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What Is Trauma Consciousness? And How To Break Free From It

Posted on June 26, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Today’s video is very important … because it’s all about the one simple shift that you can make that changes everything about HOW we can heal from trauma.

This Thriver TV episode is about how our body and our brain works and the connection between the two.

None of us were taught where trauma lives, how it affects our belief systems and our entire life.

Traditionally, there was also zero education about how if we don’t know how to find it or address it – every attempt we make to live a life free from the terrible grip of trauma may fail.

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What Is Narcissistic Abuse Really Telling Us?

Posted on June 22, 2017June 22, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

When we are in a relationship which is unconscious, the relationship doesn’t improve.

Because the essential commodities of mutuality, trust, respect, integrity and harmony aren’t present, and what this means is the integrity of the entire relationship is under strain and threat.

If you’ve been in an unconscious relationship you will relate to this:

The same issues are unresolved and come up over and over again.

Arguments begin, then gather more and more frequently and deliver even more devastating impact.

And the longer this goes on the more you can hear a voice in your head telling you “Something isn’t right!”

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How To Recognise The 5 Types Of Trauma Bonding

Posted on June 17, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

I don’t think anyone could possibly have prepared themselves for the intense, inexplicable and deadly bonding experience that happens with a narcissist.

This is the thing …

You KNOW you need to stay away ….

You KNOW things aren’t getting better …

Yet, it is so usual to not be able to stop yourself connecting with them again and again – attempting to get sense, or wanting to force them to be accountable … and even trying to get them to respect, care for and love you.

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Why Can’t I Stop Loving The Narcissist?

Posted on June 15, 2017June 15, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

It’s painful beyond measure.

When someone who treats us WORSE than we could imagine … who is threatening our very mental and emotional fibre and everything we stand for … and is being someone who we SHOULDN’T love …

Just happens to be THE person we can’t stop loving.

This happens with narcissists, so often that it is not just some random tale of painful mismatched love.

There is actually so much more to it.

This Thriver TV episode, I believe, is very necessary … because one of the deadliest (if not THE deadliest) hooks of narcissistic abuse is when we feel we can’t stop loving the person who is abusing us.

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The Narcissist – Soulmate, Twin Flame Or Cellmate?

Posted on June 9, 2017June 9, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

I have been looking forward to writing this article … really looking forward to it … because so many people, as well as spiritual teachers, have different theories on this.

And the confusion definitely spills over into the questions people have in regard to narcissists …

Are narcissists Soul Mates that we were meant to get it right with, but just couldn’t … or are they Twin Flames; deeply impactful souls called forth to surface and purge our darker pieces that they reflect, so that we can evolve?

Or, are they a hideous and terrible mistake of humanity that we just happened to get tangled up with, and found it so difficult to separate from?

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Asserting Your Needs In Relationships – Healthy vs Co-dependent

Posted on June 7, 2017July 7, 2023 by Melanie Tonia Evans

There is a fine line after narcissistic abuse when we start wanting and entering new relationships.

Many of us who have worked to heal our Inner Being may be terrified of being co-dependent again!

We know the horror and terror of being enmeshed with a narcissist when we had powerlessly relinquished virtually all our rights to them.

And maybe, you are STILL struggling to not feel dependent on and entangled with someone hurting you.

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How To Trust Your Inner Guidance System

Posted on May 30, 2017May 30, 2017 by Melanie Tonia Evans

The following is such a fascinating question …

When is my intuition warning correct and when it is wrong?

And it’s a really valid question, because we know that the human experience can be fraught with fear.

We all experience triggers of fear going off within us, and many people who are into personal development and consciousness (as so many of you in this Community are) may question what these triggers really mean.

In other words, … When am I being warned about something, or is this an overreaction because of a trauma that has been triggered within me?

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Conquering The Terror Of Being With Another Narcissist

Posted on May 23, 2017August 7, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

It is very healthy, normal and human to want to love and be loved – and one of the grandest ways we can experience this is through intimate love relationships.

Yet, after having our hearts, souls and life smashed by narcissists, we may concede it is safer to go without love at this level than ever run the risk of being abused again.

Or … maybe we are trying to find love, yet are continually experiencing connections with men and women, which are disappointing, painful or even downright scary!

I totally GET IT … That is exactly how I used to feel as well after being narcissistically abused.

Initially, I was alone for three and half years, because any time I tried to date, the only people who were coming into my orbit were seriously disordered and unsuitable … and I felt even more traumatised as a result of trying.

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This Discovery Put My Recovery Into The Fast Lane

Posted on May 19, 2017August 7, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

This is quite the Quantum Episode!

Because it is a deep dive into True Selves and False Selves and how True Love and False Love works.

Many, many spiritual teachers have been teaching us for decades … how we have all been looking for love in the wrong places.

This is profound when you start to peel it back and understand it at a deeper level.

As an adult we all have a unique Inner Being composition – which is the programming within us that were created from our genetic makeup and our childhood experiences.

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Year: 2017