There are many common mistakes we make that can stunt or even completely stop you from healing and sadly, I see too many people making these mistakes every single day.
I can tell you from experience that making these mistakes could very well be why your healing is taking longer than you thought and could be the exact reason why your journey feels like such a painful uphill battle.
Here’s one … Going over and over the events that happened to you because you’ve been told that’s how people deal with their problems.
But what if I told you this is wrong!
And you may be caught up in the web of learning everything you can about narcissistic behaviour because you believe it’s important to be informed.
Wrong again!
Join me in today’s Thriver TV episode so I can lead you on the right path to healing for real.
In this episode, I’m going to take you through an exercise that is going to quickly show you the right way to heal – and you’re going to experience how simple, natural and easy this is compared to what you’ve been previously trying.
Video Transcript
In today’s episode, I’m looking forward to sharing the following with you – the common mistakes that can stunt or even completely stop you from healing. Why healing doesn’t have to be as long, arduous and painstaking as you think. And the number one thing that you need to understand about true healing and how to activate the ability to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.
So, just before we get started, if you haven’t yet subscribed to my channel, I’d love you to hit the subscribe button, and also like this video, if you find it helpful.
The Ways To Not Heal
Let’s get started on the ways to NOT heal. This is really counterintuitive because you may have believed to talk about what happened to you because many people will say to you, “Talk it out, talk it out, talk it out.” But, the problem is if you are continually talking it out, it’s supplementing inside of you that, “I’m a victim, that I was wrong, that I was victimized, that terrible things happened to me.”
What happens is you actually literally, cellularly get addicted to these horrible feelings that your body is so used to producing within yourself, these peptides, and I have talked about peptide addiction before.
I really urge you to look up my information on peptide addiction and here’s the link for the video. Check it out because it is such an important understanding.
Also, learning everything about narcissists is such a huge trap that you can get stuck in. Because, again, this is supplementing all of the horrible things that happened, the fact that you don’t feel safe and you feel scared and that there are terrible people out there and it’s really compelling. It’s actually hugely interesting to get into narcissistic information because it’s fascinating, but you can get addicted to that.
Every time you’re trying to learn more about them, that’s the time that you are denying yourself your true Thriver healing, which only comes from turning inside with self-love and self-partnering and self-devotion to heal those broken traumatized parts back to wholeness.
The other thing that can be such a trap to fall into is that you get stuck in a belief that, “I have to treat my symptoms,” which means that, “I’ve got complicated post traumatic stress disorder,” which if you’ve been narcissistically abused, yes, you absolutely have it. You may be stuck in that belief because people are telling you, “You’re probably going to have that for life.”
So, now you have to manage it, which means that you may join groups that talk about PTSD, or maybe you get into groups regarding fibromyalgia or adrenal malfunction and all the things that narcissistic abuse brings without realizing that if you actually target the trauma in your body and address it at the causation root level and release that and bring in your healing to replace it, that you will actually have no narcissistic abuse symptoms.
Why Traditional Healing Hasn’t Worked
One of the big problems with our world is that it is focused on how to medicate or have strategies for symptoms without truly healing what’s causing the symptoms or we look to the outside and we say, “Well, my symptoms are because of that person.” Yes, it brought it on, it activated it, but your symptoms are because of the trauma in your emotional, visceral, subconscious, cellular system that is driving those dis-eases.
When you address the trauma, there is no dis-ease. It will melt away and reset to wholeness. So, that trap keeps you separated from that ability to heal.
The reason I know this is because like so many of you, I certainly wasn’t lazy in my therapy. For years I’ve been a student of personal development and healing and therapy and workshops and researching and learning. There were so many times in my life where I thought I’ve got all of the knowledge. I know exactly what I should be doing. I know why I’m not doing it. I know where it came from.
Yet in those times where I was under pressure and stress and when cortisol and adrenaline was going off, because I was having an inner wound triggered by somebody or something outside of myself, it was like being by remote watching myself handing my power away and unconsciously staying attached and connected to situations that I know were abusing me and hurting me.
Also, even with all of my knowledge, even of my childhood experiences, after significant abuse experiences, I would catch myself in the loop of obsessive thinking about what happened and why it happened and how it could have been different and why did that person do that. Then I would research and look at the information and get an answer that I thought would stick and give me peace and resolution or even closure, but then, I’d be back to thinking it over and over again, and then I would feel defective and broken. I have my answer. I should be all right now, why aren’t I getting better? Why aren’t I healing?
I know because I’ve been working with so many of you for the last 10 plus years, thousands of people, I know you’ve been through exactly the same thing. I know this is big. I know like myself you’ve been questioning yourself and saying, “Why isn’t this working? I’m an intelligent person. I’m smart. I’m strong. I’m capable. Why can’t I stop obsessing about this? Why is it draining me so much that I feel like I can’t get out of bed anymore? Why am I so depressed, so anxious, and why am I having panic attacks all of the time?”
The reason is because there is still trauma stuck inside of you that your brain is trying to manage.
The Shift That True Healing Brings
So, what is that shift that is needed for healing to begin? The shift is understanding how the brain-body connection works, how it actually is. This is the stuff that we haven’t been taught until we went Quantum. What I mean by that is looking at new science, Quantum science, new neuroscience to really understand what the brain-body connection is all about.
We thought that by thinking, changing our thinking, we could change our somatic, emotional bodily trauma. We thought the brain controlled the body. It’s actually the other way around. It’s the body that controls the brain. So, when we do the work in the body on your emotional visceral self, then your brain will automatically shift to follow what you feel. How you feel is how you’re going to think, how you’re programmed is how you’re going to think, who you connect to, how you show up, what your choices are is to do with how you feel and what your beliefs are, which is as a somatic belief system, at bodily level.
How Do You Heal for Real?
To heal, you need to understand you cannot think your way out of significant trauma, and hasn’t life showed you that? We tried that. We tried that so much and it just didn’t work. To change the way you think, you have to change the way you feel. To change the way you feel, you have to change your trauma. You have to release your trauma and reprogram your trauma with something so much healthier.
You think, “Well, Melanie, isn’t that all to do with my thinking?” That is the long, hard, slow way around that’s going to take you a lot of work with affirmations or all sorts of things, which we all did – affirmations, journaling, etc. – there’s a much faster way to do it.
I’m going to take you through just a little exercise that’s going to really help you understand the difference. I want you to start focusing on how your body feels when you say certain statements. I want you to say, “I think happy.” Just sit with that and feel it in your body. Then I want you to say, “I feel happy.” Just take note of that in your body.
Then I want you to say, “I think devastated.” Feel it in your body. I want you to say, “I feel devastated.” Feel that in your body. I hope you feel the significant difference. You’re thinking, the cognitive part of your brain does not even connect to your visceral somatic self. It’s not the same part of your consciousness. It’s not the same part of your connection with yourself.
Thinking is up here, feeling is in here. This is the shift that we’re making out of the thinking about our trauma. Remember the brain follows the body means that you can only think in the range of the trauma.
Generally, our thinking about our trauma is, “How awful it is, how shocking it is, how powerless we feel, how defective we feel and how somebody else has done this to us,” which grants us no ability to take our power back and change in here, to then change the brain.
I’m going to help you access and be with the feeling, to do something different about it, to be able to start healing. What I want you to do first of all is to help keep you out of your head, because in regard to trauma in your head is “stinking thinking.” We don’t want to be there. We want to be self-partnered in here. What I want you to do is to open your body and breathe. Just open your body and breathe.
Then what I want you to do, is to set the intention that you’re going to connect with something that’s been hurting you, right now. I want you to set the intention that you’re going to do this with love, and you’re going to do this with super presence, which means that you’re going to show up for you like you would a child who you adore. Let’s just set the intention that you are going to connect with something that feels uncomfortable or painful for you right now, something you would like to heal and help within yourself … just breathe and body open.
You’re going to feel it somewhere in your body. This is the wisdom of your consciousness. This is where it’s really going on. Not in your head that is running away with a “stinking thinking” of the trauma, which beats you up even more. Let’s get into our bodies, body open and breathing, and you will feel it somatically. Maybe it’s a funky or a heavy or an anxious feeling in your heart or in your solar plexus or in your gut. Maybe it’s like a powerless feeling through your arms or in your throat. I just want you to breathe, body open, stay out of the story, stay out of the information because it’s only “stinking thinking,” just feel it in your body.
Then I want you to say to yourself, “I bless and accept this feeling. I bless and accept this feeling.” and just breathe and have your body open. Then I want you to say to yourself, “Sweetheart, I love you.” You’re addressing your Inner Being. “Sweetheart, I love you. I am sending you my love and my healing.”
Just breathe and keep sending this part of yourself love and healing. I want you to say to this part of you, “I am going to show up for you. We are going to work this out. I know that if I turn inwards to you with my love and devotion and I come to you with the desire to help you heal, that anything and everything is possible. I adore you and I’m never leaving you again.”
I just want you to breathe with body open. I want you to know that the scared, insecure, traumatized, abused part of you is waiting for you, is waiting for your love, your devotion, your healing, you showing up and being present. I promise you with all of my heart because I’ve lived it.
I used to have complicated post traumatic stress disorder and agoraphobia. I had a full adrenal breakdown. I had a full psychotic breakdown. I was told that I would never heal unless I had three antipsychotics and that I would actually never heal, that I would only be able to hope to manage my breakdown symptoms and that I would never function as normal again. That was the diagnoses I had, and I discovered my Inner Being and my trauma had created such horrific conditions through the abuse, absolutely, but were not healing because I was disconnected from myself.
My Inner Being was screaming out for me and I hadn’t self-partnered and turned inwards and healed her yet. When I did, with love and devotion and with the Quantum tools that allowed me to not just heal these conditions but to actually emerge into a far superior confidence and wholeness and in a solidness than I could never believe was possible.
Now, when I did that, not only were there no conditions left, there was more health and wellbeing and wholeness than I’d ever believed possible. So, I want you to know it’s possible, but it starts by you turning inwards with kindness and tenderness. You don’t even have to work it all out and can stop trying to work it out logically. I promise you, that’s not the way to do it.
It’s by meeting your feelings in your body and working with them there. That’s what I would love to show you more about, how to heal for real, where you can actually come into a workshop experience with me and go through a Quantum Freedom Healing with me. It teaches you how to turn inwards and feel and hold and load up your traumas, release them cellularly, bring in source, which is your higher self, which has the power to heal what we logically can’t. This is what grants you the shift in your somatic, visceral body, which means that once you get that shift, you dissolve your peptide addictions to more trauma and your brain synapsis wiring gets an immediate shift as well.
You may have had those times in your life where you’ve had an epiphany and it’s not like you’ve got an idea. You are different. When we heal at the Quantum level, that’s exactly what happens. It’s not just you know how to get better, you’ve got better. I can’t wait to show you that.
Conclusion
So, please come into my free workshop with me, which is the Three Keys to Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, where you’ll learn the three fundamental keys that are necessary for your true healing. You can connect with me in that workshop by clicking the link that comes up at the top right of this video.
So, as always, I am looking forward to your comments and your questions, and I hope that this has helped you be able to help yourself and heal.
Thanks you so much Melanie ❤️ I’ve being doing a lot of deep work the last few weeks and this really helps me , now that I found the wound.
I though for a long time it was my x husband relationship but it was deeper than that …it was my dad’s. So I’m working on healing that part …which is very deep.I feel on the right track , and I want To thank you for being with me the past 3 + years of my journey. You’ve helped me a lot. I’ve started to love myself and I forgave everyone for the past hurt , even myself 💕it’s changing my life. I feel so much better , my love tank was empty 4 years ago and now it’s getting the fuel I’ve being looking since I was 3 years old.
Again thank you this video was very valuable for me. 🙏
It’s my pleasure Sylvie,
It’s so true hun, that it usually is deeper than we think.
That makes me so happy that I could partner with you on this incredible journey – we are all in this together darling lady!
So much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Melanie excuse me for joining in. I’m new. Just in the middle of the introductory 16 day course. Thankyou for this blog. And I felt I needed to express that to me this kind of person is not human. They have become too cold and too pragmatic. That is they don’t have empathy. Humans are heart people. This person to me was totally out of my world view. I had no idea how to deal with this foreign being. It showed me damaged people damage people. That, if I stay damaged I may become “this” . Just like hate is contagious and a hazard. So is becoming the “Me” instead of the “We” dangerous and a hazard.
Melanie, this perpetrator turned my world upside down and made me aware of the assumptions I made about people and their Professions. Like this perpetrator worked with vulnerable members within the community; was softly spoken so came across harmful; was a New Ager and Church goer, so altruistic, right? No. She was a predatorial snake that sniffed out people’s Achilles Heel and exploits it for her own aggrandizement and self entitlement. She was so skilled deception. No conscience. This is a person who is a public servant who connects with high status members of our society together with low status members of society. I put doctors, nurses, teachers and single mothers on a hard earned pedestal. I learnt a hard lesson. These people are also aggressors and abusers. No one is free from the Snake. We all can be his or her prey. For me, I just got it that, being sympathetic for a person gets me down the rabbit hole. Yes, you can be empathetic but watch out for falling hook line and sinker with being sympathetic. These people are not human. Go in peace.
If anyone could answer this question I would appreciate it! Is reading Melanie’s blog posts just keeping me in a cycle of not healing completely and getting on with life?
I feel like I have been healing for so long and spend my mornings in her blog posts but when do you know when to stop or is it ok to always keep learning?
I think I was hearing that the thinking of certain events that the narcissist did to you and the talking about them to other people is the problem, and it’s ok to continue to learn and educate yourself as long as you want or is there a point at where the educating needs to stop??
Hope this isn’t too confusing any help would be greatly appreciated by this community!
Hi Julie,
I so understand what you are asking!
I too can get caught up in “information” (or I used to profoundly!)
My credo now is to heal within (NARP) for any feelings of powerlessness, anxiety and then “doing my life” and “time for information” are lovely byproducts and add ons.
The inner healing is what changes me deeply at my core, instead of having to keep regurgitating and gaining information to try to feel whole.
I hope that makes sense and puts this into some context for you.
Are you working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp ? It is my highest suggestion always to heal in the most powerful and straight line, where one day you will never need to read any of my articles again!
That is my greatest wish for you – because then I know that you are free and living your best and truest life!
That’s what the inner work does.
So much love to you.
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi, Melanie!
Everything you said makes perfect since! I love how you care for all of us in this community and want the best for us, your advice is beyond comforting and trustworthy!
I am not working with NARP and have been wanting to for so long! I will take that next step and get started!
I want to thank you with all of my heart and soul for your generous available readings and teachings that have resonated with me so deeply! Nothing else has ever helped me more than what I have learned from your blog posts and available resources! I can’t wait to take your classes so that I can learn how to become completely WHOLE so that I don’t feel the need to continue to learn about narcissism!
You’re knowledge and teachings are nothing short of a gift from God!
You are in my prayers for being able to continue delivering the most crystal clear advice there is to offer on this subject!💎🦋 Love to you Melanie!💗🤗🙏
Hi Julie,
I’m so pleased that that made sense for you!
That’s wonderful that you are going to start NARPing, you will notice a difference in your healing journey from this point forward.
Awwww your words are very kind and thank you for your beautiful support.
Please feel my love and prayers for you Julie, and wishing you many blessings always.
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hello Melanie and team.
I have been stuck in my intellectual brain mode, studying , reading . understanding, wondering hoping and yes none of this has worked to heal .
What a brilliant video this one Is. congratulations once again you have hit me where i needed.
I always felt i was a smart man and that knowing everything about a disorder had to be the answer.
What a fool i have been.
I have been with you since………. i cant remember , always checking in for another pearl of wisdom and you have always delivered. How ever , i have always thought that understanding was my master and i could go it alone.
If i could just understand more i could get free.
I have enrolled to your workshop, Finally. I Guess i have reached that point when i can turn into my inner being and take you guidance.
I am so great full for the your consistent and brilliant web site and how you have shared your story journey to the world .
Kenn
Hi Kenn,
I’m so pleased this spoke to you!
Yay – I’m so pleased you are coming into my workshop – that is the beginning of accessing powerful inner tools that FAR surpass logic and information.
You are on your way Kenn.
Love and blessings to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Mel
Thankyou so much for this.
Accessing feelings rather than thoughts absolutely resonates with me. Is there a name for this type of therapy / process as I would love to research further and maybe supplement my counselling skills
Hi Helen,
I don’t know of a name as such – I guess any body-based / energetic therapy is accessing the somatic body.
I use Quanta Freedom Healing which is the healing system in NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp
Really the “research” of these modalities is impossible because research is in the logical mind. You have to experience and train in them by “doing them” to understand them in the body, and then you can share the knowing of them.
I hope this makes sense!
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
I had a rough couple of days and fell into stinkin’ thinking. You are so right Melanie, thinking a bit obsessively about my newest trauma got me absolutely nowhere!!
I didn’t realize this at the time, but I had even started to PANIC from the thinking about what would happen, etc. going around in my head.(smear campaign)
In the NARP community forum, I was tenderly and gently guided by the advice from one of your many fab moderators, after that I was able to focus enough to release the trauma through the healing modules and then I was able to go out to face the day.
If a trauma like that had happened in the time before joining, I would have been out of action for many days, probably hiding under the covers, LOL.
To me, this part of my healing is a bit like training wheels! I know that eventually I will get stronger and will always remember to self- partner. But for now, it feels so great to know that I can reach out to others in NARP, when I wobble on the road.
Thank-you Melanie, for all that you have been doing to create a healing space for all of us, tirelessly teaching us, and for being you:)
xoxoxo Gen
Hi Gen,
I’m so happy you were beautifully supported and guided in the NARP Member’s Forum and how wonderful that you reached out for help!
I promise you that it does get easier to remember to turn within – I’m just about to go and take a walk to do that myself!
Much love to you sweetheart
Mel 🙏💕💚
Wonderful video, always so wonderful to hear you speak and teach. Very helpful:)
Thank you Shelley,
I’m so pleased that you enjoyed it!
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Melanie,
thanks ever sooo much again and again for telling me, why I’m still stuck in my trauma. I know it exactly but it was helpful to hear it again!
While writing this word “trauma”, I feel, that I still seem to deny this fact and while feeling this denying just now in my body, it doesn’t feel good inside at all and I’m just realising, that if I’m still denying it, it won’t be able to heal.
It’s like a little child who fell on his knees, which does hurt a lot of course and I hear myself saying
“Hey, that’s nothing, I’m going to blow 💨💥 over it and it will be fine” … doesn’t feel good at all, it even sends me a feeling of being lost and abandoned like 8 years ago.
I know why I’m talking so hard to myself, because I want to get out of it all, I’m fed up with this never ending story and finally with myself, I want to feel and BE free!!
Ohh, most of the time I’m a happy person with three wonderful and adult and happy daughters, but because of your video today, I feel that I have to get deeper, that I’m just pulling it away again.
I got the idea to look for a photography of myself as a child and I (61) found a cute one, when I was 3 years old.
I’m going to buy a beautiful frame which stands on my desk, where I pass its way quite often during the day and I’m going to save it in my, mobile, so I might be able to get in closer, even to zoom it and hopefully I will get in deeper contact to my inner child, when ever I feel her and talk to her … she is such a cute little girl😍, I promise I won’t treat me/her as hard as I do sometimes anymore … I’m sure that will help to get in deeper and warm and in a more confidential & trusting contact.
As you advised, I’m going to reassure her, that I’m going to listen to her, taking her on my knees, reassuring her to be there for her … I’m sure this photo will remind☝🏻 me , to whom I’m actually talking and I’m sure I will get in deeper and heartily contact to myself🥰
Thanks Mel for your great and wonderful and as you see, really inspiring work❣️
Love to you all xx
Hi Hillie,
This is such a good idea!! I have pictures of my children, why not some of myself as a child?
I love this inspiring idea.
Thank you!! You’re onto something here.👼
Hi Hille,
It truly is so the case, you can’t heal what you are not willing to feel. No matter how hard we try to, there is no beating that system!
I LOVE that you are going to get this photo framed and send love to your inner little one!
That’s so beautiful Hille.
I really want to reach out to you to know that NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp with the full support of this incredible private NARP Thriver angels can help you heal in the kindest, most self-loving, and fastest way possible that I know of.
Maybe it is your time to just jump in and get started.
Your True Life is patiently waiting for you Hille, and you TOTALLY deserve it.
So much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Again, this article /video came at the perfect time…. I can feel my inner peace thanks to your words. It’s getting rid of the ‘stinking thinking’. I can’t understand my exs disorder and treatment of people I can only focus on me. I love that my head can now be switched off. I feel a deep sense of calm now. Like I am enough. I’ve spent 3 years in trauma because of his many betrayals and now it’s like they have eventually washed away. All thanks to your words and my new understanding of how one can think. Realising that thinking and feeling isn’t the same thing. How obvious when you put it like that! I thank you for all you do and for all you have been through to be able to heal other people. Blessings x
Hi Carol,
I’m so pleased this video deeply resonated and granted you this shift.
Please know how welcome you are and many blessings to you!
Much Love
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Melanie,
From the title, to the full explanation, processed example, loving guidance, and complete focus on HEALING from trauma throughout this episode, I felt deeply vindicated.
I don’t want to read another word about how Narcissists behave. I simply don’t care.
My focus is entirely on MY well-being today.
I’m not even remotely interested in Narcissism or its ins and outs. The whole world seems to be in a giant narcissistic choke hold these days, but my sole obsession is ME. Just beautiful me.
ONLY ME.
I’m so grateful to have lived thorough the brief exposure to the Narcissist I dated. I’m so grateful God sent you at the perfect time to help me save myself from drowning in the aftermath of it. I’m so grateful to be in love with my free inner being now that it would be impossible to care less about narcissists and their destructive presence in the world.
There is a remedy. The remedy required the experience. The remedy heals stuff we didn’t even know was broken. The remedy adds a layer of gold to the broken areas like in Japanese pottery mending.
The remedy makes the break worth every pain.
The remedy is the healing you’re describing.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your devotion to helping people wake up. Lovely, caring people who are in recovery will rebuild this world and expunge evil from humanity.
What if the Narcissists looked for a mirror and couldn’t find one anywhere? What if they came to us for affirmation, and WE COULDN’T EVEN SEE or FEEL them? What if they became the non-Existence that they tried to make us out to be?
I feel the deep justice of that outcome. Displaced narcissists. Uprooted and
Non-existent. Completely annihilated. Utterly dissolved and removed. Not even a vestige of a memory of them.
Instead a beautiful consciousness of love between people.
We are. We exist in fullness. We are connected and channeled from beautiful DIVINITY. I’m so grateful to know this and that the REMEDY made it clearerest.
Oceans of love dear sister. And thank you.
Hi Iris,
oh sweetheart you so hold the same vision that I do.
Love will rise and win … 100%
Thank you for being the being of True Love that you are.
I always adore reading your words.
And the same oceans of love that we both swim in, eternally, back to you Dear Sister.
Mel 🙏💕💚
My 21 year old son told me a year back that when he was younger his dad was physically abusive to him when he was younger and he has terrible ptsd. His dad and I had separated and reconciled. My husband denies hurting our son. My son asked for an apology. His dad says he never hurt him and called our son delusional. My son got so angry he broke all of his dads televisions. His dad called the police and had him taken to the psych ward. My son started acting wayward recently abusing substances and lashi g out verbally at professionals his dads mom who said her son would never hurt him. He hada bit of a melt down. His dad got angry that his son broke 3 of his television sets and took a bat and broke our sons ps4 and was verbally abusive to get even. He also lashed out at me saying he hated us and that I ruined our son. I dont have the family or financial resources to leave. He treats me pretty good not of the time but puts me down sometimes and I suspect he isn’t loyal due to things I hear in his sleep about a woman I know was interested in him. Do you have any advice?. I am really worried about my sons mental health and adore my son more than anything in the world. I feel like I have to choo
OH gosh Annie,
my heart goes out to you.
I am so passionate about helping our children, as I also went through excruciating things with my own son’s breakdown.
Annie I would love you to please google my name and “our children” and read the resources of mine which resonate with you.
Dear Lady, my highest urge to parents is always this “do the deep work to heal yourself and your child will follow.”
This is deeply explained in the resources that I have created on this topic, and I so hope this can help you and your son.
Much love to both of you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Melanie, you have really opened the door for everyone with this latest video. A masterpiece, that opens the door to Quantum healing so perfectly. Module work has delivered countless miracles in my life, more than any other type of recovery methods, so I know you are totally genuine.
Yea…I have some family issues coming up. NARP has removed the former fears and turned it all around. Now the small positives become the bigger picture!! I will do a some modules, just like a pianist has to always practice the piano. The new normal is a continuous dream…..that is now a normal way of life……to everyone out there…YOU can have this too!!
Another thing…..my fears about using my name are beginning to vanish…..another miracle.
Tiggy is smiling down on you, Melanie. His spirit will be with you always and I can see it from here. What a gift from the universe that you will have forever.
Warren (Ocean Breeze)
Hi Warren,
so lovely to see your name up here!
Thank you for your lovely words. I’m really happy for you that NARP has helped so much and thank you for being the gift to humanity of being a devoted spiritual warrior.
Awww Warren, I was so missing him today – and asked if he was with me! I am now crying happy tears.
Thank you and so much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
When I do this it is the same as sometimes what happens in the module work- I connect with myself inside – sometimes not even deeply, I’m trying my best to connect with myself and feeling doubtful and skeptical (in my thoughts) but still trying to give myself love like I would to a wounded child and then i’ll Get this surge of healing cleansing energy that doesn’t come from inside or outside or maybe it comes from both it’s like this charge and I feel miraculously purified, cleansed and healed. Thank you Melanie for being such a wonderful guide and coach and for sharing your beautiful concern and wisdom.
Hi Amy,
I’m so thrilled you feel that energy, that is so blessed and beautiful!
You are very welcome, and much love to you Amy
Mel 🙏💕💚
WOW! Thank You again Melanie.
Such a Powerful Self-Partnering exercise.
Sending You Love and Gratitude.
Kondwani
Hello, dear Mel.I decided I will reach out to you, because you are one of the few people in the world I trust about all life and spiritual issues. I am recovering from abuse in family, friend and romantic relationships. I am 29 and it’s been almost 4 years of healing. Deep shadow work, therapy, so many things that sometimes I think I run from life while trying to find the next thing to heal. I think I’ve done the biggest trauma healings and I am almost ready to start my dreams. To be my true self. But recently there is a thought and a fear that are obsessing my mind and not giving me a clear perspective. What when healing ends? Am I still going to be here, I want to live the earth life and be happy. Explore, expand, love, create, travel…but I feel like I’ve done so much work and I am an old soul and at some point maybe we are healed enough so there is no need to be here. And this is stopping me from following my dreams and healing every broken aspect that pops up. Because of this fear of the end. Even though I believe that there is no such thing. I will really appreciate your answer, because you are a person I trust, a person with a brighter and bigger perspective. I am ready to follow my dreams and at the same time super scared that the more I heal, the less will be here on Earth to do. And I really want to live long long and joyful life. And I just can’t imagine if I’ve healed the biggest traumas, what will be left for healing…and is life just about that, because somewhere I red that if a person has nothing to heal, it won’t be here on Earth. Either this is wrong or I am wrong about my own healing path. I know this may sound absurd, but its connected to my primal fear and is keeping me stuck and its painful. I am looking forward to read from you. Lots of 💕💕💕💕
Hi Neda,
I hear what you are saying.
fears and traumas are often not logical and they can persist until we have found, loaded up and released them, regardless of what profound answer you may or may not get from outside of you.
Are you working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp ? If so I would use Module 1 or the SH and R Module and target “the trauma in my body generating “that belief” – (however you wish to word it that gives you a kick on the inside).
Once you have shifted that out and replaced it with Source Light (which NARP does) then you will know the truth … the entire point of us all healing our stuff now, is to bring The Light down on this planet and create heaven on earth – right here right now.
The more Light of Source as us, the better.
That’s what we are all going through on a micro and macro level at present.
I hope that this helps
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Hi Mel,
I am really grateful for your answer. And I really like the fact that you are personally taking care of us. It makes me feel SEEN. Something I’ve missed my entire life. I’ve been using module one a lot in the past, while clearing abuse traumas. Thank you for recommending it for this one. I realize now it’s actually an unloaded emotion that needs to be directed and no answer will battle it logically. I just need to go through this the right way. You actually gave me the answer – the more healing of Source as us, the better. It’s not removing the fear, but it’s a relief. Thank you for everything you are and create. As I always say, you are an angel in a human body. Lots of love
💞💞 💞
Neda,
thank you for your beautiful words and please know how welcome you are!
Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋