I know how painful it is to be caught up in someone’s addictions – suffering the anguish of the invalidation of your needs, safety, love requirements and security – as well as seeing this person destroying themselves and others. Of course, you hope that you can help them overcome the addiction, so that you […]

  I know how devastating it is to have someone vanish from your life without warning. Without any explanation, you are left agonising over what might have been the reason for them to just get up and disappear from your life. Before being able to break free from my terrible relationship with narcissist number 2, […]

  You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way. Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential. And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm […]

  Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being. If you’ve tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you’re triggered beyond the point of ridiculous – struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness. All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your […]

I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it. Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources … and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed. Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t […]

  How are narcissists, the people who have no empathy and the capacity to operate in conscienceless and malicious ways, created? Is it nature or nurture, or is it both? Is it due to abusive or neglectful parenting, or is it a roll of God’s dice? What are the ways to stop it happening, or […]

  Covert narcissists are amongst the sneakiest, most dangerous narcissists of all because they operate like stealth bombers. You know something is wrong with the way they behave and how you feel – but you just can’t quite put your finger on it. Being connected with a covert narcissist is no less than experiencing psychological […]

  Valentine’s Day can be a very traumatic and painful time for many people in this community. From my experience, it’s a narcissist’s favourite time to hoover. And naturally, if we are still reeling in the pain and confusion of being originally adored, and then devalued and discarded, we may hope we’ll be able to resist a […]

  It’s so important to be prepared for the narcissist’s bag of tricks at Christmas time because traditionally this is a ‘hot-spot’ time when narcissists cause untold trauma to many. If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship for some time you will probably have a great deal of trepidation, remembering just how horrible the narcissist […]