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What Is The Fate Of A Narcissist?

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  I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it. Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources ... and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed. Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things. Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed? Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts? (more…)

 

I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it.

Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources … and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed.

Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things.

Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed?

Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts?

Losing Your Best Years To Narcissistic Abuse

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  It's nothing short of devastating to end a relationship with a narcissist and feel like your "best years" are behind you. I truly can’t tell you how often people have shared with me the terrible trauma of losing the best years of their life to a narcissist. Things like: “I gave up my career to support the narcissist and now its too late for me to reclaim those years and opportunities” ... and … “The narcissist dangled the possibility of children constantly, and now I’m too old to have them” … and …. (more…)

 

It’s nothing short of devastating to end a relationship with a narcissist and feel like your “best years” are behind you.

I truly can’t tell you how often people have shared with me the terrible trauma of losing the best years of their life to a narcissist.

Things like:

“I gave up my career to support the narcissist and now its too late for me to reclaim those years and opportunities” … and …

“The narcissist dangled the possibility of children constantly, and now I’m too old to have them” … and ….

Should You Make A Narcissist Pay?

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  There are SO many things narcissists do which are totally out of bounds! They lie and betray us to family and friends, work colleagues and bosses. They try to get us taken down by authorities, potentially destroying our incomes, mental functioning and any future ability to generate our lives. The narcissist’s abuse may have destroyed not just our connections and our welfare, but also our health … you may now have so many chronic health conditions that it takes everything to merely survive your everyday existence. And, we believing this person loved us, as they were telling us what we wanted to hear, whilst taking our resources, energy, time, money, souls, sexuality and best years, in order to maintain their own egos. (more…)

 

There are SO many things narcissists do which are totally out of bounds!

They lie and betray us to family and friends, work colleagues and bosses.

They try to get us taken down by authorities, potentially destroying our incomes, mental functioning and any future ability to generate our lives.

The narcissist’s abuse may have destroyed not just our connections and our welfare, but also our health … you may now have so many chronic health conditions that it takes everything to merely survive your everyday existence.

And, we believing this person loved us, as they were telling us what we wanted to hear, whilst taking our resources, energy, time, money, souls, sexuality and best years, in order to maintain their own egos.

The Right Time To Start Dating Again – Love After Narcissistic Abuse

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  The question on so many people’s lips, in this community, is: “How do I know when I am ready to date again?” After narcissistic abuse, naturally, you may feel terrified about putting yourself out there – and why wouldn’t you? There is no way KNOWN any of us ever want to run the risk of being with another narcissist. Even after doing a lot of inner work, you may not be 100% sure that you are ready … or maybe you are not sure HOW to get ready. And … maybe it’s years since you dated, or maybe you never even really dated and don’t know how to do it successfully. (I certainly didn’t until I learnt how to!) (more…)

 

The question on so many people’s lips, in this community, is: “How do I know when I am ready to date again?”

After narcissistic abuse, naturally, you may feel terrified about putting yourself out there – and why wouldn’t you? There is no way KNOWN any of us ever want to run the risk of being with another narcissist.

Even after doing a lot of inner work, you may not be 100% sure that you are ready … or maybe you are not sure HOW to get ready.

And … maybe it’s years since you dated, or maybe you never even really dated and don’t know how to do it successfully. (I certainly didn’t until I learnt how to!)

The Soul War With A Narcissist

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  Are you being haunted by terrible nightmares about the narcissist? Do you feel like he or she is crawling under your skin? Do you find it almost impossible to stop thinking about this person? Are you experiencing flashbacks and triggers going off all the time, making it nearly impossible to be out and about in everyday life because you don’t know when you will feel the next meltdown coming on? Do you feel like there is a hose stuck into you, sucking your literal life-force out to the level where you feel so exhausted, shaky, numb and foggy that you barely have the energy or the concentration to do even the most basic of tasks? (more…)

 

Are you being haunted by terrible nightmares about the narcissist?

Do you feel like he or she is crawling under your skin?

Do you find it almost impossible to stop thinking about this person?

Are you experiencing flashbacks and triggers going off all the time, making it nearly impossible to be out and about in everyday life because you don’t know when you will feel the next meltdown coming on?

Do you feel like there is a hose stuck into you, sucking your literal life-force out to the level where you feel so exhausted, shaky, numb and foggy that you barely have the energy or the concentration to do even the most basic of tasks?

How To Divorce A Narcissist And Win

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  Divorcing a narcissist is arguably one of the most traumatic experiences anyone could go through. Surviving divorcing a narcissist, may seem near impossible, let alone winning against one. If we were divorcing a person who did have a sense of morality, there wouldn’t be a necessity to try to win! Most of us would be happy to do what is right and fair for all concerned. Yet, people when divorcing a narcissist, discover just how HARD it is to do successfully. Narcissists are not the type of people to separate decently, sensibly or compassionately. The reality is the narcissist will be out to take from you all that they can. You will discover that you're not just in a divorce settlement, you are fighting for everything you care about. This article, regarding how to divorce a narcissist and win, is important, because you need to know EXACTLY what you are dealing with, as well as HOW to deal. (more…)

 

Divorcing a narcissist is arguably one of the most traumatic experiences anyone could go through. Surviving divorcing a narcissist, may seem near impossible, let alone winning against one.

If we were divorcing a person who did have a sense of morality, there wouldn’t be a necessity to try to win! Most of us would be happy to do what is right and fair for all concerned. Yet, people when divorcing a narcissist, discover just how HARD it is to do successfully. Narcissists are not the type of people to separate decently, sensibly or compassionately.

The reality is the narcissist will be out to take from you all that they can. You will discover that you’re not just in a divorce settlement, you are fighting for everything you care about.

This article, regarding how to divorce a narcissist and win, is important, because you need to know EXACTLY what you are dealing with, as well as HOW to deal.

Can You Be An Empath Without Being A Target For Narcissists?

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  I am proud of caring about other people – and I know you are too. But do we, as a result of having been abused, have to toughen up, guard our heart, stop being giving and trusting and shut down to ourselves, life and others in order to be safe? The great news is I don’t believe we have to … and in today’s Thriver TV episode I am going to take you through a step-by-step journey today, to show you how you can be an awesome, beautiful, giving person AND be safe …. not just from narcissists, but also safeguarded against being taken for granted by anyone ever again. Today’s episode is all about being a beautiful, kind-hearted person who will never get taken down by a narcissist again – The Quantum Way. (more…)

 

I am proud of caring about other people – and I know you are too.

But do we, as a result of having been abused, have to toughen up, guard our heart, stop being giving and trusting and shut down to ourselves, life and others in order to be safe?

The great news is I don’t believe we have to … and in today’s Thriver TV episode I am going to take you through a step-by-step journey today, to show you how you can be an awesome, beautiful, giving person AND be safe …. not just from narcissists, but also safeguarded against being taken for granted by anyone ever again.

Today’s episode is all about being a beautiful, kind-hearted person who will never get taken down by a narcissist again – The Quantum Way.

The Day I Broke No Contact

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  Today, I  want to share with you my candid story about what happened when I contacted narcissist number 1 after ONE YEAR of No Contact. At the time, I felt like a year of the white-knuckling agony – the effort and supreme will-power to stay away – had all been for nothing. Which plummeted me into the absolute depths of despair – a deep black hole I believed there was no escape from. Yet … I got out of that terrible place, and I was able to claim the wonderful experiences of life and love that I hadn’t yet known were possible. (more…)

 

Today, I  want to share with you my candid story about what happened when I contacted narcissist number 1 after ONE YEAR of No Contact.

At the time, I felt like a year of the white-knuckling agony – the effort and supreme will-power to stay away – had all been for nothing.

Which plummeted me into the absolute depths of despair – a deep black hole I believed there was no escape from.

Yet … I got out of that terrible place, and I was able to claim the wonderful experiences of life and love that I hadn’t yet known were possible.

What Really Causes Narcissism?

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  How are narcissists, the people who have no empathy and the capacity to operate in conscienceless and malicious ways, created? Is it nature or nurture, or is it both? Is it due to abusive or neglectful parenting, or is it a roll of God’s dice? What are the ways to stop it happening, or to reverse it? There is a huge amount of consensus about whether or not narcissism is created by parents being abusive and neglectful, or as a result of them spoiling the child and constantly re-affirming how special this child is. (more…)

 

How are narcissists, the people who have no empathy and the capacity to operate in conscienceless and malicious ways, created?

Is it nature or nurture, or is it both?

Is it due to abusive or neglectful parenting, or is it a roll of God’s dice?

What are the ways to stop it happening, or to reverse it?

There is a huge amount of consensus about whether or not narcissism is created by parents being abusive and neglectful, or as a result of them spoiling the child and constantly re-affirming how special this child is.

Parallel Parenting – The Evolutionary Way To Co-Parent With A Narcissist

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  If you are currently co-parenting with a narcissist, my heart goes out to you. I read countless stories every day from people in this community who are experiencing the daily frustrations, twist and turns, insanity and gut-wrenching nastiness that goes with trying to co-parent with a narcissist. You may constantly be worried about how your children are being treated, including if the narcissist is poisoning them against you, or WORSE ... if they are turning your child into a narcissist. And it can be beyond horrible for your children caught in the middle, seeing your distress and pain and witnessing the conflicts between their parents. (more…)

 

If you are currently co-parenting with a narcissist, my heart goes out to you.

I read countless stories every day from people in this community who are experiencing the daily frustrations, twist and turns, insanity and gut-wrenching nastiness that goes with trying to co-parent with a narcissist.

You may constantly be worried about how your children are being treated, including if the narcissist is poisoning them against you, or WORSE … if they are turning your child into a narcissist.

And it can be beyond horrible for your children caught in the middle, seeing your distress and pain and witnessing the conflicts between their parents.

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