Do you relate to this?

When I first met the narcissist, I thought I had finally come home to my dream life.

Yet, as time passed it became more and more evident that the dream life with him was never going to be real, let alone last.

In order to hold onto the belief that my life would turn out exactly as I hoped, I had to make excuses, rationalise his behaviour and pretty much downright lie to myself.

Until, I finally decided enough was enough … and by the time I did, I was looking at my life smashed to pieces in a pile of rubble all around me.

Losing the dream life that we thought was our reality with a narcissist is torturous.

Continue reading “How To Rebuild The Dream The Narcissist Tore Down”

 

It is so interesting that, until we start turning inwards to self-partner and purposefully evolve ourselves, we may think that focusing on and trying to stop, change or combat the narcissist is what disarms them.

This is a totally false premise – it’s Wrong Town!

We have no power to change anyone let alone disarm them –and in fact when we try to beat the narcissist at their own game, we usually find ourselves up to our neck in toxic drama, battles and abuse … at levels that we could barely fathom, let alone believe we would start experiencing as our own personal nightmare.

Trying to “get even” is not what is going to hurt a narcissist, it actually feeds them, it brings you right into the arena that they love to occupy the most. It hands them narcissistic supply (attention) on a silver plate. It allows them the significance that you have been affected significantly by them.

Continue reading “Disarming The Narcissist – The 5 Essential Steps To Reclaiming Your Freedom”

 

When we are broken, devastated and crawling through our life second to second and looking at the rubble of what used to be our life smashed to pieces on the ground, it may seem hopeless and helpless.

It is really common for us Thrivers to experience people in the NARP Community starting their inner healing journey who admit they feel like it’s too late, they are too old, they have lost too much or they are too broken to heal.

I promise you once upon a time I felt like I was never going to heal … and I can’t tell you how many people have told me the same things over the years – and many of these people I know now as incredible glowing Thrivers.

During this video we take a deep dive into why is it that some people heal and Thrive, whereas others don’t.

Continue reading “What To Do When You Lose All Hope To Recover”

 

Naturally, when we realise that we have been narcissistically abused, it’s normal to identify ourselves with it so closely that we are living and breathing “narcissism”.

It’s like living smack bang in the center of a horror show.

And … we can be forgiven for thinking that this deep identification with a narcissist is what we should be doing in order to grasp what has happened to us.

However, this is exactly what this episode is about … how the very things we think can help sometimes are making matters worse … and how until we “go Quantum” we don’t realise it!

True Healing can never happen when we make our life all about “them” – spending extended time focusing on the narcissist, who they are, what they did and why they did it.

Continue reading “How To Separate Your Identity From A Narcissist”

 

Two weeks ago I had the most amazing Shifts Happen Session with Kathy, a beautiful lady from the NARP Community.

It was an incredibly inspirational, deep and powerful healing that was a real stand out for me to be a part of.  I was thrilled to be able to help Kathy in this way …

Because … as you will discover …. there are traumas from Kathy’s past that exceed anything most of us could even imagine happening to another person let alone ourselves. (You will understand as you watch this).

A day later when viewing the recording, I realised there were some major technological issues with it … ones that made the session unable to be aired.

Continue reading “Shifts Happen – I Am Unwanted And Unsafe”