Today, I want to discuss steps four, five, and six. These are pivotal and essential to creating thriving, happy, healthy, wholesome, workable relationships.
In my humble opinion, they are a center pin that can’t be missed, and often, they are.
Ready to break free from the draining and depleting effects of narcissists?
Whether you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, are in one now, or are still struggling to move on after one, the answer lies in the Quantum realm.
Let’s look at why narcissists exist in your life in the first place. If you are entangled with narcissists, it is likely because you are subconsciously attached to a False Source.
These False Sources can take many forms, such as a narcissist or a victim-perpetrator type dynamic. You may subconsciously believe this individual is your only source of love, security, or approval.
It’s as if you are stuck in an endless loop of feeling small, powerless, and without choices, or as if you are bound and dependent on this individual.
The truth is, a narcissist will never be a healthy source of anything for you. They are always in competition with you in some form or another.
The Quantum is the most powerful way to break free of this cycle – through inner soul work and energetic healing.
This is the most effective way to detach from narcissists, as it brings you back home to Source and yourself.
Your True Self is a fractal of Sources. As you align yourself with your own True Source of Love, these irritating, traumatizing influences of narcissists become irrelevant, and you are free of their emotional pull.
Video Transcript
Welcome, dear Thriver, to Thriver TV, where you don’t just learn about what narcissistic and toxic relationships are about but how to heal for real from them. If you have not yet subscribed to my YouTube channel, please do so. I’d love for you to share my work with others who need it.
Today is all about that because we are going into Creating Thriving Relationships: The Quantum Way Part Two.
I really recommend that before listening to or reading about this on the blog, you check out Creating Thriving Relationships In The Quantum Way Part One. It will set the foundation for you. We looked at steps one, two, and three there.
This is about creating a relationship directly with a true source, the foundation of all your relationships.
Let’s look at moving from false sources back to true ones.
Making the Leap From False Sources Back To True Source
If you’ve been enmeshed with narcissists, the reason is that you’ve been ensnared by false sources. Narcissists cannot exist in your life with all of their atrocious behavior unless you are somehow trauma-bonded to them through some dependency on them.
Now, let’s check out the part that narcissists play in this. Narcissists are an ego construct, and the acronym of ego is Edging God Out. Now, no matter how spiritual or religious a narcissist may profess to be, they’re never going to humble themselves enough to believe in a divine consciousness, a higher mind God, source creation, the organic well-being and life force that holds together all of the universe and the multiverses and all life force.
Rather, the narcissist in this small, limited, angry, vengeful, controlling mind believes that he or she is God, the master controller of their personal universe.
Therefore, a narcissist can’t be a healthy source in your life because they’re in dark competition with you. Their superiority makes you inferior. Their gain has to be your loss. You’re an object to siphon out, use, manipulate, and bleed dry so they can prosper. Win-win does not compute with these people.
As an adult goes through narcissistic abuse, there is some belief within you that you need this person as your source of love, approval, survival, or security, and this means that there are parts of yourself that don’t as yet feel healed up, safe, or solid.
These are age-regressed parts or a part of you from your past life that feels helpless, small, powerless, and codependently attached to this person. No matter how capable and intelligent you are, you don’t feel like a grown-up adult in your own body.
Somehow, you just don’t feel like you’ve got options, opportunities, solutions, and access to inspiration, support, and miracles from the unlimited permutations of life outside this person.
Most definitely, this was a carry-on from your childhood where you took on limiting beliefs from your parents or your caregivers, and maybe you suffered actual survival threats, or perhaps you had everything done for you. You didn’t feel like you and weren’t brought up to know your power and self-generative capacity emotionally and practically.
We can’t get our caregivers to do it any differently. They had their own faulty programming, and they did the best they could with their resources.
You can now connect to the true source and be filled with the programs, beliefs, and the inner solidness that will give you calm and power—exactly what you need to be full. Then, you can go forward, expand, and create for yourself.
Soul alignment and feeling can’t be achieved logically because this isn’t of the mind. It’s of the soul.
Quantum work with the inner soul’s energetic work is a powerful way to achieve this. It is the most effective way I know of detaching from narcissists and returning to the source and yourself.
Your true self is a fractal of source, and this doesn’t just disconnect you from the attraction and the trauma bonds to narcissists. It makes them literally irrelevant in your life.
Personally, despite being spiritual and believing in a higher power my entire life, even from a little child, it wasn’t until I went quantum regarding healing my connection to my true source that I became self-generative and a thriver, free of everything that narcissists represent and any damage that they previously inflicted on me.
I’ve seen the same happen with countless people in our wonderful community. When you release and reverse the belief, such as:
Source has forsaken me,
I’m cursed and punished by the source,
Others deserve love, abundance, support, and prosperity, and I don’t,
If I don’t go without and suffer, lack, and struggle, I can’t be worthy of source and so many other limiting beliefs.
They’re some of the main ones. Please know it’s essential to know this. You can use any word to understand a higher power. You can use your deity. It doesn’t matter.
Okay? Now, suppose you’re already a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program member or NARP member. In that case, I can’t recommend healing these faulty source programs with the Source Healing and Resolution Module in your bonus modules, or what you can do is you can use the Goal Setting Module, which is another bonus module, and set the goal:
“I’m free to know my divine connection to source as source flowing through me as me. Source and I are one.”
If you are stuck with this stuff, and it’s profound and painful for you, I highly suggest joining me and other global thrivers in Thrive. As a group, we’ll make epic progress with this, and then you can see your life start to soar, heal, and prosper in ways you never had access to before this time.
Additionally, you’ll no longer be led into false connections with false people who seemed to be the answers to your prayer. Still, they ended up instead being the messenger of the parts of yourself that were not aligned with the nourishing and flourishing of the divine source of plenty yet.
I stand in this truth. Nothing flows abundantly in your life until you return home to your connection to your true source, and your life’s repairs and reversals are epic, fast, and stunning when you do.
The spiritual compensation that starts to flow into your life is breathtaking because what is yours by divine right when you come back home cannot be taken away and will unleash and multiply, and it does. Week four of Thrive is all about this piece.
In previous Thrive events, we discovered that the week four group healing that we did is so powerful in reconnecting people back to the source and so far-reaching and effective that even dedicated NARPers have used it as a regular go-to healing on their teachable platform, which is one of the most important pieces they found in their vast super quantum toolkits.
How To Be Your Source-Filled Self In The World
Okay, now let’s examine the next step, which is how to be your source-filled self in the world. It’s one thing to come home to source, but how do you be in the world but not of the world and do it safely as your true self?
In week five of Thrive, we work determinedly on being our true selves without hiding out or dimming our light ever again.
Many people believe that this is impossible to do in a world of narcissistic predators, that you can’t be a shining, loving, prosperous light without being a target to be attacked.
This would be true if you didn’t know how to have a healthy boundary function. When you do, narcissists are as terrified as you as a vampire is of a bright light being turned on in a room.
After healing your connection to the source and all the good stuff, I teach you to keep yourself safe from people after it without having to dim down, be fearful, or get defensive. Instead, now you can shift into a powerful position of being offensive rather than defensive.
Defensive is dangerous because everything you’re trying to hide and defend yourself from keeps smashing into your life, whereas offensive repels it and pushes it back because the power of your light is a thousand times more powerful than the false power of darkness. Your personal evolution as a source self is to embody this and live the truth.
This means creating, expressing, and stating your personal boundaries, what you will and won’t accept, who you will allow into your lifetime appropriately, in healthy ways, and who you won’t.
You become an empowered, up-leveled self by identifying the traumas, beliefs, and limits that have prevented you from reaching this impenetrable level of self-truth.
In week five, we dig out the fears of crap, which I talk about often, which is the fear of being criticized, rejected, abandoned, and punished if you speak up, lay boundaries, and create the truth of your life from the inside out.
What will other people think are the fears?
What will they do?
How did you used to feel shameful and guilty, and even apologize for living as your authentic self?
Who do you fear leaving behind due to ascending into your true self?
In week five, you will learn that your healthy boundaries and the manifestation of your thriver life, as a result of your choices and well-placed nos and yeses, don’t require anybody else to agree with your boundaries, which is one of the greatest false premises that prevents us from being able to lay boundaries.
We think that person has got to agree with our truth. No, they don’t. If they don’t, you have your answer. This is how you will identify, detach from, and remove manipulators from your life.
Your boundaries only rely on you agreeing with them. No one else. I hope that can be a big takeaway for you today because it’s massive. Then you will see how your life starts filling with people who agree with respecting and valuing you.
You will discover how these stuck internal fears and insecurities have held you back. They’ve made you accept less than you and kept you stuck in disappointing and limiting cycles of life and continuing painful and toxic relationships.
How has playing it safe, not wanting to offend other people, kept you experiencing anything but feeling safe, powerful, and free to thrive in your life? Most of us have accepted these squirmy, fearful feelings and barriers of not speaking up or laying boundaries.
We thought it was expected, and we thought it was the way we needed to operate. Even if you have realized that these profound inner barriers to getting along have been holding you back, you may not know how to find, release, and reverse them.
That’s where the quantum tool of quantum freedom healing comes into play, and you’ll discover exactly how quickly and powerfully you’ll go from fear into courage and be able to lay boundaries and, therefore, safely expand into your life with your light after working with week five information, protocols, and healing in Thrive.
What are The Patterns and Programs That Sabotage Us?
Now, let’s look at our next step, which is equally as important as every other step. This is about identifying the patterns and programs that sabotage.
In week six of Thrive, we look at investigating and knowing exactly what triggers and feelings you experience when you start self-sabotaging. We begin to realize that we have that kill switch within us just as we’re about to break through and expand into a different relationship trajectory with ourselves, life, and others.
A self-sabotage trigger can go off, so we must look at how you stay stuck and give away your power. I used to have many, absolutely many.
Would you like to break free from these patterns? When you’re on the cusp of a breakthrough, have you realized that this keeps happening to you? Think about your life. You’ll see it. Self-sabotage occurs only because of one reason: because we want to go forward.
We want to get past our comfort zones. We know our desires, but we’re just unable to do it. This occurs because of unhealed limiting beliefs and programs that powerfully reactivate whenever you try to escape them. Most of them are deep survival programs that don’t allow you to claim your light, progress, freedom, and true organic magnificence, which is who you are.
The brilliant thing about the quantum way to heal is that we can easily find these core programs. We can release a program that does not require decades of therapy. To try to find and shift them, we can just go straight to them, let them go, and bring in the light to replace them, moving into true self-function.
How can you energetically and quantumly address these limiting beliefs and traumas?
Those of you working with quantum freedom healing, I hope that you’ve really realized this, that you can address these things that keep tripping you up and keep you from handing your power away.
These things haven’t allowed you to break free into your true self and your actual life yet, which is precisely what you deeply desire that keeps calling you forth.
That’s what we learn about in week six. How do I identify precisely what is causing your self-sabotage trigger to go off, and how do I remove the blocks and limits causing that? Finally, go free from self-sabotage.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be able to get off Groundhog Day of sliding back into bad relationships, toxic habits and addictions, stinking thinking, procrastination, and giving up on your dreams all over again just as you thought you were getting the inspiration to get towards them?
Conclusion
Can you somehow sense that you can’t settle with this, and it doesn’t sit well with you, and it’s actually depressing, painful, and horrible to experience because it’s a contradiction to your true self? It’s not who you’re coded to be. It’s not the life you’re meant to live.
When we understand on a quantum level that we’re built of the same stuff as creation itself and the universe and the way function as the source, which is all the oneness of all that is, and that energy is always in the business of expanding and expressing itself and growing, and if we are not doing that, it feels wrong. It’s WrongTown.
It’s not what we’re cellularly coded to do. What I love about going quantum is that it got me out of the stinking thinking and the head loop, trying to think my way out of that painful state of self to shift out of it and start moving into my true self as my organic self.
That’s what happens when you start working with your inner healing the quantum way, so check out Thrive.
Okay, here is the link for Thrive, and we’re in the last days of being able to enroll to get epically involved in this super healing over 10 weeks, where you have the safety, guidance, and comfort of your own home.
The ability to get together with our incredible global quantum community to heal in ways that are going to grant you the boost that you’ve probably been looking for your entire life.
Also, please remember to like, subscribe to, and share this video with people who could be helpful. I hope it gave you some takeaways and a deep understanding of why you haven’t been able to break free and heal yet.
Okay, so to finish off, you know how it goes, and this is how us thrivers go. Keep smiling, keep healing, and keep thriving because, honestly, what else is there to do?
All right, I’ll talk to you guys soon. Lots of love. Bye-bye.
I’ve been able to move past abusers & attracting them in my life now but instead I have people that lie & don’t have any integrity come into my life. How do I move past these as well? I am thinking of doing Thrive but don’t have the finances.
Hi Heather,
It does come down to the inner work … and we would love to help you reprogram your subconscious with Quanta Freedm Healing, with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp Are you working with NARP? If so have you reached out to the NARP Communiity Forum, where we can help you with this http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member This training and guidance comes free for life with your Gold NARP Membership
I hope this can help Heather.
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Thank you Mel, yes I am working with NARP just confirms my hunch it was underneath the trauma that was attracting the narcs to begin with. I will keep plodding along.
That’s great Heather,
you have got this
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Heather, I’m no expert (even in my fifties), but I have (recently, and partly thanks to NARP) learned to recognize a decades-long partnership and more than one family member in my life who are seriously narcissistic, abusing me and causing great harm to me and other family members.
I know what “abuse” is, and this kind of it remains insidious, because of how covert and hidden it remains and how much denial the narc and those who surround narcs support such denial. I know how (somewhat better, not with perfection) narcs are attracted to people who either do not know of their existence, have a spirit of generosity, are highly empathic, or are all of the above. And I know that people who “lie & don’t have any integrity” who might come into my life get exactly the same form of “palm in the face, cold shoulder, you’re not gonna happen to me” that narcs and other abusers do, because THEY ARE THE SAME SORT OF PEOPLE!
The same kinds of abusive behavior Mel and others here characterize as “narcissistic” are the same kinds of treatment you can expect from those who “lie & don’t have any integrity.” You might as well lump them into the same category of “I do not let vampires like you across the threshold of my door,” because the results of doing so are (sadly) so similar. Lying to someone is a form of abuse. Not having integrity is a big red flag. Pay attention to these behaviors by others and you will be guided to seek, put and keep the BEST kind of people in your life: those who do not abuse, lie to those around them and lack in integrity.
This is a life-long process of learning. It is not easy. It can be something we must gently remind others around us about (as I do in a friendly, helpful way here and now), as we must be vigilant to guard our emotional well-being. I wish you the very best.