These Apocalyptic Narcissistic Times – Are You Traumatised By Them?

How crazy are things right now in the world? Cray-cray – TOTALLY crazy! Events, situations, people… everything is turned upside down and inside out.

I really wanted to speak to this in today’s Thriver TV, and what I’m sharing is soooooo relevant to our wonderful Community, because it relates directly to narcissism – personally and collectively.

It is my greatest desire that today’s video answers some really important questions for you – and helps you see some astounding parallels.

I also explain deeper truths about how narcissistic inflicted trauma affects you.

Most of all, my greatest wish for today’s video is that it grants you clarity, hope and faith that there is a way out of pain, fear and struggles in these dark times.

Then after watching this TTV, I want to offer you relief and empowerment to become free from the fear of ANY narcissistic people and situations around you, with my upcoming global on-line event – the Freedom From Relationship Trauma and Toxic People Workshop.

Because NONE of us deserves to – or has to – live like this!

 

 

Video Transcript

Welcome, dear Thriver, to Thriver TV where you get to not only survive narcissistic abuse, but thrive from it. Make sure you are subscribed to my YouTube channel, and if you like my work, then please share it with somebody who needs to hear this message.

Today I want to speak to the trauma of these apocalyptic, narcissistic, uncertain times. You may be deeply feeling this trauma because many people are – personally and globally.

You may be trying to deal with highly triggered narcissists right now who are even more revolting than usual, as well as dealing with some really tumultuous times in the world that can be affecting you wherever you live.

My opinion is that we are going through massive upheavals and changes – a battle, if you like, of darkness and light – which will not necessarily be the end of us, but will definitely be the end of life as we have always done it.

And I don’t believe this is a bad thing, as many of us have been living in the shadows – our own and that of others. This is all about a return to light.

Today I want to allow you to see a bigger picture and explain the connection with narcissism and trauma – as well as explain the way to get through, up and out of this.

 

The Traumatic Episodes Right Now

First of all, we have a powerful divide, where people are falling out with each other – and that has ramped up. Family members are not agreeing, important friendships are falling by the wayside, and love partners are disagreeing and separating.

It’s all rife at the moment. We also have big reveals happening on a micro and a macro level. These are exposing certain people in our personal lives as not being who we believed them to be. We may also now suspect or know that people, structures and organizations in the world – that we once believed in – don’t care about us in the ways that we once thought.

This awakening to certain truths, which shake our core beliefs, can occur as a slow-paced shift or be triggered by a sudden influx of information. Either way, the results to your psyche can be shocking.

It’s akin to walking in on your partner or spouse in bed with your best friend.

The exposure of narcissistic abuse is destabilizing due to its insidious, ‘Trojan horse’ capacity to have you believing you are served or supported by this person or structure, when you are actually being betrayed for selfish reasons. It leads you to question everything.

Within the human zeitgeist is a protection mechanism. If you’re shockingly lied to, then you quite rightly struggle to trust again. We inherently know, “deceive me once, shame on you; deceive me twice, shame on me.” We can also have grave inner shame over our attempted cognitive dissonance in not wanting to face the truth – and so continually overlooking and forgiving the unforgivable pathological lies and betrayal.

Some part of us always knows the truth; we just don’t want to know.

 

The Four Pillars of Our Inner Identity

Narcissistic abuse rocks the very foundations of your inner identity. This is a deep unearthing from the pillars of your human existence.

Let’s examine these in order, and exactly how they relate to narcissistic abuse.

The first inner pillar is Love.

Your concept of love is traumatized. You thought this person or group cared for you, but now you know they don’t and they were using you for their own agenda. Narcissistic love comprises telling you how wonderful you are and how much you’re cared for – then damaging you, hurting you, and doing terribly cruel things to you to make you bend to a will that is not your own.

This isn’t love, it’s tyranny disguised as benevolence.

Love does not grasp, control or threaten; it sets free, trusts and allows you to be yourself.

Love does not abandon you when you’re injured, down, broken, not being useful, or not following orders. Rather, it’s present, restorative, selfless and supportive. Love does not silence your opinion or attack you for voicing your concerns. Love allows you to have your voice, and agree to disagree if necessary.

The next pillar of your inner identity is Approval.

When you are being narcissistically abused, you are shocked that this person or body that once approved of you is now attempting to disable you with threats, and smearing you with false information to discredit you if you don’t agree with their narrative. Approval becomes conditional. You’re not validated enough to even receive answers to your concerns.

You are stonewalled, gaslighted, blamed, discarded and ignored if you question the abuse, as well as set upon by minions and authorities to punish you back into submission.

It’s called abuse by proxy and it’s what narcissists famously do.

Another thing that narcissists do is convince you that you’re a powerless victim. You can’t do things yourself and you need them to cope. Whereas a true master of life creates more masters. People who really approve of you want you to approve of yourself and be empowered as yourself. Those who genuinely approve of you don’t want you to be dependent on them. They empower you to not need them.

Genuine approval doesn’t narcissistically control you by telling you that you’re weak or smashing you with continual chaos, drama and fear porn to make you feel terrorized, traumatized and powerless in the world. Real approval does not spin tales or twist facts to blame you for what they are doing themselves, tearing down your self-belief in the process.

True approval also doesn’t triangulate you to regard other people as the cause of your issues, telling you that these people are against you and out to get you. This puts you into a constant state of fear, pain, reaction and defences, and prevents you from realising that it was the narcissist who engineered all of this all along.

The next inner pillar is Security.

The following are important questions relating to security. Can I prosper and create the life, job or business that I want? Can I be who I want to be in the world and feel abundance? Can I serve humanity and my loved ones in healthy ways whilst prospering healthily myself? Or am I brought to my knees, targeted and ripped down when I try to create, achieve and generate my life?

Narcissists destroy your life force, your creations, your expansions and any joy that you take in your accomplishments. They thwart, penalize and hamstring you, and seek to make you feel wrong and guilty about what you’re trying to do.

How dare you feel great about what you have created under your own steam? You’re meant to worship and be dependent on the narcissist and be turned against anything else that could be a source of achievement, power and freedom for you. Because then you will remain imprisoned.

According to the narcissist, “You’re my slave. You serve me, never yourself or others”. When you are under narcissistic control, it’s like being a salmon trying to swim upstream with a brick on your head. Many people simply give up, which is exactly what a narcissist wants you to do – be powerless, dependent on them and unable to rise up against them and escape their rule.

Then there is the fourth and final inner pillar of your identity – Survival.

Being triggered into your survival programs leads to these questions. Can I get through this? Am I going to be displaced? Will I be able to defend myself? Will I have anything left to provide for myself and those I love? Can I have the means to even have access to basic survival needs? Will I survive?

When all of these four pillars of being are compromised, it plunges your inner being into loads of trauma. Being with a narcissist triggers exactly these traumas. Many people in the world are feeling these traumas more than they ever have, not just on a personal level, but on a collective level.

 

 

The Energetic Effects of Trauma

Trauma is crippling on many levels: emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually and financially.

If you want to think in the terms of your chakra centers, if you’re stuck in the base chakra and mired down in the trauma of survival, then you can’t harness hope, faith, creativity, and forward movement. You can only deal in the present day pain, fear, battle and struggles.

It’s like Groundhog Day being on a traumatic treadmill with no way out.

If you’re stuck in internal trauma, then your navel chakra is clogged up. Energy can’t flow through it healthily. The navel chakra is the energy centre of desire, so rather than having inspired and expansive desire calling you forth, you’re in what I call ‘empty desire’.

This is a panicky, needy desire. You’re trying to get things from outside of you to help you. You may be taking up addictions and trying to get stuff or do stuff to take away the pain. It’s like stapling sandwiches to your jumper and hoping you just had lunch. Your trapped internal trauma is what’s generating despair and depression.

If you are holding onto trauma, you’re also stuck in the energy of your solar plexus – clogged up with having a shameful, painful self-identity. You may even have self-loathing – hating how you feel, hating on yourself and your position in life. This is the seat of victim consciousness, which means you’re stuck in the co-creating of more punishing events, and of continual victimisation entering your life experiences.

Until this internal trauma is released from your inner being, you can’t vibrate any higher because the energy can’t flow through these lowest centers into your heart chakra. This is your Love space, which is the most powerful, liberating force of all.

You’re cut off from All That Is – your Higher Self, your Higher Power, divine love, a powerful intelligence outside of space, time, energy, and matter – which also connects you to your own power because you are a fractal of this Source. You’re made of the same stuff.

If you are freed from trauma and you can be in your heart, then you can move from your heart center up into your throat chakra where you can be yourself, express your truth, and have a voice and a position in the world.

From there you can move into the brow chakra to have insight, clear intuition and receive divine guidance from the Higher Mind, from Source.

You can then rise further into the crown chakra to experience Oneness with All That Is and your rightful identity as the powerful co-creator that you truly are. Here, you know you are whole, immortal, infinite and indestructible. You know you are a fractal of Source and a Spirit having a human experience. There is no fear here.

This is the journey from trauma to activation, emancipation and your true freedom. Then you are a Light. You discover that when you stand in the darkness as the Light, the darkness is illuminated and any vampires in it must shriek and run back into the shadows. All that is dark in our world and within our own selves – all that collective trauma – is now coming up and out of the shadows. It’s being seen and experienced everywhere.

This is the process of purging and cleansing. As many (including myself) will put it, this is the collective humanity shift of moving from Third Dimensional fear and pain to Fifth Dimensional consciousness and freedom.

It’s time, and the time is right now. The real question is, are you going to go free from the internal trauma, move up into your human birthright and be the Light within this? Can you be the solution to your own life, the lives of others and all of humanity?

Or are you going to be gobbled up in the darkness because of your own as yet unhealed shadows?

But there is hope – more than hope – for you, for me, and for all of us.

 

In Conclusion

At this time, I felt very called to put together a workshop on this, to help these personal and collective wounds of narcissism to show you the way to take your freedom back from this blight for real.

It’s a four-hour informative, supportive workshop and healing event that I’ve called ‘Freedom From Relationship Trauma And Toxic People’. It’s totally relevant to help you heal from the current-day narcissistic apocalypse that we are all living through.

There are now ONLY 2 days left for you to join in.

If this information resonates with you and you wish to break FREE from pain, fear and trauma – then this event is a must-do!

From it you will receive all of the workshop materials PLUS a phenomenal Quanta Freedom Healing, which are all yours to keep for life.

I hope this has helped answer some burning questions for you, granted you clarity and made you understand the real truth about narcissism.

And as always, I really look forward to your comments and your questions below.

Until the next one, keep smiling, keep healing and keep thriving. There is nothing else to do. Lots of love.