As you know there are many challenges for us homo sapiens right now. Times are chaotic and uncertain.
I believe we are going through a powerful time of ‘baptism by fire’. Things always look darkest before dawn breaks and I know we are going to emerge in the Light… but how can we look after ourselves in these times, when there are so many breakdowns happening?
How do we take back our power in times of extreme global stress, when we feel powerless to control things?
As a community, having gone through the unspeakable horror and helter-skelter of narcissistic abuse up-close and personal, some of us are already brilliantly equipped for this time.
We’ve already been through a ‘death/rebirth’ experience, so we know what it is to feel like we are going to lose it all – and we possibly already did.
For many of us, when we did lose what we thought was our life, and even almost our very life itself, we discovered our True Life – an inner connection to something much greater than ourselves.
Well, here we are all over again – in times of uncertainty, bombardment, chaos and losses. Losses of the life we thought we would be living, losses of people we used to be close to, and a loss of the way we used to look at the world.
Sounds incredibly familiar to what we went through with narcissistic abuse, yes?
It is. And it’s time for us to rise like we never have before.
Personally Moving From Darkness To Light
Quantum Law is ‘so within – so without’. Therefore, to change your life from Fear, Pain, Uncertainty and Chaos requires shifting your Inner Being from these states on the inside, to Light.
Because it’s from The Light that everything comes.
It’s important to understand the ridiculousness of Law of Attraction. Trying to manifest in this way is still co-dependency. “I’m going to stop thinking about Fear, Pain and Uncertainty with my visualisation of Love, Release and Clarity instead.”
That is us trying to control things. Co-dependency is the disease of controlling: “I’m feeling empty and unfulfilled and I’m going to try to DO something to fix it.”
Visualising the ‘opposite’ does not fix states. It just brings up for you a constant need to keep doing it, and grave disappointment and self-judgement when it doesn’t hold.
What DOES work is releasing the OLD state and replacing it with Light. Peace, calm and centredness. Light just is. Constant, steady Light.
But how do we do this when our present-day lives are surrounding us with so many things to be concerned about?
I promise you with all my heart, I NOW have ZERO fears about this time.
I did have them, HUGELY! Three years ago, when the chaos started, I was initially MASSIVELY triggered. I am not alone. Many people I know who were close to me, as well as people in this community, also felt terribly destabilised – understandably so.
Maybe you went through this, or are still going through this and have been terribly impacted in some way. You could still be battling to try to stay positive and sane, against insurmountable odds.
In these intense triggers, I needed to turn within and do Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) Healings, in ways I hadn’t needed to do for years.
I was literally crippled in fear until I did, feeling powerless whilst I was watching everything in my home town of Melbourne implode around me: people despairing, giving up, losing everything they had worked their entire lives for, cut off from their loved ones and ending their own lives.
I’ll never forget one day I sat in the bath and cried all day – tears of deep soul-wrenching despair. As an empath, I could feel people’s pain, their losses, their trauma and their powerlessness. These people had no hope and there was no sign of an end in sight.
(Were my deep feelings of grief JUST about the present moment, or also from times eons ago? You may relate…)
I realised this overwhelming embodiment of collective pain was destroying me. What use was I to anyone when I couldn’t function? Plus, it was simply too agonising to stay like this.
With the NARP Bonus Source Healing and Resolution Module I worked on myself for hours that night. I released the trauma inside me, and brought in Source’s Light to replace where the trauma had been.
From where there had been despair, arose relief, then calm, then clarity.
I had to keep going. There were many days and many sessions to keep letting go of this overwhelming dark engulfment. Eventually, I was no longer drowning as a victim of the chaos. I emotionally rose above it, using this power I had taken back to serve myself and others, doing what I could do for humanity.
Plus, I saw a truth – a powerful, bigger-picture truth.
I understood that this was all happening FOR everyone. I saw that this time was about taking back our power to go free, from the inside, regardless of what was happening on the outside.
Now instead of being the ‘I’, I had become the ‘I Am’, connected to ‘It All’. Let me explain.
Releasing False Idols
Right now is NOT the time to check out and distract yourself with Netflix and ‘normal life’ and just hope it all just goes away. You are deeper than that and more vital than that.
The transition from The Piscean Age of ‘Knowing an outer God’ to The Aquarian Age of ‘Knowing you and Source / God are One’ is a profound time in history and you may consider this time to be one that you actually need to participate in – to help usher in this Golden Time ahead.
Here is what I believe our spiritual survival message is right now. It is time to give up False Idols – to stop worshipping things and people outside of ourselves, and stop handing our power away by making them ‘gods’.
That’s what landed us in this mess that we all now have to face. The results of being asleep at the wheel are now front and centre. We have let others dictate the fate of our lives for us, rather than choosing to live our lives through Source guidance, in truth and health, for ourselves.
It’s a selling of our own soul. We could have been knowing, listening and aligning with our intuition, our values and how Source / God relates to us – creating ourselves as the living embodiments of truth, love and wholeness. But instead we have made our existence reliant on sport, clothes, alcohol, labels, acquisitions, getting a lover, having a ‘trendy’ identity, fitting in, sexual stimulation, being approved of and accepted by the in-crowd. And the list goes on and on.
It amounts to being taken over by narcissistic control.
It also means we are highly susceptible to being gaslighted, manipulated, led, coerced, tempted, and steered away from our connection to Higher Wisdom and Truth, as well as the threat of the LOSS of things that we have been idolising.
It’s co-dependency leading us into narcissistic abuse all over again – on steroids.
Letting Go Of Life ‘As You Want it’
We fell for the darkness because we did not stand in our own Light.
This darkness was False Selves – narcissists and worse – pretending to be ‘saviours’ who instead harvested our life-force and soul to further their own ‘getting sprees’ at our expense.
We have been trained to be dependent on the status quo and our attachment to outer ‘things’ rather than valuing our ‘insides’.
When you live life from the inside, you don’t get tricked by the coercion and threats to maintain ‘stuff’. Instead, a deep re-membering – coming back together – activates, which is the knowing that when you are at One with Source, you already are what you seek. ALL things are possible, probable, inevitable, and GRANTED.
This I have learned the last three years; the doing and the getting in the old ways are obsolete. In a world of madness and chaos, having no idea of what is going to happen, I honour my Soul and Source and that is my rock to stand on.
That is the ascension of the Aquarian Age, and that is what 5D is – “Source and I am One”. Living from soul truth and Beingness brings miracles abounding in our lives. This is the place to expand and create from, not out of need, but because Source is flowing through you as you.
I want to ask you…
What are you hanging on to that is sucking your life-force? Do these things and people FULFIL you? What are your REAL values and truths? What do you feel called to? How can you be more real, connected with yourself, and serve your greater community? How would it feel to partner with the Higher Mind and live your life from this place?
Do you desire your own personal power and freedom, and to live from your deep inner knowing and guidance?
What IS your intuition, the voice of Source, telling you?
Are you willing to drop attachments to ‘things having to be the way you wanted them to be?’
I promise you I did. My Inner GPS said, “sell your home now” and I did, even though my ego would say, “that is your dream forever home, don’t sell it!”
I’ve learned what happens when I ignore my Inner God/ Source and try to live life through my attached egoic will, instead of my Higher Will. I know the difference – hard knocks and setbacks, or living the only life that would ever durably fulfill me.
The inner voice was right. If I had stayed and listened to my ego, I would be facing financial ruin right now. Instead I am living with much more financial freedom on a property that ticks every box imaginable in my life.
Is it as fancy? No! Is it my soul truth? Yes!
How often have we all, in narcissistic abuse, had the gut warnings, but because we did not listen paid a terrible price?
How Do You Know The Difference Between The Ego and Your Intuition?
These times we are in are about listening, because we can take back the power – which is our Higher Power – the relationship with Source and the Higher Guidance that moves through everyone of us, as us, if we incorporate it.
The voice of Source / God is not a needy panicked voice that is conditional on ‘getting something,’ or giving us some formula for a ‘set outcome’. Rather it is a wise, smooth, soft voice that just ‘is’. It is a direction that feels right and true, without us having any idea ‘why’.
It is like an inviting ‘come here with me’ feeling. In your body it feels warm, gentle, loving and spacious. It never tells you the ‘result’ of the idea, and it doesn’t need to, because you understand the result you want IS the warm, spacious, ‘correct’ feeling.
Everything that is worthwhile comes from THAT.
Of course there are times when fear, pain and confusion step in because I am human like everyone else.
But I have Quanta Freedom Healing as my super-tool to shift. I have NARP healings to keep letting go of these dense inner feelings, and to open up and allow Source to step in.
Living from your Soul with Source as One, means relinquishing control. It is allowing the Higher part of You, the Source Self, to step in and take over.
Which is a good thing, because Source is All That Is, and so has access to miracles that your logical mind and egoic self could never produce. This is your ascension into being impervious to the chaos in these times.
It is the knowing of the powerhouse you really are, with you and Source as One.
I hope you felt this article today, deeply in your soul.
As always – I look forward to your comments and questions.
Dearest Mel,
Ooooohhhh! Thank You so much for this Article! Your timing as always is Impeccable (you really don’t need to be told this anymore lol). Yesterday it finally happened, I let go of some more family ties, left a Family Group Chat, and stated that I wasn’t going to be guilted into ANYTHING! It was interesting and BEAUTIFUL at the same time. There was some fall-out, some very 3D responses which I simply said “not my reality”. After everything that has happened, it was almost as if it was/is being turned back around on to us. I said NO! Thank You Mel. I remember very well indeed three years ago when you told us about being in Melbourne, and I knew you’d DO IT, and we’d DO IT and we have! Thanks to You for your Most Loving Guidance again. Thank YOU! I am going to have to read this article again so may comment again below lol, but as you know I just had to say it Again – Thank YOU!
Kondwani
Dearest Kondwani,
that’s so brave that you have stood as YOU.
One day, Dear Man … not .. that you need or even want to be right (none of us do!) – but you will be vindicated and people will know it was you caring about ALL.
So great to see you breaking free and walking the truth.
It’s painful, we lose people, but what else is there to do, if we are going to be true to our souls?
Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Just what I needed to hear exactly when I needed to hear it. As always Mel, your timing is perfect. Thank you!
Hi Loredana,
It’s my pleasure.
Much Love to you!
Mel 🙏💞🦋
All is well now because we all have said “no” to the wrong of idolorous lies we worshipped and took back ourselves. Thank you.
Hi D,
yes! It’s happening more and more every day… so beautiful to see!
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Dear Melanie!
Each day I am so thankful for your periodic articles and for your amazing and wonderful teachings and NARP.
Today is no exception!!! This article today is wonderful!
For certain these are quite chaotic times on this earth. However the chaos that I have experienced within as a result of living with and enduring years of narcissistic abuse make the problems of my earthly navigations pale….
Each time that I do something with the modules or listen to you speak or participate in the forum I feel within a semblance of an inner power growing inside of me, little by little, a power that cannot and will not wilt when chaos runs amuck around me…
as Kipling said “Can I keep my head about me when all men are losing theirs and blaming it on me?” (Kind of paraphrased)
That particular statement so often has reminded me of you, Melanie, and what you teach us. (If by Kipling)
The power of NARP is extraordinary and especially extraordinary during these incredibly toxic times we are living with on this earth.
I am so thankful that I discovered NARP when I did, Melanie! Thank you for being here for so many of us and for so selflessly sharing your wisdom and experience with all of us.
Much love!
❤️🦋❤️
Hi Peter,
Im glad you enjoyed this 🙂
Kipling was very wise – truth and reality have not been encouraged or supported – but that tide is fast turning.
Much Love to you Peter
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Thank you, Melanie. I sure hope you are right. The tide needs to turn! 🙏
If you can keep your head while all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you..
Kipling knew and so do we ❤️
Some will see it, some won’t but that’s ok too.
Truth is simple.
When I asked for the truth a few years ago, it was shown to me and although it was ugly and the backlash is ugly and ongoing, it has revealed and cleared the path.
Thank you Peter for mentioning this and thank you Mel for your wisdom and guidance in these dark times. The light cannot be dimmed now. We stand tall with courage and integrity.
Hi Em!
Was it Dylan Thomas who wrote “do not go gently into that good night” ?
That phrase came to me as soon as I read your comment.
It’s sure amazing to be here…..
Thank you so much, Em!
🌻
Hi Melanie, great that you are addressing the narcissistic plan affecting the world. I also felt totally overwhelmed over the last three years. Which of your NARP modules would best address the emotions around the so called R.eset, please? Eager to find them quickly! Thank you from tin foil hatter, Bigi.
Hi Bigi,
Hunnie just use Module 1 or my personal favourite the Source Healing and Resolution Module, and just keep moving out all the dense energy.
Know that your Inner Light is the solution. That goes for all of us!
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Melanie, you are like a rock star, a demi-goddess and a lightworker all wrapped up into one!
I remember Summer of ’87, I was a young adult, there was something called “the Harmonic Convergence.” We were “meditating for peace” during some kind of planetary alignment. I’m not sure what happened from that (all these years later, having lived through what doesn’t feel has become an especially peaceful world). But I DO feel as though what I have learned from emerging from the fire of narc abuse (on multiple levels) includes the most important component of my healing: learning to let go of any sense of control that is within ME.
I mean, yes, of course, I have a certain amount / kind of free will, and I exert it where it makes sense to steer my life. And THEN, I have more-recently learned (thanks, NARP), there is “go with what ELSE there is.” Humans cannot fight this, it is like swimming upstream, a “forever-struggle.”
I read your words and the light I keep walking into gets brighter and brighter. Thank you!
Oh gosh M from C,
you make me blush!
Now is so about being brighter and brighter – because then what dims that light with chaos and fear – just CAN’T.
The truth is in that Light!
We are the solution we seek.
Mel 🙏💞🦋
I heard the word narcissist for the first time in march 2020 after googling the words ‘parental projection’ and not long after I discovered you Melanie. You modules helped me heal from over 50 years of an extremely narcissistic family. Just as I was coming up for air I realised all the parallels with what was happening in the world and the darkness that ensued was like a second tsunami this time tearing away my very nearest and dearest as they simply did not and would not see what I could see. It was nothing short of terrifying! I turned to you as of all people, I thought you must see what I see but at that time Australia was behind us in the lockdowns and it seemed that even you hadn’t recognised the parallels. It’s very reassuring in a strange sort of way to know that you do but frightening too as although I would love to move off grid I haven’t found the opening yet to do so. Instead, I find myself in a place where there is nothing else to do but find my inner light, strength and faith and trust that I am here at this time for a reason and just keep asking that I’m guided the right way.
Hi Forgetmenot,
I love that NARP helped you heal, and congratulations for coming so far in your journey!
It soooo happy for you 🙂
I can assure you I knew the parallels 20 years ago … even before my own N-abuse situation! A week into the events I knew what was coming.
It’s about timing, doing what I can, and making the connection – as you have – so that people come into their own power.
Stay being the Light Dear Soul, that is the most powerful defense of all … and keep trusting YOU!
Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋
You are not alone Forgetmenot.
This is what we all need to hear and remember. It is the ultimate comfort and joy to know we can feel safe by healing and connecting to source. And our outlook automatically comforts those around us. When I started NARP I saw the world as dangerous, un-survivable, and getting worse all the time. Now, I see the world as an advanced ‘course in source’. Thank you for giving us the gift of your knowledge and experience Melanie – we can heal and be whole because you’ve shown us the way. I will be eternally grateful to you and your support angels.
Hi Sharon,
I love that “course in source”!
Thank you for your beautiful comment and inspiration to ALL!
It takes an angel to recognise others.
Much Love to you.
Mel 🙏💞🦋
God always knows what we need at the appropriate time. This was icing on the cake…Thank you!
It’s my pleasure Frances!
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Mel, your raw honesty and humility is truly humbling.
NARP saved my life in 2016 when NOTHING else worked and the insanity-inducing abuse of a narcissist left me very close to ending it all.
Since then, repeated use of module 1 allowed me to heal psychological and emotional disorders and build a business so successful that I was named one of Britain’s top entrepreneurs in a shockingly short time.
However the success – money, awards, adoration from strangers – left me feeling empty inside and I realised how hollow it all was, not only was my business unfulfilling, I was chasing something outside of me to fill a void inside of me, which of course was impossible.
Now, after months of chaos, confusion and every door closing on me, I came back to you – the one who saved my life back in 2016.
I stopped ignoring the feeling of emptiness, chose to walk away from all I was clinging on to and heal what remains unhealed – that which nothing external to me can fix.
What the future holds for me, I do not know, but all these years later I can now see that the narcissistic abuse I endured served a far greater purpose.
You are my guide through difficult times. I hope you get to read this message and know the difference you have made to people’s lives. Your work saved my life and healed my soul and you continue to lead the way for us all.
Hi Stephanie,
your story is an astounding one.
It is so true that we are all being brought to the precipe of valuing … our .. soul – and no outer substitute will be allowed.
You truly do get it dear Thriving Soul – I enjoyed reading your post very much.
I know you will always shine brightly now – and the rest truly will unfold beautifully for you.
How, now, can it not?
So Much Love to you
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Your timing is immaculate as always mel.I have been feeling swamped with fear and desperation about the way the world is looking at the moment and so dismayed about the madness going on everywhere in the world.The narcissists have risen to the top in so many countries like scum on the top of water.You ,as usual are a voice for reason.I was starting to feel a bit alone in my fearful observations of the lunatics (narcs) taking over the asylem till I read this.The crazy people running the show need the bright light of source shone on them and turning their wickedness to dust.I’m so grateful to you for always being here for us Mel.Good luck and love for your new ventures.xxxx
Hi Shelly,
You are 100% correct.
The Light will WIN darling lady.
Keep Being Yours … no matter what!
You’ve got this!
So Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Gosh, serendipity, poetry, amazing common experiences of narpers on this truly amazing blog. Melanie TE, I can’t or rather CAN believe your truth can be so universal and can keep me safe when nothing else can, at the moment. I am keeping safe and healing whilst I have to remain steadfast for my daughter in a place that I long to run from. Thank you, and thanks to everyone who has commented. I am wowed. And so humbled and comforted to know there are so many fab souls out there. I don’t feel alone tonight@ I feel.uplifted.
Hi Rockness,
we are so blessed to be together in this Community.
Soul Tribe for SURE!
I love you are feeling uplifted – just keep shifting out any dense energy and bringing in the Light with NARP – its getting stronger and stronger … I promise!
Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋
Melanie,
Thank you for speaking up about the crazy condition of today’s world! I know that Australia has been through a nightmarish 3 years and my country, Canada, is not far behind! I wake up each morning, wondering just what to do to save myself and my family from the abusive takedown.
Hi Suzanne,
it’s my pleasure.
Are you healing and empowering you with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp ?
It will help you so much in these times, to get anchored, aligned and fearless and guided.
Much Love
Mel 🙏💞🦋
I could write so much MORE about this topic, but I’ll simply follow-up my previous comment here with a quote by the author John Green:
“People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason the world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used.”
I mean, wow!
I agree SO much M from C!
Mel 🙏💞🦋