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Why Narcissists Target Lightworkers – With Theresa Cheung

Posted on October 10, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Since we began the pre-launch party last week, the outpour of support for my upcoming book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse has been nothing short of incredible.

In amongst this, so many of you have posted your heartfelt messages sharing how the Thriver Movement has changed your life.

Words can’t describe how much this warms my heart.

My “thank you’s” do not seem enough!

Please know, this book and the Thriver Mission couldn’t be possible without you, and because of this, I would love you to continue joining in and sharing the material we have coming your way.

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Do Narcissists Treat Their New Supply Differently?

Posted on October 3, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

It is so common for us to think ‘Maybe I am the problem.’

When the narcissist dances off into the sunset with a new partner, we often see the evidence of their social media pictures of romantic dinners, exotic holidays and sharing time with family and friends.

Naturally, we are agonised about losing these things with this person. Things that another person is now receiving in our place.

And we think ‘Maybe she/he will be different with this person. Maybe it was ME that they couldn’t be happy and normal with!’

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Can You Ever Be Safe From Narcissists?

Posted on September 29, 2018September 29, 2018 by Melanie Tonia Evans

When my life had been turned upside down and inside out, by a pathological person hurting me more than I thought humanly possible, I remember thinking …

How could my judgement have been so wrong?

How could I have let this person into myself and my inner world, thinking that he was the most trustworthy person I had ever known … only to be hit with total carnage instead?

I know, like my previous self, you may feel totally shell-shocked at the possibility of more wolves in sheep’s clothing entering your life.

It’s not just concerning; it’s downright terrifying because when they do EVERYTHING is at stake …

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Healing Isolation, Fear and Loneliness After Narcissistic Abuse

Posted on September 26, 2018May 29, 2023 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Recovery from narcissistic abuse is such a big thing, and it is one of the hardest things we will ever do because of crippling feelings that are triggered.

It signifies the death of dreams that we thought we were going to be living with this person, the shock of what this person is capable of, the fallout due to the smearing, the losses of finances, resources and our health (all the usual symptoms of narcissistic abuse), and the dreaded pain of the reality of life now, as we look at the rubble of our previous life on the floor all around us.

Among these, I believe there are three overwhelmingly painful and traumatising feelings, regardless of the practicalities and the real-life battle we are facing and suffering.

These are Isolation, Fear and Loneliness.

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The 3 Phases Of Deservedness

Posted on September 20, 2018June 12, 2023 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Deservedness applies to all of us, whether we are still in the heavy trauma of narcissistic abuse or have recovered enough to ask, ‘What’s next?’.

There are 3 things I believe we all want.

To be our True Self.

To have a True Life

To experience True Love.

Are these things just far-fetched concepts that are unrealistic?

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Leading The Way For Your Children

Posted on September 14, 2018June 3, 2023 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Being a parent is one of the world’s hardest (if not the hardest) jobs.

Where is that handbook!?

Certainly, many of us have struggled with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated.

How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves?

Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working?

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4 Shocking Ways Narcissists Bleed You Financially

Posted on September 10, 2018May 31, 2022 by Melanie Tonia Evans

Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included.

And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit.

It’s devastating and it’s beyond cruel.

How can we stop this happening to us now?

And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again?

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How To Expose A Narcissist Without Looking Like The Crazy One

Posted on September 5, 2018April 23, 2020 by Melanie Tonia Evans

How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems.

This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist’ the right way.

Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist’ that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one.

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