Melanie Tonia Evans

The Spiritual Vampire – How To Eradicate A Narcissist’s Energy From You For Good

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Written By   Melanie Tonia Evans

 

You may be stunned by how, even after leaving a narcissist, it feels like their trauma lives on inside you.

Do you feel like they have a psychic hose stuck in you, sucking out your Life-force?

Why doesn’t the trauma go away? How can you get his terrible ‘entire being and psyche takeover’ feeling to leave?

The solution is not logical – it is in fact deeply spiritual and Quantum.

I can’t wait to share with you, what this spiritual vampire energy really is, and how to eradicate it, rise beyond it and live free from it forever.

 

 

Video Transcript

Many people are shocked by the soul vandalism that goes on with narcissistic abuse. How a narcissist can infiltrate your being and suck your energy dry.

Most people end up being barely a shell afterwards.

The truth is narcissistic abuse is a spiritual phenomenon and a psychic disease – it’s like a black ink that poisons your entire brain, body and nervous system.

Today I want to take you into what is necessary to detox from a narcissist’s energy permanently – so that you not only go free of the narcissist but also potentially all the fears and dark energy that have derailed you in your life.

Please know we are going to get very spiritual and Quantum in this Thriver TV lesson today!

Before we get started, I want to thank those of you who have subscribed to join the Thriver Tribe, and if you haven’t yet, please do subscribe. Also, if you like this video, please hit the like button!

Okay, so let’s begin today’s episode.

 

The Belief of Darkness and Light

There is a lot of controversy about what narcissists are and what is going on with the ‘soul war’ that we have with them.

It is a popular religious belief regarding darkness and evil and Light and God, that narcissists are evidence of evil on the planet, taking the good Life-force from others.

I know this may ruffle some feathers, but from a Quantum perspective, I don’t agree with this philosophy. What I believe is that there is only Light and that all evil – darkness is the absence of Light – is to do with trauma and false beliefs.

I see it all as True Self and False Self.

Now stay with me in this following conversation, because I promise you that there is a point to it.

I believe that True Self means being of God, of the Light, and knowing in Quantum Truth that everything is connected; that all this is love and there is no part that is not the Oneness of Life/Source/Creation. From the Quantum level, we now know scientifically that when we view the smallest subatomic particles of ourselves we go beyond matter into wavefunctions. The very nucleus of us all is a consciousness and energy that is directly connected to the energy of all other Beings and things.

Okay, so the point I am getting to is this: narcissism has forgotten this. It is the belief in ‘separation’, which is the greatest wound in the human experience, that has caused the darkness.

It’s the forgetting; the turning away from the Light and believing in a separate self that is ‘thrown out’ and not accepted by the whole.

That’s the insanity, the damage and the trauma in the human psyche. THAT is the darkness.

If we feel ‘separate’, we don’t believe that we are worthy of love from Life/Source/Creation; we feel defective and unacceptable. When we feel ‘separate’, we treat others in the ways that we really feel about ourselves, taking what we need to survive (narcissism) by force, manipulation or coercion. Or we try to ‘people’ please to get love, approval, security and survival, and we do this because we don’t feel capable of generating these things for ourselves directly with Life/Source/Creation (co-dependency).

These two lots of individuals are incredibly powerful magnets for each other.

The co-dependent will feed the narcissist’s insatiable need to abuse and take, and the co-dependent easily falls for the narcissist pretending to be their Source of ‘everything they need’.

The huge problem I have with the religious view of Evil (them) and Light (us) is that there is the missing piece, which is us taking responsibility to look at our own beliefs and traumas. Our beliefs and the associated traumas have impacted us in our lives – both from the collective and personal human experience – because we have also fallen into the trap of ‘belief of separation’.

Through the forgetting of Who We Really Are, we have stopped being a connected Oneness able to generate Life directly with Life. Instead, we have become lesser beings trying to get our salvation through False Sources.

And this is EXACTLY what narcissists are.

 

The Power in the Belief of Good

The truth sets us free.

Yes, narcissists are vampires and they are sucking our Life-force. However, if we just put it down to evil and believe that this can happen to anyone, then we are dangerously in Wrong Town.

Likewise, we are in Wrong Town if we believe we must be on the lookout for these people to avoid them, and therefore we don’t look within ourselves to heal what we need to.

I much prefer Right Town, which means taking the personal responsibility to know that we are the generative source of our own experience. This is what I know as the number one criteria in narcissistic abuse recovery – the acceptance of ‘this is happening FOR me’.

If we know there is only Light and Love, we know that no matter what our experience at a soul level is, it is perfect. We are being brought the experiences to wake us up into our inner healing truths to become the people we need to be, to up-level and move beyond our previous separation and fearful beliefs.

Then we can start being Who We Really Are – not small separated beings thrown out of the Oneness, but incredible holistic, connected, magnificent Beings instead.

I truly don’t know of any process more powerful than narcissistic abuse to bring us to that place of awakening.

I want you to think about this…

Our separation beliefs are: ‘I am defective, unloved and unwanted. I must be being punished. I am on my own; it’s me against life. It’s not safe to be myself. It’s not even safe to be in life or alive. I am not supported by Life/Source/Creation, and I have to earn my right to exist. In fact, I don’t get support from anywhere. There must be something wrong with me. Maybe I’m cursed because my life is a struggle and I am always up against everything that is pitted against me.’

Can you relate?

After narcissistic abuse, we feel like this horrifically. When we start doing the real Quantum inner work to heal from narcissistic abuse, we find out that many, if not all, of these beliefs were already in our Energy Field – from collective human beliefs, past lives, genetic family history and, of course, our childhoods. In fact, we have been in repeat on these painful beliefs, which have been holding us separated to varying degrees from the Oneness and the Light that is the REAL truth.

The narcissist was the messenger of these traumas, ironically appearing to be the saviour of them. Because we were living our own separation beliefs of being ‘outed’ from Oneness, we assigned this person as a False Source – as the Light. Metaphorically this person became a ‘God’ or a ‘parent’ to us. The person to take away the pain of feeling unloved and unworthy.

Maybe before narcisistic abuse, we knew we were in pain and knew we weren’t whole. Or maybe we were so busy trying to survive in life, as a result of doing life from the outside in (separation) that we had no idea because it was all we had ever known.  Often, because these traumas were our ‘normal’ – we have been carrying them in our Being for goodness knows how long – it’s not until we graduate back home to our Connected/Oneness beliefs that we realise how separated we have been.

And how painful and traumatic that was.

The reason I called this section ‘The Power In The Belief of Good’ is this: when we know the horrific pain of the trauma and beliefs of ‘separation’ are happening to us for a reason – FOR us – then we know we need to heal. We know we desperately need to find a way out of the internal hell that all of the false beliefs and traumas have cast us into.

If we don’t awaken and align with the truth, what are we going to do? Attempt to medicate the trauma away so that we don’t feel anything at all? Or cross the line into selling our soul and becoming a narcissist ourselves to try to escape the inner hell that we are now living in?

Or, will we heal for real from this and release ourselves into our True Self and True Life?

Naturally, I take a stand for the later. I’ve said so many times to this community, ‘You could not give me any amount of money to go back to who I was, and the life I lived, even before narcissistic abuse.’ Thank goodness I made the journey to my True Self and True Beliefs and still continue this journey every day.

As a result, I am thrilled to be in my body, on this planet, doing this Life. The pain has gone, and constant joy, growth, possibility and miracle are available. And I know that this awaits every Thriver who takes this journey too.

This is what I truly believe ‘evil’ is… It is the absence of Light. It is the dire separation from the truth.

And I believe ‘hell’ is a state. It is being immersed in the false beliefs and traumas that are NOT the truth of Who We Are.

Narcissists live in that place – they are stuck there – but we don’t have to be.

There is a way out.

 

Narcissists Are the Symptom Not the Problem

Here is another controversial statement.

Narcissists are not the issue; they are the symptom of the real issue.

The real problem is the belief of separation within humanity, causing people to be in trauma and pain and hurt. It’s people spreading this psychic disease of separation further and further by looking at life from the outside in – there is always someone else to blame in my victimhood.

When our soul has had enough of this state and knows it’s time to be free of these traumas and false beliefs, the unconscious will become conscious. That’s when the evidence that we are in Wrong Town can turn up in our life as a narcissist.

When we are carrying the traumas of separation, and everything within our belief system is painful, lacking and limited, then the people who match these beliefs turn up and ingrain themselves in our experience.

But when they smash us hard enough, we awaken to the Interconnected POWERHOUSE CREATOR that we are which is this – my life unfolds to the letter according to my Belief Systems.

Alright … so, if you believe and understand that you are a Powerful Quantum Creator Beyond Measure – please write EXACTLY that below!

Okay… Like a leaking roof that is being ignored, or a car that is getting driven despite the engine making really weird grinding noises, the traumas of separation, and the breakdown get worse and worse until they get your attention. And this is all because they are false and defective and not organically functional.

Narcissists are the poster people representing that experience.

When we believe we are separated and hurting, and we don’t take on the inner Quantum power to heal ourselves, we try to get the fix on the outside and in doing so hand our power away and get abused. Until we turn inwards to heal our painful, false belief systems, we cling and try to force the abuser into saving us.

And things get worse and worse and worse until we stop doing this.

Gosh, it’s terrible – it’s heartbreaking and it just doesn’t work. The narcissist, who is stuck in his or her own trauma and survival delusions, fully believing that you are the cause of their issues, believes to feel better he or she is entitled to take your lifeforce and everything that is yours. Hence the being sucked dry by the narcissist’s vampirish ways.

There are no happy endings in this dynamic. And even if we do get away and believe that the narcissist was the issue – then why can’t we heal? The answer is simple. Because we haven’t yet released ourselves from the traumas and beliefs of the biggest disease to ever infect this planet – the lie of separation.

It’s only by letting go of False Sources (aka narcissists) and doing what we have always needed to do, come inside and face and unpack our traumas and false beliefs on the inside of us, that we get our salvation.

 

The Truth About Detoxing a Narcissist

The real evidence of any truth is when it works.

The Thrivers who are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually free of narcissists – even those they still have to parallel parent with – are free because they went to their traumas, as someone would a leaky roof or grinding engine and fixed the inside issue. They healed their beliefs of separation.

When we do this with our triggered traumas, which are catastrophic after being smashed by narcissists, one by one they leave our Being. And as they go, with them goes the false belief(s) connected to the trauma.

We literally unpack ourselves from the human madness and pain that we have been entrenched in. We learn how to be in life in a connected way – knowing what it is to Go Quantum and have Life/Source/Creation flowing through us as us.

We know that Life unfolds itself in our experience to the letter according to our Inner Belief systems, and that when we heal these beliefs not only does our entire experience change, but also we deeply change at our core. We no longer play life the way we used to.

We get better and we do better.

We live life powerfully, as a master of our life from the inside out rather than as a victim of life from the outside in.

I promise you when you get to that level – and even when you are in the process of it – the narcissist becomes less and less valid in your experience. You’ll get to the point where seeing him or her is as quickly forgotten as stepping over a slug on the pavement and moving on.

When you have truly understood that a narcissist’s purpose in your life is to thrust you into the deepest experience of darkness to be-come and anchor the Light, for yourself and humanity, then you know and start living in the truth.

I promise you that when you get there, your soul contact is complete and all that hurts, including your trauma symptoms, goes. You also go free of previous limitations and fears.

The narcissist will leave your experience and go smash someone else’s separation beliefs into fully blown consciousness – granting them exactly the opportunity you just experienced.

Are you ready to take your graduation, out of the darkness and pain into the interconnectedness and powerfulness of your True Life? If so come with me. The journey not just SAVED my life, it also GAVE me my life – and I know it can do the same for you.

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As always, I am greatly looking forward to answering your comments and questions below.

 

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55 Thoughts on The Spiritual Vampire – How To Eradicate A Narcissist’s Energy From You For Good
  • andrea_hobkirk@yahoo.com'
    Andrea
    July 1, 2019

    I am a very powerful Quantum creator

    • judy.hill@mypostoffice.co.uk'
      Esme
      July 12, 2019

      Thankyou so much Melanie, for giving me hope after years of emotional pain, the link to the narcissist is still there, after 30 years, although we are long separated. After losing his last partner, he wrote a 10 page letter telling me of all the things he had done over the years, including visiting most countries in the world, rising to the top in his work, and then ending with the reason he left all those years ago, was that I was manipulative. This hurt me so much and sent me spiralling down again into self doubt and despair. Why would he do this, and I am told not to respond to him, which leaves me with so much anguish. Are these people ill? Because I felt I loved him, and certainly do care, it is time to heal myself, and so thankyou again for your kindness. Also, your lovely grey cat, makes life seem normal and innocent and joyful, it is so beautiful.

      • Melanie Tonia Evans
        July 12, 2019

        Hi Esme,

        It is so your time to heal, enough is enough.

        Please check out NARP, it really is the way to achieve this powerfully and directly

        And with it you have the full support of the entire NARP community and myself to specifically help you get to where we are … plus you get to try NARP at no risk.

        http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

        I’m so glad Tiggy brings you love and peace!

        I look forward to helping you start to Thrive Esme.

        Much love to you

        Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • greenbnk@rogers.com'
    Nicole
    July 1, 2019

    @Elderberry, I’m praying for you and your son. IMO, I wouldn’t say he *is* the darkness. Rather, if he is asking for healing by proxy, then I would say he is *in* darkness and looking for a way out of [it] because he doesn’t know what to do/he is leaning on you. This is a good opportunity for the both of you to enrol in NARP. It is a life changer. God speed and blessings to you and your son.

  • mak4trips@yahoo.com'
    Marina
    July 1, 2019

    Dear Melanie, As much as I respect you and love your material, I am disappointed with your take on darkness. Evil exists and it is very real. I am not talking about narcissists necessarily. Please take into consideration that you may not have had the experience that would prove my point. I know what you are talking about and used to think the same way but demons are real. Just remember, for example, Bruce Lee. He fought demons all his life and eventually lost his life because of them. Sending love and best wishes.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 1, 2019

      Hi Marina,

      This was always going to be a controversial topic.

      Our maturity really is to allow others their opinions without needing to change them, and knowing it certainly doesn’t have to impact our own wellbeing.

      How much of the world, nations and races have killed each other because of disagreements on beliefs – giving rise to unconscious separatism.

      Live, bless and let live I say.

      Much love and best wishes to you too.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • johnleroy2928@gmail.com'
    DMJ
    July 1, 2019

    Thanks for this article.
    These are complicated questions and I applaud your braveness in taking them on. Recently I was listening to Anita Moorjani videos and she was describing us all as being connected, comparing it visually to a spider’s web and each spirit being a point of connection on that web. She mentioned how when we send out love into the web we affect the whole web, and that it matters less what we are doing than how we are feeling as we do it. I can remember a narc telling me once that he didn’t think he had a soul and in that moment I felt such sadness that this was his feeling. I recall once hearing a person who had a NDE say how God feels sadness for all souls who are disconnected from the love, or at least think that they are. My instinct regarding the narcissist was that he did indeed have a soul but his connection to love and loving himself was badly damaged. Anita also said when choosing a “religion” or organization that if it gave you a feeling of love and connection and community that that was good, but if someone was selling you fear, to run in the other direction. I try to keep this in mind even in everyday conversations with people. I bought into fear for so many years and for me it creates illness, sadness and feelings of victimization. I don’t know what happens to the souls of people who are disconnected from love, but I believe God loves us all and them too without exception. It’s a gut feeling. I was raised a Christian, but my gut tells me that God does not discriminate against non-Christians… it doesn’t “feel” possible. Love is the power that creates and sustains life… all life. Anyhow, that’s my “guts” 2 cents on that. 🙂

  • karyne.gough@icloud.com'
    Karyne
    July 1, 2019

    Great article as always, thank you. I have a few questions- does the narcissist stay a narcissist through every incarnation? Is that their eternal fate until they wake up or do they automatically get healed once they pass over? Does the narcissist consciously choose to become a narcissist, do they have a choice when they are young?
    Thanks,
    Karyne

    • ariana.svigir@gmail.com'
      Ariana
      July 1, 2019

      Uh, I have narcissists on both sides of my family & in-laws and I’d say – a very little choice 🙁 I’m observing my beloved niece sinking into it – what chance does she have with her parents? … But, until we heal, we are ALL abusers – some abuse themselves, some themselves and others. Not much difference. … God must be really huuuge and most generous being/soul/whatever 🙂 to put up with all our nonsense. 🙁

      • Melanie Tonia Evans
        July 2, 2019

        Hi Ariana,

        I just think God loves us anyway, without requirement.

        We are all going home, and are home with God … because that is all that is!

        We’re just playing down here … working it all out!

        Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • rhoda.ww@gmail.com'
    Thriver
    July 1, 2019

    Hi Mel,

    Thanks again for a brilliant episode, keep doing this marvelous job, sending you love, support and blessings.

    I have learnt a lot from you and i look forward to continue growing and expanding. I have been using NARP for almost two years now, one of the things i love about awakening is that sometimes people approach me to share personal issues in their lives, am able to share a lot from your teachings and my experience and the most beautiful thing is that shortly after they report feeling better and i witness positive results in their lives, it is very encouraging.

    Recently one of those people opened up about having bipolar disease, my heart goes out to him hearing his struggle and the anguish he sometimes is under, he told me he is on medication, but i felt like there could be something more that can be done… my understanding is as much bipolar is a mental disorder it is not a personality disorder, meaning that it may be possible for a person with bipolar to self partner, to release the trauma and get better…is this possible,? share your wisdom dear one.., i will truly appreciate.

    • Taralilarose88@gmail.com'
      Tara Rose
      July 1, 2019

      I AM A POWERFUL QUANTUM CREATOR! THE FIRST WOMAN IN MY FAMILY TO TAKE BACK MY POWER AND REFUSE TO BE SILENCED AND ABUSED.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 2, 2019

      Hi Thriver,

      Thank you for your blessings!

      That is beautiful that you are leaving this forward, I adore the ripple effect.

      I do believe in so many cases that when trauma is released that is generating a condition that the condition will heal.

      I also believe nutrition is a massive factor. There are so many toxins in our contemporary food sources, that if we don’t eat clean whole foods, a great deal of our nervous and brain functions can be affected.

      Lots of love

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

      • rhoda.ww@gmail.com'
        Thriver
        July 2, 2019

        Great hearing from you Mel,

        Thank you.

        Lots of love.

    • cadavera666@aol.com'
      Moneytha Burns
      July 2, 2019

      Bipolar disorder, not disease, is a mood disorder and can range in severity from mild to severe. All Dr’s want to treat with antipsychotics but this only treats the symptoms. It’s a chemical imbalance but what’s causing this? I believe many mental health conditions are related to trauma and if someone is having thoughts of suicide, then “talk therapy” is not going to help much. I’m a firm believer in EMDR because it works. EFT seems to be gaining in popularity and has similar effects. Also, somatic experiencing tablework is much more effective than talking. Anybody can talk about their issues but putting skills into play is the cincher.

      • rhoda.ww@gmail.com'
        Thriver
        July 2, 2019

        Thanks a lot Moneytha, for taking the time to respond.

        This information helps a lot.

  • Mal_Ols@hotmail.com'
    Malin
    July 1, 2019

    I am a Powerful Quantum Creator Beyond Measure!!

    Thank you so much Melanie!

  • tnich4147@gmail.com'
    Horizon
    July 1, 2019

    I am a powerful Quantum creator!

  • soutiki68@gmail.com'
    Denice
    July 1, 2019

    I am a powerful Quantum creator!
    Thank you!
    Xoxo💖

  • tlorch@gmail.com'
    Theresa L.
    July 1, 2019

    My life enfolds to the letter, according to my internal, personal belief systems. I am a powerful, creative quantum creator.

    Over dinner with my son (flying monkey to his narc dad for a while) last night, I asserted myself by describing how it felt to be usurped by his dad for July 4th, our Independence Day (for myself on the quanta level, as well, too!) I’d made plans for my four children and their significants to join me for a three day stay-cation at a resort. The youngest let me know he would see what he could arrange and then let me know he’d be going to Catalina Island. I described how it hurt in my heart and I felt a pang in my stomach, my jaw is tight in part to chill, but likely due to the emotions. I let him know I give for fun and for free and want honest, straight commitment. After explaining he really needed to get out of the city, he chose Catalina, but we came to an agreement that he and his girlfriend, who was present, would meet me when they return Sunday. I asked him not to involve me in the conversation he planned with his dad concerning his need to get back Sunday at noon because his dad has a way of doing the opposite of whatever I desire. He said he would tell his dad he needs to get back to see mum. Of course, I agreed my son needs to have a relationship with his dad. I told my son to have that relationship without putting me in the margins of my son’s life.

  • barbara-ann57@hotmail.com'
    Old and tired
    July 2, 2019

    i can surely see leaving a narcissist when younger, i am a 70 yr old woman married 30 years to a narcissist….i feel i have left it too long.
    Is their hope for me? How will i ever do this?
    Please..any positive feedback?

    • valerieAwedel@gail.com'
      Valerie Wedel
      July 2, 2019

      There is always hope! Try Mel’s healing course, and see if that helps. If your finances are being controlled, try the free course. Blessings on your journey-
      Valerie

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 2, 2019

      Hi O and T,

      Please know there have been ladies in their 70s and beyond who are now free and Thriving

      I so want you to know our Life and soul is ageless, and when you honour and live true to you, then life can love and honour you too.

      Sending you love and healing.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • Kohlerbm@comcast.net'
    Beverly Kohler
    July 2, 2019

    I am a quantum powerhouse creater

  • valerieAwedel@gmail.com'
    Valerie Wedel
    July 2, 2019

    I am a quantum powerhouse creator!

    Mel, Thank you for another amazing and amazingly timely video! It is wonderful to hear that the journey does not necessarily have an ending, only a beginning. I am still learning and growing, and love my life! And, I am still uncovering/discovering beliefs formerly unconscious that mess with the life I want to enjoy this time around. Sometimes it takes a few weeks even, to figure out the phrase I will use in mod11, to transmute a particular belief or trauma. In fact i just yesterday went to sleep asking about a situation in my life and woke up with the key phrase: a belief that women are evil and must be controlled to keep the world safe. Interesting, in light (ahem) of today’s video! Glad you are still working on some of this too, that helps me know it is a normal process 🙂 I suspect this belief is a hold over from ages past. Time now for it to transmute! New statement will be something like this: “As a woman, I am good and powerful, and I use, and deserve to use, my power freely.” It would be great to hear a video or article on this. Perhaps I am not the only lady with this embedded belief from some distant past?

    Much, much, much (!) gratitude and love –

    Val

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 2, 2019

      Hi Valerie,

      Lovely to hear from you!

      This is so great you are finding and releasing core human terrible beliefs! They can run very deep in our energy systems.

      I truly did have many ones regarding being a woman which were thwarting my life.

      Sure re doing a TTV on this … I’ll put it to the team!

      Much love to you.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • 905kat@gmail.com'
    Kathy
    July 2, 2019

    I have believed for a long time now that I have had a spiritual awakening but also have some internal struggles to overcome. This last year has seen me dealing with the first narcissist and finally completely cutting off all contact rather than continuing court battles and then just 3 weeks ago walking away from the 8 year current one after being sick and tired of the manipulation and pain associated with confusion and NOT listening to my intuition. I believe based on past therapy, when we are able to accept our own responsibility in how these relationships play out, and I’m not saying it is our fault, but to understand where our weaknesses are, we can start to heal as we become aware how they make us vulnerable to others. A huge breakthrough for me yesterday was my idea that I’d always had ‘issues’ with trust and to show I didn’t have an issue, I actually trusted blindly which soon put me into the phase of cognitive dissonance and ignoring my intuition and the breakdown of my boundaries. This ultimately set me up for years of abuse of lying, cheating, manipulation, gaslighting, discarding and more recently the triangulation. A period of little contact helped greatly in actually giving me space to start to analyse what I wanted in the relationship and also to understand, the unmasked person I was now dealing with was in no way a person I wanted in my life any longer. And I think that’s a really important point. While I was horribly damaged the first time, it was the change from ‘why am I not good enough’ to “does this person deserve my love, energy, devotion, trust, etc” that made my decision this time much easier. I am still trying to sort the inconsistencies in my head as it’s only been 3 weeks but I know what I DON’T want anymore. If this is someone’s first time going through this, keep on the course because it eventually does get better. You’ll experience freedom, peace and find strength within yourself you never knew you had while they’ll remain forever.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 2, 2019

      Hi Kathy,

      That is so true what you have said about ‘trust’. And this issue can create cognitive dissonance when we just blindly trust!

      I think this would make a great TTV episode!

      Thats so great that you know what you want now.

      Stay strong you are doing a great job.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • wandrew1963@gmail.com'
    Andrew
    July 2, 2019

    I am a powerful quantum creator.

  • Speckthedog@yahoo.com'
    Dawn
    July 3, 2019

    Thank you for this blog post I appreciated it so very much! It reminded me who I am and how to plug-in, again and again. I read it just when I needed it! I’m grateful and hopeful and I am now going to go spend some time turning inward to love.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 3, 2019

      Hi Dawn,

      I am so pleased that this helps and that you are turning inwards to love.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • smalltowndrama@gmail.com'
    tanya
    July 3, 2019

    Elderberry: I am sorry you are having so much difficulty with your son, finances, accessing the program and with technology. However, I also understand it would be frustrating for Melanie and her staff if they can’t communicate with you easily.

    In my opinion, evil is real. Not that your son is evil, but he seems very “dark”. I’ve had it in the past when I was dealing with an evil entity that electronics, phone calls, etc. that I needed to make to get help simply wouldn’t work, allow calls to be made, etc. It was a worrisome time in my life that didn’t improve until after much prayer and a priest visit. Not that this is the case, but prayer to your higher power never hurts.

    Perhaps you could go to a friends or a library to access the internet there. Best wishes.

    • inpellerano@yahoo.com'
      Iris
      July 3, 2019

      Tanya, I totally agree with you. That is exactly true.

      Elderberry,
      I once had to post a letter internationally 22 times – this after sending it by email countless times!! The court kept claiming they never got it. It was only when I sent it by private messenger at a cost of almost $100 US that the receipt could not be denied.

      Interference with communication is a wave. You have to be determined to stay the course. Anger will fuel the problem.

      I still have constant trouble with technology and I can not wear any watches. I understand the energy of Spirit somehow interacts with electronics, so I don’t get upset. I just keep finding solutions.

      Hope that helps. Please do not blame or accuse Melanie and stop to recognize how much attention has been given.

  • monicaangilotti@hotmail.it'
    Monica
    July 3, 2019

    Dear Melanie ,
    Sorry for my poor english , I write from Italy , a banal sentence , maybe for someone ” Banal” helped me a lot . This sentence fix me like a glove and clarified in my mind what for years , make me misrepresent the reality of the men ” issue ” … About Elderberry , her main problem is her son .. Living with a substance user is TO surely affect your mental health and serenity …. How sad for Elderberry … My brother has a ” mid level” substance user , now and THEN … IN MY AREA SOMEONE MADE THE PROPOSAL TO PUT IN JAIL E EVERYONE WHO USE DRUGs … In my opinion Melany , IT might be CRUEL , but is the best solution !!!

  • nataliegeraerts4@gmail.com'
    nath
    July 4, 2019

    Hi Melanie,

    i feel i’m at the point that I really want to shift out this energy. But i can also feel the energy of the narc still and yesterday after the masterclass your team tried to update my NARP account but now it’s locked and I feel triggered and i cannot use the modules now…then i wonder is this coincidence? Just when i’m really doing the work on myself? Is this interference of the energy of the narc?
    Can you please help me getting acces again to the program since i don’t have downloads and feel i really need to shift dense energy out of my system?

    Thank you <3

  • gartenhut@yahoo.com'
    Joseph Huth
    July 4, 2019

    I am a powerful quantum creator. Thank you Melanie.

  • adelcampom@yahoo.com'
    Andreu
    July 4, 2019

    Melanie,

    I do find your web really good. I would like to post some comments because I think they can be useful to whoever believes in what I am going to explain.

    I am a bit extrasensory sensitive. I have been practicing meditation for 30 years now and this has opened my subtle sensitivity. When I establish a close relation with someone I can sometimes feel the feelings of the other person. I clearly feel when the other person is thinking about me (but not what she is thinking), and I feel her feelings comletely clear, no matter how far she is from me. After time the other person starts feeling me also. I suppose I tend to create what is parapsychology is called ‘astral chords’.

    Why am I explaining this? Because I have had at least two of such relations with narcissistic women. The first one was not only narcissistic but had also borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality and probably other disorders. The second one, from which I am try¡ng to get apart now, I think is just narcissistic, from the covert type. I have discovered it when we had already established a very strong inner relation. And my former boss, a man, was also a narcissist.

    And what have I felt in them? I know that they all have extrasensory capacities coming from birth, not from long spiritual practice as in my case, and that they are using such capacities for manipulating people. When I started to feel the bond with the second one, I felt that she was conciously playing with it to attract me sexually to her. She has a husband and decided to play with me (a work colleague) to get her narcissistic supplement. I did not realize about the play and because of some comments she made, that she was not feeling well with her partner and so on, (shame on me) I thought that I was the one to give her some affective supplement. From that moment on a pulling and rejection play started and our astral connection was getting stronger. She never accepted having sex or even a conversation other than some short Whatsapp messages with me, but was playing with the astral chord till the point we started sharing full sexual sensations in the distance. We had some Whatsapp conversations about this and she was feeling the same as me. At the workplace she punished me with complete disregard most of the days. I was feeling that from time to time she was feeling strong love for me, even if she was disregarding me physically. I thought that this attitude came from emotional conflict. I now realize she was loving me when I was giving her narcissistic suppliment out of her disregard for me.

    I got tired of it all and told her that I did not want to have such energetic relation with someone who was disregarding me this way. From that day on, hell has started. She, who was amazed of what she was feeling with me, told me in a very bad mood, in a moment I could corner her that she did not believe in all that, that we were at different frequencies, and so on. I am 99% sure that she has started telling my work colleagues that I am crazy, that I believe in telepathy, that I chase her for having sex and so on. I have seen it in my colleagues glances and reactions towards me.

    Anyway, what I want to say with this whole story is this: I think some narcissists have extrasensory abilities that they use more or less conciously for dominating people and establishing emotional bonds with them, and from my experience I think these abilities are more common between narcissists and people with other mental disorders that between sane people. The subtle bonds that are created between people are very difficult to cut, because the more you think about someone, either positively or negatively, the stronger they get. And they make you feel good. You feel someone really inside you and feel complete, no matter which type of person is on the other side.

    I know most people reading this will think that I am insane. I just wanted to post the comment in case it brings light to someone about the emotional bonds that can be created between people and why it is sometimes so difficult to cut them.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 4, 2019

      Hi Andreu,

      This is 100 percent correct. Enmeshment with a narcissist is a fully blown psychic phenomenon of them infiltrating your energy field.

      The becessary detox is about healing within us the parts that are not yet whole that unconsciously allow the infiltration.

      Then there cant be one. This is exactly what my NARP Program does and why it is so effective.

      Much love to you and thank you for your share.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • carrietee153@gmail.com'
    Carrie
    July 4, 2019

    This is by far THE MOST POWERFUL episode Melanie has published! I’ve been divorced from my narc husband for 3 years now and searching for answers… WHAT was I dealing with, WHY did I marry this person, and HOW do I heal? This episode describes to a tee what my marriage was for me and today I’m in a better place than I have ever been. My daughter asked me about 2 years ago why I married her father and I’ve been searching since. THIS is why: my narc father caused trauma in me that I refused to address. I believed in separation and replicated it in my relationships. I realized one fateful day 3.5 years ago that although everything on the outside was ‘perfect’, nothing worked on the inside. I was utterly alone in a relationship with a manipulative, controlling, critical, gas-lighting person who was starting to visit these horrors on my child. It has been a long journey but I’m now focused on OWNING my traumas and their replication in my life and getting better every day, for me and my daughter. Keep going, keep turning within to find your light. You will find it.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      July 4, 2019

      Hi Carrie,

      I am so pleased that you enjoyed this episode!

      I love everything you wrote.

      So powerful and true.

      Much love to you.

      Mel 🙏💕♥️

      • carrietee153@gmail.com'
        Carrie
        July 4, 2019

        Hi Melanie,

        I love that you reply to these comments! Thank you for being you and doing this life changing, life affirming work. You are saving lives my friend!

        Lots of love,
        C

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          July 4, 2019

          Awww that’s very sweet,

          Thank you Carrie.

          Lots of love to you.

          Mel 🙏💕♥️

          • Sshaham@gmail.com'
            Sharone
            July 16, 2019

            Went through module 9 yesterday. Too bad I couln’t see more details.. this time- there were many, needed to heal from many lifecycles… AND then HE made contact…I didn’t even read it !! Today he called, and left a voice message…and the empowered quantum newly born me suggested, wheather he is going to die, and I am his last resourse- or wheather he comes with the sweetest dream promissed- I don’t need to be bothered, and don’t even want to know. My insides are firm and calm. Apparently- this is a life energy reforming system !!! Thank you are only two words…

          • Melanie Tonia Evans
            July 17, 2019

            How wonderful Sharone you are doing the work and have your inner power now.

            That’s what Thriving with NARP is all about.

            Bless you and be really proud of you, you are doing great!

            Lots of love

            Mel 🙏💕♥️

  • hcikmankarena@gmail.com'
    Karen Hickman
    July 10, 2019

    Melanie, I would like to ask if I might use some of your information about Narcissists in the 3rd book I am writing. I have been a victim as My mother was and my older brother was. I am still being victimized but my Mother and Brother are now gone to heaven, where I know they found peace.
    I will give you credit for anything I use.

    Thank You,

    Karen Hickman

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