lack of identify flow to heart and Source connection means a need to look to False Sources (others) for love and approval.

This means “I need you to ‘see’ me for me to feel worthy. What you think of me is more important than what I (and Source) think of me. It’s the opinions of others that grant me my value in the world.”

This is a very precarious position. It means “I’m only as good as my last job, pay check, attractive acquisition or your opinion. I therefore can’t be vulnerable and real about the parts of me I need to heal. I try to hide them from myself and others, and be ‘who I am not’ to get approval from others.”

This all equals how to lose, bring disastrous interactions in close relationships and ultimately the hidden belief of “I don’t love and approve of myself at all” comes home to roost.

Now let’s see what happens beyond these places, where conscious love operates.

 

Accessing the Higher Levels of Consciousness

During this shift that we are in at the moment, there is ‘the great divide’ between those stuck in the 3D, separation consciousness of lower-vibrational unhealed trauma (fear and pain) and those who are letting go of trapped internal trauma to move up higher.

 

The Heart Chakra

Let’s look at the fourth chakra consciousness that is required for Unity Consciousness. If you have released dense stuck energy from the lower three primal levels, then you have the ability to open your heart to yourself and Source with power and safety.

The opening of your heart with consciousness and honesty, without defences, allows you to be connected to Source. You have access to Divine Love.

In this place you know you are loved by Source and belong to The All, and you can be yourself.

This means that you can open yourself to life, self and others, with discernment anchored in love, honour and self-respect. You are true to your values and truths, and you deeply know that Source is your Source of love, NOT false sources. You need no person or thing to conditionally provide you with what you want, in order for you to feel worthy of love.

 

The Throat Chakra

Then we have the fifth chakra, the throat. If you have liberated yourself up through the lower levels and moved into your heart, then you can rise into the authenticity of speech.

This involves being authentic and no longer simply going along with what people want to hear.

Instead, it is telling people the truth about how you feel and being able to have the difficult conversations when necessary. It is an ability to be vulnerable, real, honest and to express truth about self.

 

The Third Eye Chakra

Then we have the sixth chakra, the third eye. This higher spiritual level can only be accessed by living energetically through the heart and throat to receive Higher Wisdom.

This is the knowing and understanding of the Higher Picture – such as “It is all happening FOR me and not TO me.” It is the ascension from victimhood into seeing life through the eyes of Source and being accepting of your soul journey. You are then able to follow that journey with awareness and Source flowing through you as you.

This is where you have access to ALL infinite wisdom and information. This is the seat of being able to hear, listen, access, and trust your intuition. Rather than second-guessing yourself, using other people as your authority, and allowing yourself to be manipulated or guided by your triggers and unhealed wounds.

 

The Crown Chakra

Finally there is the seventh chakra – the crown chakra. This is the connection to absolute Unity Consciousness – the knowing of Quantum Oneness. “My inner being is the generator of my outer experience. Everything and everyone in my experience is a reflection of me co-creating all of it, either consciously or unconsciously.”

This is also access to the knowing of “I am spirit in a physical being; my true essence is infinite, immortal and indestructible.”

And ultimately “Source and I am One.”

These higher levels of consciousness change how we show up to relationship and also the ‘bar’ that is set for our future relationships.

As I said, this is not about perfection. It is about people who are growing – in humility and contact with their true essence – wanting to heal and connect to greater relationship authenticity.

I am loving seeing this powerful shift happen in our community, where more and more of you are moving down this ascension path. Absolutely this heaven on earth exists – and in more abundance now than EVER!

 

In Conclusion

Right now relationships that are out of integrity are crashing and crumbling because they are making way for the connection and people who are your conscious soul tribe – including romantically.

It’s time beautiful people!

My workshop on Valentine’s Day will be wonderful for you if this article resonated with you. It is for you if you are sick and tired of feeling unloved, unworthy of love, and frustrated with your love options, and deeply desire to become a person who can manifest conscious, authentic and truly fulfilling love.

You can join by clicking here – and please know if you can’t make the event live, you can watch the replay.

It will also be very powerful for you if you realise you have been stuck in these lower levels of personal energy and wish to be liberated out of that pain, fear and confusion, into the REAL life and relationships that you want to powerfully and safely enjoy.

I am very excited to share enlightening information and healing shifts to move you higher on Valentine’s Day, as well as personally answer your burning questions about all things LOVE!

Did this article speak to you?

I’d love you to share it with others who could also benefit from healing upwards toward love.

Do you feel like you are hanging on to trauma, which is limiting your love capacity to your lower three chakras?

Or are you are moving up beyond this into your heart and connection to Source and Real Love?

Let me hear your feedback about this topic with your comments and questions below.

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12 thoughts on “How To Manifest Conscious Love

  1. Dear Melanie!
    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful article with us, Melanie!

    My first thoughts were about subjective and objective “love” and how subjective “love” is so different and contrary to objective “love”….

    Subjective or ordinary “love” is always connected to a “something” that we are trying to satisfy for ourselves. It is generally rooted in the material or the want of something material… or it could be as a result of a desire to have something that we want that will satify certain ordinary longings or fill up something in us that might be feeling incomplete…

    the unfortunate thing is that as a result of its basis, it, ordinary subjective “love”, is constantly subject to change and is never constant and it’s not loyal….

    Some teachers of the esoteric say that objective love is without condition, is not rooted in ordinary desire, and therefore has the potential to manifest entirely different….

    What I got from this amazing article Melanie is just that!

    That, at least as I understood everything that you mentioned here, when I’m in that state I no longer wish or or hope for or want “ordinary” in my life…that I want extra ordinary which is how following the teachings of you and NARP is where, in my experience, NARP is guiding me….

    When I am in that state I wish to grow as a human being….In that state I desire more and more and more until I reach, most often momentarily, a place within where I am living, even if it’s for a short period of time, that’s full and rich….and I find a special inner joy when I’m there….

    Sometimes when I do the modules or I’ve listened to you speak I feel like that! It’s a wonderful feeling but it’s not enough and it’s not often enough!

    NARP reminds me of the necessity of doing the inner work constantly…especially that when it comes to love and the manifestation and expression of love we need to be uncluttered, unbiased and free within to express this wonderful thing called LOVE….

    Unfortunately for so many of us who have gone through the torture and nightmare of narcissistic abuse it’s a little scary to think that we will actually be able to have within ourselves that kind of deep love, a deep love of life and creation and maybe even God!

    However, I believe that if I continue following “the way of a Narper” I will get there and be able to do that constantly not just in moments here and there….

    This article inspired me to fully trust NARP guidelines and believe in me…
    that I can do it!
    Thank you so very much, Melanie!
    Sending love and continued gratitude!
    ❤️🦋❤️
    PS! I’m going to sign up for the Valentines workshop and hope I can be there! ❤️

    1. Dear Melanie,

      Amazing article, thank you for talking about these things. It’s so weird…I see it around myself that with some people we get hard conversations and both grow and with some people it looks we will part ways as it just doesn’t work anymore.

    2. Hi Peter,

      everything you have expressed is BANG ON!

      You have nailed what living “extraordinarily” really is!

      That’s awesome you are coming into the Valentine’s Day Event!

      Lots of love to you

      Mel 🙏💞🦋

  2. Dear Melanie,
    I am very grateful for this article because it finally enabled me to say goodbye to someone which has been overdue for a long time because I do not want to prove myself that I am in poverty consciousness over and over again with similar structured people. Instead I would like to improve this consciousness of mine to meet people of my soul tribe. Warm regards, Cristina

    1. Hi Christina,

      I’m so happy this helped you to stand in your Soul Truth.

      You are doing a fantastic job Christina and thank you for being a fellow traveller on this journey of Truth!

      Much Love

      Mel 🙏💞🦋

  3. Hi Mel,

    This article is so timely for me. I am part of the
    NARP program and have used it extensively. I am divorced, since the end of October, after a 29 year marriage to a narcissist. Now I find myself wondering where do I go from here. I feel a little stuck, but I also feel I’ve made it to the Heart Chakra. Reading this article has given me the encouragement and guidance of what to strive for next in my life. I know there is so much more out there for me, and I so want to find it.

    Thank you.

    1. Hi Mary Ellen,

      I’m so happy for you that you have made it this far … and please know it is usual after separating and healing from narcissistic abuse to say “what is next”.

      (So great that you have opened your heart – as this will make these next expansion steps so much easier for you to do!)

      I do have a couple of suggestions to help grant you that direction.

      The first is My Empowered Self Course (connects you into these next expansions – whatever it is that you would love to create) https://courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/empoweredself and/or… the second I will be opening another Dating Bootcamp Series soon! And if you want to create real, healthy love that will be a powerful and very fulfilling six week journey for you!

      Much Love to you

      Mel 🙏💞🦋

  4. Dead set this is bang on the money for someone like me who has been spinning their wheels big time! I have experienced narc abuse and have had a timeline of trauma for as long as I can remember being a child. Right now in therapy trying right brain modalities and the like however my anxiety and depression have been a battle for life and still are. I have hit a point where I have run out of money, resources, energy, and even my freedom to enjoy life and it’s all come to a halt I have never weighed so much in my life and the funny thing is I can actually feel the trauma in my solar plexus and beneath like in the naval and root of my centers as you mentioned. Not having a real identity and these false sources you talk about well there have been plenty of these arseholes who have shown up in my life reflecting back as mirrors as to what trauma I have in my own body. I was so dependent on their opinions and what I had done and achieved and how they thought about me rather than who I really was within – what a lie and the training I had as a child was obviously total bullshit too. My approval is of my own and source and they are not my authority – smack bang on.

    1. Hi Kai,

      I’m so pleased this resonated deeply with you and has helped you connect to the spiritual Quantum Truth of what has really been playing out for us all.

      Sending you much love and healing

      Mel 🙏💞🦋

  5. I feel like i can work from the heart up, but lacking the first three down… Still got trauma present

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