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The Healer in Disguise – Spiritual Narcissists Explained

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Written By   Melanie Tonia Evans


Spiritual narcissists hit HARD.

They devastate your belief, soul and life – and they do it under the most manipulative guise of healing you.

It’s BEYOND devastating.

HOW do they do it?

How CAN we stop it?

What is the incredible transcendence for us out of this?

Watch today’s TTV episode because I’m about to explain ALL of this … and more!



Video Transcript

In today’s Thriver TV I want to get right down to the gist of how spiritual narcissists operate and how they get their hooks into you.

I also want to deeply investigate how spiritual healers very easily get you to hand your power to them and how you can ensure that stops happening to you.

Also, I’m going to explain to you how even if a spiritual narcissist is not healing you, they are granting you the most incredible opportunity to finally come home to healing yourself.

If you have been abused by a spiritual narcissist, whether it be in love or in therapy or church, this is a must-watch video for you.

It will explain a lot.

Okay, before I get started, if you haven’t yet subscribed to my channel please do. And if you like this video, make sure you hit the like button.

Let’s start by checking out the different types of spiritual narcissists.


Who Are Spiritual Narcissists?

They can range from church ministers and worshippers who have incredible scripture knowledge, through to Eastern and personal development gurus and an endless assortment of spiritual healers and followers.

The spiritual narcissist in your life may be a person who reads spiritual books and professes to be spiritual who is holding up their indoctrination to you, professing that you need to live by it. This could be any impactful person in your life, whether they are connected to a church or healing profession or not.


How Do Spiritual Narcissists Infiltrate Us?

Many of us have known spiritual narcissists personally and collectively. Only recently a prominent spiritual narcissist within the Catholic church has been exposed through the mass media.

Narcissists are all dangerous and covert in that they wear a mask appearing to be who they are not. Spiritual narcissists totally personify the expression ‘wolf in sheep’s clothing’.

What is so insidious and horrifying about spiritual narcissists is that they exploit positions of trust. If we are not yet aware that the only true authority to how we connect and relate to people is our inner being, we can easily believe that someone else has authority over our life and soul – even when our inner wisdom doesn’t agree.

And so sadly, we can justify these feelings away easily believing spiritual narcissists; we hand over our power and put our soul in their hands.

A dear girlfriend and I were having the discussion the other day about how ‘Playing it safe, despite your inner cues that something is wrong, is probably the biggest recipe for being abused by someone.’

Spiritual narcissists absolutely capitalise on people doing this.

The twist in the story of abuse by spiritual narcissists is that they can appear to be our remedy, our guru and the person who will heal us. However, like any source outside of ourselves that is a substitute to our own wholeness, this again is a False Source. Like all narcissists do, they appeal to a gap within us and profess to be the person to fill it.

False sources come in two versions:
1) Temporary relief that never provides a true durable solution, or
2) Abusive substitutes that we get hooked on for our supposed salvation, yet they bring about our destruction instead.


Who Is With Spirit Genuinely and Who Is Not?

We may trust spiritual narcissists and hand our power to them because they have professed to be with spirit and therefore immediately seeming credible. Maybe we want to trust them in the hope they can heal us.

Beware of anyone telling you that they are the person who will heal you back to a spiritual oneness. They can’t – only you can generate that for yourself. Someone can only empower you to deeply partner with and start healing yourself – they CAN’T do it for you. Rather than getting you to follow them, a true spiritual healer will take you deeply within yourself for you to connect to your ‘self’.

If someone is fostering a dependency with you, you need to be extremely wary of their motives. Is it for your money, body, resources, energy or life-force that they are creating this symbiosis?

Someone who is with Source will encourage you to become your own sage and guru and a person who no longer needs them – and they dearly wish that for you. They will want for you to have a direct relationship between you and Source, in its purest form, because they deeply know that you are Source itself and can experience and know this for yourself.

They know God is within.

They know your salvation lies in YOU knowing ‘Who You Really Are’ – God/Source/Salvation itself.

If someone who professes to be spiritual is not helping you come to this authentic place of peace, power and truth, then in my humble opinion – narcissist or not – this is creating co-dependency and powerlessness within you.


The Healing Necessity (Message) That Spiritual Narcissists Deliver To Us

All narcissists, without exception, are teaching us an incredibly brutal yet powerful message about the necessity to be self-partnered and to be a Source to ourselves.

This doesn’t mean that our life is meant to be spent ‘alone’. It means that according to the absolute Quantum Law of ‘so within, so without’ that we need to become the inner template of how our life goes.

The true Source of power and wholeness comes through sourcing life directly through ‘Source,’ which is our Higher Power and Higher Consciousness. I believe this is one and the same as our True Self, when we know Who We Really Are and cease handing away our power, truth, values and authority to outside influences.

When we are riddled with human trauma and false beliefs, we don’t trust ourselves. We may find it extremely difficult to have a solid connection to our inner innate wisdom – our Higher Self (God if you like) – which communicates to us in the form of emotions and intuition.

If we are in our head, disconnected from ourselves and self-abandoning this integral inner relationship, then we are prone to clinging to and hoping to receive support and love from others in order to be whole – but it doesn’t work.

This is metaphorically the lost, alone child trying to find a parent who will do the job properly this time, which doesn’t happen, instead of healing these parts within us ourselves.

As children we couldn’t be a source to ourselves and were hugely susceptible to abuse without defences to protect ourselves, including from spiritual narcissists. Yet as adults we can heal ourselves to be whole and self-actualised once we know what it is that we need to heal.

Rest assured, you will begin to understand what it is that you need to heal when you take your focus off what others are doing and have done to you and turn inwards to the traumas that are in your own being, traumas that you can release and bring Source into the space where they once were.

It is only when we believe we are not whole and are in some way defective and damaged that we go against our Inner Being, who is warning us by ‘not feeling right’. We second guess ourselves, hand our power away and get sucked into the web of the narcissists.

We are only traumatised and hooked – horrifically addicted – to someone, despite them abusing us, when we haven’t yet turned inwards to heal the corresponding fracture within ourselves.

The powerful truth about this process is: NO ONE can do that for you. It can only occur between self and self.

This ‘Self’ goes against the entire culture of the narcissistic/co-dependent setup that our entire world is based on – people feeling empty and traumatised on the inside being promised solutions outside of themselves to try to get better; and people who are inner black holes (narcissists) preying on these people by pretending to be the solution and then infiltrating their inner beings and sucking them dry.


The Remedy To All Of This

What is required here is a conscious shift away for the programmed lunacy of being told we are carnal, defective and not in God’s graces and need to earn our way back there, which we have all suffered.

We were additionally brought up by parents who also believed they were defective, carnal, soiled and had to earn love and acceptance. Insidious inner shame and deficient self-love and belief is a chronic human condition.

Such a programmed conditioning, coupled with a world steeped in an overload of toxic trauma and dire separation from Source, Love and Oneness, has meant that the toxic environment for spiritual narcissists has been able to flourish.

What is our remedy from all of this?

This… SEEK the God Within; BE your own guru; RELEASE your trauma and fill with the True Source Light that is your Source True Self, and see how you evolve into a force of love, truth and wisdom that exceeds anything you have ever known before.

You will no longer unconsciously be drawn into toxic relationships of symbiosis, dependency and narcissistic abuse, and you will inspire others to be free, authentic and filled with Source as well.

Something I hugely discovered in my journey of dire self-abandonment and not going within, is that I always sought experts, healers and therapists outside of myself.

I didn’t realise for a very long time that these people were my supplements and that they could never truly heal me; that the ongoing dependency of the management of my wounds, instead of truly healing them, or sustaining spiritual abuse that nearly destroyed me, was all for one reason – to push me back inwards to myself.

I learned the true Holy Trinity – myself, my Inner Being and my Superconscious (God) – and that it was when all these parts became integrated, which they naturally are when we are without our inner trauma separating us for ourselves, our Inner Beings and our Superconscious Self (and therefore all of Life and others), that I became whole.

More whole that I ever believed was possible.

Okay, if this makes profound sense out of all the nonsense we have been told, and if you want to find out more about how to meet your Inner Being so that you can integrate your Holy Trinity and your True Self and True Life, I’d love to show you the way home to you.

The first step is by joining up to my 16-day free course by clicking this link.

And if you want to see more of my videos, please subscribe so that you will be notified as soon as each new one is released. And if you liked this – click like. Also, please share with your communities so that we can help people awaken to these truths.

And as always, I’d love to answer your comments and questions below.


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Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert. She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. Melanie's healing and teaching methods have liberated thousands of people from the effects of narcissistic abuse world-wide.

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39 Thoughts on The Healer in Disguise – Spiritual Narcissists Explained
    March 25, 2019

    Dear Melanie,

    I found you a good few months ago after over three years of therapy – in a weird way I feel like I was always going to do these healings, and I have had amazing experiences throughout my life that have been beyond words until I started to really trust them instead of being afraid which has only happened through this and doing yoga nidra. I think in this video you describe how I was brought up and my family situation to some extent and I have shifted so much of that so far and feel amazing in comparison to how I did and have been able to start defining myself with relation to my family which is so hopeful. anyway thank you

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 25, 2019

      Hi Victoria,

      That is so beautiful that you have connected to you and your self definition.

      That is where our wholeness and truth is.

      I’m pleased to help and many continued blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

        Vittoria Failla
        March 25, 2019

        Hi Melanie I have just watched the episode on Spiritual Narsiscists. This has really hit home for me. I discovered your book last year and so many bells rang. I am 6 years out of my nightmare
        And have been on a healing journey since.
        Your tools should help me through the last parts of my healing. Which are all around co-parenting
        and the fears I still hold in regards to my 3 boys.
        I’d like to enxtend my gratitude to you for bringing this subject to the light..many blessings to you ❤️

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 25, 2019

          Hi Vitoria,

          You are very welcome and I am so pleased you are on your way.

          Please look up my resources re parallel parenting.

          They will help a lot also.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 25, 2019

    Hi Mel
    How’s this for timing I was just going to make an appointment to see yet another therapist and glady cancelled because I am being dependant on another and that is a massive hook for losing myself even more. I have been through abuse by psychopath/narcissistic boyfriend and was triangulated with a female narcissistic friend it was horrific but I don’t give it anymore focus only when trauma arises. What is arising though is my dead mothers maniac behavior from many years ago she was mentally ill and warped in her abuse with me being the scapegoat. I can literally hear her disgraces in my mind so it’s time to heal it and it started at 11 and her abuse ended at 17 and then she mellowed knowing that I would take care of her needs being the good girl. No wonder I attracted what I did it was my childhood playing out plus more. I am looking forward to the new healings and I have your book. I can’t waste any more time so thank you for your post.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 25, 2019

      Hi Terry,

      This is great that you are going to turn within, self partner and heal.

      That’s where the power and grace is!

      It is time to go within, load this up release it and bring in Source to replace it.

      Then there is no more ongoing medicating and management of these wounds.

      You can do this!

      Blessings and breakthroughs to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 25, 2019

    I have been reading your articles for about a year now and everything you write about is true. Yes, codependents become addicted to narcissists, obsession. I have had this experience. Your articles took some time to register in my brain, as you say, the problem is not cognitive. It is emotional and spiritual. The message you teach about becoming whole so as not to be susceptible to a narcissist’s influence and become addicted, addiction being the compulsion to engage in behaviors that a person cognitively knows are harmful, probably applies to any addiction, not just addiction to narcissists. Codependents can have other addictions as well due to the original abuse that led them down the road of co-dependence in the first place. A co-dependent by definition is an addict. This is great work you are doing and teaching and helping people. It is greatly appreciated. It has helped me find peace with my past, my relations to others and my self.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 25, 2019

      Hi Micheal,

      I am so pleased my work resonates with you and grants you peace.

      Have you taken the deeper dive into the inner transformational resources which can connect you how to be your own healer and emancipator so you don’t need my information anymore?

      That’s where your True power lies –

      Here’s to your True Self.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 25, 2019

    This was my life exactly when I was married to a Spiritual Narcissist – it was the most utterly confusing, traumatizing and devastating episode of my life – I thought I was going completely insane and came very close to losing my life. I have been doing NARP for almost a year now and when I look back at the woman I was in that marriage stuck in the corner, getting smaller and smaller until she was barely visible or functioning, I barely recognize her. I have scooped that woman up, along with all parts of myself, and loved them up back to health with everything I can muster and continue to do so. I am simply not the same person and I watch in awe as my life unfolds the magical, miracles and thriving that are occurring.

    Thank you Mel, I am beyond grateful for your commitment and ferocity to your own healing that has enabled to to share all of your incredible wisdom, insight and bring your work to the world. It was SO wonderful to meet you in-person in London last month.

    All my love and gratitude xxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Awww Julie-Anne,

      I am so thrilled for your beautiful lady.

      Thank you for your lovely words, and please know I’m so pleased I took this path too.

      Loved meeting you in London hun too!

      So much love and blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

      Olivia Maher
      March 26, 2019

      This comment is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing.

      God bless X

    March 25, 2019

    Hi Melanie

    What can I say? You truly are an amazing person. I have put into practice what you teach, I am on my way back to wholeness after being abused by my parents for many years and other abusers along the way. I never knew love until I met myself. Thank you x

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Awww Pauline,

      I adore this; ‘I never knew love until I met myself.’

      Welcome home angel lady!

      So much love, and you are always welcome.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 25, 2019

    Dear Melanie

    I love your description of the holy trinity, thank you for that, perfect.

    Like you thats what I did went to every healer I could, everything outside myself.

    Thank you for saying you love it when members unsubscribe that is reassuring as so many people I have met in the healing and spiritual professions in the past wanted to keep you on, even acupuncturists and people who are meant to be healing and not just running a business!
    Seen it over and over again!

    I love NARP and what you have given me to heal with.
    Reena xxx

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi Reena,

      It is so exciting for myself and the team when we get that message..because we know we have done our job.

      If you ever do this, please send us updates re your life though!

      That’s so nice ‘the Holy Tribity’ resonates With you beautiful lady.

      Much love darling.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    Teresa Fowler
    March 25, 2019

    Being married to a narcissistic pastor for 32 years was not what I imagined it would be. It was never about love or acceptance or grace or the truth. Which would have been wonderful if I had known going into it, what those things were supposed to look like. I didn’t grow up in a “church” family and really didn’t know what a spiritual person was supposed to look like or act like. I was prime meat for the narcissistic spiritual leader. My inner trauma was his playing field and he had the “tools” (Bible, scripture, own church family and groups) to groom me into a helpless, dependent, struggling submissive “child of God”, that would be perfect for the facade that he played out for the world for so long. And he was so good at it. But I was dying little by little. Which according to HIS interpretation of the bible and scriptures was par for someone who was lacking in faith and christian values, and joy. (That being me.) And every time I felt like I was gaining ground on things like peace, and joy, and oneness with God, the spiritual leader, which was also my husband, would again remind me of my unworthiness, my imperfections, my shame, and guilt. I could not climb out from under this power that this person had over me, and I felt paralyzed and crippled. I was slowly dying. (Not anything like what the Bible said I was supposed to resemble and feel like). And I had this ongoing fear of being abandoned. Being alone. One night as I was crying out to my light source (which is still God), a friend sent me an email with Melanie’s website on it. Being so desperate and close to just ending it all, (and not knowing anything about Melanie), I emailed her for help. I had no where else to go or what else to do. (That is the other thing about being in a church setting where your husband is the pastor. Your friends are all there and he has isolated you from everyone else except for those he has also manipulated with his cunning lies and charm. You have no outside sources to call on. Or at least you feel like you don’t) Anyway… to make this short story even longer, she emailed back. (Which she never does and is too busy to do, and this was not a usual thing for her to do. And I would not even think of bothering her now that I know who she is and how busy her life is, etc.) But this total stranger in Australia emailed me back. And she offered me something I had lost, which was hope. She was the answer to my prayer and I will never forget the kindness of the Universe for sending me this precious person (with hidden angel wings). The rest is history. I started on her programs immediately. I joined the Narcissistic support group. I left my “spiritual” husband in the middle of the night, with the help of no one, and a few dollars in the bank. It was scary, and uncertain, and I had no idea what the future had in store; but I was free, and for the first time in my life, someone loved and believed in me (That being me, Teresa.) I have become unstoppable in my healing and inner growth, I have more peace and joy than I ever knew was possible, and my breathing has become synonymous with living. I have been transformed. There are good churches, and good spiritual leaders, and good people doing good things. And I think about being in a good worship service every once and a while. But I am not ready yet. And that is okay. I may never sit in a pew again. And that is okay. I have come so far, and I have worked diligently and consistently, giving unconditional love to myself so I can heal in the truest form. And be the love I am meant to be when I shine in every part of the world where my passport is stamped. (I am a teacher, teaching in international schools.) And God, light, Source lives, breathes, resonates, and radiates within me. And approves of me in every sense of the world. I will never again let anyone take that from me. You shall know the truth…and the truth shall set you free. Amen.
    I love you Melanie! But you know that! Thank you for posting this. I felt my heartstrings pulled on a little when I saw you post this. It was something I really needed to read right now. Your words are always so timely and appropriate. And encouraging. 💕🌹😘😍🌹💖

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Teresa sweetheart,

      I love you so much too. Thank you for sharing your amazing story with the community, because I know it can be so inspirational for those deeply stuck in spiritual narcissistic abuse.

      I am so proud if you my dear friend for who you have become and continue to be.

      So much love to you Teresa.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 25, 2019

    I have been doing this for 4 months now and not only does it affect what is going on in my life my life is opening up to the point i am left with nothing its like this energy that i am lifting almost daily seems to effect my life without me doing anything trash is being lifted out of my life energetically i am left with the hole and the loneliness and i believe in that i will find my joy and creation.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi Amanda,

      Are you referring to NARP? I just want to check in with you that you are bringing in Source in the process to replace where the trauma is?

      By doing so grants you the movememt through to the breakthrough..where you feel the ‘fullness’ of the shift.

      If you are working with NARP, we can help you experience this, with our help, in the NARP Forum –

      I hope this can help.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

        March 26, 2019

        Hi Mel
        Yes I am referring to narp. I am bringing in source daily and meeting myself and bringing in the healing daily. I am on fb group.

    March 26, 2019

    Hi Melanie,
    I’m not sure do I quite understand you now…

    “Something I hugely discovered in my journey of dire self-abandonment and not going within, is that I always sought experts, healers and therapists outside of myself.
    I didn’t realise for a very long time that these people were my supplements and that they could never truly heal me.”

    Sometimes we need someone/something outside of ourselves…right? Aren’t you a healer and an expert as well? And I can say you pretty much saved my life! I was suicidal depressed mess, and thanks to your assistance, I’m nowadays the good old me again. As a matter of fact, better than before the n abuse!! No, I didn’t become better because of abuse, but because of deep healing work! So I’d say asking, searching and accepting help “outside of me” is good. I also had some sessions with a energetic healer, that made the world of a difference. I just didn’t had the strenght or courage to access all that painful stuff by myself.
    Horses are amazing too. I think they are naturally “healing” animals and “force” me to be in the present moment. I just don’t want to sit at home alone and “self-partner”, I want to connect with life, animals and people too 🙂
    Yes, this theme with a spiritual narcissist is interesting. The ex n was very religious and went to church every sunday, something I think was awesome. And then it upset me, that this same person could say to me things like, “f*** you”. Not very nice behaviour 🙁

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi Anna,

      I totally get your confusion and there is such a fine line with this.

      That being we need a therapist to lead us inwards to know how to be our own healer and guru – which NARP does!

      My information alone can mean relief but people may need me indefinitely which I truly don’t want!

      The blogs and videos are supplements, the deep inner healing of NARP leads people to not need me, because they are deeply self parenting and healing themselves.

      Yes people can help and boost and even help release our trauma, yet ultimately we need to step up and start doing this for ourselves – to be truly free, self actualised and self-generative.

      Does this make sense now?

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

        March 27, 2019

        Yes. But I just wanted to say that asking for help is not a sign of weakness etc. When the situation escalated with the n…I needed immediate emergency help, it was that bad. Without the help of other people I wouldn’t be where I am today, I probably would just had stayed in that state forever, only “managing symptoms” and somehow survive. So I’m very grateful to all of these people, some of them professionals, some of them friends.

        But I agree with you…to somehow become “addicted” to all kinds of healers…I know people who are and at one point in my life, I was too. Relying on all kinds of gurus, workshops, strange healers, astrology, tarot, endless amount of self-help books. Many of them to be honest have only financial interest, their marketing itself can be very manipulative, I always had the false sense of “making progress”…But now I see, that all was just one method for me to self- avoid!! It was like some mental anesthesia :/ I’m proud of myself, that nowadays I can avoid most of that stuff, or I don’t even feel “attracted” to that anymore.

        • Melanie Tonia Evans
          March 27, 2019

          Hi Anna,

          You couldn’t have put this better.

          Absolutely support, assistance and kindness has its beautiful place! And thank goodness we can access these things in need.

          That’s great that you have become so much more self generative.

          It grants us so much more confidence and power and immunity against narcissists.

          Much love to you.

          Mel 🙏💕❤️

            March 27, 2019

            Aww, thank you 🙂

    Ana Maria
    March 26, 2019

    Hi Melanie!

    I just got into NARP silver version a few days ago, after a friend recommended your program. Thank you for bringing this subject, I have been abused by my narcissistic father, the boyfriend I lived with for a few years, and finally the spiritual guide I contacted after I left my ex and thought I was starting my life again. But all of this led to an incredible spiritual awakening, when I felt this guru was not helping me at all, but making me completely lose myself, and brought me back to the journey to my connection to myself. Is hard with spiritual abuse, as we are always more vulnerable to spiritual persons than to normal people. I really hope I will get well and rewrite the story of my life free from abuse! Thank you for existing, and for providing your amazing tools to reconnect to our higher being! You are a true blessing to me, and an inspiration ❤🙏 keep up the incredible work!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi Ana Marie,

      Welcome to our beautiful community and I am so pleased that you have chosen the inner journey of NARP to heal!

      Sending love, strength and blessings to you and please know how welcome you are.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 26, 2019

    Hi Melanie, I have just read your article and I can only say… THANK YOU!

    Deep down I always knew (even as a child) that something was wrong with the world, I felt it in my “family”, at school and then at work (it was the rising of global narcissism!) Many times I’ve connected to my higher self as teenager and as a child without knowing what to call that wonderful feeling of being at peace within myself. I was spiritually abused during confession at church many times and even though I noticed the inner cues I kept going to church because of the fear of being spiritually annihilated after this lifetime. They used that fear to kept me going, I cannot believe this! I cannot not believe that such evil can exist! When I was a teenager I used to think everybody else had a kind heart like me, and it is devastating to find out the truth so abruptly. Thank you for confirming the inner truth I always knew to be ME!

    I’m currently going through the process of emotionally detaching completely from the narcissist that damaged me the most (my own family of origin).
    And as you said so many times the most difficult obstacle to overcome is letting go of “the good times and good thing they did for me”. The good news is that I CAN sometimes connect with my higher self state of being and it’s WONDERFUL! I only wish I could do that the whole of the time.

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi Marias,

      You are so welcome!

      It certainly is a rude awakening when we realise that there are forces and people in the world who are not as wholesome as we would like them to be!

      That’s great that you are detaching and healing you.

      Please know the more trauma we release, the more organically we connect to Source. This is our natural state without effort without our trauma.

      That part of it is key!

      I hope this helps.

      Mel 💪💕❤️

    March 26, 2019

    I think the worse part of being awake is that this fight doesn’t end there: like you said “the current reality of narcissism and co-dependency is EVERYWHERE, and sometimes I get so tired of fighting against it, because a narcissism can be everywhere just when I thought I got rid of them and it was all over. But now I know if I heal myself inside I won’t have to struggle to defend my values and dignity in front of them 🙂

    March 26, 2019

    Thank you, Melanie, for teaching me how to heal myself and for freely sharing this wisdom with the world. The discernment about spiritual narcissists is so crucial. I spent many years trying various techniques and spiritual disciplines in search of a path that would heal for real, until you gave me a road map and directions to heal myself!

    Words cannot express the gratitude I feel for the impact that NARP has had on my life, only six months in. Bit by bit, releasing one trauma after another, I am finally and truly learning to love and care for myself.

    Bless you eternally!!!

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 26, 2019

      Hi rad75,

      It’s my pleasure!

      Awww so love that NARP is delivering you home to yourself.

      So many continued blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    Zobeeda Madsen
    March 27, 2019

    Dear Melanie

    Thank you for this very much needed video, this topic is not discussed enough and I truly am glad that you are helping to bring awareness of narcissistic abuse by Spiritual teachers. Strange this was I did not think it was possible for Spiritual teachers to be narcisstic abusers, my ex Spiritual teacher was very clever in the way she went about it, she said what she was doing was to dissolve the ego and it as always God speaking through her and she claimed that she was Enlightened and that she could transmit Shakitpat to her students to dissolve Karma (she was western not eastern) and she charged her students alot of money per month for this, but kept telling us how precious and how little this was to pay for this. I had experienced alot of abuse in my life but managed to not let it in, but as Melanie said, I gave my power away to this teacher she knew how to play on my deep love of God, to experience liberation and oneness and my deep desire to be of service. This teacher literally went inside me and completely trashed me, any belief I had in myself was destroyed I had complete breakdowns, I will not go in to detail but simply share that what Melanie has shared in this video is so true and so important and if you are in a situation like this with a teacher who is making you dependent on them and making you feel you need them, LEAVE, Melanie is right a true teacher wants you to find the teacher within you they do not want you to need them and be dependent on them. Melanie I love your NARP program and NARP community, because you get the program and you can play the module audios and there are alot of books and literature included so people can help themselves get help and healing without having to go to expensive therapists. I love to read the testimonials about women who have done the NARP program and how their lives have transformed and these women are in their 50´s & 60´s it is never too late. Thanks for all the love and Support Melanie and Iva in Support is so great, so loving and supportive, just wanted you to know how grateful and appreciative I am, I am finding myself, my voice and that is such a new experience and I am so looking forward to living MY LIFE and creating a beautiful life for me and my son who is Autistic. Thanks love to everyone

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 28, 2019

      Hi Zobedda,

      I am so happy for you that you did get out and have been able to heal.

      Thank you for your beautiful comments. It makes me so happy that NARP, myself, my team and this wonderful community have been able to help you heal and come home to yourself.

      Continued love and blessings to you.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    Michelle Rosenblum
    March 29, 2019


    I cannot thank you enough. Your work is such a blessing. I have done Module 1 six times and have worked 2 thru 7, and am about to start module 8. I never realized before how inauthentically I was living, because I was always doing for others, but completely neglecting my true needs and living in fear of disappointing others and even had hidden anger at myself for allowing myself to be abused. My life is doing a 180 degree turn. I have never imagined that I could be so self actualized and happy. Thank you so much. Many Blessings, Love and Light! Michelle Rosenblum Michigan, USA

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 30, 2019

      Hi Michelle,

      This is so great that NARP is helping you to breakthrough so powerfully.

      Lots of kudos and love to you and please know how welcome you are.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

    March 31, 2019

    Hello Melanie,
    Thanks to your program, I was able to understand the magnitude of what I was dealing with and why everrything I attempted only made the abuse much worse and am now healing from the direct abuse.
    I am recovering from cancer treatments and not very well, still on high survelance and anti-cancer medicaitons, but working on gaining strength and soon able to start: the divorce (after closing on the joint house with him), no contact protection order, then the last remnent to untangeling the finances. But I now have a stalker taking pictures of my condo, car, following me when I shop, parked right next to my car when I returned to leave after walking the mall and window shopping then following me when I left, this adds stress and increases my symptoms making me very ill and once again imprisoned as I do not feel safe to go to a store or post office and show any pattern to the stalker or soon to be ex-husband as I really believe he hired a private investigator to stalk me and obtain my physical address. I already have a police report and went to the abuse shelter. I need to be able to focus on healing from the cancer treatment. The chemo brain makes focusing a challenge but I have started your courses.
    Do you have a particular module I can open?
    Any advise how best to deal with this so I can focus on cancer prevention and recovery instead of this continued abuse and start enjoying life?

    • Melanie Tonia Evans
      March 31, 2019

      Hi Zanza,

      I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this.

      Please come into the NARP Forum so that myself and the NARP Thriver community can help deeply support you

      If you have any difficulty getting into the Forum please email

      This is where we can help you the most with specific NARP work, boundaries and taking your power and healing back.

      Mel 🙏💕❤️

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