I know that psychic vampires can be terrifying. They are REALLY hard to PICK. And … if they get their hooks in … devastatingly DANGEROUS.
Are you sick of having this happen to you? Do you know how to get clean, clear and DEFEAT them?
Sadly, most people don’t know how to … and what they have been told, just doesn’t work!
This is why I created this TTV episode. To explain the TRUTH about HOW they get in, and what to do, so it NEVER happens to you again.
Are you sick of having people in your life suck the life-force out of you?
Is this something that has been a struggle for you? It certainly was for me.
Do you want to keep struggling with this and the fear of energy vampires? Or do you want to find a way out of this nightmare?
I promise you there is a way to take your lifeforce back.
Because I’m going to tell you what is REALLY going on when an energy vampire hooks in, and how you can shape up, get away, stay away and be impervious to them.
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Now let’s get into it!
Stop Looking Out For Them
You may think I’m mad saying this…
But I promise you I’m not – even though once upon a time I would have thought so too.
Defence is Wrongtown with energy vampires. It actually makes you more susceptible to them and easier for them to infiltrate you and start feeding from your energy.
Offence is the BEST way to beat them.
I know you may have been learning everything you can about energy vampires to try to defeat them – but I’m going to tell you, in the nicest possible way I can – STOP. DOING. THAT.
Because when you do that, you leave your territory to go searching ‘out there’ for someone who could be your threat. Meanwhile, you have left yourself totally alone ‘in there’.
And it is ‘in there’ where you are susceptible to infiltration, damage and theft. There are not only ‘gaps’ – you are now completely unattended and exposed.
Imagine your house with broken doors and windows, and you start roaming the streets looking for people who may try to rob your home. Wouldn’t it be much better to fix your doors and windows?
Wouldn’t it be much better to be ‘in there’, doing the inner work to shore up your gaps and develop yourself to be impervious to energy vampires in the first place?
You bet it would!
To neglect your own self-discovery, inner work and development – whilst you learn everything about psychic vampires to protect yourself – is a total waste of time.
Psychic vampires don’t put their hands up and announce their arrival – ‘Hello, I’m a psychic vampire about to desecrate your life!’
Rather, they scrutinise you to find out what gaps you have ‘in there’. They then infiltrate and act out what you want to see and hear, all the while taking full advantage of what they find.
And they do it with such masterful precision that you DON’T see the warning signs until it’s too late.
I know this may disturb you – but it shouldn’t. Not at ALL!
It should EMPOWER you.
So, now, let me explain how psychic narcissists DO infiltrate – and then how they simply can’t.
How a Psychic Vampire Gets Their Hooks In
I want to use this example…
Cindy meets Joel.
Joel is a psychic vampire on the hunt for a new target – someone who he can enmesh with; get narcissistic supply from; self-medicate with and suck dry.
Cindy doesn’t trust people, and because of this is on the lookout for narcissists.
Joel shows up being how he is with most people when he first meets them – charming.
He is skilled and knows exactly how to test out new sources – to see if they can be hooked.
Joel works out pretty quickly that Cindy is distrustful of men. He asks some empathetic questions about her life and feigns total consideration and care.
Because Cindy has felt so hurt in the past, and has never healed this hurt within herself, she wants someone in her life who is genuine, caring and real. With love so drastically MISSING in her life, Cindy is CRAVING it. Him ‘being gentle, caring and kind’ is as appealing to her as an oasis is to a parched woman in the desert.
So Cindy gravitates to Joel, opens up and tells him what has happened with men in the past.
Joel has all the information he needs. He expresses a story where ‘he went through the same’ and explains how he just can’t believe people would behave like that and how he would never do it himself.
The crazy thing is – Cindy thought she had learned everything she could about energy vampires. She believed she could pick a narcissist at 100 paces.
BUT the narcissist, Joel, picked her. Picked her off, actually. And so easily it was CRAZY!
HOW could he?
This is how…
She had not gone ‘in there’ to do the work to be shored up and impervious.
Cindy was still carrying the following beliefs:
‘People who love me hurt me.’
‘I can’t trust the people I love.’
‘I’m not able to be safe with love partners.’
Now please understand, LOGIC has nothing to do with these inner unhealed traumas.
Get this … Before her date with Joel, Cindy was on the phone to her girlfriend, Katie, telling her how she knew she would never fall for a narcissist again; that she had watched every YouTube video on it, read every article and all the experts had told her what to look out for.
BUT … and it’s a huge BUT…
Her painful inner belief systems, that hadn’t yet been healed up, meant that she could ONLY connect with the LITERAL match to them.
It was inevitable. It’s Quantum Law – so within, so without.
I did it, you did it, we all did it. And many of us are massively intelligent, learned and researched.
So, it all gets back to ‘in there’.
There Are No Warning Signs!
Where were the red flags?
There WEREN’T any!
Of COURSE, Cindy doesn’t see the narcissistic warning signs such as:
- An over inflated ego.
- Making it all about himself.
- Being triggered about ridiculous things that most people don’t get upset about.
- Being controlling, exploitative, unreasonable, refusing to take responsibility for his behaviour, and so on and so forth.
Within two days Cindy, completely believing she had met her dream man, is in Joel’s bed.
Within two more weeks he has moved in. Just the way a narcissist likes it – quickly securing supply, as the payoff for their efforts.
And he had expertly manoeuvred all this so that it wasn’t even his idea. He crafted this by feigning being happy to wait for sex for as long as it took; he would give her time to trust him … blah, blah, blah.
Convinced he was decent, respectful and trustworthy, without EVER getting to know him or waiting to see WHO he REALLY was, Cindy flung open her door, bed, body and heart to him herself!
A year later she was too sick to hold down her job and was fighting to save her home.
Why didn’t Cindy leave, before it got this bad, when his mask dropped and she had started to see BIG ‘warning signs’ – irrational selfishness, refusing to take responsibility and his horrible knee jerk reactions?
Because she had gaps that he had well and truly hooked into and exploited, which meant she kept clinging on trying to make him go back to ‘Beautiful Joel’.
After all he had become the saviour of her soul, which she was not to herself yet.
This is the most powerful ENERGY TIE we will ever have with an energy vampire. Not being whole and healed yet is the EXACT reason they can get in, remain in our life, dig in and suck.
Now let me show you what being impervious to a psychic vampire looks like.
How to Defeat a Psychic Vampire
Here is another example…
Joel, having discarded Cindy in the gutter and run off with all that she previously had, re-emerges and is on the sniff again.
He meets a woman at a café. Let’s just call her Jean.
Jean used to be a true food source to narcissists. Co-dependent, clingy, unhealed and carrying a ton of beliefs that made her a match for abusers. Beliefs like ‘I can’t survive without a man’, ‘Other people are much more powerful and know more than me’ and ‘If I don’t comply I’m going to get smashed’, as well as a bunch of others and with big, bad abandonment terrors thrown in.
In the past, as a result of nearly dying, she got to work on herself. BIG time. In fact, she worked diligently on herself every day for months, because there was NO way she was going to go through it again.
Okay, so here she is out at a café, innocently working on her laptop, when a charming, good looking man sits down next to her.
‘Hi’, he says.
She replies with, ‘How are you going?’
Joel flashes a killer smile and asks Jean what she is writing.
She tells him that she is writing stuff to help people recover from abusive relationships.
Joel asks her if this is about personal development.
Jean smiles back and says, ‘Yes’.
With some more chit chat, Joel asks Jean if she had herself been abused and this is why she does this work.
Jean says, ‘Yes’.
He says, ‘You poor thing that must have been horrible.’
Jean says, ‘It was amazing. I’m so happy it happened FOR me. My life is so much better because of it.’
Joel looks at her like she has two heads.
He starts doing a double-take, trying to work out where her ‘gap’ is, so that he can appear to be ‘the saviour’ of an unhealed wound (insecurity) she may have.
It’s obvious he is rattled.
Jean, is now observing him thinking, ‘How hilarious, this guy is a narc.’
He can’t find her ‘gap’, so he starts telling her how he loves personal development.
Jean is having fun with him now, asking him questions about the teachers and books he professes to know, because it is plain to see he is full of BS.
Both Joel and Jean know he is sounding like an idiot.
He looks at his watch and tells Jean he is running late and leaves.
Jean is nearly crying with laughter on the inside.
The entire time during their exchange, she couldn’t have cared less if he was decent, a narcissist or an alien. She had simply been herself.
Okay, so maybe this is MY story … I promise you I have had that happen!
The Moral to This Story.
Please don’t think I am better than anyone else here, because I purportedly know how to pick an energy vampire.
I am not.
The only reason I’m not concerned, EVER, about people being narcissists or not, is because I know that NO energy vampire (False Self) can infiltrate, if I’m being my True Self.
What is a True Self?
Someone who is fully committed to releasing themselves from inner trauma to be Who They Really Are.
When you do this, you WILL be whole and full on the inside.
You won’t NEED anyone to ‘give you yourself’.
There will be ZERO compulsion to take emotional risks.
You will realise that when you are healed up on the inside and are no longer driven by your inner emotional wounds, akin to being a broken inner child seeking a parent to fix you, you make really healthy choices.
Including speaking up when something feels off, asking difficult questions and setting boundaries, if necessary.
You will firmly know that you are totally prepared to lose people in your life, rather than lose yourself again.
You may not pick a narcissist immediately, like I did in this example. But who cares! I don’t care whether a narcissist shows their true colours immediately or down the track.
And neither will you after doing the real inner work. Because if you are fully YOU, regardless of what other people are or aren’t doing, then how could you not be TRUE to you?
You will take your time to get to know people. You will ascertain people, before they get into your bed, heart and life. You will get to know their values, character and background before committing. You won’t do business deals with people, without making sure contracts are drawn up and signed.
Remember Joel with Cindy and how fast he moved on her and got in?
Narcissists need to do that – they don’t waste time with people they can’t hook. They need a food supply quickly. Think of a predator in the wild. They don’t tackle a robust bison; they take on a limping gazelle at the edge of a pack.
Clean up your limp.
Become a bison who is solid, emotionally self-sufficient, totally unafraid of anyone, and robust enough to show up truthfully.
If you have done the inner work, you will be in your body, totally connected to your inner cues and gut messages. These are prompts from your Higher Self and the Divine, who are partnering with you, always to grant you the truth.
But if you are researching around ‘out there’, doing everything that you can to learn about narcissists, and you haven’t even started to self-partner and come home to yourself, are you going to listen to ‘in there’?
Or, are you going to keep making excuses for other people, be ruled by your unhealed wounds, emotional emptiness and recklessness, and hand your power away?
Please know I’m not saying HOW it IS to shame you. Rather, I’m telling you this, as I needed to do with myself, to wake you up to the truth and to EMPOWER you.
Who do you want to be – a robust bison or an injured gazelle?
And are you willing to do whatever it takes to play your BEST Offence Game?
If so, put down your fruitless narcissistic research and instead fully dedicate yourself to healing yourself.
Robust bison or limping gazelle? Be honest, who are you right now and who do you want to become? Let me know in your comments below.
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