Being infiltrated by a narcissist is literally like being poisoned.
Not only do you feel like your Life Force is sucked out of you, you also feel like you have dark sticky black ink permeating every part of your being. There is also a sensation akin to white hot shards of glass coursing through your veins and brain fog, panic and depression whilst struggling to believe that you can reclaim your Soul and life.
Getting a narcissist out of your life is more complex than just saying “goodbye!” Physical departure is not enough. Neither is physical space. Sometimes you can’t get that space, because of shared custody, or the narcissist living in your vicinity.
What is vital to get a narcissist out of your mind, body and Soul is to detox from them.
Thoroughly from the inside out.
Before we dive deeper into this, I want to let you know about my upcoming 10-week program starting in May called “Thrive”. It’s for anyone who isn’t yet thriving after abuse.
Each week we’ll be doing enlightening and transformational workshops, powerful global Quanta Freedom Healings, live Q&As and lots more … to help you finally heal your trauma and any stubborn blocks stopping you from spreading your wings and Thriving. You can find out all the details and register for your spot here: melanietoniaevans.com/thrive
Okay … so in this very important article I present to you seven powerful ways that you can detox from the narcissist, so that you literally purge them out of your heart, Soul, mind and life.
Number 1 – Let Go
Easier said than done you may say! And I concur, it is.
I want you to know this from the bottom of my heart, “letting go” is the first powerful step to detox a narcissist from your mind, body and Soul.
What does “letting go” really mean? It means recognising that this person is destroying you and can’t stay in your life so you need to detach.
Letting go is a powerful act of loving yourself.
It’s difficult because everything within you is screaming at you not to do this. You want justice. You want recognition. You want this person to get it. You want to hold this person accountable. You want them to pay for the damage that they have done to you.
I understand all of this, and this is completely justifiable. Yet, hanging on brings more toxicity and poison into every aspect of your life. It enmeshes you with the narcissist, while he or she extracts narcissistic supply from you, continues to punish you, keeps you on the hook, and extracts more and more of your Life Force as time goes on.
It equals how to lose. It means co-participating in your own inevitable demise.
This is why every time a narcissist tries to reel you back in with a comment, an insult, an accusation, a “poor me” victim statement, a tactic to trigger you, and smear you and hurt you, you have to say –“No more!”
But know that your “No more” isn’t “spoken”. In fact, sometimes mere words are counterproductive. Especially with narcissists – it just feeds them additional energy and attention.
Actions mean so much more than words. Your “No more” needs to be “I will no longer participate with you”. Any words, any messages, any acknowledgement or response to the narcissist is narcissistic supply. It feeds the beast the emotional attention and energy that allows them to continue hurting you.
So how do you demonstrate “I will no longer participate with you?”
By doing just that … no longer participating – and then continuing on with the steps below.
Number 2 – Turn Inwards To Support Yourself
Please understand the narcissist is a False Source. You were or are trying to get kindness, decency, understanding, validation, amends, support and humanity from this person. You came up empty because every time you try to get that from this person, they only assault your Soul harder.
This is pushing you to the ultimate act of letting go, self-partnering, turning inwards and returning the power and truth to your own Soul, by you granting your devastated Inner Being all of these commodities – kindness, decency, validation, amends, support and humanity.
At first this feels horrific. Because of having suffered the trauma of narcissistic abuse, you feel anxious, disjointed and disassociated from yourself, to the point where to be alone with your own trauma may feel completely and utterly unbearable.
I want you to know this more than anything, your Inner Being, which is the true essence of yourself is now feeling broken and terrorised. The evidence of this is the highly activated trauma that is erupting within you.
This is your Inner Being screaming out FOR you. Yes, for YOU, no one else but you. Your Inner Being, which includes the emotional combination of unhealed childhood wounds, and repeat adult wounds, wants you to turn inwards with love. With the unconditional love and support that you want so desperately from outside of yourself right now.
This is where the metal hits the road … I want you to know this with all my heart – when you turn inwards with integrity, dedication and this mantra, “Sweetheart I am here for you. I am so sorry that I have tried to get False Sources to love and heal you. I love you, I will hold you and help heal you and I promise you that I am never leaving again”, this is when your Inner Being, as traumatised as he or she is, will start to settle down knowing that FINALLY you have shown up.
This is your coming home to yourself, heralding the beginning of your true and whole life.
Number 3 – Resist The Narcissist’s Mischief
There are some distinct challenges along the way when detoxing yourself from a narcissist.
Number three, is vital. Leaving a narcissist is unlike the usual heartbreak of the end of a regular relationship. There are many toxic binds that have been attached to your Inner Being, for the narcissist to extract narcissistic supply from you.
You need to understand the truth about narcissistic supply – it doesn’t need to be physical. It doesn’t need to be about this person seeing you in person and getting a feed from you, or even receiving your messages or emails.
Narcissistic supply, above all, is psychic and parasitical. If you have fear and pain inside you, that the narcissist has been able to activate, then he or she is getting a feed from your emotional energy.
This is what narcissists live on – the fear, dread and powerlessness of others. It is literally their food source, as it is for every dark being who is disconnected from True Source.
The narcissist’s mischief is initiating the things that trigger you and pulls you into being narcissistic supply again. Meaning you wanting to reconnect or obsessing about the narcissist or being stuck in the brain frog of wondering, pining, or going back over the good times, or spending hours trying to decipher a narcissist’s cryptic message.
Narcissists know your Inner Being intimately. They know what actions work on you, such as accusations, apologies, memorabilia, sentiments, appealing to your compassionate side, replacing you, or even stonewalling you or ignoring you for extended amounts of time. They know the actions that are going to keep you emotionally and psychically hooked to them.
People ask me, “What is the narcissist going to do next?” My answer is, “Exactly what’s going to emotionally negatively trigger you, or keep you in a state of obsession.”
Knowing this will help. Because you get that the narcissist’s game plan is to keep you hooked and unable to detox from them.
This also helps you to detox!
Whatever is triggered is the very thing that you can turn inwards to detox within yourself, rather than falling for the mischief.
This is a HUGE key to your freedom and recovery!
Number 4 – Make This All About You
Detoxing from a narcissist is not possible when you are looking outwards to try to work out, get ahead of, or navigate what the narcissist is or isn’t doing.
Yes, initially, learning about narcissism is helpful to understand the phenomena. However, if you stay stuck in researching narcissists endlessly trying to detox yourself, you will not heal.
There is only one way to effectively detox from a narcissist; by turning inwards to make this vital emotional detox all about meeting your Inner Being and healing yourself.
How to start effectively doing that is to connect with the triggers that have gone off within you emotionally that the narcissist has activated. This is what has kept you trauma bonded and is how the narcissist has been able to psychically attach to you to suck out your Life Force.
It’s impossible to stop the narcissist doing this, but it is incredibly possible for you to detox these parts of you, so that you are no longer unconsciously holding onto the other end of the stick that is keeping you connected.
Then it will end.
Taking back your power means letting go of the narratives of “what happened to me”, to turn inwards with self-love, devotion and the desire to deeply heal and up-level your Inner Being beyond ever going through this again, by saying, “What part of myself requires my healing and support to never again be vulnerable or infiltrated by people like this?”
What you will discover, by doing that dedicated inner Thriver Recovery work, is the narcissist fades into the background, your trauma symptoms start to melt away, and you will get excited about your graduations, up-levelling and increase in health, power, strength, optimism and capacity to rebuild in empowered and positive ways.
They say that the very best revenge is success.
This is inevitable if you make this experience all about healing you, and less and less about them.
Number 5 – Stop Handing Power Away
As you go forward into the healing of your Inner Being become aware of where you have been handing power away.
If you are trying to work out custody and property deals with the narcissist, stop dancing around his or her wounds, trying to keep the narcissist happy and make a deal.
If you give a narcissist an inch, they will take a mile.
Keep healing and empowering yourself, be very clear and go on the offensive. Make sure you don’t hand over any emotional energy, keep healing any inner parts that are getting triggered so that you stay calm, clear and powerful, and stand clear in the finalisation of things. If you need to go to court then I highly suggest this resource to help you: How To Beat The Narcissist In A Divorce – Interview With An Expert
You will discover just how powerless the narcissist is when they can no longer trigger you and you are no longer handing your power away.
Be calm, clear, powerful and in integrity – heal until you are “anti-fear”. That puts you into your most powerful position.
You will also love your newfound and activated boundaries in all of your life. No longer will you just “go along to get along” (you now know how badly that turns out!).
This is the time of forging out your truth and values and living aligned with them and seeing how your life will dramatically shift to support you in healthy ways.
Number 6 – Detox Your Life
Narcissists are toxic. And, we are most susceptible to them when we are toxic.
Absolutely, we have unhealed, unresolved inner wounds after narcissistic abuse that require healing and detoxification. There are also other aspects of our life that we may not have realised were unhealthy.
Things like addictions to smoking, alcohol, junk food, overworking, binging on social media, shopping, gambling or drugs. Maybe we have been self-avoiding and self-abandoning the love, respect and care for ourselves by indulging in toxic behaviours that may grant us some relief at the moment but ultimately end up creating more damage for ourselves down the track.
Maybe we are used to complaining, judging others and being incredibly righteous with the ways that we call out the horrors of the world. Of course, this is understandable, but if we are continually indulging in the inner chemicals of toxicity, then we are susceptible to toxic people.
I love our Thriver Community because there is such an understanding of cleaning up our inner and outer lives, to be as whole, healthy and confident as we can. It doesn’t mean that we are not going to have fun at times or be human (everything in balance) yet this means striving towards health, freedom, empowerment, and solid self-partnering so that we can navigate our lives into healthy, joyful and loving waters, safely.
I love this expression, “We will never accept a level of love less than the level that we have for ourselves”.
Eating clean food, drinking filtered water, having an exercise routine, and dropping destructive and life-sapping activities and people are such beautiful and powerful ways to raise the bar of our self-love and self-worth.
I know how much this life orientation has done for me, just as it will for you.
Number 7 – Empower Your Life
Continual growth of your Inner Being empowers your life. Narcissists are unconscious, they always believe that their life is someone else’s fault and they refuse to take any personal responsibility, heal their Inner Being, learn from their mistakes or grow.
Narcissists self-avoid, self-abandon their inner triggers, self-medicate with outer attention and stuff, and never come home to heal and becoming whole within themselves.
If you are not striving to be self-partnered, self-devoted and committed to your inner development and growth, this can leave you out on the ledge of unconscious energy where unknowingly you will continue to seek other dis-integrated people to try to fulfill yourself.
Water does seek its own level.
This doesn’t mean that we are bad people, rather it means that we are unconscious to the truth – “I am the generative source of my own life experience, and ONLY I have the power to change this by healing and changing myself”.
When you commit to changing and healing yourself (the right way – from the inside out) then you are no longer on the trajectory where a narcissist can pick you off and feed from you.
Rather, you will be in your body, connected to your intuition, showing up authentically and able to flush out narcissists without being fearful of them. You will also have realised that any previous toxic people in your life have no more power over you than the little man or woman hiding behind the curtain, no longer getting their power from the unhealed traumas and fears within yourself.
When you know that the narcissist was a healing catalyst (albeit a very painful and impactful one) in your life, and this is between your True Source and yourself, then you can become completely detoxed from narcissists, their web and their ability to emotionally and energetically infiltrate you.
You are in a higher energetic field – one that is much further ascended than where they dwell.
In Conclusion
If you are still struggling to extract yourself from the emotional and energetic clutches of a narcissist, to get relief and freedom so you can start to Thrive, I would love to help you achieve this.
Do you want to work closely with me and my team for 10-weeks in our most hands-on abuse recovery program to date? The 10-Week Thrive Program starting in May is open for registration now and we still have some spots left.
In this program I take you through the powerful detox healing passage to claim your TRUE Thriver well being.
You can check out all the information about Thrive and claim your spot here.
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I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Have you been able to detox from the narcissist successfully? If not, do you still feel psychically and emotionally infiltrated by one? Can you feel deep inside, that it is possible to break free and live your highest potential?
Hi Melanie,
Reading through this tonight gives me more hope! 🙏 thank you so very much again!
I had to laugh a little when you described the narcissists “mischief”….
That is much more palatable than thinking of her behavior as evil or corrupt or malicious or whatever! 😌
This blog is extremely helpful and gives me a deeper understanding of what to do that is so desperately needed….
There is a lot of work to do and I am so thankful to you and everybody that has been helping!
Thank you, Melanie, for NARP and your amazing and kind helper staff! ❤️
Much love ❤️
Peter@44&Lil’P ❤️🦋❤️
Hi Peter,
“mischief” does soften the blow!
It’s awesome that this blog is a powerful supplement to your NARPing.
Keep up the great Thriver Work
Much Love back!
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hello Melanie,
I’m trying to make this short. When I think of the narcissists in my life, my own older sisters, and highly toxic ones they are, I think, I needed them. In the long run, they helped me to look inward at my own inner childhood wounds that needed healing. If they weren’t there doing what they do best (narcissist), I would have never looked inward to heal myself. They prompted that. Granted, I took a lot of abuse and that did take time. It’s too bad we have to go through the emotional and reputation damage they do to us to see this. But if it weren’t for them being who they are, (narcissists). I would have never looked inward. So they did serve a purpose in my life. Albeit a twisted one and none to be desired. But they actually helped me in healing the wounded child I had within. So they did serve a purpose. I just wish it wasn’t so damaging what they did. It’s over now though and I’m healed within myself. They can’t touch me anymore and I did break all contact with them. I actually had to expose them for who they really are. They’ll never get it though and that’s their problem, not mine. Thank you so very much for all of your encouragement and NARP. Marty Smith
Hi Melanie
Yes, your words awaken memories, feelings and thoughts about the narcissist‘s patterns of having treated me without any respect. It took a long time (10 years) to read the patterns as they were aiming to suppress my power. For Albtraum time I was satisfied with surviving not even realizing the destruction. I only broke my own pattern of „surviving“ when I was exhausted after having accompanied my mother for 6 months before she died. This then sucked up the resources which so far had allowed me to survive beside the narcissist/ man. I can regard myself now – after a year – as being lucky because of this healthy exhaustion …
Hi Andrea,
sending you strength, energy and healing for your True Life ahead.
Mel 🙏💕💚
Clearly this is meant for me, I’m a full 2 months out and yes, still obsessing over the what if’s and whys.
So I’m going to join with hopes
Hi Chris,
this is great, because now you do have a healing way out.
Love and blessings to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
I am 3 years out and highly suggest joining NARP! It is without a doubt a ‘one of a kind’ program with all of the hand holding support u will need for this soulful journey, however, on the other hand is an emotional/spiritual walk u must take alone as u dive within your individual barriers, which will surface and be released, its much easier than tryin to ‘fix’ another broken soul, it actually requires less energy than having a narc/energy vampire in your life…And much healthier physically, emotionally and spiritually. i promise u will not even worry about making the same mistake again. I still owe my ‘thriver’ post to MTE and this incredible community, and i cannot wait to share how i came out of the dark and onto a path of pure light. I know i found MTE by the grace of God, literally. One thing is to remember, God is always with you, trust in your source on this journey, u cant go wrong….its an incredible experience that u will forever treasure. Love n hugs, ur best days are in front of u…dont look back. Thank u MTE!
Lulukat, you are so welcome.
It’s beautiful to watch you shine!
Thank you for being an inspiration to others.
Much Love
Mel 🙏💕💚
It’s been over a year and letting go has been tough
Not knowing if it was alot of me who didnt make the relationship work. Still fighting hard but things are getting clearer and I follow you and I know. You have are best interests thank god for you
Hi Daniel,
sending you healing, strength and clarity through this.
Mel 🙏💕💚
I am 6 years out and suddenly got sucked in with a letter sent to me by my mom. Desperately I wanted her to understand that I’m not a hateful person and took a huge amount of time to word a letter about me joining CODA and changing my dance. I told her 4 years of therapy and all my new friends are also in recovery and it is sad not to have her on my journey. She wrote to my brother saying that she had no idea that I was so sick and in recovery. She told him that she is not going to get in touch with me for a while so I can think about “it.” I gained 8 pounds these past few weeks and have trouble sleeping. I thought I was healed! You article helped me so much and I will keep her blocked and throw out any mail. I’m leaving on a health retreat next week and the timing is divine.
Hi Karyn,
it is your time to detach and look after you.
I hope that my work grants you clarity as well as powerful healing solutions.
Love and blessings to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Melanie
Are your courses only recommended once and if you and the toxic partner have decided to end the marriage? What if they are still in your life and that decision hasn’t been reached yet?
I await your response.
Thanks.
Hi Dani,
There are people who have worked with NARP successfully before ending the relationship. It’s for “any stage” if you wish to heal. I will say though, it is really important to detach as much as possible in order to grant yourself the space to heal.
I hope that this helps.
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Mel,
I have had the NARP for some years now but have not committed myself to actually doing it as I admit I have self avoided and stayed in my own mind to survive and simply manage symptoms. I have tried to modules but even after taking on the moderator’s advice and assistance simply can’t seem to dedicate myself and have a lot of blocks that seem to stop me. Would I be a candidate for this at all? Informationally has been my go-to but I accept that I too am struggling to do the work.
Good Day Malanie…… Where & how do I start to inform you of ALL the happenings between the Wife and I. It’s been nothing less than Crazy and very concerning…… 90% of what I have read is going on in my life but if it wasn’t for the Lord then I would have not have had the strength and Mindset to endure this continuous onslaught 24 / 7. She has somehow been able to keep my 2 daughters ” Twins” AGE 1 YEAR AND 6 MONTHS from me for 7 months and the courts or Legal system fails us fathers in this situation……. As I say 90 % I have been through this Roller Coaster Ride for while now, it got a the point where she told family courts that I have tried to drown my one child # Dope then with Medicine and refused to Buckle the kids in the Car seats Etc ……. And the latest was, she even tried to convince two of her brothers in law to beat my up and was willing to pay them……. So this
is abit to much information that I would like to share but This is the Reality of what’s going a in your life……
Hi Julian,
my heart goes out to you.
Wishing breakthroughs and healing for you and your children
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hi Pen,
absolutely this will help you focus and commit!
I would highly suggest it for you IF you really want to absorb and get benefits from the healing work.
Mel 🙏💕💚
Pen: I seem to relate to what you write here, in that a good part of me has needed a lot of re-connection with physical awareness and physical contact and physical experience with myself in my body. The true experience of physical life energy movement in the body, by whatever name, also includes the emotional experience inherent in physical life energy movement in the body — that is, not depending on idealized, or picture-sourced, or mimicked emotion. Looking back, I think that it took some building up of consistency in the flow and movement of inner body sensation and inner body emotion, deeply enough — which I imagine is the normal state of self awareness in energetically healthy people — that it then made sense to take my inner self-contact continuum and straddle it upon a written or verbally guided self-help process — such as NARP has also been — and this involved my reciprocating with that guidance, because I then had some internal continuum of experience to put into written, spoken or actional expression. If you relate to this, then I am happy to not just hand you another “say-what?”. I was too self-dissociated to follow self-help processes until I had gained enough continuity of body self-contact, so as to include that inner experience (sensation and emotion) in the self-help process. I’m reflecting on this as having had a kind of sensory-emotional Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD or ADHD in clinical parlance) that made me quickly dissociate away from modules that involved emotional confront and emotional healing — but then I also remember that this also required me to choose to gradually build up the guts and internal disposition to actually have and to actually confront and to actually follow through with the dis-infection of those feelings — and to make the space for them to change inside of me, and mature in their own unexpected ways, that I could adapt new behavior for. A saying goes: One doesn’t know what one can do, until one has to undo it. I hope this has maybe been helpful, and trust that other things will follow (oh, yes, the will to heal has required and nagged for long hauls of trust). But it may also be that your path includes other elements, so please be open to those, too.
Hi Melanie,
My family of origin was narcissistic, my Father the narcissist, my Mother codependent & has gone back for generations.
I’ve been married & divorced twice, one a narcissist, my last marriage to a psychopath, I too, almost died, I wasn’t quite as bad as you dear Melanie, but was well on the way to dying an early death.
I saw a wonderful clinical psychologist for two years & she helped me immensely as she was trained in narcissistic abuse, her Father a psychiatrist & an expert in psychopath’s & pathology.
I’ve been divorced for six wonderful years, I got a fair and equitable divorce settlement in court, the universe had my back every step of the way!
And yet….although I’m much wiser, dating is extremely difficult, I’ve had to stop work for a while (I’m a nurse), still attracting toxic people, same situations, same guy, different face, narcissist or codependent, I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, have PTSD, poor boundaries, burnout and compassion fatigue. Yikes!
Melanie, I’ve followed you for years and became a Narper late last year.
I’ve decided to stop work for a year (because I can) and focus on my health and my healing….again.
I’m almost on Zero on all my modules, module 6 an eye opener with aha moments, a difficult conversation that had to happen but I had no fear around that conversation. I do modules every day, the affirmation’s and more affirmation’s, the 66 day thriver plan has been wonderful (still working on that but getting there) and will finish all the work needed to be done in Gold Narp by the 1st May, ready to start your Thriver course because everything is in divine order!! I’m so looking forward to the Thriver course.
Thank you Mel, your such an inspiration!
Wow Jane,
you have come so far …
You should be so proud of you!
I will be honoured to co-create more Thriving with you in Thrive!
Love and blessings
Mel 🙏💕💚
I have been divorced from my narccisist for 4 years, left him for almost 6. My mother was also very abusive. 2 and a half years ago I reconnected with my high school sweetheart and this man loves me unconditionally. I guess I compare them without even knowing that I am and I think all men are alike. I lash out at him when I feel that I’m not deserving of him. He also has an ex who is younger than him and When i get to feeling bad I feel that he is comparing me to her. I know he’s not cause she really did a number on him. I work a long way from home and I fear that he will come to see that he doesn’t really care. I am currently in isolation before returning to work and while I was feeling depressed I drank too much and accused him of not loving me. This is hurting our relationship He is still very supportive of me and says he wants to be with me for the rest of our lives. I need to heal.
Hi Glenda,
It’s so great that you know you need to heal.
What you are struggling with is so common and understandable after being narcissistically abused. Please don’t be hard on you!
It’s so lovely that he is supportive, but of course he can’t heal you – only you can heal you.
I highly recommend NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp or if you want more hands on live support, my new Thrive program http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/thrive
I hope that this helps.
Love and healing to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Melanie,
You are one of the most impactful people on my life’s journey and I want to say “Thank you for being such a Blessing!!” Through your early identification of Narcissistic Abuse, you name it and describe it to those of us who don’t recognize what we we are experiencing and why. More importantly, you share a solution, Quantum Healing and how to use it! Especially, my favorite line of yours… “you can’t heal, what you can’t feel.” Today’s article is by far your best surmised description of what Narcissistic abuse looks like and the timing is Devine! Having crossed your path through technology three years ago, and still in two NA relationships (parent and spouse), I want to let you know in spite of it all, I continue to blossom, grow and thrive towards my best version of love and light through your guidance and the inner work! Thank you for sharing your gift! 💕
Aww Julie,
thank you for your lovely words!
I LOVE that you are Thriving Dear Lady.
Sending you continued love and blessings
Mel 🙏💕💚
Thank you Melanie,
Just when I was thinking of breaking no contact I read this. He’s been giving me the silent treatment for a long time but I still feel very connected. I wanted to get some kind of closure, of resolution and was going to write a letter to try to end things ” nicely” and to try to remain friends because we’ve known each other over 40 yrs and never not been on speaking terms before.
The situation upsets me and no matter how much I try I can’t get him out of my head, but I now realise how dangerous breaking no contact would be so I’m not going to do it.
My life is now beginning to improve in quite unexpected ways and I could jeopardise my recovery very easily. He never improved my life before, only ever made it worse.
So I’m going to do absolutely nothing but focus on my own life and on my children.
Thank you Melanie, your words are always so inspiring.
Hi Sharron,
you are very welcome,
It can feel so crazy when you are about to convince yourself to make contact – despite knowing how it turns out!
Honey, are you doing the inner healing work? I promise you with all of my heart when you get the trauma out of your body, everything in your head about him will dissolve as well.
You will go free.
I highly recommend NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp or Thrive (my upcoming program) to deeply help you and get through this in the faster most direct line possible.
You don’t need to have to keep battling with this!
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Hello Mel.Number 7 rang so true for me.!!! My ex husband used to say to me that everything that had gone wrong in his life was my fault and I said “What,even before I met you ? ” and he said “yes” You can’t beat that for a narc statement .It’s almost funny .He also said (about an ex of mine who he was stalking on line ) “everyone always does better when they’re not with you ” Then found out that the person he was talking about had got divorced and lost all their business.He later divorced me and his way of being better without me was to immediately drop dead !!!.I have a wonderful life now without him with my beautiful husband and own home but I have dreams (often nightmares) about him and his mum who was a possible narc too who smeared me and about my horrible “friend ” who had an affair with my narc husband for 10 years. I know that I’ve come such a long way but have been lazy about doing my narp work and must get back to working on it more frequently and make a routine to fit it in .I’m sure the dreams are literally a wake up call that there is residue there to clear out .Your blogs are amazing Mel and get better all the time.You are a lifeboat to a lot of drowning people. Thank you .xxxx
Haha Shelly,
that is hilarious!
Yes, sweetheart, the dreams are your subconscious letting you know there is trauma to release from within there.
I am so happy for you that you have now a beautiful partner and new life and that you are going to continue with NARP.
You do deserve it all!
Thank you for your beautiful words.
Sending love and even more joy to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Thanks Mel.It means such a lot that you reply to everyone .You are very hard working ,kind and conscientious.xxx
Thank you Shelly!
Please know how welcome you are
Mel 🙏💕💚
4/18/21
Dear Melanie,
Your work is wonderful! I discovered you after reading and working with other healers, many also very good.
Eventually I would love to join your Thrive program but not this year. Having hip replacement surgery in August and all hands on deck building the strongest hips in my community so I can resume running eventually post-surgery (runner for 56 years, not about to give it up). Also lots of pet sitting and recovery logistics and finances to manage as I have five cats (and 14 stairs).
Unfortunately this year the “outer self” needs repairing (delays due to the pandemic) and I have learned not to over-commit on the repair work. Physical therapy is full-time work! Pilates, running and the boring-but-necessary hip therapy work to build strength and fitness pre-surgery (just like training for a marathon). Recovery will be that much faster and easier.
Thank you for your incredible work. Have a great Thrive program!
P.S. Aging ain’t for sissies!
Hi Diana,
I love your determination and positive outlook. Great for you!
Wishing you a powerful and incredible hip recovery! This is intense what you are doing and definitely not for the fainthearted.
Thank you for your lovely comment and blessings.
Much Love, healings and blessings to you
Mel 🙏💕💚
Find that you can now laugh at the narcissist who is ridiculous. Find that you can now define yourself, rather than letting the narcissist define you. Find that you are free, and that you can be you, rather than the tool of the narcissist. Feel the freedom, the power that is you. Do the things you had meant to do before the narcissist snared you. You are free now.